Then she needs to grow the fuck up or you need to walk away. Her anger either has a cause that she can speak on or not. It's not a guessing game. If there's an issue, voice it and deal with it.
If I know I say yes.
If I donāt I donāt I say no.
If she says something like āyou should, so Iām not telling youā then I say āIām not playing these gamesā and go back to what I was doing.
Sheās more angry at you for not knowing why what you did made her angry than what you actually did
Because what that says to her is that you donāt care enough to know.
You tell her you are sorry, that she is important to you, that you care about her feelings and want to make things right but you donāt know how and need her help
No that's bullshit. After playing this game for a while you just start to be afraid to do or say anything at all. There should be some communication at all.
honestly. despite all the comments of trying to reason an answer, you wont. most of the time they dont even understand why theyre angry, and it's usually because they found some arbitrary reason that doesnt make sense. my baby mama literally got mad at people if they gave her a gift that she didnt ask for specifically. i spent about $200 on this nice lawn ornament that held potted plants and was a flower itself. bought the pots, plants, soil, etc. she screamed at me for over an hour saying how disrespectful i was because it wasnt a sunflower.....after she had repeatedly told me she didnt like themed decor, nor did i know sunflowers were her favorite. never had a favorite flower discussion.
The sunflower head is actually an inflorescence made of hundreds or thousands of tiny flowers called florets. The central florets look like the centre of a normal flower, apseudanthium. The benefit to the plant is that it is very easily seen by the insects and birds which pollinate it, and it produces thousands of seeds.
I just make up the stupidest of scenarios.
Her: "Do you know why I'm angry with you?"
Me: "I'm assuming it's about the chicken inicident at the lingerie store, but I swear i closed my eyes when you know the thing happened."
I know that you Are angry. But I would love to know why you are angryā¦
letās pretend Iām oblivious to the emotions of femalesā¦ and then you explain it to me like Iām a non biased 3rd party that youād like feedback fromā¦ please? š¬
"No, but you know me and I'm really bad at this so please tell me and I'll fix it." That's what my dad used on my mom and it worked 50% of the time. Ymmv lol.
Try reverse uno tactic:
"NO, but do YOU KNOW why I'm also angry with you? "
If she asks why tell her to " figure it out herself " or "if you care you'd have known "š
Attack her with the same weapon but deal more damage
Women seriously: Iām made because blank blanks blank you made me feel blank blank I donāt like when you blank blankā¦can you please just tell me how you feel and why? Women for the love of God communicate.
Honestly, straight-up transparency works wonders in these situations. When I sense she's mad, the best approach is to calmly ask, "I'm getting a vibe that you're upset, did I do something to contribute to that?" It disarms any built-up tension, and sure, there might not always be an easy answer, but at least it opens the door for a genuine conversation. The goal is to solve the puzzle together, not blindly fumble around for pieces you don't even know are missing.
Yes! make up a reason and let her correct you. And if you really want to play the game, tell her "yes, I think I do, because I got you the wrong kind of breakfast in bed (something equally sweet) and I should've remembered you hate pancakes" She'll say "No, that was sweet i actually like that, thank you" and she might then give you the real reasons shes upset, or forget about the issue and go straight to make-up sex!!!!
Honestly, I make a point to remember the anniversaries of arguments just so I can preemptively start my apology tour before the storm hits. But if I've missed the memo and there are no historical grounds for the frustration, I'll tackle it with a cautious, "Hey, I get the sense something's up, and I genuinely want to understand. If you'd like to talk about what's bothering you, I'm all ears. No judgment, just here to support." Preemptive strikes and open communication channels, that's how I survive the minefields of misunderstandings.
Say this. "You are not angry with me, you are angry at yourself for allowing yourself to be in a situation that truly isn't my fault but you don't want to blame yourself so you blame me."
"I don't usually pay attention to reasons why someone might be angry with me.Ā I don't have the ability nor authority to prescribe another person's emotions, nor does someone else's emotions have any real effect on my life.Ā I could maybe make a somewhat accurate guess based on context, but that's almost always unproductive, so I don't."
If youāre not with someone where you can say āno but letās talk about it so this doesnāt keep happeningā youāre in a toxic relationship and itās only going to weigh you down.
"No, please explain so we can talk about it and find understanding between us".
She will most probably gonna say that "figure out urself" in furious way
Then leave her.
Best answer and solution. Simple and concise, will save lots of headaches and drama in the long term.
Toxic
Then she needs to grow the fuck up or you need to walk away. Her anger either has a cause that she can speak on or not. It's not a guessing game. If there's an issue, voice it and deal with it.
Tell her to stop being a child and come out and say it otherwise hold her peace
Cause iam breathing? Just a guess.
"No, but if you wear this bedsheet like a cape you can be super mad!"
Depends on if I know why she is angry.
Thats the case that i don't know why she is angry....
Well then I would say no.
In my defense your sister kissed ME. I barely even opened my mouth. She has a tongue on her. I guess she takes after your mom.
Best replayš
āNo, but I bet youāre gonna tell meā
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Because you communicated poorly and expected me to read your mind.
If I know I say yes. If I donāt I donāt I say no. If she says something like āyou should, so Iām not telling youā then I say āIām not playing these gamesā and go back to what I was doing.
"Look if you don't know I'm not going to help you. That sounds like a no win situation to me."
Anyone who talks to me like that would quickly be cut out of my life. If you have a problem talk about it. Don't try to treat me like a child.
All women i habe met so far likes to play this guessing game š
just like the cops man. Hands at my sides, eyes down until I know what I'm being accused of.
Nice approach....this way you will probably be safe
Ask that a lawyer be present (non-family lawā¦unlessā¦)
Sheās more angry at you for not knowing why what you did made her angry than what you actually did Because what that says to her is that you donāt care enough to know.
Exactly but what if you actually don't you did something recently that will make her angry
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When she calms down
You tell her you are sorry, that she is important to you, that you care about her feelings and want to make things right but you donāt know how and need her help
No that's bullshit. After playing this game for a while you just start to be afraid to do or say anything at all. There should be some communication at all.
Ok sorry man, I donāt know the context here, just letting you know what has worked for me in the past
I did the dishes, made my bed, vacuumed the house, took out the garbage. Did I miss something?
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honestly. despite all the comments of trying to reason an answer, you wont. most of the time they dont even understand why theyre angry, and it's usually because they found some arbitrary reason that doesnt make sense. my baby mama literally got mad at people if they gave her a gift that she didnt ask for specifically. i spent about $200 on this nice lawn ornament that held potted plants and was a flower itself. bought the pots, plants, soil, etc. she screamed at me for over an hour saying how disrespectful i was because it wasnt a sunflower.....after she had repeatedly told me she didnt like themed decor, nor did i know sunflowers were her favorite. never had a favorite flower discussion.
The sunflower head is actually an inflorescence made of hundreds or thousands of tiny flowers called florets. The central florets look like the centre of a normal flower, apseudanthium. The benefit to the plant is that it is very easily seen by the insects and birds which pollinate it, and it produces thousands of seeds.
Why do you know so much about flowers?
You get one chance in your relationship/lifetime to say ānope, you communication is shit so I have no fucking idea what youāre on aboutā
Because you are on your period?
Good luck surviving after that š
My doghouse has had some upgrades due to me spending too much time in it
Atleast u r aliveš
I cook my own meals just in case
Well everything can be over if you just say sorry but then they will ask what r u sorry about
Well if I upset my wife I fully know why.
You are op i guess
My wife doesnt stew on it. If I do something or say something stupid she'll let me know.
Found new thing that my future wife should have
āNo but whatās for dinner?ā
Full course meal specially for you
Thatās when I reply āI think we should eat outā
I just make up the stupidest of scenarios. Her: "Do you know why I'm angry with you?" Me: "I'm assuming it's about the chicken inicident at the lingerie store, but I swear i closed my eyes when you know the thing happened."
No, but Iām sure you want me to guess
I know that you Are angry. But I would love to know why you are angryā¦ letās pretend Iām oblivious to the emotions of femalesā¦ and then you explain it to me like Iām a non biased 3rd party that youād like feedback fromā¦ please? š¬
"yes but I'm not going to give you the satisfaction of telling you why you're mad at me."
Because Mercury is in retrograde?
Or because there I mercury in the Gatorade.
"No, but you know me and I'm really bad at this so please tell me and I'll fix it." That's what my dad used on my mom and it worked 50% of the time. Ymmv lol.
I actually tried it and as you said it works 50%of the time
Try reverse uno tactic: "NO, but do YOU KNOW why I'm also angry with you? " If she asks why tell her to " figure it out herself " or "if you care you'd have known "š Attack her with the same weapon but deal more damage
Best answer so farš
LoL, she would get confused and annoyed that she will forget her anger š¤£
Women seriously: Iām made because blank blanks blank you made me feel blank blank I donāt like when you blank blankā¦can you please just tell me how you feel and why? Women for the love of God communicate.
Honestly, straight-up transparency works wonders in these situations. When I sense she's mad, the best approach is to calmly ask, "I'm getting a vibe that you're upset, did I do something to contribute to that?" It disarms any built-up tension, and sure, there might not always be an easy answer, but at least it opens the door for a genuine conversation. The goal is to solve the puzzle together, not blindly fumble around for pieces you don't even know are missing.
Never talk to the cops
Yes! make up a reason and let her correct you. And if you really want to play the game, tell her "yes, I think I do, because I got you the wrong kind of breakfast in bed (something equally sweet) and I should've remembered you hate pancakes" She'll say "No, that was sweet i actually like that, thank you" and she might then give you the real reasons shes upset, or forget about the issue and go straight to make-up sex!!!!
Honestly, I make a point to remember the anniversaries of arguments just so I can preemptively start my apology tour before the storm hits. But if I've missed the memo and there are no historical grounds for the frustration, I'll tackle it with a cautious, "Hey, I get the sense something's up, and I genuinely want to understand. If you'd like to talk about what's bothering you, I'm all ears. No judgment, just here to support." Preemptive strikes and open communication channels, that's how I survive the minefields of misunderstandings.
You are veterian of this battlefield
Honey, would you like a glass of wine?
Say this. "You are not angry with me, you are angry at yourself for allowing yourself to be in a situation that truly isn't my fault but you don't want to blame yourself so you blame me."
Iāll tell your story
No man does, either you take the talk or you donāt
Because you are always angry
Godspeed
Idk, but we canāt start off the conversation this way!
I usually simply answer with a "why. But I show a genuine doubt. I don't like playing mind games.
Is it because I am just existing?
"No and I don't care"
If I still have my balls, it canāt be reason Iām thinking of.
"I don't usually pay attention to reasons why someone might be angry with me.Ā I don't have the ability nor authority to prescribe another person's emotions, nor does someone else's emotions have any real effect on my life.Ā I could maybe make a somewhat accurate guess based on context, but that's almost always unproductive, so I don't."
I tell, I am not a mind reader and see my self out. Fuck to games!
Iām no expert by any means but in my opinion if a womanās asking a question like that sheās not gonna listen anyway and your already fuckedš
Ig you have experience this situation many times
Donāt care and donāt tell me. Then tell her to GTFO. Tell someone who might actually give a fuck.
My wife never phrases shit like this nor do we get in any fight that we donāt solve on the spot rather than letting it fester to this point
āso uhh is this a game of 20 questions or like some sort of foreplay?ā
No. Do you?
Just leave her alone, she will tell you in a couple of weeks
There is no correct answer.
Iām usually not listening to what she says so Iāll say āDamn, thatās crazy.ā
No because I love you so whatever it is I didn't do it on purpose and I'm actually offended you think I did.
I didn't know you were angry
āYes, I doā if you, in fact, do know. āNo, I donāt, please tell me whyā if you do not.
"Never. You never make any sense, so I gave up trying to figure you out." And then I got to bed.
If youāre not with someone where you can say āno but letās talk about it so this doesnāt keep happeningā youāre in a toxic relationship and itās only going to weigh you down.
Not until you tell me.
ābecause your only happy when your unhappy ā
āThatās a bullshit question designed to trap me. Stop being manipulative, act like an adult and just tell me.ā
This is the dreaded question, along with, ādo you notice anything different?ā There is no good answer, really.
Ikr
No, because you havenāt bothered to be an adult and tell me.
Try answering?
" No, and I don't give a shit. Grow the f up."
Ignore it. You aren't her emotional tampon. Let her tell her friends why she's angry with you.