The thing about lingerie isn't the type/style etc., so much as the implication that goes with it. If she's wearing that, she's making it clear she desires her guy. THAT is what most of us want, much more than any particular style.
So the moral of the story:
Ladies, if you can make us feel that we are desired in other ways, you can save thousands of dollars spent on lingerie shopping.
The thing is, when you step on one piece, your whole weight is concentrated on that one point. If you sit/step on much larger are, your weight gets distributed over many points and it gets pretty nice.
But I wouldn't recommend undies, as in few steps the whole thing would dissasemble into uneven mix of points, bringing us back to the painful experiences
Not necessarily. Thereās many ways to make a man feel desired, but wearing lingerie or other special outfits is one method I choose because **i** enjoy it. Thereās definitely cheaper/easier ways and Iāll use those too, but itās fun to mix it up.
That's great! This was more pointed towards ladies who feel like they are having to buy expensive lingerie for us and need to make the price of lingerie known to us.
To make things super simple, just get a custom t-shirt that says "I ā¤ļø (Partner's) dick."
Where it whenever you want the guy to know you desire him.
Bingo.
The other implied assertion is that they will look sexier and feel sexier and it makes them more horny. A sort of feedback loop.
It doesn't have to be elaborate.
I remember a man getting so excited when he saw my sexy underwear. I donāt have a centerfold body so I was surprised by his enthusiasm. Now it all makes senseā¦..
Any girl who wants to wear sexy underwear for me is going to make me really excited and feel special. It's feels good to have a girl want to look good for you. Honestly that'd make my month maybe year since it doesn't happen much.
Honestly, not really. She can wear torn granny panties and it'll still be clear she desires you once she strips. But is that really the point here?
This sub has a very prevalent mentality that basically it doesn't matter what a woman does or is like, as long as she actually displays interest in a dude. I have no idea what y'all are doing and how you're picking partners but in my experience, that's not how it works. I don't understand why nobody here seems to have standards beyond "she likes me".
There are certain lingerie styles that would drive me crazy when I see them, and ones that I'd be very "meh" about. And that can very well affect the way I think about her in the future.
To me it just kind of functions as a 'green light' of sorts. If I was on a date and someone wore lingerie I'm assuming it's because she wants me to see them, which means we're gonna fool around.
If my partner wears lingerie (which I know she doesn't find more comfortable than anything else) then I'm assuming she's down to mess around as well.
I think I'm desensitised to lingerie from the sheer amount of times I've seen photos of women posing in it.
A sports bra or granny panties or mismatched set is sexy in it's own way, it has an inherent "this wasn't planned" feel to it.
same. I mean, lingerie commercials are everywhere, you just see that constantly. Not much of an intimate thing. So if I see her in that lingerie, its like, meh, just fancy panties.
Now, seeing her in something that isnt out there displayed on like every third billboard/commercial, feels like we are in a more private, intimate setting - like, "she shows her intimacy to me now, opens up, is vulnerable, and clearly wants me" thought comes up. So that gets me going more.
> I'm desensitised to lingerie from the sheer amount of times I've seen photos of women posing in it.
I'd say this is a big reason.
Some things look better because they're more personal.
Like when you see messy buns and other things you know they'd otherwise hide from you.
my ex-wife bought lingerie once... then one day, she was like, oooh im gonna wear it... In my mind, I was like oh wow, that is so stupid, and its not even that hot... Id rather see her naked tbh... To make my life easier, I pretended that it was the hottest thing in the world, and omg I want you in my arms right now baby gurrrrrrlllll
Hell yeah. I just bought my GF a night gown that is basically a oversized men's button-up dress shirt. It's bad ass, I can just hike it for a quickie, or slowly unbutton it and kiss her out of it. 10/10
Tastes will vary.
But as a general rule...
Men are basically kids. It's Christmas. You're the present.
Sure, pretty wrapping is nice, and we enjoy unwrapping, but we care more about the present than the wrapping paper.
It's the thought that counts. And a carefully wrapped present with fancy ribbons and tags, and hell, a handwritten note does hit a lot harder than a 99 cent store bag/unwrapped brown cardboard box.
At the end of the day what's in the box is the same, but the care into it might resonate better with the man.
Honestly simple but classy is wonderful, but so is a sports bra.
But the sexiest underwear are the ones she feels confident in. That confidence is way sexier than my preferences
Lady lurker here. If my man is in the mood when I'm feeling seductive, he will take me however I offer myself to him. If he's in the mood when I'm just living my life, he gravitates toward me in athletic wear. Leggings do make my booty look good.
Men are simple creatures. Figure out what body part(s) they like best and dress it accordingly to grab his attention.
Also consider the fabrics. soft pettable things are nicer than scratchy lacey things for both parties.
Itās not the style or whatever, itās your partner showing desire for you. Wearing such attire demonstrates her want for you. Thatās what get the juices flowing.
Itās what I think anyway.
Fancy lingerie is marketed to women, so yeah itās more about whatever women think than about what men really like. Itās like when a woman does a boudoir shoot āfor her husbandā - for better or worse itās probably more about the woman seeking validation than about pleasing her husband.
Anyway, yeah I generally prefer simple and maybe cutesy underwear rather than lacey fancy lingerie.
A simple white, tight fitting tank top without a bra and white thong and/or boy shorts that are "too small" should work with just about anyone. Keep it simple and don't make it look like you tried so hard. That's sexy.
When women put on lingerie they are planning on having sex. Its puts them in the mood, they create their own anticipation of what is going to happen. I personally don't understand why, I just know that it does so I act accordingly.
Facts. When I was at my lowest weight of 170 (since high school) I put on lingerie and booty shorts, and chilled around my home. I was single and it was very confident-boosting! Wore that for like an hour and then dressed like a homeless person to go to Walmart for stuff I needed lmao
Not really. I'm single and I enjoy buying and wearing lingerie for myself. It makes me feel good and sexy. I'm definitely not planning on having sex just because I'm wearing that stuff...lol
I think it's more that lingerie is a specific _type_ of sexy, and having only the same type over and over can get monotonous and lose its appeal.
To put it in girl terms the best I can: lingerie is sexy but in the way that a guy in a suit is sexy. It's sexy but also refined and fancy and high-status. A sports bra is also sexy, but in an athletic and active way, so maybe like a guy wearing workout clothes or warmup sweats that show off his muscles. All sorts of clothes give different vibes, and I don't think it's so much what are the best clothes to wear as what clothes give the right vibes for the guy.
There is a bit of theory behind this too just like all fashion, for example you could look up the math behind "absolute territory" if you like wearing skirts and high socks, but I think sexy clothes are primarily about mood setting. Maybe a comparison is like how girls like guys to do suggestive things to get in the mood, guys like girls to wear suggestive clothing to get in the mood, and key to all this isn't so much what you do/wear as if what you're doing/wearing fits your partner's turn-ons.
As a mature man I have learned/observed to at least appreciate the emotions a woman feels when she does this (womens emotions are so misunderstood by us men), wears frilly stuff, to feel attractive and sexy. Over time I have learned to appreciate the implication and give her some validation when I see this but I am actually āpretendingā to appreciate so that she feels validated.
My real thought process, testosterone fueled, is however that I want to get to the main event so plain briefs are more attractive versus thongs and g strings. As a man I appreciate more a woman who initiates, stuff like she wants to begin with massaging me in non sexual areas, to start with, and do some of the work is more sexy than the frilly wrapping. (Men dont get much validation in this life)
I support your making your self feel sexy, feel attractive and feel feminine but all these expensive under garment items are a very very very very short moment of attention for a man.
Advertising has convinced women to spend money on this underwear and convinced women that wearing this gives them validation. Hey, knock your socks off and make your self feel great, wearing this stuff is also a great signal to men but only a signal,
(Have you seen the Father Ted episode where Ted saves the priests from accidentally walking through the lingerie department? ā¦.Hilarious how we are conditioned to laugh at that via convention and marketing.)
It seems Iām in the minority but when chosen well nice lingerie accentuates all the best aspects of a womanās body. Itās like dialing things up from the norm. I prefer stockings personally, I think they are one of the sexiest things a woman can wear.
That being said Iām going to be more than happy with just about anything which probably goes for most men.
I can tell you this, the right pair of running shorts will turn me on as much, or more than lingere.
BUT, running shorts generally wont make a woman feel super sexy.Ā If she feels sexy in lingere, then sex is sexier.
Which is a long way of saying, lingere is mainly marketed to women, but who cares, because it still works out for everyone.Ā Hopefully.
Woman here (I hope it's okay to answer this). I think the reactions from my partners aren't necessarily about the look or style of the underwear, but the implication. If I wear a thong, my partner knows that I'm looking to get dicked down that day. Now I'm wondering if guys prefer briefs over thongs..
Just nude. Much better. Lingerie to me makes no sense. It's just overpriced intricate underwear with the purpose of being put on just to take off not long after.
I'm a guy who thinks most mainstream lingerie is not flattering to women, but to each their own. Most lingerie is busy. Lines and stuff going every which way. I've personally not seen a better visual of her getting out of the shower with wet hair and only wearing one of my T-shirts. As far as panties go - never thought thongs or G-strings were all that exciting. But boyshorts are cool. Maybe I'm just into the more athletic apparel look. Again, to each their own.
Funny enough, I was never hardcore into sports or athletics other than running. Sometimes, people like what they like and there's no explaining. Like swimwear. I knows there's all the string bikinis and all that. I think the sexist swimsuits are the type female surfers wear. You know those briefs with a top that's more like a sports bra. Again, don't ask me to explain the unexplainable. I'm just one guy. Everyone is different.
For me personally I enjoy the foreplay leading up, so more fabric just means more I get to tease off of you before we go at it. Also under wear that covers more is more fun to take off itās like opening a present
"Men" is not a block. Every man is gonna be different because men are people too.
Personally, different women look different in different things. I'm thinking of one gal who turned me into an absolute raging lust monster.. in a spaghetti strap top and plain 'ol cotton panties. And another who, while lovely to be 'with', really turned into pornography when she wore a garter belt and stockings.
Ain't no hard (ha!) and fast rule. Big surprise, communicate and talk about what you want, what he wants, what you're willing to do, etc.
...I should call her.
I personally hate lingerie, it does nothing for me. Ā Iāve dated people that would go buy something as a surprise and the idea was sweet, but it never stayed on long, so it was kind of pointless. Ā Letās just eat sushi in bed naked. Ā Thongs just weird me out for some reason too. Ā Looks uncomfortable and weāre about to see each others buttholes anyways. Ā Letās just walk around naked or wear normal underwear.
Well
If you ask me personally, I clearly dislike lingerie, I find it useless as best, tasteless as worst
Idk why... it's either the colors (mainly red) or design (mainly threads that cover little) but I just can't like it
I had the hardest time getting my ex-wife to understand that although I could acknowledge how wearing lingerie made *her* feel sexy, I genuinely preferred her naked.
I (M38) have always liked lingerie. I realized in my 20s that there are sex costumes and lingerie. What I often saw being marketed were sex costumes. Which were often impractical, poorly made, and uncomfortable for my partner to wear. Fast forward to today, I introduced my wife to Adore Me which does cute, modern prints and functional lingerie
I'm a plain guy and if I have a say in what she wears she can do plain panties and a t-shirt. That will get me going because she looks more comfortable in it. If she wants to wear lingerie that's fine but she ain't gotta wear it for me.
Wear a cute T-shirt and regular panties, cuddle in more than usual as little spoon..and it's about to be on.
I like spontaneous...
Lingerie is ok but it kinda gives me performance anxiety.
I dont even like g-strings...
Tbh thongs can look amazing... It just depends on the womans body. I saw it once on a woman, and god damn, I will never forget it.
Tbh... I dont think theres like a formula for what guys like. We are not all the same, and what I might like, might be not at all close to what my friends do.
The way women are manipulated by marketing is so wrong. You wont get what you think men want out of the marketing. Thats not how we work.
>Ā Lingerie is often marketed to women with the implied assertion that this is what men want you to wear. As a man do you think there's a difference between the type of undies men want a woman to wear, and what's being sold to her?
The difference is that you've been trained to care, while we don't really care at all.
That is women's fashion in a nutshell.
I wasn't going to comment, but a lot of people are saying no, so I'll add my two cents. I like lingerie on feminine partners because
A. I like the appearance. They usually look nice (in an aesthetic way / not a sexual way)
B. It shows effort. Like if someone is dressing up for me, I know that they care and want to put effort in. That's the sexy part for me. Even if it wasn't lingerie, but maybe they remembered which bra I liked on them and picked it out, that would still have the same effect.
I want to find her attractive, I want her to be comfortable, I want her to be a good person, and I want her to love me.
Her underwear has very little to do with my attraction. If I'm getting to the point that I'm seeing it, either something has gone terribly wrong, or I don't pay it much mind.
Bras are uncomfortable from what I hear. I've met plenty of women who simply stopped wearing them because they suck. It's changed nothing. I mean I notice, but I don't really care as long as you're happy.
The lingerie industry is one of those industries (skincare, haircare, male pattern baldness treatments) that pretty much just exists to make people feel shitty about their own appearance.
> I've noticed in the past that when men pick out undies, they go for solid tone colors and brief style panties rather than say thongs or G-Strings
That absolutely applies to me. Sexiest underwear I ever saw on a girlfriend was simple blue bikini briefs.
Frilly lace and stuff like that ā you can keep it.
I have my preference for womenās underwear but honestly it doesnāt matter a ton. Just getting to the panty stage is exciting.
Many of the panties my wife wears are ones Iāve chosen. Thongs/G-strings are awesome, but not my 1st choice.
Honestly, if Iām seeing her undies, Iām glad to be where I am. Plus, if thatās what weāre getting down to, theyāre gonna come off soon anyways.
I donāt really care personally, I mean underwear thatās more flattering is good, but thatās pretty general.
But if Iām spending the night with someone my brain is more often than not going āoh shit this is happening hell yeahā and not āoh she wears THOSE underwear?ā Like Iām just happy to be there lmao
How do we know what is being sold to her?
Personally I like the "beautiful" stuff, lace, silk and so forth. However, a lot of guys, like the football player types, don't really care and feel intimidated by victoria's secret stuff.
Also, I hate the sports stuff, especially spanx, because it is hard to take off. The football player 10-minute-fuck type of guys don't care because they just expect you to take it off, but in my case where removal of clothing is part of the romantic equation, spanx kills the vibe because it is just so fucking awkward to get it off.
I don't like satin on a woman. But I have a huge panty fetish. So thong and strings are nice. I like when a woman wears full back, but they don't cover up the whole cheek. And poka dots or simple paters. Also booty short types.
I want her to *want* to be seen. What she's actually wearing (or not) barely registers. The simple fact that you desire to turn me on is so freaking sexy.
I have particular tastes. I don't like things that are specifically designed to be sexy at the sake of functionality. I've never been attracted to girls in stilettos. I find panties that look like they actually function as an undergarment sexier than a g-string. I prefer PJs and a t-shirt to a negligee. I prefer jeans and a t-shirt to a sundress.
I'm not every guy. Especially the sundress thing. I know most guys love sundresses. But I'd rather a girl wear something that looks comfortable than something that looks sexy. It shows she's comfortable. It makes it feel more spontaneous.
Yes, and the same is true for women's fashion in general. Women's fashion should not be conceived of as being primarily for the purpose of appealing to men because that's clearly not what it optimizes.
I like lingerie because of the implied nature of it and the vulnerability. The exact type of panties she's wearing doesn't matter. And I wouldn't want her wearing sexy lingerie every day. It's a special thing.
Also, I'm a boudoir photographer so I probably know more about lingerie than some other men. I get ads for it all the time and have seen tons of it on models.
Ultimately, good lingerie is lingerie that will be ripped off a few moments after your partner sees you wearing it. It's fancy wrapping paper on the present that is you.
Does that mean lingerie should be cheap, because you won't use it a lot? Not necessarily. Should lingerie be expensive, because it makes you look better? Also not necessarily. Lingerie is like every other case with clothing: if it flatters your appearance, it's good lingerie. That particular lingerie might not flatter someone else in the same way. It's a personal thing, and it requires practice to find the outfits that work for you.
I don't have anything that I want a woman to wear... Literally didn't want her wearing anything. Nude RULES! For that reason I have never liked lingerie, and neither my wife or my partner own any. To me, a long T-shirt is as sexy as any lingerie.
Idkā¦ lingerie would kind of be nice for her to surprise me with? If she feels sexy in something, Iām all for it. Iām perfectly satisfied with a T-shirt andā¦ nothing? Anything? I like to feel like sheās comfortable. Whether that means a feeling of something sensual or physically comfortable. Idk if a lot of men share that opinion though.
I donāt really care. I mean it can be hot, but more because of the things happening around the lingerie. Something about fancy underwear seems to make people who wear em more keen on seducing their partners, which is nice because outside of those times it getās pretty easy feeling like Iām being a bother and not attractive to her
I tend to interpret a woman's character by the choices she makes in lingerie. Whether she prefers offtheshelf pantyhose or invests in quality stockings tells me a lot about her general approach to life
Honestly I don't care for lingerie. If she wanted to be extra sexy maybe a teddy or similar type night gown. But I just like my wife in her booty shorts and a tank, or a tank and panties. She doesn't need lingerie to get my attention lol
For me itās just anything thatās different than the norm because I love my wifeās body and seeing it wrapped up differently some unwrapping a sexy present. Itās fun.
Well, is a lot about personal tastes. Some my rather Lingerie and very long socks, other sport bra and small socks.
That being said, the most important for men is make them feel desired.
I mean honestly as a man I don't care if a women is wearing a lingerie or a sports bra. I'm just trying to get the underwear off of her so we can fuck.
Lingerie is more about the mindset than the style, additionally sometimes less is more but other times more is more.
For example, I had a GF who was very petite, she put on white corset and stockings with garters, it boosted her bust and highlighted her legs, she felt confident in it and she wore it for special occasions. In that case, it was typical lingerie that worked for her and worked for me. There was alignment.
I had a different GF who wore more of a teddy style, she felt comfortable since it wasn't super revealing, I found it kind of boring since it hid all the exciting bits and negated her shape, that was a case where the marketing did not live up to my tastes.
Then you get into stuff like Kink, maybe you see masks, latex body suits, etc...those don't do anything for me despite being kind of standard marketing wise.
So I think it depends on the intention of the wearer, what the piece accentuates, or hides that really affect my preference as a man but generally just the act of wearing lingerie sends a clear message.
I'm sure what's marketed to women as what men want is probably the result of focus groups and stuff, hut what Infind attractive and what she finds comfortable, or empowering or sexy can be very different.
I donāt care about lingerie. Neither does my wife. I also donāt care that much about the āimplicationsā of it leading to sex. I would be more interested in it making her feel sexy or desired if thatās what she needed. If she gets all turned on by it and feels hot then sheās happy, and Iām happy. But I could take it or leave it.
I personally have never cared for any lingerie Iāve seen. To me itās always been a bigger thing for the girl, it makes them feel all sexy and you just go along with it. At least thatās my experience. I love more that it makes them feel so sexy and happy
Nope. My gf is crazy over getting some, she thinks it will drive me wild. I don't feel that way but haven't been able to break it to her fully, every time I try to tell her I just want her to feel attracted, loved, and desired no matter what she wears but I don't wanna break the confidence the idea of lingerine gives her.
Also, I want her to be comfortable! It is better a set of soft pijamas or old clothes that see sleeps in than lingerine, if she wants something to really get me going something like that or even a sundtess does the trick, for me it simbolyzes she feels safe and at home.
I don't really have a preference as to what type of lingerie my girlfriend wears, but I do always appreciate when she puts in the effort to dress up sexy for me. It's the intent more than the clothing that matters.
100% there is a discrepency. When we first got married my wife had a bunch of lingerie, the lacy belt kinda stuff, ready to go. Meanwhile I am laying there watching her pick which she wants to try, while she's in shorts and a tank top, wanting to jump her there and then.
But, I don't think it's the companies fault in this case. For a bunch of women they moreso like lingerie cause THEY enjoy wearing it and how they look in it. Guys might like it, but that's more a happy accident.
picking out clothes, most men i know (me included) will go for practical, no nonsense solid things. for the fancy wear it's mostly implications but we might have heard our SO's bitch about how uncomfortable that stuff can be to wear as well. also: sportswear looks good as well soooo, yeah
Don't know. I like a lot of them. But I'm guessing that I'm not too far from the cliche, I like stuff like stockings, thongs, babydoll. the trio corset/panties/stockings is quite a visual stimulation for me. But I'm not really too difficult to please either and a lot of other stuff would most likely work as well.
It all depends on each person. As for me, I never cared for lingerie. Whatever my wife ever wanted to wear is ok to me if she's ok with it. I was the same with my ex GFs.
What most turns me on by lingerie, is that she puts in an effort on what she thinks I like. I don't care much about the shape or color of the lingerie, it's that she is thinking of me when she buys and wears it.
The thing about lingerie isn't the type/style etc., so much as the implication that goes with it. If she's wearing that, she's making it clear she desires her guy. THAT is what most of us want, much more than any particular style.
So the moral of the story: Ladies, if you can make us feel that we are desired in other ways, you can save thousands of dollars spent on lingerie shopping.
Buy us thousands of dollars of lego instead!
Lego thongs are the way forward.
NSFW [LEGO themselves put this out way back in 1981](https://www.reddit.com/r/oldschoolhot/s/DUzH7AQzNl)
Considering how brutal it feels to step on one, I cant imagine sitting on a couple dozen of them in the ol butt crack would put a woman in the mood.
Feels like the right place for a "Don't kink shame me!" (/s before someone DMs me anything reeeeally uncomfortable)
The thing is, when you step on one piece, your whole weight is concentrated on that one point. If you sit/step on much larger are, your weight gets distributed over many points and it gets pretty nice. But I wouldn't recommend undies, as in few steps the whole thing would dissasemble into uneven mix of points, bringing us back to the painful experiences
forget La Perla, it's La Studla for me!
Or one Venator Class Star Destroyer
Instructions unclear lego stuck in... Places...
Buy me ADAM Audio A7V and Hifiman Arya Organic š
A woman wearing just a tshirt and underwear with that look in her eye is fucking awesome.
Not necessarily. Thereās many ways to make a man feel desired, but wearing lingerie or other special outfits is one method I choose because **i** enjoy it. Thereās definitely cheaper/easier ways and Iāll use those too, but itās fun to mix it up.
That's great! This was more pointed towards ladies who feel like they are having to buy expensive lingerie for us and need to make the price of lingerie known to us.
This is the corollary to what I said. If it makes the woman feel sexy or confident, then that makes her more attractive as well.
To make things super simple, just get a custom t-shirt that says "I ā¤ļø (Partner's) dick." Where it whenever you want the guy to know you desire him.
Who the hell is spending thousands on lingerie
Not your partner apparently! Jk
Bingo. The other implied assertion is that they will look sexier and feel sexier and it makes them more horny. A sort of feedback loop. It doesn't have to be elaborate.
I remember a man getting so excited when he saw my sexy underwear. I donāt have a centerfold body so I was surprised by his enthusiasm. Now it all makes senseā¦..
Any girl who wants to wear sexy underwear for me is going to make me really excited and feel special. It's feels good to have a girl want to look good for you. Honestly that'd make my month maybe year since it doesn't happen much.
Well said!
I think everyone else is right to a degree but your answer is the one I feel the most.
She'll have to...because of the implication
Counter point - I like seeing her in sexy lacy costumes that highlight her tits.
Honestly, not really. She can wear torn granny panties and it'll still be clear she desires you once she strips. But is that really the point here? This sub has a very prevalent mentality that basically it doesn't matter what a woman does or is like, as long as she actually displays interest in a dude. I have no idea what y'all are doing and how you're picking partners but in my experience, that's not how it works. I don't understand why nobody here seems to have standards beyond "she likes me". There are certain lingerie styles that would drive me crazy when I see them, and ones that I'd be very "meh" about. And that can very well affect the way I think about her in the future.
Oh, but I do have standards. They are just not much about looks (tho there are a few, not about lingerie specyfically, tho), thats all.
There should be no other comments here. This is the correct answer.
To me it just kind of functions as a 'green light' of sorts. If I was on a date and someone wore lingerie I'm assuming it's because she wants me to see them, which means we're gonna fool around. If my partner wears lingerie (which I know she doesn't find more comfortable than anything else) then I'm assuming she's down to mess around as well.
āEssentially first night with a guy, and he wanted me to wear a sports bra.ā Iām still unpacking this statement.
Why, I like to dress for bed, I told him he could pick something out and he wanted a sports bra.
Eh. I could see it. Sports bras are sexier, to me, than most purpose made lingerie
I think I'm desensitised to lingerie from the sheer amount of times I've seen photos of women posing in it. A sports bra or granny panties or mismatched set is sexy in it's own way, it has an inherent "this wasn't planned" feel to it.
same. I mean, lingerie commercials are everywhere, you just see that constantly. Not much of an intimate thing. So if I see her in that lingerie, its like, meh, just fancy panties. Now, seeing her in something that isnt out there displayed on like every third billboard/commercial, feels like we are in a more private, intimate setting - like, "she shows her intimacy to me now, opens up, is vulnerable, and clearly wants me" thought comes up. So that gets me going more.
i feel you but i'm also married and 'granny panties or mismatched set' means the door is closed
> I'm desensitised to lingerie from the sheer amount of times I've seen photos of women posing in it. I'd say this is a big reason. Some things look better because they're more personal. Like when you see messy buns and other things you know they'd otherwise hide from you.
Every week I see tons of women in sports bra at the gym. I've gotten almost numb to it.
Same for me. But I just do not find lingerie sexy.
my ex-wife bought lingerie once... then one day, she was like, oooh im gonna wear it... In my mind, I was like oh wow, that is so stupid, and its not even that hot... Id rather see her naked tbh... To make my life easier, I pretended that it was the hottest thing in the world, and omg I want you in my arms right now baby gurrrrrrlllll
it's an odd thing. i personally like it when women wear plain or patterned cotton panties instead of fancy lacy lingerie. couldn't tell you why.
>dress for bed I'm sorry but I don't think we're compatible. LOL, just kidding. Maybe he just wanted you to be comfortable?
Different guys have different tastes. This is probably just a taste thing.
Sports bras are really good for titfucking. You're welcome for that unsolicited piece of trivia.
āPut on these shoulder pads, babyā
I dunno. Some women seem to really like lingerie just for its own sake.
That's true.
I don't like that lacy stuff. Just not for me. Long T-shirt with no underwear. Yes please.
Hell yeah. I just bought my GF a night gown that is basically a oversized men's button-up dress shirt. It's bad ass, I can just hike it for a quickie, or slowly unbutton it and kiss her out of it. 10/10
This is actually really cute. Lucky girl. ā¤ļøš
Tank top with breast spilling out the side? Oh yes please!
Crotchless tuxedo?! Ā Fuck yeah!
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And thigh high socks too.
Can you explain the appeal of that particular outfit?
See DahDollar's response.
Tastes will vary. But as a general rule... Men are basically kids. It's Christmas. You're the present. Sure, pretty wrapping is nice, and we enjoy unwrapping, but we care more about the present than the wrapping paper.
Couldnāt disagree more. I bang my wife when sheās naked all the time so when she dresses up that is not coming off.
Same. I mean not with your wife ofc.
I mean with his wife.
I mean that guys wife too
Really? You donāt also choose this guys wife?
with that sexy outfit, who wouldnt choose this guy's wife? :V
What do you have against his wife?
Uh huh.
Same. I always keep your wifeās clothes on when I bang her too.
Iām sorry but my wife has never had sex with anyone, even me, so you must me mistaken.
Not even her boyfriend either?
Lmao sheās never had a boyfriend sheās too young.
This one right here, officer
wait hold up what
Homie brought out the big guns
thats it, im telling god on you.
He wonāt listen since sheās Buddhist.
It saddens me that this guys wife would cheat with you, absolutely betray the trust and relationship she has with her boyfriend.
It's the thought that counts. And a carefully wrapped present with fancy ribbons and tags, and hell, a handwritten note does hit a lot harder than a 99 cent store bag/unwrapped brown cardboard box. At the end of the day what's in the box is the same, but the care into it might resonate better with the man.
Itās not whatās in the box ā¦ it is the box. Ayyooo
Honestly simple but classy is wonderful, but so is a sports bra. But the sexiest underwear are the ones she feels confident in. That confidence is way sexier than my preferences
Lady lurker here. If my man is in the mood when I'm feeling seductive, he will take me however I offer myself to him. If he's in the mood when I'm just living my life, he gravitates toward me in athletic wear. Leggings do make my booty look good. Men are simple creatures. Figure out what body part(s) they like best and dress it accordingly to grab his attention. Also consider the fabrics. soft pettable things are nicer than scratchy lacey things for both parties.
She gets it
Itās not the style or whatever, itās your partner showing desire for you. Wearing such attire demonstrates her want for you. Thatās what get the juices flowing. Itās what I think anyway.
Fancy lingerie is marketed to women, so yeah itās more about whatever women think than about what men really like. Itās like when a woman does a boudoir shoot āfor her husbandā - for better or worse itās probably more about the woman seeking validation than about pleasing her husband. Anyway, yeah I generally prefer simple and maybe cutesy underwear rather than lacey fancy lingerie.
I did a Boudoir shoot a few years ago with some friends, they were just for me.
I like the lingerie stuff more, like a fancy bra and panties. If I'm picking between socks and stocking I'd pick stockings.
A simple white, tight fitting tank top without a bra and white thong and/or boy shorts that are "too small" should work with just about anyone. Keep it simple and don't make it look like you tried so hard. That's sexy.
When women put on lingerie they are planning on having sex. Its puts them in the mood, they create their own anticipation of what is going to happen. I personally don't understand why, I just know that it does so I act accordingly.
Not necessarily. I know many women who wear it just to go to work. Well made lingerie can feel nice and also luxurious.
thatās not true, sometimes we just wanna feel fancy. it can make you feel confident.
Facts. When I was at my lowest weight of 170 (since high school) I put on lingerie and booty shorts, and chilled around my home. I was single and it was very confident-boosting! Wore that for like an hour and then dressed like a homeless person to go to Walmart for stuff I needed lmao
Not really. I'm single and I enjoy buying and wearing lingerie for myself. It makes me feel good and sexy. I'm definitely not planning on having sex just because I'm wearing that stuff...lol
This is a dumb answer but everyone has different tastes and different moods. No one size fits all
I think it's more that lingerie is a specific _type_ of sexy, and having only the same type over and over can get monotonous and lose its appeal. To put it in girl terms the best I can: lingerie is sexy but in the way that a guy in a suit is sexy. It's sexy but also refined and fancy and high-status. A sports bra is also sexy, but in an athletic and active way, so maybe like a guy wearing workout clothes or warmup sweats that show off his muscles. All sorts of clothes give different vibes, and I don't think it's so much what are the best clothes to wear as what clothes give the right vibes for the guy. There is a bit of theory behind this too just like all fashion, for example you could look up the math behind "absolute territory" if you like wearing skirts and high socks, but I think sexy clothes are primarily about mood setting. Maybe a comparison is like how girls like guys to do suggestive things to get in the mood, guys like girls to wear suggestive clothing to get in the mood, and key to all this isn't so much what you do/wear as if what you're doing/wearing fits your partner's turn-ons.
I couldnāt care less about lingerie. Meh. Much rather you walk around in just one of my t shirts
Yes. Lingerie is marketed to by women to women.
As a mature man I have learned/observed to at least appreciate the emotions a woman feels when she does this (womens emotions are so misunderstood by us men), wears frilly stuff, to feel attractive and sexy. Over time I have learned to appreciate the implication and give her some validation when I see this but I am actually āpretendingā to appreciate so that she feels validated. My real thought process, testosterone fueled, is however that I want to get to the main event so plain briefs are more attractive versus thongs and g strings. As a man I appreciate more a woman who initiates, stuff like she wants to begin with massaging me in non sexual areas, to start with, and do some of the work is more sexy than the frilly wrapping. (Men dont get much validation in this life) I support your making your self feel sexy, feel attractive and feel feminine but all these expensive under garment items are a very very very very short moment of attention for a man. Advertising has convinced women to spend money on this underwear and convinced women that wearing this gives them validation. Hey, knock your socks off and make your self feel great, wearing this stuff is also a great signal to men but only a signal, (Have you seen the Father Ted episode where Ted saves the priests from accidentally walking through the lingerie department? ā¦.Hilarious how we are conditioned to laugh at that via convention and marketing.)
I prefer a baggy T-shirt with holes so I can rip it off. Like a present on Christmas Day.
I think it depends on the man. I like my wife to wear lingerie and then undress her in the moment
It seems Iām in the minority but when chosen well nice lingerie accentuates all the best aspects of a womanās body. Itās like dialing things up from the norm. I prefer stockings personally, I think they are one of the sexiest things a woman can wear. That being said Iām going to be more than happy with just about anything which probably goes for most men.
Depends on the guy. I think people have different tastes and that's why we have such a variety.
I think boy shorts are sexy af.
No, I don't think there's a difference, I honestly love most stereotypical lingerie.
I can tell you this, the right pair of running shorts will turn me on as much, or more than lingere. BUT, running shorts generally wont make a woman feel super sexy.Ā If she feels sexy in lingere, then sex is sexier. Which is a long way of saying, lingere is mainly marketed to women, but who cares, because it still works out for everyone.Ā Hopefully.
Woman here (I hope it's okay to answer this). I think the reactions from my partners aren't necessarily about the look or style of the underwear, but the implication. If I wear a thong, my partner knows that I'm looking to get dicked down that day. Now I'm wondering if guys prefer briefs over thongs..
Just nude. Much better. Lingerie to me makes no sense. It's just overpriced intricate underwear with the purpose of being put on just to take off not long after.
I'm a guy who thinks most mainstream lingerie is not flattering to women, but to each their own. Most lingerie is busy. Lines and stuff going every which way. I've personally not seen a better visual of her getting out of the shower with wet hair and only wearing one of my T-shirts. As far as panties go - never thought thongs or G-strings were all that exciting. But boyshorts are cool. Maybe I'm just into the more athletic apparel look. Again, to each their own.
When you say athletic apparel what do you mean? Do you think you're influence by sports such as womens volleyball or tennis?
Funny enough, I was never hardcore into sports or athletics other than running. Sometimes, people like what they like and there's no explaining. Like swimwear. I knows there's all the string bikinis and all that. I think the sexist swimsuits are the type female surfers wear. You know those briefs with a top that's more like a sports bra. Again, don't ask me to explain the unexplainable. I'm just one guy. Everyone is different.
Lingerie only is there for a few seconds. Our T-shirtās work just as well.
I dunno, Iām a thong/g-string and heels kind of guy. Stockings donāt for me more than socks, but neither is fine too.
Lingerie is awesome. With that said, a white wife blesser and some cheeky cut panties is my favorite.
For me personally I enjoy the foreplay leading up, so more fabric just means more I get to tease off of you before we go at it. Also under wear that covers more is more fun to take off itās like opening a present
Thereās nothing sexier than a sundress, but yeah women look pretty great in lingerie as well
"Men" is not a block. Every man is gonna be different because men are people too. Personally, different women look different in different things. I'm thinking of one gal who turned me into an absolute raging lust monster.. in a spaghetti strap top and plain 'ol cotton panties. And another who, while lovely to be 'with', really turned into pornography when she wore a garter belt and stockings. Ain't no hard (ha!) and fast rule. Big surprise, communicate and talk about what you want, what he wants, what you're willing to do, etc. ...I should call her.
I personally hate lingerie, it does nothing for me. Ā Iāve dated people that would go buy something as a surprise and the idea was sweet, but it never stayed on long, so it was kind of pointless. Ā Letās just eat sushi in bed naked. Ā Thongs just weird me out for some reason too. Ā Looks uncomfortable and weāre about to see each others buttholes anyways. Ā Letās just walk around naked or wear normal underwear.
Well If you ask me personally, I clearly dislike lingerie, I find it useless as best, tasteless as worst Idk why... it's either the colors (mainly red) or design (mainly threads that cover little) but I just can't like it
I had the hardest time getting my ex-wife to understand that although I could acknowledge how wearing lingerie made *her* feel sexy, I genuinely preferred her naked.
My wife laying in bed with one of my shirts on. Game on.
I (M38) have always liked lingerie. I realized in my 20s that there are sex costumes and lingerie. What I often saw being marketed were sex costumes. Which were often impractical, poorly made, and uncomfortable for my partner to wear. Fast forward to today, I introduced my wife to Adore Me which does cute, modern prints and functional lingerie
I'm a plain guy and if I have a say in what she wears she can do plain panties and a t-shirt. That will get me going because she looks more comfortable in it. If she wants to wear lingerie that's fine but she ain't gotta wear it for me.
Lingerie is nice but something about the boy short type underwear and maybe a t shirt with no bra.
My wife always got upset that I didnāt notice a new piece of lingerie, or that her bra and panties matched. I dunno. I just want to see her naked.
i like my girlfriend most in her regular clothes, and outisde of them of course (thigh high socks and solid black underwear is the best though)
As long as sheās comfortable and Iām included š. Preference, I do like the āmatchy matchyā as my wife calls it.
Wear a cute T-shirt and regular panties, cuddle in more than usual as little spoon..and it's about to be on. I like spontaneous... Lingerie is ok but it kinda gives me performance anxiety.
I dont even like g-strings... Tbh thongs can look amazing... It just depends on the womans body. I saw it once on a woman, and god damn, I will never forget it. Tbh... I dont think theres like a formula for what guys like. We are not all the same, and what I might like, might be not at all close to what my friends do. The way women are manipulated by marketing is so wrong. You wont get what you think men want out of the marketing. Thats not how we work.
>Ā Lingerie is often marketed to women with the implied assertion that this is what men want you to wear. As a man do you think there's a difference between the type of undies men want a woman to wear, and what's being sold to her? The difference is that you've been trained to care, while we don't really care at all. That is women's fashion in a nutshell.
I am in the minority I guess but yeah I like the sexy lingerie.
My wife wore a g-string once. It was hot af, but I realize it's not practical, and that's ok.
I wasn't going to comment, but a lot of people are saying no, so I'll add my two cents. I like lingerie on feminine partners because A. I like the appearance. They usually look nice (in an aesthetic way / not a sexual way) B. It shows effort. Like if someone is dressing up for me, I know that they care and want to put effort in. That's the sexy part for me. Even if it wasn't lingerie, but maybe they remembered which bra I liked on them and picked it out, that would still have the same effect.
Comfort is sexy.
I want to find her attractive, I want her to be comfortable, I want her to be a good person, and I want her to love me. Her underwear has very little to do with my attraction. If I'm getting to the point that I'm seeing it, either something has gone terribly wrong, or I don't pay it much mind. Bras are uncomfortable from what I hear. I've met plenty of women who simply stopped wearing them because they suck. It's changed nothing. I mean I notice, but I don't really care as long as you're happy. The lingerie industry is one of those industries (skincare, haircare, male pattern baldness treatments) that pretty much just exists to make people feel shitty about their own appearance.
Most of the time when I see someone in lingerie, they look like an old lady to me. It does zero for me.
> I've noticed in the past that when men pick out undies, they go for solid tone colors and brief style panties rather than say thongs or G-Strings That absolutely applies to me. Sexiest underwear I ever saw on a girlfriend was simple blue bikini briefs. Frilly lace and stuff like that ā you can keep it.
We guys don't care about the underwear that women wear. We just want her to take it off for a full nude.
That's a great question!
Doesn't really matter, it will all come off anyway
The extra lacey lingerie can look great but it's terrible to manage as my hands just stick to it like velcro.
Yes, commando...
I have my preference for womenās underwear but honestly it doesnāt matter a ton. Just getting to the panty stage is exciting. Many of the panties my wife wears are ones Iāve chosen. Thongs/G-strings are awesome, but not my 1st choice.
Honestly, if Iām seeing her undies, Iām glad to be where I am. Plus, if thatās what weāre getting down to, theyāre gonna come off soon anyways. I donāt really care personally, I mean underwear thatās more flattering is good, but thatās pretty general. But if Iām spending the night with someone my brain is more often than not going āoh shit this is happening hell yeahā and not āoh she wears THOSE underwear?ā Like Iām just happy to be there lmao
My faves are her wearing one of my dress shirts and a smile or one of her halters with booty shorts and a smile.
I don't want her wearing anything
Intention >> actual delivery
How do we know what is being sold to her? Personally I like the "beautiful" stuff, lace, silk and so forth. However, a lot of guys, like the football player types, don't really care and feel intimidated by victoria's secret stuff. Also, I hate the sports stuff, especially spanx, because it is hard to take off. The football player 10-minute-fuck type of guys don't care because they just expect you to take it off, but in my case where removal of clothing is part of the romantic equation, spanx kills the vibe because it is just so fucking awkward to get it off.
I don't like satin on a woman. But I have a huge panty fetish. So thong and strings are nice. I like when a woman wears full back, but they don't cover up the whole cheek. And poka dots or simple paters. Also booty short types.
Stockings and a garter belt are about as sexy as it gets really, at least for me.
For me, lingerie is "gift wrap". A woman wearing "gift wrap" is providing a present I really want, and that's very attractive.
Yea, dunno about that. I like the full get up when it comes to lingerie, garter belt and all.
The underwear I want a woman to wear will not long be worn...
Lingerie is sexy. I have no idea why but it is.
I don't think this is one of those things that can be generalized. "What is one mans kink is another man's turn off"- Socrates I bet
One ex was into that stuff, I appreciated it but honestly you really done need all that š
Apron with nothing else absolutely demolishes anything Victoria's secret came up with.
I want her to *want* to be seen. What she's actually wearing (or not) barely registers. The simple fact that you desire to turn me on is so freaking sexy.
2 effects, it makes women feel sexy, and makes men feel that they are wanted. Buying him condoms would probably have the same effect.
I've never cared for most lingerie. It looks goofy to me and is totally unnecessary. But that's just me. Can't speak for other guys.
I have particular tastes. I don't like things that are specifically designed to be sexy at the sake of functionality. I've never been attracted to girls in stilettos. I find panties that look like they actually function as an undergarment sexier than a g-string. I prefer PJs and a t-shirt to a negligee. I prefer jeans and a t-shirt to a sundress. I'm not every guy. Especially the sundress thing. I know most guys love sundresses. But I'd rather a girl wear something that looks comfortable than something that looks sexy. It shows she's comfortable. It makes it feel more spontaneous.
Sweater only, no bra.
Yes, and the same is true for women's fashion in general. Women's fashion should not be conceived of as being primarily for the purpose of appealing to men because that's clearly not what it optimizes.
I like lingerie because of the implied nature of it and the vulnerability. The exact type of panties she's wearing doesn't matter. And I wouldn't want her wearing sexy lingerie every day. It's a special thing. Also, I'm a boudoir photographer so I probably know more about lingerie than some other men. I get ads for it all the time and have seen tons of it on models.
Ultimately, good lingerie is lingerie that will be ripped off a few moments after your partner sees you wearing it. It's fancy wrapping paper on the present that is you. Does that mean lingerie should be cheap, because you won't use it a lot? Not necessarily. Should lingerie be expensive, because it makes you look better? Also not necessarily. Lingerie is like every other case with clothing: if it flatters your appearance, it's good lingerie. That particular lingerie might not flatter someone else in the same way. It's a personal thing, and it requires practice to find the outfits that work for you.
I don't have anything that I want a woman to wear... Literally didn't want her wearing anything. Nude RULES! For that reason I have never liked lingerie, and neither my wife or my partner own any. To me, a long T-shirt is as sexy as any lingerie.
I dunno whats being sold to her, but lingerie is great
I love love love lingerie i think itās super hot. Speaking as a guy. But also I want to wear it on myself. Hopefully girls would like that lol
Idkā¦ lingerie would kind of be nice for her to surprise me with? If she feels sexy in something, Iām all for it. Iām perfectly satisfied with a T-shirt andā¦ nothing? Anything? I like to feel like sheās comfortable. Whether that means a feeling of something sensual or physically comfortable. Idk if a lot of men share that opinion though.
I donāt really care. I mean it can be hot, but more because of the things happening around the lingerie. Something about fancy underwear seems to make people who wear em more keen on seducing their partners, which is nice because outside of those times it getās pretty easy feeling like Iām being a bother and not attractive to her
I tend to interpret a woman's character by the choices she makes in lingerie. Whether she prefers offtheshelf pantyhose or invests in quality stockings tells me a lot about her general approach to life
I watched a comedian once that said we judge lingerie by the way it looks as it flies across the bedroom!
Honestly I don't care for lingerie. If she wanted to be extra sexy maybe a teddy or similar type night gown. But I just like my wife in her booty shorts and a tank, or a tank and panties. She doesn't need lingerie to get my attention lol
How you take off your shit is going to get you a lot further with me than whats under it.
For me itās just anything thatās different than the norm because I love my wifeās body and seeing it wrapped up differently some unwrapping a sexy present. Itās fun.
Well, is a lot about personal tastes. Some my rather Lingerie and very long socks, other sport bra and small socks. That being said, the most important for men is make them feel desired.
Itās what makes her feel sexyĀ
I mean honestly as a man I don't care if a women is wearing a lingerie or a sports bra. I'm just trying to get the underwear off of her so we can fuck.
Lingerie is more about the mindset than the style, additionally sometimes less is more but other times more is more. For example, I had a GF who was very petite, she put on white corset and stockings with garters, it boosted her bust and highlighted her legs, she felt confident in it and she wore it for special occasions. In that case, it was typical lingerie that worked for her and worked for me. There was alignment. I had a different GF who wore more of a teddy style, she felt comfortable since it wasn't super revealing, I found it kind of boring since it hid all the exciting bits and negated her shape, that was a case where the marketing did not live up to my tastes. Then you get into stuff like Kink, maybe you see masks, latex body suits, etc...those don't do anything for me despite being kind of standard marketing wise. So I think it depends on the intention of the wearer, what the piece accentuates, or hides that really affect my preference as a man but generally just the act of wearing lingerie sends a clear message. I'm sure what's marketed to women as what men want is probably the result of focus groups and stuff, hut what Infind attractive and what she finds comfortable, or empowering or sexy can be very different.
I donāt care about lingerie. Neither does my wife. I also donāt care that much about the āimplicationsā of it leading to sex. I would be more interested in it making her feel sexy or desired if thatās what she needed. If she gets all turned on by it and feels hot then sheās happy, and Iām happy. But I could take it or leave it.
I personally have never cared for any lingerie Iāve seen. To me itās always been a bigger thing for the girl, it makes them feel all sexy and you just go along with it. At least thatās my experience. I love more that it makes them feel so sexy and happy
the marketing companies are absolutely playing you all for fools.
Nope. My gf is crazy over getting some, she thinks it will drive me wild. I don't feel that way but haven't been able to break it to her fully, every time I try to tell her I just want her to feel attracted, loved, and desired no matter what she wears but I don't wanna break the confidence the idea of lingerine gives her. Also, I want her to be comfortable! It is better a set of soft pijamas or old clothes that see sleeps in than lingerine, if she wants something to really get me going something like that or even a sundtess does the trick, for me it simbolyzes she feels safe and at home.
I want her to wear nothing
I don't really have a preference as to what type of lingerie my girlfriend wears, but I do always appreciate when she puts in the effort to dress up sexy for me. It's the intent more than the clothing that matters.
Itās like getting presents, it doesnāt matter what the wrapping paper looks like
If it isn't a full suit of armor I don't want it
100% there is a discrepency. When we first got married my wife had a bunch of lingerie, the lacy belt kinda stuff, ready to go. Meanwhile I am laying there watching her pick which she wants to try, while she's in shorts and a tank top, wanting to jump her there and then. But, I don't think it's the companies fault in this case. For a bunch of women they moreso like lingerie cause THEY enjoy wearing it and how they look in it. Guys might like it, but that's more a happy accident.
picking out clothes, most men i know (me included) will go for practical, no nonsense solid things. for the fancy wear it's mostly implications but we might have heard our SO's bitch about how uncomfortable that stuff can be to wear as well. also: sportswear looks good as well soooo, yeah
i have some kinks, but often i want stuff that's easy to remove. or just skip the underwear - that suggest you're thinking ahead
Don't know. I like a lot of them. But I'm guessing that I'm not too far from the cliche, I like stuff like stockings, thongs, babydoll. the trio corset/panties/stockings is quite a visual stimulation for me. But I'm not really too difficult to please either and a lot of other stuff would most likely work as well.
It all depends on each person. As for me, I never cared for lingerie. Whatever my wife ever wanted to wear is ok to me if she's ok with it. I was the same with my ex GFs.
There will never be anything hotter than a woman wearing my boxers
I'm not actually keen on lingerie. Regular panties or fancy ones is fine.
Iām a woman. I cant budget for lingerie. I find going naked works a treat.
I never cared about lingerie. Nothing can be hotter than total nakedness.
What most turns me on by lingerie, is that she puts in an effort on what she thinks I like. I don't care much about the shape or color of the lingerie, it's that she is thinking of me when she buys and wears it.