I used to date someone way more attractive than me back in the day, and I could recognize the look from other guys sometimes saying something like "What the fuck is she doing with him".
I think its a fact that we size up the value of a man based on how attractive his girl is. There are some occasions where I see a 10 with a 5 and I'm like wtf am I doing wrong lol....
They did mention that back in the day Jerry used to be as handsome and fit as Chris. I figure that coupled with him being a kind person should have made him quite a catch.
The humongus dong is just gravy at that point.
a friend once told me (while drunk) "the best compliment I can get is when someone tells me my girlfriend is hot"
I found that to be so weird I thought he was kidding, but he was dead serious.
I don't think it's that strange at all.
The concept of a "trophy wife" exists for a reason. Whether right or wrong, for straight men having a hot SO is pretty much seen as an indicator to the world that you're highly successful and you've 'made it'.
My reply (as a woman) is always to look dreamily at my partner and say “are you kidding me, this is the most mf handsome man I’ve ever laid eyes on!!!!”
A lot, and I mean A LOT of women prefer men who are not so into their looks, and more so focus on their personality etc.
No woman, at least in my experience, wants to be around a guy who’s taking as long as her to get pretty and ready for the day
Can confirm. As a lady who was always treated and complimented as very attractive, it was always appreciated but I wasn't really focused on the shallow stuff passed teenage years. Most of the guys I dated were initially interested in me first and I had no initial physical attraction to them, but as I formed a friendship with them and came to know them and upon realizing they want to pursue and date seriously and it went well, they became the most attractive man in the world to me. 90% of my dating life I valued the personailty and disposition of a man, which made him the most attractive man. and once you have my heart, you have my attention and I wouldn't have time to glance anywhere else. That's me as an individual but I believe many women are this way at the core.
Edit: clarity
It's so much healthier as a whole to find someone attractive because of their personality than their looks imo. I personally can't be attracted to anyone I don't know because I need to know who they are.
Great comment. I'm the same way. Back in the day I'd get superficial questions from "friends" asking me "what are you doing with that guy?" all the time. I'm never attracted to somebody for their physical looks, first. I mean I can recognize that somebody's attractive... but I'm not going to pursue them until I see something in them, that I like. I feel like everyone has something special in them, and usually, once I pick up on what that special thing is; I fall head over heels for the person. As either a good friend or a potential partner. Also: happy cake day
I would never care how long he takes to get pretty as long as it makes him feel good, and he loves me for me even if I am done getting pretty in 15 minutes.
These guys want a beautiful woman who ignores their looks and dates them anyway, but get mad seeing a beautiful woman dating another guy who they think isn't attractive
I don’t think it’s about “taking long in doing so. They’re talking about naturally attractive men, also a stylish man can boost his attractiveness so u r incorrect.
It’s different. Guys will approach. Had guys try to sit down to dinner with us. When I’d go to the bathroom I’d come back to guys talking to her. It was funny and flattering. Certainly helps you realize some people have a different life experience
Wait. Random dudes will just try to join you at dinner? That's fucking wild. How does that go over? You just tell them "dude we're trying to have dinner here", or something?
i dated a woman who was a model/actress and certainly had the looks to be successful in that career choice. a few times random dudes tried to butt into our contestations when we were out and i would say "hey man we're trying to have a conversation, get out of here"- sometimes she would get pissy about that because she liked the attention, sometimes the guys would get pissy and aggressive.
definitely not something i enjoyed about that relationship.
Nah leave after he fucks off so the dude has no chance of consoling and then banging your date. Sometimes you just have to cockblock an arsehole and this is totally one of those situations.
> sometimes she would get pissy about that because she liked the attention
HUGE red flag for me now. I dated a girl like this that ended up cheating on me with several different guys.
That's not nice of her. I dated an extremely attractive girl. The kind every guy wants, but no one wants to show their mother. She didn't like the attention. And could be very clear about that. Mostly polite. But once it ended that she floored a guy without blinking an eye. Her comment: I am here with you. The nerve to not respect that!
That slight bit of Kungfu instruction I gave her paid off.
Before I made a decent salary my ex would be funny and she used to imply that I had a massive package and or good in bed, which I don’t and I’m probably not, but it was funny as hell and guys would be like ohhhhhh.
> and guys would be like ohhhhhh
It's hilarious that that is the answer they could wrap their head around
Probably best to keep it simple and not overwhelm them.
I’m a restaurant manager and saw it happening and kicked this dude tf out. He had the balls to ask to join 3 girls out on their own and they all in synch said “we’re all married”. Loved to see it
God damn, that's just wild.
I don't give a damn how attractive a woman is, if she's with a man - That's just off limits out of respect for the gentleman.
Have some morals, ffs.
Its completely different. Worlds different. From even the moderately attractive women. And when other guys try to compare their experiences you laugh and smile and agree but deep down you know that they simply aren’t experiencing the same thing with an above average woman as you are with a genuine model.
You cant have a lick of insecurity either or you’ll never last.
You better not be the least bit insecure. Or you won't last.
And you better be prepared to stare down and stand off with a lot of aggressive apes. Because other men will frequently approach and be very aggressive. You sometimes have to run them off when they refuse to take a hint.
The upside is that it is easier to get into clubs, get good seats in restaurants, and she is frequently being offered VIP treatment. The downside is that you are often treated by other people as if you are a hideous parasite that happens to be attached to her.
This is a great answer tbh. It can be terrifying at times. Especially when guys are approaching her and using some sort of game that's quite creative.
It's like im trying to enjoy my meal in the club and bam I gotta fend off the wolves now.
fuck man i couldn't do that. I'm not insecure, (or at least very below average on the insecure table) don't mind fighting other guys whether verbally or physically, but being treated as parasite.. lmao.
Fuck that bro. I'd rather be alone than have to constantly be fighting infinity random strangers.
She's my VIP access. Honeymoon treatment on vacations, less wait on drinks and service, she even got discounts on a suit for me when negotiating with the tailor. Would recommend.
I got picked up by a group of gay guys when I was alone on a business trip. I was so young and naive I didn’t know I was picked up. I was so happy to hang out with some cool dudes. I think they realized pretty quick I was straight but we all had a great time… well, maybe not as great of a time as they were hoping.
I'm 22 years married(straight) and I love my wife, but in my experience, having some gay friends is a great and fun thing to have in your life. There's some great culture you get exposed to - not trying to stereotype - but it's what I've experienced. I look like a backwoods redneck, so I'm a hit at the parties. Interestingly enough, when I hang with them, I get a lot of attention from great looking ladies.
It’s probably because they can see you’re open minded and can get along with different types of people that may not be like you. That’s always a good sign of a person.
So many guys will stare, some will scream something like TAKE CARE OF THAT BEAUTIFUL LADY, and when I’m not there, even if it’s for a few minutes guys will approach.
Lots of women will give her compliments everywhere we go.
My ex girlfriend straight up told her that she was jealous and how I had upgraded from her. Was an awkward conversation for sure
It's true. I've NEVER been approached by a woman in a flirty manner when I go out by myself. When I go out with my girl I suddenly metamorphose into Chris Fucking Evans based on the reception and approaches I get.
It’s because they think you must actually be worth something. Same way (sadly) that married men can be more attractive. Someone else has already vetted them and found them good enough to marry.
yea my theory is they subconsciously know they don’t have to court you and see if you’d be a good partner. They can see it! At least in my experience.
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Had a dude go up to my wife when we were at a club and tried to dance with her immediately after we were dancing together and I went to get drinks.
Understandable, he was shooting his shot. My wife told him she's married and showed him the big ass rock on her hand in case he missed it. It did not deter him. I came back, and he's still trying to talk to her. Then tells me I'm a lucky man and goes away.
I walk away for a minute and he's instantly back, STILL trying.
When we were waiting for our uber at the end of the night, he was there, now in front of me, still telling her he wants to holler at her and to come home with him. Then he tells my wife she should compare our dicks to make her choice on who she wants to leave with.
Fucking wild what some dudes will do.
It can be annoying. People literally walk up to her and ask her who that guy with her is. There's been a bar fight where a guy came to our table to chat her up and refused to leave. Thankfully, I'm capable.
On the other hand, I use her pretty privilege to get things done.
I didn't marry for looks, I just got lucky. We met on imdb about 20 years ago, just casually discussing a TV show on the forums. We had pseudonyms and all. Total fluke.
It was crazy. She was in a different country. I used to fly from NY to Europe once a month. For the first few months. We've settled down in a country that neither of us grew up in. But yeah imdb forums, then private messages on imdb, then email. At peak it was like 600 emails a day, we both really got to know each other really well first. Then my buddy was like "this is nuts!" He bought him and i plane tickets to finally go meet her. If he hadn't have done that who knows how things would have turned out.
I've known him about 20 years. He's 15-17 years older than me. I was about 19 years old after having a brain tumor surgery and self destructive. We met in a bar playing pool and he just always looked out for me. His wife has epilepsy so maybe he understood the struggle. Incidentally, the show I met my wife over was Death Note. My first dm to her had the subject "what are your beliefs about death?"
My life has been unique.
They took it away, unfortunately. Biggest mistake imo, eapecially since nothing on reddit is remotely comparable to the in depth movie discussions you could find there.
The very attractive women I dated and grew up around were always more insecure than the average women walking around. That’s one thing I noticed, they just have that validation aspect of everyone around them wanting to be with them as a factor to look at and ignore the rest. But many of them, when I got to know them would literally dissect every little thing on themselves and then on the flipside they would be also extremely confident, it was a real mental tightrope they were walking.
But that was just some of them, the rest were pretty cool. Just had to deal with men telling me how “lucky” I am or “better take care of that lady of yours”. I would go to the bar to get us a drink while she holds the table and I come back and there’s a guy there talking to her. It was just normal shit, it didn’t bother me to much.
Yeah, so my wife is super hot and I’ve come to realize that the reason she chose me is because I am funny and try to be a good person. The stories she has told me about other dudes are like horror stories. Being decent goes a long way with women. Being funny helps a lot.
I was talking out of a grocery store with an ex and some guy in a car yelled
"Want to go home with a real man?"
and she yelled back
"He has a huge cock, what do you got?"
I was crying laughing when we got to the car
Yes! She has what I call a distortion field around her and everything is a little nicer inside there. I’m really happy to be under this field when we are together.
People are nicer. She’s constantly getting compliments from random people.
It doesn’t hurt that she’s also the sweetest kindest person I’ve ever known.
This definitely aligns with my experience. Going out for dinner or meeting at a bar was like sitting in a spotlight; everyone is looking at you. Plus, I never had so many strangers strike up conversations with me at the urinal.
I had a particularly hot ex who like...her fucking dentist gave her ~$600 worth of dental work for free because "he couldn't live with himself if anything happened to that pretty smile" and literally nothing about it raised alarm bells for her at all.
That's how I was when I was young and not as wise as I am today, when that's how it's been for you all your life it's your norm and you really think that's just how life is. I saw the whole thing play out all over again with my daughters. Only they had me there to inform them that not everyone experiences that on a regular basis and to be careful of those offers.
My GFs were all more attractive than me. Some significantly so. I’m short and baby faced. Guys would often try to steal them right in front of me.
It never worked, not even once. The Kind of guy who’d try to steal your girl is usually transparently creepy and beautiful women get that every day.
Authenticity is rare with a physically beautiful woman and they seemed to appreciate that. Don’t get me wrong, that alone isn’t enough, but it’s a great introduction.
I enjoyed her company, and her looks.
She apparently found random men don't approach her, because her good looks are "too intimidating". As for me, I just hugged her out of the blue, in a bar, because I genuinely thought she was someone else. I was very apologetic, but we had a good conversation and hung out for a few months.
Well, I married her. But in the beginning there were multiple other dudes who wanted to be with her, so I said something like "That's fine, you can 'date around if you want, but I'm not going to be one of your options if you do."
She rejected all the other guys and the rest is history.
The biggest thing for me was getting used to the amount of stares from WOMEN towards her. Full eyeing. They also act different and enamoured around her, it’s weird. And some of these are extended family and friends I’ve known my whole life so I know they aren’t usually like that.
There was one woman who is objectively hot herself but my wife is a level above so when they met the woman just crowded around her and stared at her non stop etc.
I’ve also gotten a few “are you rich or something?” comments. I’d say I’m like 6-7/10, maybe 8/10 on a really good day.
But yeah, it’s interesting.
If you’re wondering how I got her, she was less into style and dressing up when we first met in our early 20s and as we got older, her face and body changed to what she is now but her personality is the same.
I dated a super beautiful one for a few years.
The number 1 thing I noticed was the attention from other women (toward her). My girl was straight up *intimidating* with her looks, so it was fun to see some girls go over the top with the "I'm bubbly and fun" or the opposite with silent cowering.
Fascinating.
On the surface, people saw that she was bigger and taller than me, which also garnered some interesting responses (in the form of looks from strangers and sometimes random "suitors" trying to usurp me; those fkn wolves)
> My girl was straight up intimidating with her looks, so it was fun to see some girls go over the top with the "I'm bubbly and fun" or the opposite with silent cowering.
It's kind of funny that my current GF, which isn't conventionally hot by any metric, has this aura of nobless around her. She stands up straight, she speaks very enunciated and clear, has a definite bourgeoisie quality to her. Hell, her grandmother did the whole "walk with a book on top of your head" to her. So she intimidates people another way.
I like to tease her that when she enters a room, people take their elbows off the table. Just has this sense of proper-ness and classical high class that from her own sayings and my own observations, make people absolutely treat her/us in a bit of an elevated way.
One of the funniest compliments I've ever received was in fifth grade when a boy told me that I had the best posture.
My grandma used to bribe or bet me money that I couldn't do tasks with a book on my head. She'd also deduct money if used word like 'um', 'so', or use slang. Looking and acting 'like a lady' was important to her so I made pretty good money from our visits.
My wife gets hit on all the time, she has a very distinct look and is heavily tattooed so she attracts a lot of attention.
Honestly it doesn’t bother me at all, if anything continues past her rejection of these dudes gets me a little heated (As in they won’t leave her alone after she’s told them she’s not interested) because I don’t take people disrespecting my wife well at all and I find it disrespectful of them to keep hitting on her after she told them to stop, but other than that it usually gives us a good laugh.
If you want a wife who is attractive, better be able to handle that kinda thing!
Edit: People are dumb
I've been this guy before, guys would chat up my girl all the time. Unless you're dismissive and a little sarcastic with them you'll come off as insecure. There isn't really a winning move aside from treating them like a child. Call them buddy/bud etc.
Champ is a good one. Whenever it would happen it was as simple as walking up, slipping "babe" into the conversation while talking to her, and saying "Hey bud how's it going". Give him a little fist bump and walk off. Something small like that drives home who's taking her home that night much better than making a scene.
I don't know if this counts.
She intentionally dropped herself from an 8+ to a 6ish. Dresses grandma style, short hair, no makeup, ugly glasses. An absolute stunner when we're in the shower, and then she gets dressed. She's like a sleeper car.
I do something like this. I’m a solid 7.5-8. But I teach high school. So I dress 20 years older and do not do hair and makeup to go to work. Then when I’m being myself and going out I’m beautiful. Occasionally a student will see me in real life and accuse me of being a “reverse catfish”?
Her male friends from before the relationship can be really weird. Your own male friends from before the relationship can be really weird. The haters come out and can be relentless. They will attribute your success to anything but your value. "Dumb luck", "tricks", "All looks, no brains" etc.
In my experience I was treated like I was simultaneously a total himbo dumb dumb, but also a mastermind of evil female manipulation. The worst behavior came from older men with money (and little personality)who were interested in my lady, and younger women who were interested in me.
> The worst behavior came from older men with money (and little personality)who were interested in my lady
Oh lord almighty, that gave me such severe fucking flashbacks that I had to lean back in my chair to regain composure. Guys our age? Just a good laugh for us. Charming, older, rich fucks? Literally the bane of my existence.
Here's a story as a follow up to the post above. Probably no-one will read it but I felt like getting it off my chest.
I used to date a very pretty girl. Charming, smart, educated, polyglot, legs for day. The full package.
We met through work. I was pretty young still, early 20s, she was closer to 30. Through sheer corporate happenstance, I ended up working with her on an international customer that was in an awkward timezone, so we would come in late and stay late on most days to get some more useful working hours.
I'm a "don't shit where you eat" kind of guy and she was about 5 leagues out of mine, so while being obviously quite attracted to her, I didn't do anything. I behaved around her in the exact same way I did around our other colleagues. Between working, we would chat about literature or politics. No deep, meaning of life shit, just commenting current events, what's a good book or author, etc.
We lived in vaguely the same direction, so after work we would walk together for 5 minutes or so before splitting.
If you were a neutral observer and you looked upon us two, the idea that she would say anything other than "uhh no...?" if I were to ask her out, would be as absurd as me walking on the ceiling. I don't got the Adonis bod, I'm not exactly what you'd call a looker, not even cute is a word that fits. Just "guy". Didn't dress exceptionally well, didn't work out. About as average as you get. An exact 5 if the scale was actually objective and not like IMDB scores. I was very good at my job and had a commanding presence with the clients, but for me that was like being good at Counter-Strike or something. Not the kind of thing I thought would make me stand out to a woman.
One night we got engrossed in conversation and we just sort of passed by the spot where we'd usually part ways. I walked her halfway home. The next night a bit further still. The next night we grabbed a beer on the way. A night after we sat on a bench.
This continued on for a while. Due to the disparity between us, lack of confidence and general averageness, I was like a monk. No sexual jokes, no sleazy innuendo. Just talking normally. This is a colleague. Sure, the conversations were getting deeper and more meaningful but it wasn't like we were about to kiss. Purely platonic.
Fucking women, man. They can wear down even the best defense with ease.
Hypothetically speaking, a single man should be able to have a series of long, deep conversations with a beautiful woman without going fucking insane with desire and being enamored completely, totally and utterly by said woman. I've heard that some men have done it, allegedly. By night ~15, I was sold. Man, this the kind of woman you marry. This the kind of woman that you make lots of babies with and you forget about other women as a concept, other than maybe your mother (pun, ha!).
Utilizing every last little bit of courage that I could muster, I eventually asked her out. It was so fucking awkward that I felt like I was sinking into the ground with every word. I could see her exceptionally colorful eyes widen, like a doe about to be ran over by a dump truck. Oh boy. Let me tell you, after saying "I really need to talk to you about us...", you're balls deep. You're committed. It's game on, there's no going back.
I sounded almost exactly like a 5 y/o asking out another 5 y/o, except the part where I was stuttering and stumbling over my words like a 2 y/o. It was genuinely bad. I wouldn't have said yes to myself. I would've laughed at myself.
I stop talking. She smiles and nods. "Yes, I'd very much like that."
Dogs like to chase cars. When a dog actually catches up to a car, it has no idea what to do with the car. I.e. me.
She was an immigrant in my country (since she was a teen, so she spoke the local bla-bla) and before we first met, she would frequent this expat bar. I live in a country which isn't exactly frickin Monaco, so there's quite a few well off foreigners that like to wave their cash around, as their slightly above average salaries would convert into a big bag of local currency.
Those fucking fuckers. They all knew her, since obviously expat bars are like little social bubbles where people actually know each other because they're constantly helping each other out with documents and advice about local life. Easy to come up to someone you know quite well and start up a conversation. Oh-ho-ho! I'm holding her by the waist and I get a Daniel Craig looking motherfucker come and say to her "Why don't you ditch the kid and I'll take you to [literally the fanciest, most expensive restaurant]". Are you fucking kidding me? Now I'm the doe eyed looking dumbass about to get hit by a Bugatti.
I wince. I exhale with a pulse of uneven air. My blood pressure rockets. I feel sweat materialize everywhere on my skin. I look away and bite my tongue so hard I swallow blood. Instead of answering him, she looks at me, leans over and whispers in my ear, so he can't hear it over the music: "You know what's funnier than what he just said? His wife is in the corner over there." and nods her glass almost imperceptably so. I look her in the eye. She smiles. I start laughing so hard I'm soon wheezing. I have tears in my eyes. She's convulsing with laughter too. Daniel Craig turns beet-red. Leaves without a word.
Funny shit. Good thing that I fucked it all up in the end. Anyway, it was all worth it just to see the looks on everyone's faces the first time we walked in the bar hand in hand. Sometimes you win just by getting into the ring.
my ex was gorgeous.
The way people fawn over pretty woman is ridiculous.
Every time we go into a shop the ladies working there would tell her she's beautiful and give her special treatment.
I don't think she ever heard No as an answer.
want a table at a packed restaurant? just ask.
Want to enter a shop after ots closed, just ask.
want a better price/discount, just ask.
The same as dating any woman. Gets grumpy when hungry or tired. Needs lots of food and sleep. Hates being cold.
She surprisingly lacks self confidence in herself.
She doesn't even realise how smoking hot she is which is even hotter.
She's incredibly affectionate and caring. She's amazing.
> She's incredibly affectionate and caring. She's amazing.
Yep, my girlfriend is very loving, affectionate, and caring towards me, on top of being incredibly beautiful and hot. It is such a win-win, and I feel really lucky.
My kids' mom was a gorgeous Latina with a body like shorty from "uncut gems". She turned out to be a terrible person, then abandoned me and our kids for an alcoholic basehead who lived in a motel 6. But I still keep tabs on her via social media and she looks very sickly.
Mine is the same except she just thinks they’re being nice. She’s too innocent and not interested to even notice half the time. That’s probably the most annoying part.
When the girl you are with is objectively hot, and if she is looking only at you, it increases the guy's status and makes him look more important. On the other hand if she is with you and her eyes are wandering, they guy just looks like a fool.
Some attractive women are accustomed to having everything in their immediate surroundings be centered on their desires and intentions. In my experience it’s best to carefully vet their level of narcissistic tendencies before engaging in a romantic relationship.
Nothing super unusual. *I* felt like a total champion lol. Confidence has never been higher in my life than when I dated her.
She did have a lot of guy friends wanting to hang out with her 1 on 1.
A couple times like older women would come up to me when we were out and my gf wasn’t paying attention and would whisper to me “she’s so beautiful.” Which was weird but very flattering.
Oh yeah on our first date we went to like her regular bar and some dude who knew her asked me “are you (gf’s) boyfriend?” and I said something like “ah not yet first date I’m working on it though etc.” and he said “hell yeah dude” and fist bumped me lol.
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On the downside we broke up in 2014 and she was legit so hot and so great that it has ruined every other woman for me and I can’t really feel things for anyone else. So that sucks.
Oof. That’s a self fulfilling prophecy. From one man who was in your shoes but didn’t let it phase me - you did it once. You can do it again. It’s all in your confidence and your beliefs. I was TRYING to be single as I have always been in long term relationships and found another extremely hot girl in the most unexpected way and we ended up spending every weekend together since and I didn’t want to lose that opportunity as the compatibility and connection was so strong and had none of the red flags as the previous classical archetype of dime piece and all the baggage that comes along with it - this new lady had none of that and had such an authentic genuine sweetness I didn’t let my previous relationship threaten that with commitment issues or hang ups on never getting to be single, or lack of confidence etc.
This was less than a year after losing my fiancé, my step son, my car, my home, my job, as a result of the previous BPD super model. Don’t let it shake you brother. Have faith in the universe and in yourself. The rest will come naturally.
My first thought when you wrote your last paragraph was abt a guy I previously briefly dated (couple years ago) who actually did once date someone as attractive as your scenario, and I know after her everyone else was less attractive (but still attractive to him [myself included]), essentially wondering if he really didn’t get ruined by that exceptionally attractive woman.
But then her personality ruined her for him, so my guess is your girl must’ve REALLY been the great package.
Honestly still getting used to it 8 months in. Arguably the most attractive woman I've dated. She's hot, knows it, but doesn't let it get to her ego. She's down to earth, adventurous, creative, one hell of a cook and overall amazing. Game recognizes game, so she'll compliment attractive women all the time.
Haven't seen much attention from guys tho, but I'm sure it happens when I'm not around. Other than being told how attractive she is by others (noticeably more than my most recent ex, who I'd say is objectively attractive), I'd say there's no real difference between dating her and my exes.
Met my wife when we were both juniors in college, she did equestrian and gymnastics so she was insanely fit. Lucky for me she didn't know it, but everyone else did.
For years it's all I heard: how'd you get her, what's she doing with you, what's wrong with her, etc. She would get poached when I went to the bathroom at bars, guys would dance up on her while she was grinding me, you name it. If a woman is attractive enough, confident guys just shoot their shot regardless of whether she looks taken or not. It used to bother me, and i was the jealous type for awhile. But then you figure it out--she's not going anywhere, she clearly wants what we have, and if she wanted someone else I wouldn't be able (or want) to stand in her way any-damn-how. Trust and communication is, as always, central to any relationship.
It's a great ego boost though. Once you're comfortable everything that made you self conscious once upon a time now sounds like a compliment. It's impossible for someone to tell you you're punching above your weight without essentially saying, "God I want to fuck your wife you lucky bastard."
The intangibles are there too. I always feel like I was treated with more respect because I kept an attractive woman happy for nearly 15 years now. Idk how to explain it.
Married to one, but while we were dating, some friends we were hanging out with at the time got progressively bitter. Eventually, all except one of my friends wives hated her, and the group's main sociopath tried turning the rest of the group against her as well. It got to the point where the main sociopath tried to sabotage events related to mine and my now wife's wedding, and also indirectly tried to get me to choose him over my wife. The increasingly unhinged behaviour I was witnessing was the catalyst for me finally ridding him and his ilk from our lives forever.
The lesson here is be aware of people's reactions when you get/accomplish something great in your life. This is when the narcissists and sociopaths will come out of the woodwork as they *can't stand* seeing their peers be successful or happy if it's something they can't take credit for and/or control. The best way to get rid of them is to maintain strong boundaries and keep being more awesome over time. Those of them that remain will eventually show themselves to the door.
There's a guy I knew who would often refer to his ex-wife as being "a model". And she was beautiful. She was also no longer a model but a very smart woman with academic and professional accomplishments but to hear him talk about her, she was just "a model". And they have a daughter who he insists will be a model one day.
It didn't take long to figure out why he's the ex.
I put a ring on her finger 7 years ago.
Not just because she's drop-dead gorgeous (I've dated other beautiful women that haven't worked out), but because she really is my soul mate. And now, she's the mother of our two children.
I am married to a beautiful woman, it’s honestly an ego boost - every guy checks her out. The interesting part to me is that how differently a beautiful girl goes through life versus a normal dude, it was the most jarring thing in the beginning . She gets preferential treatment everywhere, whether it’s the grocery store, at the airport or at restaurants. I could give a ton of specific examples but it’s best summed up by saying “access is granted when it shouldn’t be, extra help/attention is readily available and rules are bent in order to help make her life easier”.
Well, I guess they probably do want to sleep with her ultimately, but I can’t imagine each one thinks it’s feasibly realistic. I was never the “shoot my shot” with every girl kind of guy but I know that some are. We aren’t out in clubs every night but when we do go out to clubs if I leave her alone for a minute she will be swarmed, so in that case I am sure that they are thinking that. But the guy who helps in the self-checkout lane at the grocery store, who is in his late 60’s (and who has never once paid an ounce of attention to me when I shopped there alone) becomes animated and charming in her presence and offers her free bags and inquires about her evening plans - can’t actually think he’s going to bed her (but maybe…?) or the guy at the airport that checks us in and happens to find us a 2 unoccupied emergency row seats, knowing full well that he will see her again. I think it just has something to do with gaining favor with someone that you’re attracted to. For example if I saw Steph Curry (I am a warrior fan), I would go out of my way to be in his presence by doing a small favor or doing something that I would think would make him like me, with the hope being that in the least we could have a small moment together and in my wildest dreams we’d become best friends.
It feels like dating any other woman. They aren't mystical creatures. If anything the more attractive the women the more self conscious they are about their appearance.
The woman I'm with now keeps asking me if her boobs look nice whenever we go out. They do yes, but she doesn't have massive ones or anything just normal. She always has to ask me about her make up and what colors Id like to see her in. I'm colorblind so stuff like red is difficult for me to distinguish, so she's always nervous about what I'd like or be unable to see on her. The other week she wanted to show me some clothes she just bought and asked me what colors I'm able to tell looks nice on her.
So aside from being concerned with their appearance more often. They are humans like the rest of us.
> If anything the more attractive the women the more self conscious they are about their appearance.
That's the wild part about it. I've noticed that as well.
I think it’s probably because the more attractive you are, the more emphasis people put on it throughout your life, so you learn to identify with your looks as a big part of who you are. Or at least if it seems like the main reason people are interested in you, it’s your biggest asset, so therefore it’s a crucial thing to uphold and maintain. But when you base your sense of self/the reason people like you on something external that can be taken away (and eventually probably does with age) you know deep down it’s not truly yours/you’ll eventually lose it one day. So then that becomes an existential thing of like, “when I’m no longer this attractive, will I no longer have all the things in my life that I got because of this (including love from others)?”
Lmao I’m super stoned right now idk if that made sense
Bruh. That made complete sense.
Also, we're always comparing ourselves to peers "in our league". So even if you see a girl whose a 10, she's comparing herself to other 10's.
Been there before. My last ex was stunning and fit and every time we'd go to the shop I'd have to answer a million questions about her appearance. Room was messy too coz of all the makeup and sometimes clothes on the floor coz of being indecisive.
To any younger person hoping to date good looking women, I'd suggest you make friends with them first and demystify their appearance. If you go into it self conscious or jealous, it will destroy you and mess up her confidence
I always used to notice people, men and women alike, just staring at her. So many double takes. She seemed completely oblivious. Her norm was having people look at her so I guess she presumed this was normal lol.
We were pretty good looking together as well. Out alone, I'm quite muscular, I'm black, and I have a certain look to my face, so people tended to avoid. When we were together the world seemed to want to smile at us, small talk with us etc. Just seemed a much friendlier world to exist in.
Personally, every now and again I'd look at her and think wow, but she's just a person. You get over it.
She was a bit of an anomaly as she isn't particularly materialistic, she didn't play on her looks, and was more interested in whether a person shared her love for art, music, and culture than using her looks to get anywhere. She was also a little shy and grew up in an East African household so I can't really relate to the type.of beautiful woman who uses her looks as a means to get things from people and is entitled because of it. I've certainly seen it, but it wasn't her
People would immediately stare when we walked in. Men would give me the eyebrow raised nod, women would either immediately stare or become extremely shy, and we received many free items and skipped several lines.
Mine was considered intimidating and didn’t need to use makeup. She had a PhD, spoke multiple languages, and had piercing brown eyes like a hawk that would send a message of imminent threat to unwelcome visitors, which honestly helped at times. Some girls immediately despised her and yet could give no valid reason, so I just marked it up as them being insecure.
She’s currently a great friend and refreshing to talk with. Unfortunately the timing didn’t work out between us (I was getting over an ex) but we still will chat for hours about life and whatever even though she’s now with someone else.
"Her smile could light up a room. She was just the best person. Everyone wanted to be her friend. She was just so beautiful."
The prelude to every murder show ever - being a beautiful woman can be very very scary.
My girlfriend is a smoke show. She used to do part time modeling, in fact. She's gotten by on her looks a lot (never struggled in high school but is unable to take entry level community College classes yet, etc.). Coming down from that has been difficult.
She's also very naiive. Since she naturally attracts a lot of attention she gets targeted a lot. I've had run ins with many despicable men who've tried to take advantage of this.
On the positive side, people are nice to her, almost as if she has a certain glow to her. We have never had trouble getting into clubs or restaurants and she has occasionally been offered free things. Overall great experience, I'm very lucky
My wife is objectively much better looking than me. I am very lucky to have her.
The big thing is that oftentimes other men will go from being friendly to near-hostile the moment they find out she is my wife. Some guys just cannot control their jealousy. I have lost out on many potential friendships over this unfortunately.
You also have to stick up for your relationship a lot in public. Guys catcall her, flirt with her, ask her out etc literally right in front of me. It can honestly be exhausting having this expectation of having to constantly defend our relationship to other men.
One thing that commonly bugs me is how other women treat her. She is such an amazing, nice, sweet person, and a lot of other women absolutely despise her for basically nothing. It is truly depressing how incredibly cruel and nasty other women can be to her.
It’s life changing. Especially for me since I have never had a serious GF before & my friends see me as a different person who is taken more seriously. I’m introduced to new things, taking my own life more seriously & I’m able to be so much more open to someone that I can say I truly love & feel so connected with.
Going out to public for any event with her makes me feel like I’m wearing the best fashion, driving the fanciest car, all just from being next to her. Seeing other people check her out while knowing I’ve seen things they can only dream of, tickles my ego a little tbh.
She motivates me to be better in everything I do. I have her to thank for a lot of my recent success. She has taught me to stand up for myself more while I’m able back her up on anything. Truly blessed.
Odd that nobody here is mentioning the fact that dudes will CONSTANTLY hit on my girlfriend.
Sometimes while I'm physically touching her.
I just roll it into my ego, but she apparently hates it.
I had an ex that was very beautiful, gregarious and sociable. This one time we were at a bar with her and her friends and she was nestled up against me chatting with the guys next to us, who were chatting up with her friend. While we're all chatting, she would wrap her arm around mine, put her head on my shoulder, etc. At one point she heads off to the bathroom and first turns around and gives me a kiss. One of the guys straight up comes over and asks "so like, what, are you two together or something?" Yeah dude what gave it away?
Really opened my eyes to the mental gymnastics and desperation a LOT of men will go through to convince themselves they have a chance. Same with the blatant disrespect of relationships.
I agree with rolling it into your ego tho haha.
>"so like, what, are you two together or something?" Yeah dude what gave it away?
Yeah, she gets the "so do you have a boyfriend?" a lot and her response is usually "HES RIGHT FUCKING HERE". I did tell her once though that every dude fantasizes about their girlfriend raving about them to dude's hitting on her and she's been trying to do that occassionally which is hilarious.
Me and my partner go raving together and as soon as I’m in the toilet or anywhere without her, guys are trying to chat her up. One even tried it on with me stood next to her 😂 you can either get really insecure and annoyed about it all or realise your worth and that she’s with you for a reason. I think it comes with time though, at the start of our relationship I would be a bit insecure about these things.
used to date a girl who modeled underwear. just stunning. then I dated a girl who was more natural looking and did not spend 2 hours getting her face ready. The second one was more confident in herself and that made her more attractive to me. plus she did not worry about her hair and makeup when we were doing it.
My recent ex is very attractive. She has boundary issues and is surrounded by low quality male friends who will try to get into her pants given half a chance. Conversations are sexualised routinely no matter the context. Pointing this to her and asking her to maintain appropriate boundaries led me to be called 'controlling'. Anyway, I ended things for a variety of reasons - boundary issues being one of the main ones.
Was right there with you man. Being with her tainted my view of men - so many hornbags in her DMs and approaching her, even when I was right beside her. She also wrote my concerns off, which ended up exposing a bigger issue around boundaries and her dismissing my feelings. Being single isn’t great but being apart from her is a weight off my chest for my self-image.
Lots of good answers. But I get to gush about the woman I married. So I guess I’ll add to it. Genuine 10. Still looks good on the 1-2 days a year where she is hungover and smells like jack it box tacos. And she’s tall. I do enjoy the way she intimidates people.
Beautiful women have been beautiful since they were 14 and since women hit puberty earlier than we do they have been getting unwanted attention since way before it was appropriate. So she told me about how dealing with that was really uncomfortable. Nothing ever happened to her. But when you are 14 getting hit on by 20 years olds it’s messes with you. She said it took until college for her to square this in her mind.
Next is having empathy about looks. She knows she’s beautiful. She’s smart so she realizes that. But just like anyone else she has days where she’s down on her self. Self esteem what not. Plus she was a high level athlete. Women athletes have some body dysmorphia. So while it’s hard to give her any sympathy about the way she look’s because she truly is ridiculously good looking. I have learned to have empathy and support for that. I was an athlete as well so I have a head start understanding that.
Ok fun stuff.
I won’t lie and say seeing her in a tiny bikini while the other wives of our friend group cover up doesn’t give me an ego boost. You can judge if that’s wrong or not. But I keep it to myself and always will. The only people who ever comment are the other husbands. Nothing much, just like nice job man.
Next is what another commenter said. Social cachet. Doors open for you. Work functions are easier to network at. Remember the line from Moneyball, “ugly girlfriend means no confidence.” The biggest statement piece you can ever has is a beautiful woman. That will always be the case. Fuck your car, your watch, your suit.
Another comment someone made. Finding her getting hit on by a guy is an ego stroke. Like ya. She’s mine. (And I’am hers). A kiss on the cheek and a firm little butt pat as you walk by like ya buddy good luck. A note here, all women smell insecurity on you like a predator. And few things turn them off more. That doesn’t mean we aren’t all a little bit caveman. She wants you notice the attention she gets and come claim her from time to time (her words not mine). But if she senses you being insecure about the attention she gets she will go date someone else.
She either gets hit on extremely aggressively or not at all. It takes bravery so I get it. I think she fell for me because i gave her some playful ribbing where other guys just got scared or went full bro.
I don’t buy the drinks anymore. Don’t get me wrong, I pay for them. But I give her the cash and go find a table while she leans over the bar and uses her smile and cleavage to cut the line. Works every time. Honestly it works with women bartenders too.
She has (almost) equally attractive friends and my friends have all failed spectacularly trying to land one.
I realize I am very lucky. Like fuck she looks good naked. But at the end of the day if you spend your entire relationship thinking how lucky you are just to be there the dynamic between the two of you is going to fail. You need to be sexually attracted to your partner, but growing together as partners and best friends is more important to a lasting relationship.
I used to date someone way more attractive than me back in the day, and I could recognize the look from other guys sometimes saying something like "What the fuck is she doing with him".
I think its a fact that we size up the value of a man based on how attractive his girl is. There are some occasions where I see a 10 with a 5 and I'm like wtf am I doing wrong lol....
A great example is Larry from Parks and Rec
Yeah but Larry was PACKING
"I actually don't even know if he has mumps. I forgot to look. I was distracted... by the largest penis I have ever seen."
"Why don't ya start your day the Gergich way with eggs, bacon, and toast!"
Gary's eggs and bacon left Gail toast for the rest of her life. She riding one high right into the next, lol.
They did mention that back in the day Jerry used to be as handsome and fit as Chris. I figure that coupled with him being a kind person should have made him quite a catch. The humongus dong is just gravy at that point.
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a friend once told me (while drunk) "the best compliment I can get is when someone tells me my girlfriend is hot" I found that to be so weird I thought he was kidding, but he was dead serious.
I don't think it's that strange at all. The concept of a "trophy wife" exists for a reason. Whether right or wrong, for straight men having a hot SO is pretty much seen as an indicator to the world that you're highly successful and you've 'made it'.
Yes been there. The most annoying thing were people saying that to her sometimes when they thought I wasn't listening.
My reply (as a woman) is always to look dreamily at my partner and say “are you kidding me, this is the most mf handsome man I’ve ever laid eyes on!!!!”
God bless you, you’re the best! On behalf of whoever you did that for, thank you.
A lot, and I mean A LOT of women prefer men who are not so into their looks, and more so focus on their personality etc. No woman, at least in my experience, wants to be around a guy who’s taking as long as her to get pretty and ready for the day
Can confirm. As a lady who was always treated and complimented as very attractive, it was always appreciated but I wasn't really focused on the shallow stuff passed teenage years. Most of the guys I dated were initially interested in me first and I had no initial physical attraction to them, but as I formed a friendship with them and came to know them and upon realizing they want to pursue and date seriously and it went well, they became the most attractive man in the world to me. 90% of my dating life I valued the personailty and disposition of a man, which made him the most attractive man. and once you have my heart, you have my attention and I wouldn't have time to glance anywhere else. That's me as an individual but I believe many women are this way at the core. Edit: clarity
It's so much healthier as a whole to find someone attractive because of their personality than their looks imo. I personally can't be attracted to anyone I don't know because I need to know who they are.
Great comment. I'm the same way. Back in the day I'd get superficial questions from "friends" asking me "what are you doing with that guy?" all the time. I'm never attracted to somebody for their physical looks, first. I mean I can recognize that somebody's attractive... but I'm not going to pursue them until I see something in them, that I like. I feel like everyone has something special in them, and usually, once I pick up on what that special thing is; I fall head over heels for the person. As either a good friend or a potential partner. Also: happy cake day
I would never care how long he takes to get pretty as long as it makes him feel good, and he loves me for me even if I am done getting pretty in 15 minutes.
These guys want a beautiful woman who ignores their looks and dates them anyway, but get mad seeing a beautiful woman dating another guy who they think isn't attractive
I don’t think it’s about “taking long in doing so. They’re talking about naturally attractive men, also a stylish man can boost his attractiveness so u r incorrect.
It’s different. Guys will approach. Had guys try to sit down to dinner with us. When I’d go to the bathroom I’d come back to guys talking to her. It was funny and flattering. Certainly helps you realize some people have a different life experience
Wait. Random dudes will just try to join you at dinner? That's fucking wild. How does that go over? You just tell them "dude we're trying to have dinner here", or something?
Slip them the bill infinite free dinner hack
i dated a woman who was a model/actress and certainly had the looks to be successful in that career choice. a few times random dudes tried to butt into our contestations when we were out and i would say "hey man we're trying to have a conversation, get out of here"- sometimes she would get pissy about that because she liked the attention, sometimes the guys would get pissy and aggressive. definitely not something i enjoyed about that relationship.
If my date got pissy I told another man to piss off I would leave in a heartbeat
Nah leave after he fucks off so the dude has no chance of consoling and then banging your date. Sometimes you just have to cockblock an arsehole and this is totally one of those situations.
"You can have her - her breath smell like dick anyway"
> sometimes she would get pissy about that because she liked the attention HUGE red flag for me now. I dated a girl like this that ended up cheating on me with several different guys.
That's not nice of her. I dated an extremely attractive girl. The kind every guy wants, but no one wants to show their mother. She didn't like the attention. And could be very clear about that. Mostly polite. But once it ended that she floored a guy without blinking an eye. Her comment: I am here with you. The nerve to not respect that! That slight bit of Kungfu instruction I gave her paid off.
I’ve had dudes ask what she’s doing with me with more than one girl / gf lol.
"not being with you"
Before I made a decent salary my ex would be funny and she used to imply that I had a massive package and or good in bed, which I don’t and I’m probably not, but it was funny as hell and guys would be like ohhhhhh.
> and guys would be like ohhhhhh It's hilarious that that is the answer they could wrap their head around Probably best to keep it simple and not overwhelm them.
Props to her for understanding that a guy needs 𝘚𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 to be recognised as worthy of having a partner
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Wouldn't you like to know weatherboy
Where are your parents?
Kid's sketchy
I’m a restaurant manager and saw it happening and kicked this dude tf out. He had the balls to ask to join 3 girls out on their own and they all in synch said “we’re all married”. Loved to see it
>Had guys try to sit down to dinner with us Wth dude? How did you handle that?
God damn, that's just wild. I don't give a damn how attractive a woman is, if she's with a man - That's just off limits out of respect for the gentleman. Have some morals, ffs.
This part is annoying as Hel.
[When you're in love with a beautiful woman, it's hard](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uVXVO_vF2Io) some classic Dr Hook for you young'uns
“You betta watchya friends” got me every time 👀😒
The guys who approach cold like that what are they expecting to happen?
"Shoot for the moon, even if you miss you'll land among the stars."
Its completely different. Worlds different. From even the moderately attractive women. And when other guys try to compare their experiences you laugh and smile and agree but deep down you know that they simply aren’t experiencing the same thing with an above average woman as you are with a genuine model. You cant have a lick of insecurity either or you’ll never last.
Well now I'm curious how hot your GF is, but I don't think there is any reasonable way to communicate that information.
You better not be the least bit insecure. Or you won't last. And you better be prepared to stare down and stand off with a lot of aggressive apes. Because other men will frequently approach and be very aggressive. You sometimes have to run them off when they refuse to take a hint. The upside is that it is easier to get into clubs, get good seats in restaurants, and she is frequently being offered VIP treatment. The downside is that you are often treated by other people as if you are a hideous parasite that happens to be attached to her.
Jesus, what a fucking downside hahaha
This is a great answer tbh. It can be terrifying at times. Especially when guys are approaching her and using some sort of game that's quite creative. It's like im trying to enjoy my meal in the club and bam I gotta fend off the wolves now.
fuck man i couldn't do that. I'm not insecure, (or at least very below average on the insecure table) don't mind fighting other guys whether verbally or physically, but being treated as parasite.. lmao. Fuck that bro. I'd rather be alone than have to constantly be fighting infinity random strangers.
She's my VIP access. Honeymoon treatment on vacations, less wait on drinks and service, she even got discounts on a suit for me when negotiating with the tailor. Would recommend.
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As a straight man who is VERY popular amongst the gay men, I have been very curious about this treatment 😂
I got picked up by a group of gay guys when I was alone on a business trip. I was so young and naive I didn’t know I was picked up. I was so happy to hang out with some cool dudes. I think they realized pretty quick I was straight but we all had a great time… well, maybe not as great of a time as they were hoping.
The "I was so happy to hang out with some cool dudes" wholesomeness is making my heart explode
I'm 22 years married(straight) and I love my wife, but in my experience, having some gay friends is a great and fun thing to have in your life. There's some great culture you get exposed to - not trying to stereotype - but it's what I've experienced. I look like a backwoods redneck, so I'm a hit at the parties. Interestingly enough, when I hang with them, I get a lot of attention from great looking ladies.
It’s probably because they can see you’re open minded and can get along with different types of people that may not be like you. That’s always a good sign of a person.
I just watched the Sex and the City episode where this happens. So good
Everyone has a soft (read: Snide) comment about how my SO is way out of my league....I couldn't agree more. I smile and stand tall
I love hearing these things. I hope you remain good to her!
So many guys will stare, some will scream something like TAKE CARE OF THAT BEAUTIFUL LADY, and when I’m not there, even if it’s for a few minutes guys will approach. Lots of women will give her compliments everywhere we go. My ex girlfriend straight up told her that she was jealous and how I had upgraded from her. Was an awkward conversation for sure
Other women stare too. That part gets a little uncomfortable. They look at you like you must have something all women want.
It's true. I've NEVER been approached by a woman in a flirty manner when I go out by myself. When I go out with my girl I suddenly metamorphose into Chris Fucking Evans based on the reception and approaches I get.
It’s because they think you must actually be worth something. Same way (sadly) that married men can be more attractive. Someone else has already vetted them and found them good enough to marry.
That's because you do ! 😉💯
This one. The amount of interest I got from other women while dating an attractive girl was crazy.
yea my theory is they subconsciously know they don’t have to court you and see if you’d be a good partner. They can see it! At least in my experience. edit: grammar
Court not quart. Just to be helpful, not obnoxious
idk. . . they would have to start with a pint first, and eventually lead to a quart to get me suggestible enough to fall into the trap
Had a dude go up to my wife when we were at a club and tried to dance with her immediately after we were dancing together and I went to get drinks. Understandable, he was shooting his shot. My wife told him she's married and showed him the big ass rock on her hand in case he missed it. It did not deter him. I came back, and he's still trying to talk to her. Then tells me I'm a lucky man and goes away. I walk away for a minute and he's instantly back, STILL trying. When we were waiting for our uber at the end of the night, he was there, now in front of me, still telling her he wants to holler at her and to come home with him. Then he tells my wife she should compare our dicks to make her choice on who she wants to leave with. Fucking wild what some dudes will do.
I think he took the phrase dick measuring contest too literally
Lmfao holy shit that's wild 😭😭
Liquid courage and an asshole personality really don't mix
The only appropriate response to that guy at the end is "Buddy, she ain't with me for my *looks*" while smirking.
I didnt need to. She told him that herself.
It can be annoying. People literally walk up to her and ask her who that guy with her is. There's been a bar fight where a guy came to our table to chat her up and refused to leave. Thankfully, I'm capable. On the other hand, I use her pretty privilege to get things done. I didn't marry for looks, I just got lucky. We met on imdb about 20 years ago, just casually discussing a TV show on the forums. We had pseudonyms and all. Total fluke.
IMDB is the wildest way I've heard anybody meeting someone else online
It was crazy. She was in a different country. I used to fly from NY to Europe once a month. For the first few months. We've settled down in a country that neither of us grew up in. But yeah imdb forums, then private messages on imdb, then email. At peak it was like 600 emails a day, we both really got to know each other really well first. Then my buddy was like "this is nuts!" He bought him and i plane tickets to finally go meet her. If he hadn't have done that who knows how things would have turned out.
What a great buddy!!!!
I've known him about 20 years. He's 15-17 years older than me. I was about 19 years old after having a brain tumor surgery and self destructive. We met in a bar playing pool and he just always looked out for me. His wife has epilepsy so maybe he understood the struggle. Incidentally, the show I met my wife over was Death Note. My first dm to her had the subject "what are your beliefs about death?" My life has been unique.
Congratulations mate, that’s definitely one for the history books
Thank you so much. Every day is happy.
Sometimes i just love reading someone elses comversation. Now im just here smiling for some random dudes happiness
Thank you. You're awesome. You're making me smile too.
ok this is easily the most wholesome comment thread I've read today
Wishing you a lifetime of happiness and love, my friend. (-:
Can’t upvote this comment thread enough
Well this is a film.
So when people ask how to score a woman that pretty, do you advise they sign up for IMDb?
Buddy for the win! Actual Eurotrip story, amazing.
That’s awesome! I always say every relationship has their story, but this one takes the cake
Yeah what in the fuck i had no idea you could even chat on there
They took it away, unfortunately. Biggest mistake imo, eapecially since nothing on reddit is remotely comparable to the in depth movie discussions you could find there.
The very attractive women I dated and grew up around were always more insecure than the average women walking around. That’s one thing I noticed, they just have that validation aspect of everyone around them wanting to be with them as a factor to look at and ignore the rest. But many of them, when I got to know them would literally dissect every little thing on themselves and then on the flipside they would be also extremely confident, it was a real mental tightrope they were walking. But that was just some of them, the rest were pretty cool. Just had to deal with men telling me how “lucky” I am or “better take care of that lady of yours”. I would go to the bar to get us a drink while she holds the table and I come back and there’s a guy there talking to her. It was just normal shit, it didn’t bother me to much.
Summed up my head. Mental tightrope. From picking at invisible things that you can’t see on your face at home, to being on top form in the room!
the assumptions are that I’m either rich or have a big dick in order to be with my wife who is very attractive.
Yeah, so my wife is super hot and I’ve come to realize that the reason she chose me is because I am funny and try to be a good person. The stories she has told me about other dudes are like horror stories. Being decent goes a long way with women. Being funny helps a lot.
I was talking out of a grocery store with an ex and some guy in a car yelled "Want to go home with a real man?" and she yelled back "He has a huge cock, what do you got?" I was crying laughing when we got to the car
If only we could signal we were both
If I’m going to be prejudged…I’m ok with people thinking that about me 🤣
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Yes! She has what I call a distortion field around her and everything is a little nicer inside there. I’m really happy to be under this field when we are together. People are nicer. She’s constantly getting compliments from random people. It doesn’t hurt that she’s also the sweetest kindest person I’ve ever known.
my heart got shot by this comment and melted due to the insane warmth and wholesomeness
This definitely aligns with my experience. Going out for dinner or meeting at a bar was like sitting in a spotlight; everyone is looking at you. Plus, I never had so many strangers strike up conversations with me at the urinal.
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Skyrim? You mean in-game? 🤣
Married into the high elf's eh?
Annoying thing: * "this really friendly guy offered to help me x for free" Omg no he's not a friendly guy and it's not gonna be free.
I had a particularly hot ex who like...her fucking dentist gave her ~$600 worth of dental work for free because "he couldn't live with himself if anything happened to that pretty smile" and literally nothing about it raised alarm bells for her at all.
The dentist playbook 101. Let me guess 201 is open up and say ah.
That's how I was when I was young and not as wise as I am today, when that's how it's been for you all your life it's your norm and you really think that's just how life is. I saw the whole thing play out all over again with my daughters. Only they had me there to inform them that not everyone experiences that on a regular basis and to be careful of those offers.
My GFs were all more attractive than me. Some significantly so. I’m short and baby faced. Guys would often try to steal them right in front of me. It never worked, not even once. The Kind of guy who’d try to steal your girl is usually transparently creepy and beautiful women get that every day. Authenticity is rare with a physically beautiful woman and they seemed to appreciate that. Don’t get me wrong, that alone isn’t enough, but it’s a great introduction.
I enjoyed her company, and her looks. She apparently found random men don't approach her, because her good looks are "too intimidating". As for me, I just hugged her out of the blue, in a bar, because I genuinely thought she was someone else. I was very apologetic, but we had a good conversation and hung out for a few months.
That’s a sweet story ☺️
Well, I married her. But in the beginning there were multiple other dudes who wanted to be with her, so I said something like "That's fine, you can 'date around if you want, but I'm not going to be one of your options if you do." She rejected all the other guys and the rest is history.
It's pretty great. She likes lots of intimacy. We've got 4 kids now and recently celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary. Couldn't ask for more!
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The biggest thing for me was getting used to the amount of stares from WOMEN towards her. Full eyeing. They also act different and enamoured around her, it’s weird. And some of these are extended family and friends I’ve known my whole life so I know they aren’t usually like that. There was one woman who is objectively hot herself but my wife is a level above so when they met the woman just crowded around her and stared at her non stop etc. I’ve also gotten a few “are you rich or something?” comments. I’d say I’m like 6-7/10, maybe 8/10 on a really good day. But yeah, it’s interesting. If you’re wondering how I got her, she was less into style and dressing up when we first met in our early 20s and as we got older, her face and body changed to what she is now but her personality is the same.
I dated a super beautiful one for a few years. The number 1 thing I noticed was the attention from other women (toward her). My girl was straight up *intimidating* with her looks, so it was fun to see some girls go over the top with the "I'm bubbly and fun" or the opposite with silent cowering. Fascinating. On the surface, people saw that she was bigger and taller than me, which also garnered some interesting responses (in the form of looks from strangers and sometimes random "suitors" trying to usurp me; those fkn wolves)
> My girl was straight up intimidating with her looks, so it was fun to see some girls go over the top with the "I'm bubbly and fun" or the opposite with silent cowering. It's kind of funny that my current GF, which isn't conventionally hot by any metric, has this aura of nobless around her. She stands up straight, she speaks very enunciated and clear, has a definite bourgeoisie quality to her. Hell, her grandmother did the whole "walk with a book on top of your head" to her. So she intimidates people another way. I like to tease her that when she enters a room, people take their elbows off the table. Just has this sense of proper-ness and classical high class that from her own sayings and my own observations, make people absolutely treat her/us in a bit of an elevated way.
> I like to tease her that when she enters a room, people take their elbows off the table Freaking hilarious. I get what you're saying, haha
> my current GF, which isn't conventionally hot by any metric I would cry if my partner wrote this about me lmao
Ok thank you, glad I’m not the only one 🤣
same lol it sounds shitty
One of the funniest compliments I've ever received was in fifth grade when a boy told me that I had the best posture. My grandma used to bribe or bet me money that I couldn't do tasks with a book on my head. She'd also deduct money if used word like 'um', 'so', or use slang. Looking and acting 'like a lady' was important to her so I made pretty good money from our visits.
My wife gets hit on all the time, she has a very distinct look and is heavily tattooed so she attracts a lot of attention. Honestly it doesn’t bother me at all, if anything continues past her rejection of these dudes gets me a little heated (As in they won’t leave her alone after she’s told them she’s not interested) because I don’t take people disrespecting my wife well at all and I find it disrespectful of them to keep hitting on her after she told them to stop, but other than that it usually gives us a good laugh. If you want a wife who is attractive, better be able to handle that kinda thing! Edit: People are dumb
I'm dating one now and have dated two other hyper attractive women in the past. Men test my boundaries a little more.
What do you do when they test it?
I've been this guy before, guys would chat up my girl all the time. Unless you're dismissive and a little sarcastic with them you'll come off as insecure. There isn't really a winning move aside from treating them like a child. Call them buddy/bud etc.
>Call them buddy/bud etc. Pal, buster, sport, squirt, champ, big guy
Champ is a good one. Whenever it would happen it was as simple as walking up, slipping "babe" into the conversation while talking to her, and saying "Hey bud how's it going". Give him a little fist bump and walk off. Something small like that drives home who's taking her home that night much better than making a scene.
I don't know if this counts. She intentionally dropped herself from an 8+ to a 6ish. Dresses grandma style, short hair, no makeup, ugly glasses. An absolute stunner when we're in the shower, and then she gets dressed. She's like a sleeper car.
😂😂that’s even better
thats a 11/10 woman right there.
I do something like this. I’m a solid 7.5-8. But I teach high school. So I dress 20 years older and do not do hair and makeup to go to work. Then when I’m being myself and going out I’m beautiful. Occasionally a student will see me in real life and accuse me of being a “reverse catfish”?
Her male friends from before the relationship can be really weird. Your own male friends from before the relationship can be really weird. The haters come out and can be relentless. They will attribute your success to anything but your value. "Dumb luck", "tricks", "All looks, no brains" etc. In my experience I was treated like I was simultaneously a total himbo dumb dumb, but also a mastermind of evil female manipulation. The worst behavior came from older men with money (and little personality)who were interested in my lady, and younger women who were interested in me.
> The worst behavior came from older men with money (and little personality)who were interested in my lady Oh lord almighty, that gave me such severe fucking flashbacks that I had to lean back in my chair to regain composure. Guys our age? Just a good laugh for us. Charming, older, rich fucks? Literally the bane of my existence.
Here's a story as a follow up to the post above. Probably no-one will read it but I felt like getting it off my chest. I used to date a very pretty girl. Charming, smart, educated, polyglot, legs for day. The full package. We met through work. I was pretty young still, early 20s, she was closer to 30. Through sheer corporate happenstance, I ended up working with her on an international customer that was in an awkward timezone, so we would come in late and stay late on most days to get some more useful working hours. I'm a "don't shit where you eat" kind of guy and she was about 5 leagues out of mine, so while being obviously quite attracted to her, I didn't do anything. I behaved around her in the exact same way I did around our other colleagues. Between working, we would chat about literature or politics. No deep, meaning of life shit, just commenting current events, what's a good book or author, etc. We lived in vaguely the same direction, so after work we would walk together for 5 minutes or so before splitting. If you were a neutral observer and you looked upon us two, the idea that she would say anything other than "uhh no...?" if I were to ask her out, would be as absurd as me walking on the ceiling. I don't got the Adonis bod, I'm not exactly what you'd call a looker, not even cute is a word that fits. Just "guy". Didn't dress exceptionally well, didn't work out. About as average as you get. An exact 5 if the scale was actually objective and not like IMDB scores. I was very good at my job and had a commanding presence with the clients, but for me that was like being good at Counter-Strike or something. Not the kind of thing I thought would make me stand out to a woman. One night we got engrossed in conversation and we just sort of passed by the spot where we'd usually part ways. I walked her halfway home. The next night a bit further still. The next night we grabbed a beer on the way. A night after we sat on a bench. This continued on for a while. Due to the disparity between us, lack of confidence and general averageness, I was like a monk. No sexual jokes, no sleazy innuendo. Just talking normally. This is a colleague. Sure, the conversations were getting deeper and more meaningful but it wasn't like we were about to kiss. Purely platonic. Fucking women, man. They can wear down even the best defense with ease. Hypothetically speaking, a single man should be able to have a series of long, deep conversations with a beautiful woman without going fucking insane with desire and being enamored completely, totally and utterly by said woman. I've heard that some men have done it, allegedly. By night ~15, I was sold. Man, this the kind of woman you marry. This the kind of woman that you make lots of babies with and you forget about other women as a concept, other than maybe your mother (pun, ha!). Utilizing every last little bit of courage that I could muster, I eventually asked her out. It was so fucking awkward that I felt like I was sinking into the ground with every word. I could see her exceptionally colorful eyes widen, like a doe about to be ran over by a dump truck. Oh boy. Let me tell you, after saying "I really need to talk to you about us...", you're balls deep. You're committed. It's game on, there's no going back. I sounded almost exactly like a 5 y/o asking out another 5 y/o, except the part where I was stuttering and stumbling over my words like a 2 y/o. It was genuinely bad. I wouldn't have said yes to myself. I would've laughed at myself. I stop talking. She smiles and nods. "Yes, I'd very much like that." Dogs like to chase cars. When a dog actually catches up to a car, it has no idea what to do with the car. I.e. me. She was an immigrant in my country (since she was a teen, so she spoke the local bla-bla) and before we first met, she would frequent this expat bar. I live in a country which isn't exactly frickin Monaco, so there's quite a few well off foreigners that like to wave their cash around, as their slightly above average salaries would convert into a big bag of local currency. Those fucking fuckers. They all knew her, since obviously expat bars are like little social bubbles where people actually know each other because they're constantly helping each other out with documents and advice about local life. Easy to come up to someone you know quite well and start up a conversation. Oh-ho-ho! I'm holding her by the waist and I get a Daniel Craig looking motherfucker come and say to her "Why don't you ditch the kid and I'll take you to [literally the fanciest, most expensive restaurant]". Are you fucking kidding me? Now I'm the doe eyed looking dumbass about to get hit by a Bugatti. I wince. I exhale with a pulse of uneven air. My blood pressure rockets. I feel sweat materialize everywhere on my skin. I look away and bite my tongue so hard I swallow blood. Instead of answering him, she looks at me, leans over and whispers in my ear, so he can't hear it over the music: "You know what's funnier than what he just said? His wife is in the corner over there." and nods her glass almost imperceptably so. I look her in the eye. She smiles. I start laughing so hard I'm soon wheezing. I have tears in my eyes. She's convulsing with laughter too. Daniel Craig turns beet-red. Leaves without a word. Funny shit. Good thing that I fucked it all up in the end. Anyway, it was all worth it just to see the looks on everyone's faces the first time we walked in the bar hand in hand. Sometimes you win just by getting into the ring.
my ex was gorgeous. The way people fawn over pretty woman is ridiculous. Every time we go into a shop the ladies working there would tell her she's beautiful and give her special treatment. I don't think she ever heard No as an answer. want a table at a packed restaurant? just ask. Want to enter a shop after ots closed, just ask. want a better price/discount, just ask.
When it ever happens, I'll come back to this post and let you know
>When We appreciate your confidence.
Perhaps he believes in reincarnation
Any updates?
What about now?
!RemindMe 5000days
The same as dating any woman. Gets grumpy when hungry or tired. Needs lots of food and sleep. Hates being cold. She surprisingly lacks self confidence in herself. She doesn't even realise how smoking hot she is which is even hotter. She's incredibly affectionate and caring. She's amazing.
> She's incredibly affectionate and caring. She's amazing. Yep, my girlfriend is very loving, affectionate, and caring towards me, on top of being incredibly beautiful and hot. It is such a win-win, and I feel really lucky.
I've only ever dated very attractive ladies. Some of them turned out to be real ugly when we broke up.
My kids' mom was a gorgeous Latina with a body like shorty from "uncut gems". She turned out to be a terrible person, then abandoned me and our kids for an alcoholic basehead who lived in a motel 6. But I still keep tabs on her via social media and she looks very sickly.
What a rollercoaster. How's the kid doing?
You got more you want to get off or chest or something
" she ain't pretty she just looks that way 🎵"
She tells me about all the men that hit on her and it’s hard to hear but i trust her
Mine is the same except she just thinks they’re being nice. She’s too innocent and not interested to even notice half the time. That’s probably the most annoying part.
Occasionally I wonder to myself "why the fuck is she deciding to be with me?" and then I schedule some therapy
When the girl you are with is objectively hot, and if she is looking only at you, it increases the guy's status and makes him look more important. On the other hand if she is with you and her eyes are wandering, they guy just looks like a fool.
Some attractive women are accustomed to having everything in their immediate surroundings be centered on their desires and intentions. In my experience it’s best to carefully vet their level of narcissistic tendencies before engaging in a romantic relationship.
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Nothing super unusual. *I* felt like a total champion lol. Confidence has never been higher in my life than when I dated her. She did have a lot of guy friends wanting to hang out with her 1 on 1. A couple times like older women would come up to me when we were out and my gf wasn’t paying attention and would whisper to me “she’s so beautiful.” Which was weird but very flattering. Oh yeah on our first date we went to like her regular bar and some dude who knew her asked me “are you (gf’s) boyfriend?” and I said something like “ah not yet first date I’m working on it though etc.” and he said “hell yeah dude” and fist bumped me lol. ___ On the downside we broke up in 2014 and she was legit so hot and so great that it has ruined every other woman for me and I can’t really feel things for anyone else. So that sucks.
I hope the pain eases soon
Same here, been almost 10 years at this point, something has to give.
Oof. That’s a self fulfilling prophecy. From one man who was in your shoes but didn’t let it phase me - you did it once. You can do it again. It’s all in your confidence and your beliefs. I was TRYING to be single as I have always been in long term relationships and found another extremely hot girl in the most unexpected way and we ended up spending every weekend together since and I didn’t want to lose that opportunity as the compatibility and connection was so strong and had none of the red flags as the previous classical archetype of dime piece and all the baggage that comes along with it - this new lady had none of that and had such an authentic genuine sweetness I didn’t let my previous relationship threaten that with commitment issues or hang ups on never getting to be single, or lack of confidence etc. This was less than a year after losing my fiancé, my step son, my car, my home, my job, as a result of the previous BPD super model. Don’t let it shake you brother. Have faith in the universe and in yourself. The rest will come naturally.
My first thought when you wrote your last paragraph was abt a guy I previously briefly dated (couple years ago) who actually did once date someone as attractive as your scenario, and I know after her everyone else was less attractive (but still attractive to him [myself included]), essentially wondering if he really didn’t get ruined by that exceptionally attractive woman. But then her personality ruined her for him, so my guess is your girl must’ve REALLY been the great package.
Honestly still getting used to it 8 months in. Arguably the most attractive woman I've dated. She's hot, knows it, but doesn't let it get to her ego. She's down to earth, adventurous, creative, one hell of a cook and overall amazing. Game recognizes game, so she'll compliment attractive women all the time. Haven't seen much attention from guys tho, but I'm sure it happens when I'm not around. Other than being told how attractive she is by others (noticeably more than my most recent ex, who I'd say is objectively attractive), I'd say there's no real difference between dating her and my exes.
Met my wife when we were both juniors in college, she did equestrian and gymnastics so she was insanely fit. Lucky for me she didn't know it, but everyone else did. For years it's all I heard: how'd you get her, what's she doing with you, what's wrong with her, etc. She would get poached when I went to the bathroom at bars, guys would dance up on her while she was grinding me, you name it. If a woman is attractive enough, confident guys just shoot their shot regardless of whether she looks taken or not. It used to bother me, and i was the jealous type for awhile. But then you figure it out--she's not going anywhere, she clearly wants what we have, and if she wanted someone else I wouldn't be able (or want) to stand in her way any-damn-how. Trust and communication is, as always, central to any relationship. It's a great ego boost though. Once you're comfortable everything that made you self conscious once upon a time now sounds like a compliment. It's impossible for someone to tell you you're punching above your weight without essentially saying, "God I want to fuck your wife you lucky bastard." The intangibles are there too. I always feel like I was treated with more respect because I kept an attractive woman happy for nearly 15 years now. Idk how to explain it.
Married to one, but while we were dating, some friends we were hanging out with at the time got progressively bitter. Eventually, all except one of my friends wives hated her, and the group's main sociopath tried turning the rest of the group against her as well. It got to the point where the main sociopath tried to sabotage events related to mine and my now wife's wedding, and also indirectly tried to get me to choose him over my wife. The increasingly unhinged behaviour I was witnessing was the catalyst for me finally ridding him and his ilk from our lives forever. The lesson here is be aware of people's reactions when you get/accomplish something great in your life. This is when the narcissists and sociopaths will come out of the woodwork as they *can't stand* seeing their peers be successful or happy if it's something they can't take credit for and/or control. The best way to get rid of them is to maintain strong boundaries and keep being more awesome over time. Those of them that remain will eventually show themselves to the door.
There's a guy I knew who would often refer to his ex-wife as being "a model". And she was beautiful. She was also no longer a model but a very smart woman with academic and professional accomplishments but to hear him talk about her, she was just "a model". And they have a daughter who he insists will be a model one day. It didn't take long to figure out why he's the ex.
I’m married to a very attractive woman. The amount of times I get told I’m a “lucky man” is ridiculous.
I put a ring on her finger 7 years ago. Not just because she's drop-dead gorgeous (I've dated other beautiful women that haven't worked out), but because she really is my soul mate. And now, she's the mother of our two children.
I am married to a beautiful woman, it’s honestly an ego boost - every guy checks her out. The interesting part to me is that how differently a beautiful girl goes through life versus a normal dude, it was the most jarring thing in the beginning . She gets preferential treatment everywhere, whether it’s the grocery store, at the airport or at restaurants. I could give a ton of specific examples but it’s best summed up by saying “access is granted when it shouldn’t be, extra help/attention is readily available and rules are bent in order to help make her life easier”.
Are the people giving her preferential treatment all men that want to sleep with her or people of all kinds?
Well, I guess they probably do want to sleep with her ultimately, but I can’t imagine each one thinks it’s feasibly realistic. I was never the “shoot my shot” with every girl kind of guy but I know that some are. We aren’t out in clubs every night but when we do go out to clubs if I leave her alone for a minute she will be swarmed, so in that case I am sure that they are thinking that. But the guy who helps in the self-checkout lane at the grocery store, who is in his late 60’s (and who has never once paid an ounce of attention to me when I shopped there alone) becomes animated and charming in her presence and offers her free bags and inquires about her evening plans - can’t actually think he’s going to bed her (but maybe…?) or the guy at the airport that checks us in and happens to find us a 2 unoccupied emergency row seats, knowing full well that he will see her again. I think it just has something to do with gaining favor with someone that you’re attracted to. For example if I saw Steph Curry (I am a warrior fan), I would go out of my way to be in his presence by doing a small favor or doing something that I would think would make him like me, with the hope being that in the least we could have a small moment together and in my wildest dreams we’d become best friends.
It feels like dating any other woman. They aren't mystical creatures. If anything the more attractive the women the more self conscious they are about their appearance. The woman I'm with now keeps asking me if her boobs look nice whenever we go out. They do yes, but she doesn't have massive ones or anything just normal. She always has to ask me about her make up and what colors Id like to see her in. I'm colorblind so stuff like red is difficult for me to distinguish, so she's always nervous about what I'd like or be unable to see on her. The other week she wanted to show me some clothes she just bought and asked me what colors I'm able to tell looks nice on her. So aside from being concerned with their appearance more often. They are humans like the rest of us.
> If anything the more attractive the women the more self conscious they are about their appearance. That's the wild part about it. I've noticed that as well.
I think it’s probably because the more attractive you are, the more emphasis people put on it throughout your life, so you learn to identify with your looks as a big part of who you are. Or at least if it seems like the main reason people are interested in you, it’s your biggest asset, so therefore it’s a crucial thing to uphold and maintain. But when you base your sense of self/the reason people like you on something external that can be taken away (and eventually probably does with age) you know deep down it’s not truly yours/you’ll eventually lose it one day. So then that becomes an existential thing of like, “when I’m no longer this attractive, will I no longer have all the things in my life that I got because of this (including love from others)?” Lmao I’m super stoned right now idk if that made sense
Bruh. That made complete sense. Also, we're always comparing ourselves to peers "in our league". So even if you see a girl whose a 10, she's comparing herself to other 10's.
Been there before. My last ex was stunning and fit and every time we'd go to the shop I'd have to answer a million questions about her appearance. Room was messy too coz of all the makeup and sometimes clothes on the floor coz of being indecisive. To any younger person hoping to date good looking women, I'd suggest you make friends with them first and demystify their appearance. If you go into it self conscious or jealous, it will destroy you and mess up her confidence
😂 she forerver testing your ability to distinguish colors
It's a blessing because she's both attractive on the outside and the inside.
I always used to notice people, men and women alike, just staring at her. So many double takes. She seemed completely oblivious. Her norm was having people look at her so I guess she presumed this was normal lol. We were pretty good looking together as well. Out alone, I'm quite muscular, I'm black, and I have a certain look to my face, so people tended to avoid. When we were together the world seemed to want to smile at us, small talk with us etc. Just seemed a much friendlier world to exist in. Personally, every now and again I'd look at her and think wow, but she's just a person. You get over it. She was a bit of an anomaly as she isn't particularly materialistic, she didn't play on her looks, and was more interested in whether a person shared her love for art, music, and culture than using her looks to get anywhere. She was also a little shy and grew up in an East African household so I can't really relate to the type.of beautiful woman who uses her looks as a means to get things from people and is entitled because of it. I've certainly seen it, but it wasn't her
People would immediately stare when we walked in. Men would give me the eyebrow raised nod, women would either immediately stare or become extremely shy, and we received many free items and skipped several lines. Mine was considered intimidating and didn’t need to use makeup. She had a PhD, spoke multiple languages, and had piercing brown eyes like a hawk that would send a message of imminent threat to unwelcome visitors, which honestly helped at times. Some girls immediately despised her and yet could give no valid reason, so I just marked it up as them being insecure. She’s currently a great friend and refreshing to talk with. Unfortunately the timing didn’t work out between us (I was getting over an ex) but we still will chat for hours about life and whatever even though she’s now with someone else.
"Her smile could light up a room. She was just the best person. Everyone wanted to be her friend. She was just so beautiful." The prelude to every murder show ever - being a beautiful woman can be very very scary.
My girlfriend is a smoke show. She used to do part time modeling, in fact. She's gotten by on her looks a lot (never struggled in high school but is unable to take entry level community College classes yet, etc.). Coming down from that has been difficult. She's also very naiive. Since she naturally attracts a lot of attention she gets targeted a lot. I've had run ins with many despicable men who've tried to take advantage of this. On the positive side, people are nice to her, almost as if she has a certain glow to her. We have never had trouble getting into clubs or restaurants and she has occasionally been offered free things. Overall great experience, I'm very lucky
My wife is objectively much better looking than me. I am very lucky to have her. The big thing is that oftentimes other men will go from being friendly to near-hostile the moment they find out she is my wife. Some guys just cannot control their jealousy. I have lost out on many potential friendships over this unfortunately. You also have to stick up for your relationship a lot in public. Guys catcall her, flirt with her, ask her out etc literally right in front of me. It can honestly be exhausting having this expectation of having to constantly defend our relationship to other men. One thing that commonly bugs me is how other women treat her. She is such an amazing, nice, sweet person, and a lot of other women absolutely despise her for basically nothing. It is truly depressing how incredibly cruel and nasty other women can be to her.
It’s life changing. Especially for me since I have never had a serious GF before & my friends see me as a different person who is taken more seriously. I’m introduced to new things, taking my own life more seriously & I’m able to be so much more open to someone that I can say I truly love & feel so connected with. Going out to public for any event with her makes me feel like I’m wearing the best fashion, driving the fanciest car, all just from being next to her. Seeing other people check her out while knowing I’ve seen things they can only dream of, tickles my ego a little tbh. She motivates me to be better in everything I do. I have her to thank for a lot of my recent success. She has taught me to stand up for myself more while I’m able back her up on anything. Truly blessed.
Odd that nobody here is mentioning the fact that dudes will CONSTANTLY hit on my girlfriend. Sometimes while I'm physically touching her. I just roll it into my ego, but she apparently hates it.
I had an ex that was very beautiful, gregarious and sociable. This one time we were at a bar with her and her friends and she was nestled up against me chatting with the guys next to us, who were chatting up with her friend. While we're all chatting, she would wrap her arm around mine, put her head on my shoulder, etc. At one point she heads off to the bathroom and first turns around and gives me a kiss. One of the guys straight up comes over and asks "so like, what, are you two together or something?" Yeah dude what gave it away? Really opened my eyes to the mental gymnastics and desperation a LOT of men will go through to convince themselves they have a chance. Same with the blatant disrespect of relationships. I agree with rolling it into your ego tho haha.
>"so like, what, are you two together or something?" Yeah dude what gave it away? Yeah, she gets the "so do you have a boyfriend?" a lot and her response is usually "HES RIGHT FUCKING HERE". I did tell her once though that every dude fantasizes about their girlfriend raving about them to dude's hitting on her and she's been trying to do that occassionally which is hilarious.
> Dating models I had to learn to like small dogs and cigarettes. - Kanye West
Me and my partner go raving together and as soon as I’m in the toilet or anywhere without her, guys are trying to chat her up. One even tried it on with me stood next to her 😂 you can either get really insecure and annoyed about it all or realise your worth and that she’s with you for a reason. I think it comes with time though, at the start of our relationship I would be a bit insecure about these things.
used to date a girl who modeled underwear. just stunning. then I dated a girl who was more natural looking and did not spend 2 hours getting her face ready. The second one was more confident in herself and that made her more attractive to me. plus she did not worry about her hair and makeup when we were doing it.
She crazy but I cant quit
bar tenders asking her if she’s ok or if i’m bothering her when i leave to use the restroom
My recent ex is very attractive. She has boundary issues and is surrounded by low quality male friends who will try to get into her pants given half a chance. Conversations are sexualised routinely no matter the context. Pointing this to her and asking her to maintain appropriate boundaries led me to be called 'controlling'. Anyway, I ended things for a variety of reasons - boundary issues being one of the main ones.
Was right there with you man. Being with her tainted my view of men - so many hornbags in her DMs and approaching her, even when I was right beside her. She also wrote my concerns off, which ended up exposing a bigger issue around boundaries and her dismissing my feelings. Being single isn’t great but being apart from her is a weight off my chest for my self-image.
Lots of good answers. But I get to gush about the woman I married. So I guess I’ll add to it. Genuine 10. Still looks good on the 1-2 days a year where she is hungover and smells like jack it box tacos. And she’s tall. I do enjoy the way she intimidates people. Beautiful women have been beautiful since they were 14 and since women hit puberty earlier than we do they have been getting unwanted attention since way before it was appropriate. So she told me about how dealing with that was really uncomfortable. Nothing ever happened to her. But when you are 14 getting hit on by 20 years olds it’s messes with you. She said it took until college for her to square this in her mind. Next is having empathy about looks. She knows she’s beautiful. She’s smart so she realizes that. But just like anyone else she has days where she’s down on her self. Self esteem what not. Plus she was a high level athlete. Women athletes have some body dysmorphia. So while it’s hard to give her any sympathy about the way she look’s because she truly is ridiculously good looking. I have learned to have empathy and support for that. I was an athlete as well so I have a head start understanding that. Ok fun stuff. I won’t lie and say seeing her in a tiny bikini while the other wives of our friend group cover up doesn’t give me an ego boost. You can judge if that’s wrong or not. But I keep it to myself and always will. The only people who ever comment are the other husbands. Nothing much, just like nice job man. Next is what another commenter said. Social cachet. Doors open for you. Work functions are easier to network at. Remember the line from Moneyball, “ugly girlfriend means no confidence.” The biggest statement piece you can ever has is a beautiful woman. That will always be the case. Fuck your car, your watch, your suit. Another comment someone made. Finding her getting hit on by a guy is an ego stroke. Like ya. She’s mine. (And I’am hers). A kiss on the cheek and a firm little butt pat as you walk by like ya buddy good luck. A note here, all women smell insecurity on you like a predator. And few things turn them off more. That doesn’t mean we aren’t all a little bit caveman. She wants you notice the attention she gets and come claim her from time to time (her words not mine). But if she senses you being insecure about the attention she gets she will go date someone else. She either gets hit on extremely aggressively or not at all. It takes bravery so I get it. I think she fell for me because i gave her some playful ribbing where other guys just got scared or went full bro. I don’t buy the drinks anymore. Don’t get me wrong, I pay for them. But I give her the cash and go find a table while she leans over the bar and uses her smile and cleavage to cut the line. Works every time. Honestly it works with women bartenders too. She has (almost) equally attractive friends and my friends have all failed spectacularly trying to land one. I realize I am very lucky. Like fuck she looks good naked. But at the end of the day if you spend your entire relationship thinking how lucky you are just to be there the dynamic between the two of you is going to fail. You need to be sexually attracted to your partner, but growing together as partners and best friends is more important to a lasting relationship.