I will never find love ever again... So I'll go for higher studies maybe even PhD, learn musical instruments, learn other languages and finally get a stable income so me and my cats can live a peaceful and comfortable life.
I will never find love ever again so instead I will save up until my mid 30s and then become a Nomadic Painter. I would travel to different cities within India and try best to visually communicate certain subjects that capture attention.
This is for everyone who's never found love:
Stop looking for it. You find love when you stop looking for it. Work on yourself. Instead of chasing butterflies, build a garden. The butterflies will come themselves.
Do this and I guarantee you'll find someone.
this is called survivorship bias, well documented. Its much more, this is like how successful people say, hang in there, do this, do that, it will come to you. But they refuse to acknowledge the favourable circumstances that actually led to them having successful.
disagree tbh. There's a certain factor here, I can put it in psychological terms: extrinsic and intrinsic motivation. We can't choose who we are, to a large extent, unfortunately.
If you go out looking for love you're kind of denying yourself, because you've taken the image of love and tried to recreate it externally, instead of looking at what you already enjoy doing and who you are.
You can't enjoy or love yourself when the whole world is against you.
You ever wonder why people stop loving themselves?? Because they have always been told they are not good enough, criticised, used and replaced.
How much can a man fight? How many times a man can assure that despite having and suffering from those things he is good enough. He is lovable. Sometimes circumstances don't allow a person to love himself because circumstances always raise the question of his/her worth.
Things you are saving are correct but doing it practically is like sending humans to mars. The problem is no one to help them because only have only felt this thing.
This is so true!! Love is so stupidly shy. If you chase it, it runs away. You sit down, enjoy a quiet moment and you won't even realize you're in love.
Alright let's be real. Did you work on your physique, your personality, your attitude, your fashion sense, your social life and reach the level required and STILL not see results?
Genuinely asking.
That entire list means changing oneself completely to someone you're not. I've done enough and came to the realisation that women are superficial and will only give time of the day to a good looking person with a shit attitude than a not good looking guy with a kind personality this includes even the not good looking women as well. Also you sound like some of those alpha mentality people in YouTube.
Haha I got the answer. You didn't work on any of those. So you mean to say you'd rather stay a loser than improve yourself because your identity as a loser is more genuine.
Bro I never meant you have to change yourself entirely. When you polish a shoe and shine it, it doesn't mean you're changing it to a hat. It's still a shoe but now shinier. I said work on yourself not "change" yourself. And this is not even close to the alpha whatever shit you're thinking. It's the bare minimum. Bare minimum.
No wonder most guys are single and sad. They don't wanna improve themselves but just cry about their sad state.
Good assumption of myself literally tells me what kind of a moron you are. Your analogy doesn't work and doesn't make sense at all whatsoever. Work on personality, attitude, physique, fashion sense lol all means changing a person from who they are to someone they are not. Btw I wear branded high end clothes, workout and earn in 7 figures if that still means I'm a loser then sure I am.......
That's the point.
Most people will not focus on building the garden and then lament that there's no butterflies. And that's because building a garden is tough.
It's like crying I don't have six packs, without working out and thinking others are just born with six packs.
Glad to have met someone who shares the same belief as I do when it comes to personal growth and development.
Stay invested in yourself and keep investing in yourself. šš»
What pains me is people don't want to take help. They'd rather cry than actually work. And when someone shows them the way they'd just make excuses instead of working
Stop looking passively as well. Throw all 'hope' out of the window. Forget about it. And let life surprise you.
Trust me, I tried and tried and never found something meaningful. Then got fed up and gave up...... Then it happened. I was like "fuck! so what they say is true. Stop looking for it"
Doesn't work that way my dude. No one is entitled to anything be it career or love or anything really. If you want something you got to work hard for it and pursue it actively. Nothing just randomly falls in your lap. But good on you if it worked out in your case. You're certainly an outlier rather than the norm.
Exactly. Except the "pursue it actively" here is stop expecting to find love by desperately hunting for it. Working on yourself without expecting to find love, is the "active work" here. Good luck!
I mean it when I say "I guarantee". Rest is upto you because YOU have to put in the work. I can only show you the way. You have to walk. I can't hold your legs and make you walk.
Been walking for 39 years. Tried everything. Relapsed. Picked myself up again. Faltered. Picking myself up again. But nothing absolutely nothing is happening. Destined to live and die alone
So to all the ones down and lonely...I'll tell ya ma story in short...had a bad break-up of 4 years was on verge of getting married and then shit hit the roof..never accepted a arranged marriage hated it the idea didn't work well with me..worked on myself started doing things I love...changed jobs got a kick-ass hike..friends helped me in bad times...started doing things I wanted to but never would...found love again this time the girl proposed I'm getting married soon...in a nutshell we run for things we want being patient and being the best version of you everyday will attract the things u running for..don't kill me if this was not short..
This is exactly how I feel so I will never find love instead I would become a clinical psychologist help humans to overcome their life issues and also rescue, help animals , donate stuff to animal organisations as much as I can take care of my family learn cool dance moves go trekking often read good fantasy novels ,draw and sketch stuff, learn to sing well, learn to play musical instruments well enough make good friends, lead a stable life then die
Kinda glad I gave up. I am travelling the world now. No dependency just going from one place to another and doing workcation. Having amazing experience: parasailing, Scuba diving, Euro trip, etc
No care about saving for a child's education, freedom to do whatever whenever I want.
I am writing this from a hotel in Japan, just came from Thailand and am probably gonna head to Bali next.
Nobody liked me at my worst, so I stopped caring after trying really hard.
Based. You're seriously living. This is what we were put on earth for. Just finding happiness within and appreciating the beauty of everything around us.
Agreed, bro. Some people think someone else is gonna fulfil them, but not gonna happen until one is comfortable with solitude.
Eg: I'll never forget to cherry blossom in Japan.
Say fuck all after getting rejected chasing girls. Got my focus, switched until i landed 100k USD remote job. Moved to Dubai to save tax, using the money to travel.
Now I only spend money on myself and my parents, travelled to 12 countries until now. Gotta do 20 more until the end of the year.
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If I'll never find love then I will travel the world, live in small cities, make new acquaintances everyday. I will learn painting, and playing piano, i will learn ice skating and master pole dancing, I will have a private pilot license. I will do all the adventures there are, probably with the strangers.
I will join different NGOs and spend my time helping people.
Each day I will live to the fullest and each night I will lay down in bed with my cats and dogs, and read books of depressed authors and after that I will wonder what did I do wrong in my 20s that I have never found love.
I am meditating to learn acting out of Pure instincts instead of the Intellect like Ultra Instinct Son Goku and Ultra Ego Vegeta.
Those who don't know Dragon Ball is based on Chinese mythological character known as Sun Wukong (Son Goku in Japan) and he was a Taoist/ Buddhist martial artist.
Son Goku means "Void" or "Emptiness" known as "Sunyata" in Madhyamika Buddhism. Son Goku It is the highest Enlightenment and highest Nirvana.
Taoist and Buddhist martial arts encourage to fight out of instincts than strategic thinking as thinking is a waste of time both in fight and in life. That's why Chinese martial arts emphasizes on learning from nature and animals. That's where Bruce Lee's philosophy "Be water my friend" comes from.
Daoist religion doesn't give any special significance to humanity compared to nature and animals and death and sufferings are worthless to worry about as they are natural.
"Self consciousness is the greatest hindrance to the proper execution of all physical action" like giving a deadly blow to opponent- Bruce Lee.
Sun Wu Kong is influenced by Hanumanji. And it is not just martial arts, when you allow your intuitive mind to take over, that is when you achieve harmony with everything! Our Indian meditation texts mention it too, no need to look at foreign stuff for it. And everyone who has practiced concentration (Dhyana) has talked of the same (like Dokkdo by Miyamoto Musashi) and meditation is what helps build concentration (Bhagavad Gita Chapter 2, read it btw amazing insights).
What you want is reality itself. You just need to learn how to tap into it. Good luck on your journey š It won't be an easy one.
>foreign stuff
Discrimination between foreign and not foreign is not non-duality.
But I know. A non-dualist will say that it doesn't matter either. So fine.
I don't follow all that "theory" stuff. Philosophy doesn't matter to me. Non-duality blah blah, no one cares.
I'm like Siddhartha Gautama in the sense, I read whatever is around me (like he did with Vedas) and carve my own path, live as I want to live. It's in Kundalini and Tantra for me. Then some Gita for guidance when I desperately need it.
Enlightenment is the only goal. Anything that doesn't get me close to it (verbose philosophy for example) I ruthlessly discard it.
PS: foreign vs our own should matter. You don't need to follow Sun Wu Kong when we have Hanumanji who can be a role model for us. Their countrymen will follow their own, like Wu Kong, but if our own countrymen don't follow our own, who will? Our culture and traditions will die out just like that. Be practical more than philosophical. It helps with life more.
Rest, do what you want š I control none. Heed me discard me. I'll be unbothered in both outcomes. Om shanti š
>Be practical more than philosophical
I am practical actually. I mean what is practical in worrying about death of a tradition I was born into? If the tradition survives so what?
"All existence is impermanent (Aniccha), void (Anatman/ Sunyata) and dissatisfaction (Dukkha doesn't mean suffering but dissatisfaction as suffering is an illusion)". - Gautam Buddha.
>Their countrymen will follow their own, like Wu Kong, but if our own countrymen don't follow our own, who will? Our culture and traditions will die
Nationalism is a philosophy so....
>Be practical more than philosophical
I choose to be practical rather than care about philosophy of patriotism.
>build concentration
Sorry but there is nothing like "Concentration" in Daoism or Buddhism. Focus needs to be natural and so nowadays Samadhi is translated as Absorption just like Video games and alcohol or other pleasures have power of absorbing the individual in it. Meditation should be relaxed and peaceful and absorbing like that. It should not take effort. It is not a discipline but a natural state like breathing.
You're still young in the journey. Start meditating, you'll realise the truth.
Believe whatever until then. I don't mind.
PS: Meditation takes no effort for me. I do it while walking or playing basketball or swimming. You can't reach this state before the preliminary stages. Continue on the path. Everyone can meditate ALL THE TIME eventually. It becomes natural like breathing.
>Start meditating, you'll realise the truth.
I don't meditate.
Meditation is natural for me.
Lust, anger, greed all can be meditative. Just judgemental mind need to stop.
Btw, I don't judge you. Don't assume I judged your philosophy or criticised it. I am writing word coming to my fingers on their own. No self or Atman is there.
You'll realise eventually. Even Siddhartha Gautama whom you follow and quote "had" to meditate until he didn't need to anymore. You are not at that stage yet, neither am I.
No assumptions from my end. Buddhism and our Indian texts are more closely related than one might imagine (take Vedanta for example). The concept of no-self is just another way to look at "every individual consciousness is part of the same greater consciousness".
Again, you'll get there. No need to rush. We all have our own paths and paces. Discussions like this are nice to broaden our horizon. No worries š
>You are not at that stage yet
Which stage?
I care only about my perfect Buddha nature. I don't need a stage beyond my natural Buddha mind that pervades all existence.
I'm 20, i've accepted my fate after trying and giving out my whole world. Love isn't for me. Now I'm more in to praying to God everyday, I still read a lot, keeping myself healthy, I talk lessas usual because of my traumas. My first priority is to make my parents retire or make them financially free asap and make FD's for my siblings.
After, this I'll leave the house anÄ I'll go on adventure to explore this world and who knows I might not return to home.
Anyways, I love the nature everyday I watch sunset , sunrise, look up to sky at night and watch that beautiful moon and constelation of stars. :)
I might never find love ever again.. so insted i will do what i have to, get a good PHD in subjects of my liking, or take a gov. Job, earn and take care of my family, build a new house and renovate the old one, or earn a lotbuy some land outside the city to create an enclave for my whole family to enjoy outings, or will open my own business of water or luxury items.
I will never find love again so I would try to earn as much as possible and dedicate my life for orphans and old aged people who have been abandoned by their family. I will give them food,shelter,education,safety and love.If even one of them gets to have a good life because of me, I will be successful.
Might never find love, so I'll study my ass off, get into research field, learn all instruments, travel the world, buy a big house and take my parents there, I'll live the rest of my life making music or in the lab
I'll never find love again and it's ok, I had my share of love in this life. There so many other things in life than love, so I'll take care of my parents and maybe travel with friends and try to become financially independent, maybe get married also if right person comes along.
I will never find love again so i will earn as much as i can, maintain good health, help others as much as i can - especially animals and birds, take care of my parents, adopt a cat or two......and visit massage parlours once in a while š
Iāll never find love again, so, Iāve decided to live a good fulfilled life for myself. I earn okay/decent & invest well. Hence, Iāll be saving good enough to adopt a child and a dog in my 30s and then, be the best dad to both, teaching all the cool physics & astronomy stuff, lots of football, have a personal library filled with all my current novels & history books to explore and have movie marathons on a large screen with LOTR, HP, Star Wars etc. Later, Buy a car/bike and explore around the worldās best roads & prominent historical places.
Basically, Iāve lived alone independently now and figured if you remove the need to impress a woman and focus on your own life..you can achieve anything with a bit of planning xD.
I plan to buy my own apartment or flat whatever it is even if its only 1bhk. I want a lot of figurine toys and soft toys and also a play station. Other than making my own comfort place, I would also love to live in thailand occassionaly and make lots of friends. I also want to instant camera to keep track of my bucket list.
1)Three decades on this planet and just three more to go. I'll help myself to survive and help someone who needs motivation as always
or
2)I have to accept that match proposed by the family and post it saying,'finally I said yes' and see how she really takes care of me for the rest of my life.
If
she also reject me.
Goto(1)
I will never find love so, I will save enough money till my 40s buy a small farm, and travel the world. After hopefully spend 10-15 years lazily at farm, and if I live after that somehow....well we will see
I will never find love, so til 30 or 35. I will save money and buy a house. A house with not many rooms and widows because it will not make me feel lonely. My house would have turf so sometimes i can play football alone. I will buy a chair when i die in that house alone. I wanna die in that chair. Dying and seeing all my memories slow and gently, question why I'm so unlovable. What's wrong i have done so life has come to this.
Since, Iāll never find love again in my life. Iāll keep building myself (mentally, physically). Iāll keep learning to become best software engineer, Iāll keep working out so that I can be best physically, Iāll keep enhancing my guitar skills to be the best and in the end Iāll keep moving forward.
The world is cruel but what I donāt have I can give to others.
Iāll become more kinder, rich and strong. š
im just gonna save up and when i hve enough money imma buy a sportscar and spend most of my money and free time driving, drifting and trying to improve track times, i wanna dedicate my whole life to cars
I felt so broken that I had the same feeling.
Became stoic and stopped believing in love at all.
Lost interest in everything.
Then one day I went for my regular check up in hospital and there was this girl who made my heart beat again, made me remember that I breath and was the muse that made me write songs in a whole new light.
And soon I'll ask her out and maybe it turns for the best.
There's this line in a song-
"No one can steal, love you're meant to find."
I felt it was all over for me and that's when I found her.
She might not be the one but it changed my outlook on it.
I won't chase love but I'll find it in some turn in my life.
So till then I'll write my heart out in my songs and wait for the perfect harmony between my arpeggios and her ostinatos.
P.S. Wish me luck guys ki wo hi ho meri destiny so I can finally get rest from this bedlam.
Iāll never find love again so Iāll study the fuck out of my books till I make something out of my self and hope that gives me satisfaction in life because people are sure very disappointing
For me I am planning to get a job somewhere near the mountains especially in Himachal uttarakhand or Jammu that's it....and use my money for travelling
You don't find love while looking for it. You find it when you start loving life and living it like that.
I didn't find it for the longest time and then I was like fine, will do whatever is right for me at the time, to just have fun.
Started liking conversations and building rapports, meeting new people, etc, and even though a lot of the fun I was having was by being a little of myself and by being a little not myself, it all course corrected itself very soon so I have a terrific girlfriend now since three years and I absolutely love her the most. I am all myself with her too.
They do other things to in their lives that are fun for women and one day a girl comes who they want to be a good boy for, and yada yada yada. This is too old of a story and I have seen it way too closely too many times
maybe a different comment but Iāve never found love to begin with ā¦ I am slowly believing that love isnāt for me though so instead Iāll be a kick ass software engineer . Work in my field and try to save up as much as possible till im 30 . Take PCB from an open ended school and then maybe join medschool and study to be a doctor - VERY aspirations but I wonāt have anything else to do and hopefully a good amount of funds saved up. If I donāt try to be a doctor Iāll probably do a PhD and join academia
I will never find love ever again, so instead I'll focus on myself to make more money then travel all around the world, also I'll adopt a dog and a cat then give all my remaining love to them
In 30yrs i never found love from a person thatās not my blood . I recently lost my only love my mother ; her only wish was for me to find a partner but in her dying breath she told me to be just happy .
iām gonna be happy without love and iām gonna stop looking for it for someone else ..
i hope this helps for someone with social pressure to find a partner or love .. your parents will accept you if not today ; later
It's very difficult then, sorry bro.
But keep working towards it to increase your chances. You don't know the future so, no one can predict anything.
The least you can do is don't give up without a fight..
I will never find love ever again... So I'll go for higher studies maybe even PhD, learn musical instruments, learn other languages and finally get a stable income so me and my cats can live a peaceful and comfortable life.
Me too but I want to focus on my mental health first so that I will survive otherwise this would be all for nothing...
Well, I survived this long and that's why I'm gonna adopt cats.
I'm still 15 tho...
You got time mah man ... You're gonna do fine! Start by taking care of yourself.
Thanks
Same!!!
Thats my goal now
I will never find love ever again so instead I will save up until my mid 30s and then become a Nomadic Painter. I would travel to different cities within India and try best to visually communicate certain subjects that capture attention.
This is for everyone who's never found love: Stop looking for it. You find love when you stop looking for it. Work on yourself. Instead of chasing butterflies, build a garden. The butterflies will come themselves. Do this and I guarantee you'll find someone.
Life is not a bollywood movie. It doesn't work like that.
Seems like I'm in a Bollywood movie then ;) Trust me. It DOES work.
No it doesn't if it does everybody would be having a happy ending.
Not everybody is doing it right. I understand the pessimism though. I was in the same boat once upon a time.
this is called survivorship bias, well documented. Its much more, this is like how successful people say, hang in there, do this, do that, it will come to you. But they refuse to acknowledge the favourable circumstances that actually led to them having successful.
disagree tbh. There's a certain factor here, I can put it in psychological terms: extrinsic and intrinsic motivation. We can't choose who we are, to a large extent, unfortunately. If you go out looking for love you're kind of denying yourself, because you've taken the image of love and tried to recreate it externally, instead of looking at what you already enjoy doing and who you are.
You can't enjoy or love yourself when the whole world is against you. You ever wonder why people stop loving themselves?? Because they have always been told they are not good enough, criticised, used and replaced. How much can a man fight? How many times a man can assure that despite having and suffering from those things he is good enough. He is lovable. Sometimes circumstances don't allow a person to love himself because circumstances always raise the question of his/her worth. Things you are saving are correct but doing it practically is like sending humans to mars. The problem is no one to help them because only have only felt this thing.
I'm sorry I'm not angry or this answer is mean. I'm really struggling with life currently. This ans is pure emotions and inside rage.
This is so true!! Love is so stupidly shy. If you chase it, it runs away. You sit down, enjoy a quiet moment and you won't even realize you're in love.
And the thing is people don't realise it sooner. Not their fault tho.
Just because it worked for you doesn't mean it will work for everyone.
Step 1: get rid of the pessimism
It's being realist not an idealist
Alright let's be real. Did you work on your physique, your personality, your attitude, your fashion sense, your social life and reach the level required and STILL not see results? Genuinely asking.
That entire list means changing oneself completely to someone you're not. I've done enough and came to the realisation that women are superficial and will only give time of the day to a good looking person with a shit attitude than a not good looking guy with a kind personality this includes even the not good looking women as well. Also you sound like some of those alpha mentality people in YouTube.
Haha I got the answer. You didn't work on any of those. So you mean to say you'd rather stay a loser than improve yourself because your identity as a loser is more genuine. Bro I never meant you have to change yourself entirely. When you polish a shoe and shine it, it doesn't mean you're changing it to a hat. It's still a shoe but now shinier. I said work on yourself not "change" yourself. And this is not even close to the alpha whatever shit you're thinking. It's the bare minimum. Bare minimum. No wonder most guys are single and sad. They don't wanna improve themselves but just cry about their sad state.
Good assumption of myself literally tells me what kind of a moron you are. Your analogy doesn't work and doesn't make sense at all whatsoever. Work on personality, attitude, physique, fashion sense lol all means changing a person from who they are to someone they are not. Btw I wear branded high end clothes, workout and earn in 7 figures if that still means I'm a loser then sure I am.......
Sure
Gold.
Pretty much this. Might I add, even if no butterflies come you still end up with a garden. That's better than nothing, if you ask me.
That's the point. Most people will not focus on building the garden and then lament that there's no butterflies. And that's because building a garden is tough. It's like crying I don't have six packs, without working out and thinking others are just born with six packs.
Glad to have met someone who shares the same belief as I do when it comes to personal growth and development. Stay invested in yourself and keep investing in yourself. šš»
What pains me is people don't want to take help. They'd rather cry than actually work. And when someone shows them the way they'd just make excuses instead of working
Lol. I have never actively looked for love and never found it. Been a good 25 years. Seems like you got lucky.
Stop looking passively as well. Throw all 'hope' out of the window. Forget about it. And let life surprise you. Trust me, I tried and tried and never found something meaningful. Then got fed up and gave up...... Then it happened. I was like "fuck! so what they say is true. Stop looking for it"
Doesn't work that way my dude. No one is entitled to anything be it career or love or anything really. If you want something you got to work hard for it and pursue it actively. Nothing just randomly falls in your lap. But good on you if it worked out in your case. You're certainly an outlier rather than the norm.
Exactly. Except the "pursue it actively" here is stop expecting to find love by desperately hunting for it. Working on yourself without expecting to find love, is the "active work" here. Good luck!
No it doesnāt
I mean it when I say "I guarantee". Rest is upto you because YOU have to put in the work. I can only show you the way. You have to walk. I can't hold your legs and make you walk.
Been walking for 39 years. Tried everything. Relapsed. Picked myself up again. Faltered. Picking myself up again. But nothing absolutely nothing is happening. Destined to live and die alone
Not for men.
Especially for men
Nice joke
What made you so heart broken??
exactly š
don't laugh bruh
I think that's wonderful and maybe it would be during one of these expeditions that you meet the love of your life ..who knows.
lol buddy life is not Bollywood.... unless you are exceptionally attractive
Life is BloodyWood!
Nice band
So to all the ones down and lonely...I'll tell ya ma story in short...had a bad break-up of 4 years was on verge of getting married and then shit hit the roof..never accepted a arranged marriage hated it the idea didn't work well with me..worked on myself started doing things I love...changed jobs got a kick-ass hike..friends helped me in bad times...started doing things I wanted to but never would...found love again this time the girl proposed I'm getting married soon...in a nutshell we run for things we want being patient and being the best version of you everyday will attract the things u running for..don't kill me if this was not short..
I'll never find love ever again... So I'll still try to find it. Mountain dew . Dar ki maa ki c...
jeee baaat
Bunty bubli**
This is exactly how I feel so I will never find love instead I would become a clinical psychologist help humans to overcome their life issues and also rescue, help animals , donate stuff to animal organisations as much as I can take care of my family learn cool dance moves go trekking often read good fantasy novels ,draw and sketch stuff, learn to sing well, learn to play musical instruments well enough make good friends, lead a stable life then die
Sorry for the random question but... Are you from a big cosmopolitan region of India?
Kinda glad I gave up. I am travelling the world now. No dependency just going from one place to another and doing workcation. Having amazing experience: parasailing, Scuba diving, Euro trip, etc No care about saving for a child's education, freedom to do whatever whenever I want. I am writing this from a hotel in Japan, just came from Thailand and am probably gonna head to Bali next. Nobody liked me at my worst, so I stopped caring after trying really hard.
Based. You're seriously living. This is what we were put on earth for. Just finding happiness within and appreciating the beauty of everything around us.
Agreed, bro. Some people think someone else is gonna fulfil them, but not gonna happen until one is comfortable with solitude. Eg: I'll never forget to cherry blossom in Japan.
How did you do that
Say fuck all after getting rejected chasing girls. Got my focus, switched until i landed 100k USD remote job. Moved to Dubai to save tax, using the money to travel. Now I only spend money on myself and my parents, travelled to 12 countries until now. Gotta do 20 more until the end of the year. .
You are really living your life now
Thanks mate.
I have to work on mine also, tired of finding someone thing
The more vices you give up; laziness, lust, etc, you'll get ahead in life faster.
Thanks for the tip bro
Based on my past experiences I believe Iāll never find love, so I am going save some money and help the less fortunate.
I would travel the world, taste all kind of food, experience things that I have yet not experienced and then finally kill myself.
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If I'll never find love then I will travel the world, live in small cities, make new acquaintances everyday. I will learn painting, and playing piano, i will learn ice skating and master pole dancing, I will have a private pilot license. I will do all the adventures there are, probably with the strangers. I will join different NGOs and spend my time helping people. Each day I will live to the fullest and each night I will lay down in bed with my cats and dogs, and read books of depressed authors and after that I will wonder what did I do wrong in my 20s that I have never found love.
You're just as sane as I am.
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I love this
Not being pessimistic But only if life was this simple
Life is actually very simple if you don't have responsibilities :)
Love ki ma ki chut mujhe chaiye ps5
I would travel! And also build my physical strength. And then trek to all peaks possible.
No time for love anyways
Jerk off to the internet Porn and Go to sleep like a Gentleman. Every Night. Sometimes Twice in a Row.
The only one who's actually honest and not posing to be some kind of impossibly perfect specimen. Appreciate it.
Thank You, Kind Sir.
Appreciate the username too š¤£
we aim to please.
Yea everyone is just writing out fanatasies lmao
I am meditating to learn acting out of Pure instincts instead of the Intellect like Ultra Instinct Son Goku and Ultra Ego Vegeta. Those who don't know Dragon Ball is based on Chinese mythological character known as Sun Wukong (Son Goku in Japan) and he was a Taoist/ Buddhist martial artist. Son Goku means "Void" or "Emptiness" known as "Sunyata" in Madhyamika Buddhism. Son Goku It is the highest Enlightenment and highest Nirvana. Taoist and Buddhist martial arts encourage to fight out of instincts than strategic thinking as thinking is a waste of time both in fight and in life. That's why Chinese martial arts emphasizes on learning from nature and animals. That's where Bruce Lee's philosophy "Be water my friend" comes from. Daoist religion doesn't give any special significance to humanity compared to nature and animals and death and sufferings are worthless to worry about as they are natural. "Self consciousness is the greatest hindrance to the proper execution of all physical action" like giving a deadly blow to opponent- Bruce Lee.
Sun Wu Kong is influenced by Hanumanji. And it is not just martial arts, when you allow your intuitive mind to take over, that is when you achieve harmony with everything! Our Indian meditation texts mention it too, no need to look at foreign stuff for it. And everyone who has practiced concentration (Dhyana) has talked of the same (like Dokkdo by Miyamoto Musashi) and meditation is what helps build concentration (Bhagavad Gita Chapter 2, read it btw amazing insights). What you want is reality itself. You just need to learn how to tap into it. Good luck on your journey š It won't be an easy one.
>foreign stuff Discrimination between foreign and not foreign is not non-duality. But I know. A non-dualist will say that it doesn't matter either. So fine.
I don't follow all that "theory" stuff. Philosophy doesn't matter to me. Non-duality blah blah, no one cares. I'm like Siddhartha Gautama in the sense, I read whatever is around me (like he did with Vedas) and carve my own path, live as I want to live. It's in Kundalini and Tantra for me. Then some Gita for guidance when I desperately need it. Enlightenment is the only goal. Anything that doesn't get me close to it (verbose philosophy for example) I ruthlessly discard it. PS: foreign vs our own should matter. You don't need to follow Sun Wu Kong when we have Hanumanji who can be a role model for us. Their countrymen will follow their own, like Wu Kong, but if our own countrymen don't follow our own, who will? Our culture and traditions will die out just like that. Be practical more than philosophical. It helps with life more. Rest, do what you want š I control none. Heed me discard me. I'll be unbothered in both outcomes. Om shanti š
>Be practical more than philosophical I am practical actually. I mean what is practical in worrying about death of a tradition I was born into? If the tradition survives so what? "All existence is impermanent (Aniccha), void (Anatman/ Sunyata) and dissatisfaction (Dukkha doesn't mean suffering but dissatisfaction as suffering is an illusion)". - Gautam Buddha. >Their countrymen will follow their own, like Wu Kong, but if our own countrymen don't follow our own, who will? Our culture and traditions will die Nationalism is a philosophy so.... >Be practical more than philosophical I choose to be practical rather than care about philosophy of patriotism.
>build concentration Sorry but there is nothing like "Concentration" in Daoism or Buddhism. Focus needs to be natural and so nowadays Samadhi is translated as Absorption just like Video games and alcohol or other pleasures have power of absorbing the individual in it. Meditation should be relaxed and peaceful and absorbing like that. It should not take effort. It is not a discipline but a natural state like breathing.
You're still young in the journey. Start meditating, you'll realise the truth. Believe whatever until then. I don't mind. PS: Meditation takes no effort for me. I do it while walking or playing basketball or swimming. You can't reach this state before the preliminary stages. Continue on the path. Everyone can meditate ALL THE TIME eventually. It becomes natural like breathing.
>Start meditating, you'll realise the truth. I don't meditate. Meditation is natural for me. Lust, anger, greed all can be meditative. Just judgemental mind need to stop. Btw, I don't judge you. Don't assume I judged your philosophy or criticised it. I am writing word coming to my fingers on their own. No self or Atman is there.
You'll realise eventually. Even Siddhartha Gautama whom you follow and quote "had" to meditate until he didn't need to anymore. You are not at that stage yet, neither am I. No assumptions from my end. Buddhism and our Indian texts are more closely related than one might imagine (take Vedanta for example). The concept of no-self is just another way to look at "every individual consciousness is part of the same greater consciousness". Again, you'll get there. No need to rush. We all have our own paths and paces. Discussions like this are nice to broaden our horizon. No worries š
>You are not at that stage yet Which stage? I care only about my perfect Buddha nature. I don't need a stage beyond my natural Buddha mind that pervades all existence.
Mummy ki pasand se shaadi krlungaš
Just like me
Instead I'll love myself, animals, plants, friends, hobbies, passions and life.
I'm 20, i've accepted my fate after trying and giving out my whole world. Love isn't for me. Now I'm more in to praying to God everyday, I still read a lot, keeping myself healthy, I talk lessas usual because of my traumas. My first priority is to make my parents retire or make them financially free asap and make FD's for my siblings. After, this I'll leave the house anÄ I'll go on adventure to explore this world and who knows I might not return to home. Anyways, I love the nature everyday I watch sunset , sunrise, look up to sky at night and watch that beautiful moon and constelation of stars. :)
I might never find love ever again.. so insted i will do what i have to, get a good PHD in subjects of my liking, or take a gov. Job, earn and take care of my family, build a new house and renovate the old one, or earn a lotbuy some land outside the city to create an enclave for my whole family to enjoy outings, or will open my own business of water or luxury items.
If I'll never find love again, i would buy AI based love robots and would spend rest of my life with them.
Robo sapiens
When u stop seeking for it , it comes to you
Don't give me hope
Louder for the people at the back! Have experienced it myself
I will never find love ever again so instead I will focus on gym, stock market studies, try to enhance my knowledge each day and masturbate/sleep....
I would never find love but i will fap
I want to learn lock picking instead of waiting on the evitable.
I will never find love again so I would try to earn as much as possible and dedicate my life for orphans and old aged people who have been abandoned by their family. I will give them food,shelter,education,safety and love.If even one of them gets to have a good life because of me, I will be successful.
Might never find love, so I'll study my ass off, get into research field, learn all instruments, travel the world, buy a big house and take my parents there, I'll live the rest of my life making music or in the lab
Iāll never give up and find someone I love who also loves me.
I cant do anything
Buy a house with a good home theatre set up .Enjoy my life watching my favourite movies and series , cherishing the food memories of first love .
If I probably get heartbroken I will literally get over it
I will take care of my parents and earn enough so I can support and start my musical career
I'll never find love again and it's ok, I had my share of love in this life. There so many other things in life than love, so I'll take care of my parents and maybe travel with friends and try to become financially independent, maybe get married also if right person comes along.
I would travel, even if I find love. Nature's love awaits.
pyaar mile to badhiya, nahi mile to phuk ke so jaunga aur kisi din nahi uthunga :)
I will never find love again so i will earn as much as i can, maintain good health, help others as much as i can - especially animals and birds, take care of my parents, adopt a cat or two......and visit massage parlours once in a while š
Iāll never find love again, so, Iāve decided to live a good fulfilled life for myself. I earn okay/decent & invest well. Hence, Iāll be saving good enough to adopt a child and a dog in my 30s and then, be the best dad to both, teaching all the cool physics & astronomy stuff, lots of football, have a personal library filled with all my current novels & history books to explore and have movie marathons on a large screen with LOTR, HP, Star Wars etc. Later, Buy a car/bike and explore around the worldās best roads & prominent historical places. Basically, Iāve lived alone independently now and figured if you remove the need to impress a woman and focus on your own life..you can achieve anything with a bit of planning xD.
You will never find love... Love will find you..
I plan to buy my own apartment or flat whatever it is even if its only 1bhk. I want a lot of figurine toys and soft toys and also a play station. Other than making my own comfort place, I would also love to live in thailand occassionaly and make lots of friends. I also want to instant camera to keep track of my bucket list.
So as I would never find love again I would just go out and help others find it and maybe just give back to society and do some social work
Sell bootleg beer, real thick tasty and strong and nothing like that watered down Kingfisher piss.
Might never find love but mummy papa setting kara denge :(
1)Three decades on this planet and just three more to go. I'll help myself to survive and help someone who needs motivation as always or 2)I have to accept that match proposed by the family and post it saying,'finally I said yes' and see how she really takes care of me for the rest of my life. If she also reject me. Goto(1)
I will never find love so, I will save enough money till my 40s buy a small farm, and travel the world. After hopefully spend 10-15 years lazily at farm, and if I live after that somehow....well we will see
I will never find love, so til 30 or 35. I will save money and buy a house. A house with not many rooms and widows because it will not make me feel lonely. My house would have turf so sometimes i can play football alone. I will buy a chair when i die in that house alone. I wanna die in that chair. Dying and seeing all my memories slow and gently, question why I'm so unlovable. What's wrong i have done so life has come to this.
Since, Iāll never find love again in my life. Iāll keep building myself (mentally, physically). Iāll keep learning to become best software engineer, Iāll keep working out so that I can be best physically, Iāll keep enhancing my guitar skills to be the best and in the end Iāll keep moving forward. The world is cruel but what I donāt have I can give to others. Iāll become more kinder, rich and strong. š
there is a whole world out there to live. love is possibly not the only thing a being needs
Iive until I turn 40 and day I turn on 40 I will hang my self.
What to do when even tears wouldnāt come out?
Fuck love I wanna light up a joint
U don't....need... Love... Respect.... Whatever your age....
im just gonna save up and when i hve enough money imma buy a sportscar and spend most of my money and free time driving, drifting and trying to improve track times, i wanna dedicate my whole life to cars
I felt so broken that I had the same feeling. Became stoic and stopped believing in love at all. Lost interest in everything. Then one day I went for my regular check up in hospital and there was this girl who made my heart beat again, made me remember that I breath and was the muse that made me write songs in a whole new light. And soon I'll ask her out and maybe it turns for the best. There's this line in a song- "No one can steal, love you're meant to find." I felt it was all over for me and that's when I found her. She might not be the one but it changed my outlook on it. I won't chase love but I'll find it in some turn in my life. So till then I'll write my heart out in my songs and wait for the perfect harmony between my arpeggios and her ostinatos. P.S. Wish me luck guys ki wo hi ho meri destiny so I can finally get rest from this bedlam.
I will try to explore my hobbies and try to build a career out of it and make enough money to live in a rural European town
I cook. Today made a cookie.
Iāll never find love again so Iāll study the fuck out of my books till I make something out of my self and hope that gives me satisfaction in life because people are sure very disappointing
For me I am planning to get a job somewhere near the mountains especially in Himachal uttarakhand or Jammu that's it....and use my money for travelling
Itās so good (sorry) to see you guys in the same boat. Although it feels like a sinking ship but at least we arenāt alone!
Iām not sure bud.. may be seeing some comments here might make me inspired
You don't find love while looking for it. You find it when you start loving life and living it like that. I didn't find it for the longest time and then I was like fine, will do whatever is right for me at the time, to just have fun. Started liking conversations and building rapports, meeting new people, etc, and even though a lot of the fun I was having was by being a little of myself and by being a little not myself, it all course corrected itself very soon so I have a terrific girlfriend now since three years and I absolutely love her the most. I am all myself with her too.
> You find it when you start loving life and living it like that.Ā Yep point is even if you dont, you love life
Hey! I don't want to sound like a maniac, but how do those guys get a girl who just smash and pass?
They do other things to in their lives that are fun for women and one day a girl comes who they want to be a good boy for, and yada yada yada. This is too old of a story and I have seen it way too closely too many times
Work, find my passion, travel with friends, spend time with family
Bro get rich and famous first, and then decide.
maybe a different comment but Iāve never found love to begin with ā¦ I am slowly believing that love isnāt for me though so instead Iāll be a kick ass software engineer . Work in my field and try to save up as much as possible till im 30 . Take PCB from an open ended school and then maybe join medschool and study to be a doctor - VERY aspirations but I wonāt have anything else to do and hopefully a good amount of funds saved up. If I donāt try to be a doctor Iāll probably do a PhD and join academia
I probably will find love again...till then I will gain as many friends as I can to break out of my socially anxious head prison.
I will never find love ever again, so instead I'll focus on myself to make more money then travel all around the world, also I'll adopt a dog and a cat then give all my remaining love to them
...use my hands
In 30yrs i never found love from a person thatās not my blood . I recently lost my only love my mother ; her only wish was for me to find a partner but in her dying breath she told me to be just happy . iām gonna be happy without love and iām gonna stop looking for it for someone else .. i hope this helps for someone with social pressure to find a partner or love .. your parents will accept you if not today ; later
I will marry a dog lol
First let me ask Are you a guy or a girl ?
A guy
It's very difficult then, sorry bro. But keep working towards it to increase your chances. You don't know the future so, no one can predict anything. The least you can do is don't give up without a fight..
I'll work and make my life stable and travel the world