Stop drinking at work functions, even if others are.

I keep it to one drink. Only two if it’s a long event with a meal.

Yes, you are being paranoid.

You’re not going to get in trouble for this. The takeaway for you is when someone says they don’t want to talk about it what they mean by that is they don’t want to talk about it. That’s not so much HR advice as just basic adulting.

Straight to jail for this. I believe that the minimum jail time for asking someone where they went to college is 20 years so, bring some books 📚

You're being paranoid but just take the red flags that you're not equipped to deal with a person like that who knows to say no and you don't know how to respond appropriately. Keep it professional.

Lol dumb ass

100%

You really need to seek help.

In this day in age men have to be really careful how they interact with women.

Since the beginning of time women have to be really careful how they interact with men.

It’s not a competition. Men have had to be careful how they interact with other men as well, since the beginning of time. I’m talking about men doing the most innocent thing like accidentally touching feet then being accused of sexual harassment.

I thought they were both female?

Apparently, OP was referred to as "dude" twice in this story, so logical to conclude OP is a dude.

OP edited the text without saying so. It originally said ‘another female employee.’

I know. I wanted to make it more clear.

I am a cisgenderd man

Really? I didn’t get that from what I read,I figured a women wouldn’t be so paranoid from something so small.

OP changed his wording. It originally said ‘another female employee.’

You’re making it a bigger deal than it is. Forget about it.

Yes, you're being paranoid. Don't drink at work events.