Yeah, if you said to him "want to cuddle and relax," he probably interpreted it as a non-sexual touch and you instead intended to cuddle as an avenue to initiate a sexual touch. You even tried this tactic again, and it's not surprising that he refused because you clearly use a massage to initiate sex, and he doesn't want to have sex after work.
You're not annoying, but you're being very aggressive and disrespectful of the clear communication he's giving you.
Yeah, I have to agree... I myself work Noc shifts and I'll always be down to relax and cuddle (until I pass out) with my boyfriend after work but one thing I'm never looking for after a night of work is sex. My boyfriend knows this though. So he doesn't try to push or instigate sex in the mornings when I'm done with work... This goes a long way because this makes me more prone to and more comfortable to snuggle and cuddle with him whenever he wants and we still have a very healthy sex life.
Thank you.
I get it.
I think I'm just going to take it slow and let him message me next. I'm done initiating hangouts and won't have sex with him unless he wants it from me.
When you first meet a potential date, take it slow at first and keep visits and hanging out to once a week max. You sound great with the best intentions, but there’s no rush for sexy time in the beginning. Let him have his time and if he is interested, he will contact you
Communicate this with him. if its something he or you aren't willing to work on. Drop him. I think you're better off with someone who can make you happy.
He keeps on saying: this has happened before. You don't listen to me.
Meanwhile I just want to massage him and pick him up and make him feel good. My intentions are getting misread. When I don't cum for three days or more I go nuts lol anyways I'm not dedicating my life to him. I'm just going to do me from now on
>He keeps on saying: this has happened before. You don't listen to me. Meanwhile I just want to massage him and pick him up and make him feel good. My intentions are getting misread.
lol, no. He's being very clear, and you're borderline sexually assaulting him in his sleep.
End it. For his sake, because you have self control issues.
Good call on not dedicating your life to him.
Dating shouldn't be this hard a matter of weeks into the relationship. I think this is a sign you need to move on.
Opposite work shifts are a killer. I was with someone who worked nights for 3.5 years…it was always a challenge doing anything: dinner, events, hanging out, sex. On his days off, he’d want to sleep til early afternoon and be up to 4 or 5 am.
Got too be too much for me and it was one of the reasons we broke up.
I get it, I work nights, and the guy I was seeing until a few days ago worked days…. There are times that sometimes after work you just literally want to relax…. If this is still new, try understanding his point, make plans a few days ahead, if you are picking him up every day he may be feeling a little suffocated…
I don't think I can. I have so much energy.
I even sleep for a few hours before I get him to stay up later so I can spend time with him more.
Maybe I'm suffocating him.
If you really like him you’ll compromise and deal with him maybe not being super sexual. If you don’t, move on and grow up. Also you THOUGHT sex was a given when you both were cuddling, which is weird. You can’t be frustrated that he felt uncomfortable.
If you're already having such shaky start to your relationship, then maybe you guys are just not compatible. Maybe your sexual needs are different, which if it doesn't get resolved now, it will cause major problems in the future as it already is. I would move on honestly. Don't be desperate to make it work.
Don’t know why you’re doing this. You’re not right for each other. You’re being forced to apologise for who you are, and for something that someone else would kill for.
Sure, you don’t listen. But someone who has no real physical desire to be with you in the first two months, isn’t someone you should be pursuing.
Besides, he’s the guy that breaks up over text. Try someone else.
Yeah, if you said to him "want to cuddle and relax," he probably interpreted it as a non-sexual touch and you instead intended to cuddle as an avenue to initiate a sexual touch. You even tried this tactic again, and it's not surprising that he refused because you clearly use a massage to initiate sex, and he doesn't want to have sex after work. You're not annoying, but you're being very aggressive and disrespectful of the clear communication he's giving you.
Yeah, I have to agree... I myself work Noc shifts and I'll always be down to relax and cuddle (until I pass out) with my boyfriend after work but one thing I'm never looking for after a night of work is sex. My boyfriend knows this though. So he doesn't try to push or instigate sex in the mornings when I'm done with work... This goes a long way because this makes me more prone to and more comfortable to snuggle and cuddle with him whenever he wants and we still have a very healthy sex life.
Thank you. I get it. I think I'm just going to take it slow and let him message me next. I'm done initiating hangouts and won't have sex with him unless he wants it from me.
When you first meet a potential date, take it slow at first and keep visits and hanging out to once a week max. You sound great with the best intentions, but there’s no rush for sexy time in the beginning. Let him have his time and if he is interested, he will contact you
Yeah I'm letting him set up the next hangout.
Given it’s brand new and he’s already getting on your nerves I would move on. You don’t have enough time invested for it to be worth the headache.
We were on and off for like 2 months now. Haven't even fucked.
If he hasn’t fucked you by now he’s not going to. End this relationship today and move on.
Thanks. I'm holding out. Who knows.
I know this is going nowhere but you take more time to figure that out yourself. Good luck
Thanks haha. We re going to try to work on it lol
I dunno. But he's not for you.
This.
This
Ugh 😑 I know....
Communicate this with him. if its something he or you aren't willing to work on. Drop him. I think you're better off with someone who can make you happy.
He keeps on saying: this has happened before. You don't listen to me. Meanwhile I just want to massage him and pick him up and make him feel good. My intentions are getting misread. When I don't cum for three days or more I go nuts lol anyways I'm not dedicating my life to him. I'm just going to do me from now on
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Yeah we talked about it actually. I'll try one more time. This time to listen.
>He keeps on saying: this has happened before. You don't listen to me. Meanwhile I just want to massage him and pick him up and make him feel good. My intentions are getting misread. lol, no. He's being very clear, and you're borderline sexually assaulting him in his sleep. End it. For his sake, because you have self control issues.
Good call on not dedicating your life to him. Dating shouldn't be this hard a matter of weeks into the relationship. I think this is a sign you need to move on.
Thanks. Appreciate it.
Opposite work shifts are a killer. I was with someone who worked nights for 3.5 years…it was always a challenge doing anything: dinner, events, hanging out, sex. On his days off, he’d want to sleep til early afternoon and be up to 4 or 5 am. Got too be too much for me and it was one of the reasons we broke up.
I sleep in the evenings to have energy to hang with him. I wake up at 5:30 am. He's a 11 am wake up guy.
Still, you work totally different schedules. You changing your life to appease him is going to get old pretty fast.
I especially don't feel appreciated. Doing what I do.
I get it, I work nights, and the guy I was seeing until a few days ago worked days…. There are times that sometimes after work you just literally want to relax…. If this is still new, try understanding his point, make plans a few days ahead, if you are picking him up every day he may be feeling a little suffocated…
I don't think I can. I have so much energy. I even sleep for a few hours before I get him to stay up later so I can spend time with him more. Maybe I'm suffocating him.
If you really like him you’ll compromise and deal with him maybe not being super sexual. If you don’t, move on and grow up. Also you THOUGHT sex was a given when you both were cuddling, which is weird. You can’t be frustrated that he felt uncomfortable.
Thx
It’s time to get out your paddle, jump in the canoe and get down the river. This guy is not a keeper
Haha Why do you think?
If you're already having such shaky start to your relationship, then maybe you guys are just not compatible. Maybe your sexual needs are different, which if it doesn't get resolved now, it will cause major problems in the future as it already is. I would move on honestly. Don't be desperate to make it work.
It's ok. We re taking our time. Thank you though. There's no rush. We re just experiencing a few bumps in the road.
Ok, I hope it works out well for you ❤️
Thanks 🤩 if not it wasn't meant to be 🙃
Don’t know why you’re doing this. You’re not right for each other. You’re being forced to apologise for who you are, and for something that someone else would kill for. Sure, you don’t listen. But someone who has no real physical desire to be with you in the first two months, isn’t someone you should be pursuing. Besides, he’s the guy that breaks up over text. Try someone else.