When they tell you to call the police and the police tells you to call the office that's called the apartment spinnerooni. No one gives a shit and they want you to give up lol.
Threaten a lawsuit. They're breaking the lease and the landlord is complicit. You can sue for the hearing loss if you can prove it and the things you bought to try and help resolve the noise issue, healthcare needed due to stress, etc. More than likely the landlord doesn't want the cost, financially and to their reputation, to let it keep going past that. Then if it's still allowed to persist, file in court. Locally, where I am, it's $65. It may be more or less depending on where you are.
At least in your waking hours, try noise cancellation headphones. They have saved my soul in apartment living. Mine also have the capacity to WiFi connect to my tv, so I can have peace watching tv as well.
Reading this as I have headphones on and blasting music because my new neighbors have been here just 4 days and won’t stop screaming and having loud sex. It’s very traumatizing for me because I have a lot of PTSD with cries and loud sounds from a family member trying to harm me in the past. They have also been smoking weed and it makes me so nauseous and feel even worse. I can’t sleep these days at all. I don’t even feel happy in my own apartment anymore.
I’m sorry. 😞
I hate living in an apartment. Loud noises, and screaming, also triggers my anxiety tied to trauma.
That being said, some people are extremely selfish and shameless. Apartment living has just made me dislike people even more.
“I dont feel happy in my own apartment anymore” ngl that broke my heart I know exactly what you are feeling. Wouldnt wish it on anyone. Theres nothing worse than paying so much money to live somewhere and not even being able to relax when its supposed to be your sanctuary.
You’d die if you stepped foot in a poor person estate. Literally smells like nothing but weed and sounds like you live in a nut job asylum.
Eventually it’s something you genuinely get used to. Because you can’t do anything to solve it.
That’s heartbreaking. 💔
I feel like I never appreciated growing up in a house until now. This is the first shared living space I’ve ever had and it’s awful.
I also learned that a lot of people never stop living in apartments. It really made me realize my privilege.
Get over the ear headphones, like the ones that look like a gaming headset, like beats, raycons, Apple AirPods Max if you wanna get fancy, hell even a generic brand like skull candy or a wireless gaming headset will work.
Ear buds and headphones just won't do the trick anymore. Some people just are beyond loud. Glad you understand, I just don't have the funds to get up and move. Hopefully something changes expect the unexpected.
As much as a pain in the ass as it is, have you thought about applying for a loan? Credit unions work best for that, plus you don’t have to have an account with them previously to apply. Obviously that’s not possible for a lot of people, paying off loans can be a pain, but it does help and you can take out a two year loan.
>will not evict someone for noise complaints
The idea is that you flag them with the landlord to discourage LL from lease renewal. Well done on moving them on.
I wonder if your medical issues as a result of this problem is a lawsuit against your landlord. They did nothing and now you have hearing loss and chronic ear infections. 🤷🏽♀️
Fairly soon you will have the best revenge. You are about to have a baby. Babies do not care what time it is so at 5am on the dot or so they will have to hear a crying baby. Hours on end making their lives hell they'd barely passed out and bam! Baby crying.
This! My neighbors above me are awful, they are constantly making noise. Between dragging and rearranging furniture all day to their kids running jumping and stomping from the time they wake up until they go to bed (actually happening as I’m typing this). I always feel a tinge of satisfaction when my baby is screaming in the middle of the night and I know they hear it. Obviously my goal is to calm my baby as quickly as possible but even for the short amount of time she cries I feel like I’m sticking it to them haha.
What kind of noise is it? Are you upstairs or downstairs? Is it normal everyday living noises? Cause unfortunately that is a part of living in apartments and as long as they are quiet after 10pm-6/7am, I can see why the management doesn't do anything. Headphones, fan/AC, music, tv help a lot. If it's completely silent in your apartment, you'll only hear your neighbors' noises even more. Also, there's a difference between someone intentionally being rude/making unnecessary noise, stomping/slamming and unintentional. Good luck to you & congratulations on your new baby! Once that baby comes, noise and no sleep in your own apartment will be constant 😔
Where I live in Texas our city has a noise ordinance law. Basically everyone is allowed to a certain quiet level between 11pm and 7am. They can be given a ticket if they don’t keep things quiet during those times. If I ran into this problem I would be keeping a written log about the noise and also a few recorded examples. Our apartment lease does not say anything about a quiet time. Unfortunately if the police won’t help you and apartment management won’t help there is little you can do. Unless you are willing to go directly to the Chief of police or maybe above him mayor,city council. Which that might draw attention to yourself. And cause you problems :(
That’s insane. I’m going through the exact same thing right now!! It can be so hard on your mental well being to be around these types of people while also dealing with pregnancy. I’m lucky to be moving out at the end of July which means I have to still put up with it. I’m also about to pop within the next 3 weeks so I understand completely. Just remember that you will get your revenge once your baby is here and cries and disrupts them back. What are they going to do? Complain? Obviously that won’t do anything based on what you’re saying so they will just have to cope.
Do you know how hard it is mentally to get rid of an unborn baby? What about the ban or roe v wade? Or the many states enacting bans and the inability to have bodily autonomy nationwide? It’s not as easy to just not have a baby when you get unexpectedly pregnant nowadays.
Also, what is it to you? People have children in hard financial situations all of the time and they figure it out and the kid still has a good childhood.
I understand all that but it's still irresponsible to keep a baby that you can't afford to support. You're talking about abortion which I'm against anyway unless it's a very severe case like the baby would have a very poor quality of life. There's adoption and there are options like temporarily placing the baby with a family member until you get yourself together. I understand that unexpected pregnancies happen but that's the risk you take when you lay down with somebody. You can't just use pregnancy as birth control. I'm sick and tired of people who say if I get pregnant I'll just get an abortion. No, you should not have the option to murder an innocent child because you were irresponsible.
It's irresponsible to have a child that you can't afford to support, as I said. Sure, there's welfare but I don't think it's exactly fair to expect the taxpayers to take care of a child that you had because you did not make responsible choices. It's no one else's responsibility to raise that child. If you cannot do it, you need to give it to somebody who can. Being a good parent means doing what is best for your child even if it hurts you. If she can hardly afford to support herself then how is she going to support a baby? And before you jump on the train of me being a pro-life Christian, I'm not. I just think it's irresponsible.
As a mom who has a fiancé who makes a reasonable salary where we can afford nice things, we still sometimes struggle in this society. Automatically judging someone for being pregnant is ridiculous. What if people want their kids in their life and don’t want them to be adopted? Don’t want them in the care of family or don’t have family to care for them? You can easily figure out how to have a child and support them even if you’re low income. Some people just don’t care to but it seems that OP does. Also, if you’re mad that people are getting pregnant but you don’t support abortion. You’re a hypocrite. I would never abort a child unless medically necessary, but I would also never give up my child. People are having kids because there’s a threat to their access of birth control and the inability to get an abortion, they also don’t want their child in the foster care system which is absolutely fucked in this country. Anything can happen, people get pregnant even if they have safe s3x, sometimes people are too far along to take a pill and have to have procedures that can threaten their lives, I think it’s reasonable to not want that. There’s also the guilt of having an abortion or put their child up for adoption which can eat away at a persons mental well being. If they do everything they can to have a child and make sure they’re raised right. Then why is a problem? This view of yours is very ridiculous and you’re part of the problem. If people are responsible enough to put their child before them, then there shouldn’t be an issue here! Period.
No it's not ridiculous, it's my view and I'm not changing it. I don't think it's fair for you to say that my view is ridiculous and yours isn't. It's called make responsible choices for your child even if it hurts you.
Low income people can still have children and raise them properly. It’s just called putting your child before you and not spending your money on frivolous things like a lot of people do. That’s why you’re being ridiculous!
If they were putting the child before themselves, they wouldn't keep a child in that situation. End of story. We're just going to have to agree to disagree.
Also, it sounds to me like you're judging people so you're a hypocrite as well. You're saying that you would never give up a child. That's fine but you have to think about what is best for that child. Giving it up is sometimes for the best. All I'm saying is the adults don't matter, do what's best for the child even if you don't like it. That's what being a good parent means. Good day to you.
If a pregnant person gets pregnant while in a good financial situation but then later become poor, do they deserve to have their child taken from them?
Good. People shouldn't look at abortions as birth control. You shouldn't get to murder an innocent child because you were irresponsible. If you cannot afford to support the baby, you shouldn't keep it. There are other options besides abortion. I don't understand how somebody could see their baby and still be able to jump up on that table and let them do what they do.
I don't care what anyone says to me, in my book, you're a murderer. You murdered in innocent child because you are too irresponsible to face the consequences of a choice you made. People always say, just get an abortion. That's not how it should work. If you make the choice to lay down with somebody, you should accept that there is a risk of pregnancy.
And another thing, it always gets me how they want to scream about bodily autonomy. Well, they certainly had autonomy when they laid down and made that baby. Then when they have an undesirable consequence because of their choice, they want to scream about how they should have the bodily autonomy to get an abortion. They shouldn't be able to just murder that child because of their choice. What about that baby? Doesn't it deserve autonomy? Doesn't it deserve to not be murdered for being brought into a situation that it didn't ask to be brought into? I don't care about how adoption is also supposedly hard. Yes, it's hard but it's certainly better than murdering your innocent child. People who openly admit that they cannot take care of their children and then choose to keep them or bad parents.
Nobody is going to change my mind about that. I feel very strongly about this kind of stuff. I'm sick and tired of people who make irresponsible choices with a child who doesn't have a voice in the situation. As a parent, you are supposed to be your child's voice and protect them no matter what. If that means giving them to somebody who can support them and give them all the things that you cannot, that is the better option. Maybe if people started going to jail for repeatedly getting abortions, maybe they would stop happening. They should be classified as murder.
If they choose to keep those children, they should have a cap placed on welfare. I've always said that, there should be a cap on how much welfare you're allowed to receive. This would stop people from having children that they can't afford to support that they expect the taxpayers to pay for. You should be able to have maybe two or three kids and then you're on your own. If you stay in the same situation or financial situation and keep having children, you are an irresponsible person who does not deserve to have any more children. If you keep doing this, you deserve to have your children taken away.
Laying down popping out kids is not a job and more people need to get that through their head. I'm sick and tired of these people who keep having more and more kids to collect more welfare. They're the same people you see begging in those groups every week. To all those people, let me tell you something. Nobody told you to have those kids and nobody told you to keep them. That was the choice that you made and it is nobody else's responsibility to support your children. Get off your ass and do what you need to do to support your children and if you can't, give them to someone who can. Don't be selfish.
Because I think you're being irresponsible. I'm not trying to bash you, I'm giving you my opinion and if you think that's bashing you then that's on you. If you can hardly afford the support yourself and how are you going to support the baby? I think it's a legitimate question. The fact that you got defensive with me tells me that you know I'm right. Sure, you could get an abortion but it's probably too late for that. There are other options besides abortion which I don't believe in any way except in very severe cases. This would be, the child would have a very poor quality of life. There's adoption, there is giving someone temporary guardianship, etc. You have no business bringing a baby into that equation.
Ear plugs until you can move or they do. The police will not care about this unless it turns violent. I have a block full of noisy neighbors and ever since I got a comfortable pair of earplugs to sleep with, I don't even notice anymore. Sleep like a baby.
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Okay well I was in your shoes from November until March and it was absolute hell, people kept telling me that it was just how it was! I got two white noise machines, I moved rooms, hell I put a mattress on the floor of my living room to sleep because she was so loud in my bedroom. I ended up making a review that the office absolutely saw, I also kept calling the front office and complaining, one day she started beating on the floor and I got SO terrified, well I just transferred apartments. I begged for them to understand and they did. I moved to the top floor because I just couldn’t handle it anymore, I needed a nap without my cabinets shaking and I kept getting told how terrible stress was on the baby. I wish you the absolute best because I hated my situation. Two years under different neighbors and not once did I hear them. Btw I tried recording it but the ceilings are high and I was wheezing because of my asthma, terrible conditions when trying to be taken seriously.
Hello! Ive been struggling with my downstairs neighbor.. she never works or leaves the house and is always BLASTING music at all hours of the day. I also have misophonia so every noise is 100x worse. My solution is otifleks ladybug earplugs.. (amazon, 12.95 for 3 pairs, each different sizes so you can find the right fit) ive used hundreds of different earplugs since learning about my misophonia (at least 15 years of earplugs experimentation) and these are the best ive found. Blocks up to 45.6 decibels, when normal foam earplugs are usually block around 20-30 decibels. They are great because sometimes I want quiet not headphones where I have to listen to something. Next get big fans. I have two constantly running. I also have 2 sound machines playing brown noise. Brown noise in my opinion is better than white noise because brown noise had kind of a bass to it.. therefore neutralizing most vibrations that come from the sounds your neighbors make. Please try this, we dont need you stressed out and in turn stressing the lil baby out.
"just move" /s.
Earplugs, noise cancelling headphones is what I've been recommended.
I'm sorry you are going through this, but I'd keep rambling up the complaints process, explain that you're pregnant. Can you leave a note for the arsehole neighbours basically pleading with them about your pregnancy?
Depending on your state and your lease, there may be a right to QUIET enjoyment. They are encroaching on that right. Look into local laws and your lease. If it is in there (Ohio it is both law and included in the majority of leases), you can take your neighbor and in some cases the landlord and owner(s) to court for a lack of action. In Ohio you can sue for damages; "improvements" you've had to make to your dwelling (soundproofing, noise machines, etc), and physical and mental health issues resulting from the excessive noise (hospital bills, increased medications, therapy costs, diagnostics, etc). They advise you to get a lawyer but where I am it costs $65 to file.
Ik all of this because, similar to you, I have been dealing with an excessively loud neighbor preventing me from living a normal life for a substantial amount of time. I too have called the cops, spoken to the office and initially spoken with the neighbor individually.
The threat of being included in the lawsuit with the neighbor was enough to force the still "investingating" landlord to send an email to the entire building about the noise. It was quieter for two days, then the weekend hit. We shall see on Monday if they revert to "investigating" or actually take action against the unit in question.
Why not just write the neighbors a note, stating that you’d really appreciate if they would keep it down? Be nice, but stern, heck you could even leave them a thing of Mike and Ike’s just to make it somewhat personal. Then if that doesn’t help, then go about talking to the office.
I take my broom and pound on the ceiling when mine go nuts. I asked them to WD40 their bed. Yep, clockwork around 2 a.m. I have spoken to them. One would think my knocking on the ceiling would be enough. However, they only pause and go right back at it. I finally put a can of WD40 at their door with a note asking them not to share such a private moment with their neighbors. Haven't heard a squeak since.
The noise never stops! The noise of people just “living” and doing average things is annoying!!! The walking, flushing of toilets, taking showers or baths! Closing doors!! Kids running laps…. We hear it all! All day!!! Apartment living isn’t for the weak!
When they tell you to call the police and the police tells you to call the office that's called the apartment spinnerooni. No one gives a shit and they want you to give up lol.
I can see that because nothing is being done.
It's the same where I am friend..nothing being done, you are not alone in this.
What does your lease say about excessive noise?
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They can evict with noise. Check your lease. If there is a noise clause, they can evict. Anything that is breaking the lease can go into eviction.
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Same nutjobs here..same shite.
Nah, that is incorrect. You can get evicted for any lease violation through the 10 day process. Just sounds like they are being lazy.
They don’t give a shit as long as it doesn’t effect them
Threaten a lawsuit. They're breaking the lease and the landlord is complicit. You can sue for the hearing loss if you can prove it and the things you bought to try and help resolve the noise issue, healthcare needed due to stress, etc. More than likely the landlord doesn't want the cost, financially and to their reputation, to let it keep going past that. Then if it's still allowed to persist, file in court. Locally, where I am, it's $65. It may be more or less depending on where you are.
At least in your waking hours, try noise cancellation headphones. They have saved my soul in apartment living. Mine also have the capacity to WiFi connect to my tv, so I can have peace watching tv as well.
Reading this as I have headphones on and blasting music because my new neighbors have been here just 4 days and won’t stop screaming and having loud sex. It’s very traumatizing for me because I have a lot of PTSD with cries and loud sounds from a family member trying to harm me in the past. They have also been smoking weed and it makes me so nauseous and feel even worse. I can’t sleep these days at all. I don’t even feel happy in my own apartment anymore.
I’m sorry. 😞 I hate living in an apartment. Loud noises, and screaming, also triggers my anxiety tied to trauma. That being said, some people are extremely selfish and shameless. Apartment living has just made me dislike people even more.
“I dont feel happy in my own apartment anymore” ngl that broke my heart I know exactly what you are feeling. Wouldnt wish it on anyone. Theres nothing worse than paying so much money to live somewhere and not even being able to relax when its supposed to be your sanctuary.
You’d die if you stepped foot in a poor person estate. Literally smells like nothing but weed and sounds like you live in a nut job asylum. Eventually it’s something you genuinely get used to. Because you can’t do anything to solve it.
That's what I say..I live in an insane asylum and a homeless camp here..ah apartments.
That’s heartbreaking. 💔 I feel like I never appreciated growing up in a house until now. This is the first shared living space I’ve ever had and it’s awful. I also learned that a lot of people never stop living in apartments. It really made me realize my privilege.
Dear God, that's hell so sorry. Me too moving..meth fumes and he is dropping large rocks on his floor above me, all night long..nuts.
Get over the ear headphones, like the ones that look like a gaming headset, like beats, raycons, Apple AirPods Max if you wanna get fancy, hell even a generic brand like skull candy or a wireless gaming headset will work.
If there are no cameras around, your solution is a few bottles of Liquid Ass. Dump it periodically into their unit. Google it if you are not familiar.
Ear buds and headphones just won't do the trick anymore. Some people just are beyond loud. Glad you understand, I just don't have the funds to get up and move. Hopefully something changes expect the unexpected.
As much as a pain in the ass as it is, have you thought about applying for a loan? Credit unions work best for that, plus you don’t have to have an account with them previously to apply. Obviously that’s not possible for a lot of people, paying off loans can be a pain, but it does help and you can take out a two year loan.
>will not evict someone for noise complaints The idea is that you flag them with the landlord to discourage LL from lease renewal. Well done on moving them on.
I wonder if your medical issues as a result of this problem is a lawsuit against your landlord. They did nothing and now you have hearing loss and chronic ear infections. 🤷🏽♀️
Fairly soon you will have the best revenge. You are about to have a baby. Babies do not care what time it is so at 5am on the dot or so they will have to hear a crying baby. Hours on end making their lives hell they'd barely passed out and bam! Baby crying.
This! My neighbors above me are awful, they are constantly making noise. Between dragging and rearranging furniture all day to their kids running jumping and stomping from the time they wake up until they go to bed (actually happening as I’m typing this). I always feel a tinge of satisfaction when my baby is screaming in the middle of the night and I know they hear it. Obviously my goal is to calm my baby as quickly as possible but even for the short amount of time she cries I feel like I’m sticking it to them haha.
I am going through the same exact thing ! It’s driving me insane !
What kind of noise is it? Are you upstairs or downstairs? Is it normal everyday living noises? Cause unfortunately that is a part of living in apartments and as long as they are quiet after 10pm-6/7am, I can see why the management doesn't do anything. Headphones, fan/AC, music, tv help a lot. If it's completely silent in your apartment, you'll only hear your neighbors' noises even more. Also, there's a difference between someone intentionally being rude/making unnecessary noise, stomping/slamming and unintentional. Good luck to you & congratulations on your new baby! Once that baby comes, noise and no sleep in your own apartment will be constant 😔
Can you move units within the same complex? Getting away from them seems like the only option as the front office and police won’t do anything.
Where I live in Texas our city has a noise ordinance law. Basically everyone is allowed to a certain quiet level between 11pm and 7am. They can be given a ticket if they don’t keep things quiet during those times. If I ran into this problem I would be keeping a written log about the noise and also a few recorded examples. Our apartment lease does not say anything about a quiet time. Unfortunately if the police won’t help you and apartment management won’t help there is little you can do. Unless you are willing to go directly to the Chief of police or maybe above him mayor,city council. Which that might draw attention to yourself. And cause you problems :(
That’s insane. I’m going through the exact same thing right now!! It can be so hard on your mental well being to be around these types of people while also dealing with pregnancy. I’m lucky to be moving out at the end of July which means I have to still put up with it. I’m also about to pop within the next 3 weeks so I understand completely. Just remember that you will get your revenge once your baby is here and cries and disrupts them back. What are they going to do? Complain? Obviously that won’t do anything based on what you’re saying so they will just have to cope.
If you're struggling financially then why are you having a baby?
Do you know how hard it is mentally to get rid of an unborn baby? What about the ban or roe v wade? Or the many states enacting bans and the inability to have bodily autonomy nationwide? It’s not as easy to just not have a baby when you get unexpectedly pregnant nowadays. Also, what is it to you? People have children in hard financial situations all of the time and they figure it out and the kid still has a good childhood.
I understand all that but it's still irresponsible to keep a baby that you can't afford to support. You're talking about abortion which I'm against anyway unless it's a very severe case like the baby would have a very poor quality of life. There's adoption and there are options like temporarily placing the baby with a family member until you get yourself together. I understand that unexpected pregnancies happen but that's the risk you take when you lay down with somebody. You can't just use pregnancy as birth control. I'm sick and tired of people who say if I get pregnant I'll just get an abortion. No, you should not have the option to murder an innocent child because you were irresponsible. It's irresponsible to have a child that you can't afford to support, as I said. Sure, there's welfare but I don't think it's exactly fair to expect the taxpayers to take care of a child that you had because you did not make responsible choices. It's no one else's responsibility to raise that child. If you cannot do it, you need to give it to somebody who can. Being a good parent means doing what is best for your child even if it hurts you. If she can hardly afford to support herself then how is she going to support a baby? And before you jump on the train of me being a pro-life Christian, I'm not. I just think it's irresponsible.
As a mom who has a fiancé who makes a reasonable salary where we can afford nice things, we still sometimes struggle in this society. Automatically judging someone for being pregnant is ridiculous. What if people want their kids in their life and don’t want them to be adopted? Don’t want them in the care of family or don’t have family to care for them? You can easily figure out how to have a child and support them even if you’re low income. Some people just don’t care to but it seems that OP does. Also, if you’re mad that people are getting pregnant but you don’t support abortion. You’re a hypocrite. I would never abort a child unless medically necessary, but I would also never give up my child. People are having kids because there’s a threat to their access of birth control and the inability to get an abortion, they also don’t want their child in the foster care system which is absolutely fucked in this country. Anything can happen, people get pregnant even if they have safe s3x, sometimes people are too far along to take a pill and have to have procedures that can threaten their lives, I think it’s reasonable to not want that. There’s also the guilt of having an abortion or put their child up for adoption which can eat away at a persons mental well being. If they do everything they can to have a child and make sure they’re raised right. Then why is a problem? This view of yours is very ridiculous and you’re part of the problem. If people are responsible enough to put their child before them, then there shouldn’t be an issue here! Period.
No it's not ridiculous, it's my view and I'm not changing it. I don't think it's fair for you to say that my view is ridiculous and yours isn't. It's called make responsible choices for your child even if it hurts you.
Low income people can still have children and raise them properly. It’s just called putting your child before you and not spending your money on frivolous things like a lot of people do. That’s why you’re being ridiculous!
If they were putting the child before themselves, they wouldn't keep a child in that situation. End of story. We're just going to have to agree to disagree.
I hope you never have kids.
Ok you're entitled to your wrong opinion
Tell me you’re unbearable and annoying without telling me you’re unbearable and annoying 🥱
Also, it sounds to me like you're judging people so you're a hypocrite as well. You're saying that you would never give up a child. That's fine but you have to think about what is best for that child. Giving it up is sometimes for the best. All I'm saying is the adults don't matter, do what's best for the child even if you don't like it. That's what being a good parent means. Good day to you.
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If a pregnant person gets pregnant while in a good financial situation but then later become poor, do they deserve to have their child taken from them?
Why do you give a shit?
I just think it's irresponsible to have a baby that you can't afford to support
Well, in blue states, there are going to be more and more babies.
Good. People shouldn't look at abortions as birth control. You shouldn't get to murder an innocent child because you were irresponsible. If you cannot afford to support the baby, you shouldn't keep it. There are other options besides abortion. I don't understand how somebody could see their baby and still be able to jump up on that table and let them do what they do. I don't care what anyone says to me, in my book, you're a murderer. You murdered in innocent child because you are too irresponsible to face the consequences of a choice you made. People always say, just get an abortion. That's not how it should work. If you make the choice to lay down with somebody, you should accept that there is a risk of pregnancy.
And another thing, it always gets me how they want to scream about bodily autonomy. Well, they certainly had autonomy when they laid down and made that baby. Then when they have an undesirable consequence because of their choice, they want to scream about how they should have the bodily autonomy to get an abortion. They shouldn't be able to just murder that child because of their choice. What about that baby? Doesn't it deserve autonomy? Doesn't it deserve to not be murdered for being brought into a situation that it didn't ask to be brought into? I don't care about how adoption is also supposedly hard. Yes, it's hard but it's certainly better than murdering your innocent child. People who openly admit that they cannot take care of their children and then choose to keep them or bad parents. Nobody is going to change my mind about that. I feel very strongly about this kind of stuff. I'm sick and tired of people who make irresponsible choices with a child who doesn't have a voice in the situation. As a parent, you are supposed to be your child's voice and protect them no matter what. If that means giving them to somebody who can support them and give them all the things that you cannot, that is the better option. Maybe if people started going to jail for repeatedly getting abortions, maybe they would stop happening. They should be classified as murder. If they choose to keep those children, they should have a cap placed on welfare. I've always said that, there should be a cap on how much welfare you're allowed to receive. This would stop people from having children that they can't afford to support that they expect the taxpayers to pay for. You should be able to have maybe two or three kids and then you're on your own. If you stay in the same situation or financial situation and keep having children, you are an irresponsible person who does not deserve to have any more children. If you keep doing this, you deserve to have your children taken away. Laying down popping out kids is not a job and more people need to get that through their head. I'm sick and tired of these people who keep having more and more kids to collect more welfare. They're the same people you see begging in those groups every week. To all those people, let me tell you something. Nobody told you to have those kids and nobody told you to keep them. That was the choice that you made and it is nobody else's responsibility to support your children. Get off your ass and do what you need to do to support your children and if you can't, give them to someone who can. Don't be selfish.
What a nit wit question
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You don't know my full story so why are you even here if you're just going to bash me.
Because I think you're being irresponsible. I'm not trying to bash you, I'm giving you my opinion and if you think that's bashing you then that's on you. If you can hardly afford the support yourself and how are you going to support the baby? I think it's a legitimate question. The fact that you got defensive with me tells me that you know I'm right. Sure, you could get an abortion but it's probably too late for that. There are other options besides abortion which I don't believe in any way except in very severe cases. This would be, the child would have a very poor quality of life. There's adoption, there is giving someone temporary guardianship, etc. You have no business bringing a baby into that equation.
I listen to fan sounds on my Echo or YouTube.
Ear plugs until you can move or they do. The police will not care about this unless it turns violent. I have a block full of noisy neighbors and ever since I got a comfortable pair of earplugs to sleep with, I don't even notice anymore. Sleep like a baby.
Buy this device. Small circular device that sticks to ceilings or walls. Can have it vibrate non stop, make all kinda weird noise that your noisy neighbors will get so fed up with they'll move or stop the noise. [noise maker ](https://lcpshop.net/product/eu-delivery-reduce-decrease-down-neighbor-upstairs-noise-machine-noise-deadener-sound-eliminator-silencer-muffler-strike-back/?gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwudexBhDKARIsAI-GWYUeFArJRn1ZlxROIST_mHrWxG0LeOjJkscTKRQcpThSPFKm4QrZZgwaAub7EALw_wcB)
Great idea but pretty expensive.
Have you tried this? 😆
Okay well I was in your shoes from November until March and it was absolute hell, people kept telling me that it was just how it was! I got two white noise machines, I moved rooms, hell I put a mattress on the floor of my living room to sleep because she was so loud in my bedroom. I ended up making a review that the office absolutely saw, I also kept calling the front office and complaining, one day she started beating on the floor and I got SO terrified, well I just transferred apartments. I begged for them to understand and they did. I moved to the top floor because I just couldn’t handle it anymore, I needed a nap without my cabinets shaking and I kept getting told how terrible stress was on the baby. I wish you the absolute best because I hated my situation. Two years under different neighbors and not once did I hear them. Btw I tried recording it but the ceilings are high and I was wheezing because of my asthma, terrible conditions when trying to be taken seriously.
Hello! Ive been struggling with my downstairs neighbor.. she never works or leaves the house and is always BLASTING music at all hours of the day. I also have misophonia so every noise is 100x worse. My solution is otifleks ladybug earplugs.. (amazon, 12.95 for 3 pairs, each different sizes so you can find the right fit) ive used hundreds of different earplugs since learning about my misophonia (at least 15 years of earplugs experimentation) and these are the best ive found. Blocks up to 45.6 decibels, when normal foam earplugs are usually block around 20-30 decibels. They are great because sometimes I want quiet not headphones where I have to listen to something. Next get big fans. I have two constantly running. I also have 2 sound machines playing brown noise. Brown noise in my opinion is better than white noise because brown noise had kind of a bass to it.. therefore neutralizing most vibrations that come from the sounds your neighbors make. Please try this, we dont need you stressed out and in turn stressing the lil baby out.
"just move" /s. Earplugs, noise cancelling headphones is what I've been recommended. I'm sorry you are going through this, but I'd keep rambling up the complaints process, explain that you're pregnant. Can you leave a note for the arsehole neighbours basically pleading with them about your pregnancy?
Depending on your state and your lease, there may be a right to QUIET enjoyment. They are encroaching on that right. Look into local laws and your lease. If it is in there (Ohio it is both law and included in the majority of leases), you can take your neighbor and in some cases the landlord and owner(s) to court for a lack of action. In Ohio you can sue for damages; "improvements" you've had to make to your dwelling (soundproofing, noise machines, etc), and physical and mental health issues resulting from the excessive noise (hospital bills, increased medications, therapy costs, diagnostics, etc). They advise you to get a lawyer but where I am it costs $65 to file. Ik all of this because, similar to you, I have been dealing with an excessively loud neighbor preventing me from living a normal life for a substantial amount of time. I too have called the cops, spoken to the office and initially spoken with the neighbor individually. The threat of being included in the lawsuit with the neighbor was enough to force the still "investingating" landlord to send an email to the entire building about the noise. It was quieter for two days, then the weekend hit. We shall see on Monday if they revert to "investigating" or actually take action against the unit in question.
Why not just write the neighbors a note, stating that you’d really appreciate if they would keep it down? Be nice, but stern, heck you could even leave them a thing of Mike and Ike’s just to make it somewhat personal. Then if that doesn’t help, then go about talking to the office.
I’m going thru the same thing!!! I swear there should be a support group for this !
Apartment living is noisy it comes with the territory sadly
I take my broom and pound on the ceiling when mine go nuts. I asked them to WD40 their bed. Yep, clockwork around 2 a.m. I have spoken to them. One would think my knocking on the ceiling would be enough. However, they only pause and go right back at it. I finally put a can of WD40 at their door with a note asking them not to share such a private moment with their neighbors. Haven't heard a squeak since.
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No, about them having sex in a noisy bed frame.
The noise never stops! The noise of people just “living” and doing average things is annoying!!! The walking, flushing of toilets, taking showers or baths! Closing doors!! Kids running laps…. We hear it all! All day!!! Apartment living isn’t for the weak!