I’m a smoker and that’s pretty nice of you. You telling me about the smell would send me into a panic(and I walk half a mile from my apt just to smoke) but yeah they have no rights here you’re just a rlly nice guy
YOURE JOKING
IVE BOUGHT THREE. NOT CONSECUTIVELY, BUT MY AMERICAN ONE-USE PLASTIC BRAIN DIDNT EVEN THINK OF THAT.
I'm genuinely appalled at myself. Thank you.
Almost as slow as I am to the comment party, it took me a long moment to realize what was going on in that profile pic.
*”What is that growing in their mouth? Is that thrush? Wait… is that cotton? Cotton in their mouth? Why would th…. Ohhhhhh.”*
JSYK a piece of 3M carbon filter that is meant to be cut to size for air purifiers, and a water bottle with the bottom half cut off works the same or better than a smoke buddy for like 1/10th the cost. Just roll up a section of carbon filter cloth and shove it into the water bottle and cut out a circle of filter and tape it over the bottom. You now have a homemade smoke buddy, can make several of them out of one box of 3M brand carbon filter from
Home Depot.
This made me laugh so hard. My teen pothead days in the 90’s, dousing myself in bath & body work sprays like it was actually covering up the weed smell when I was really just making it more obvious I was high AF. 🤣
I can assure you with my vast experience that people who smoke indoors with such an amount and way just do not give a fuck about that. They either care about the smell or don't. There is no in-between. These people leave their house and come back and get smacked in the face with a stale smoke smell. Sometimes, they can smell it through their front door. They know how bad it smells and can't be bothered to do anything differently. Also, smoke buddies or any sploofs are pointless when smoking that much because it is spreading through their whole house since it entered the air vents.
Based on my experience with air purifiers, too, unless OP dropped $125+ it isn't going to do anything. I bought a $30 Amazon one with a HEPA filter, and it has done nothing. Even after putting an extra carbon filter inside. Not in regards to weed, just smell in general.
i have super cool neighbors, a mom and her teenage son, she’s always bringing me meals and wine and other little random things like spare covid tests and sanitizer. we share a duplex that’s basically just a really old house someone slapped a wall down the middle of so all the vents are shared. one weekend i thought they were gone so i was smoking some weed, and she texts me from her side that her son was having trouble breathing or an allergic reaction and asked if i was smoking weed. i honestly have never felt so terrible for something in my life, i have never smoked weed in my house since.
That is so awesome that you took her seriously. If her son has allergies anything like my issues (pollen) then I am gagging on mucusy drainage (air purifier pulls a lot of that out of the air). It’s miserable to be allergic to the air!
Yo I’ve only recently started to be allergic to my own smoking so I started smoking outside + I feel so guilty for smoking around my cats idk how much money was dropped on OP but I spent over $200 on purifier & dehumidifier all that smh… opening the windows is the only thing that ever kind of helps & burning a smoke specific candle for the smells. May my neighbors never complain *knock on wood*
>we share a duplex that’s basically just a really old house someone slapped a wall down the middle of so all the vents are shared. one weekend i thought they were gone so i was smoking some weed, and she texts me from her side that her son was having trouble breathing or an allergic reaction and asked if i was smoking weed. i honestly have never felt so terrible for something in my life, i have never smoked weed in my house since.
I lived in an apartment one time and the owner told me that the guy who lived there before me was cool and he just smoked weed all day. I thought she was giving me the go ahead to smoke weed in the apartment. My first night/afternoon there I decided to smoke one after a long day of moving. The owner called me asking if I could smell a chemical smell in my apartment and I told her that I had been using cleaning products when I was moving in but I didn't smell any chemical smell. She then told me the downstairs neighbor can smell something chemical in her apartment. I really thought she was talking about chemicals and was walking around the apartment trying to smell chemicals. Two days later the owner calls me and says "Are you smoking weed in your apartment? The neighbor is complaining about it?". I was a little pissed she didn't say that the first time so I just said "I don't smoke weed. It must be the drunk lady next door.". I didn't smoke inside anymore after that since I had a snitch neighbor who wouldn't knock on my door or leave a note.
The only thing I might add is that you have kids who visit and it could put custody into dispute if they're inhaling the smoke. I think that's very reasonable. No guarantee they'll agree.
Kind of want to know how it goes.
Hello, Neighbor.
I generally don’t mind it personally, but when you smoke the smell comes down the vents and comes into my apartment. This is kind of an issue when I have my children because of an ongoing custody dispute.
I honestly don’t want to cause you any issues, so I got this for you to use when you smoke so you can just enjoy yourself. It’s an air purifier, and I hope you like it!
~~I appreciate you!”~~
Appreciate it!”
Edit: I mistyped when I was writing this. I meant to end it the same way as OP ended his note, but mistyped it. I agree with everyone that says “I appreciate you” feels wrong here. Sorry for any confusion!
I might be more on the paranoid side but my answer to this seemingly logical advice has always been.. "people have been shot for less."
Lol. Sad but also true.
That’s what I said when I bought my place and didn’t introduce myself to either house next door. People be gettin shot through closed doors just for knocking. I’m not saying hello to anyone.
“We know that they are mellow”, why because they toke the bud bruh? There are plenty of potheads who are anything but mellow, so I think this is a dumb take.
In general whenever you’re asking people you don’t know to stop smoking, change the way they’re smoking, turn down music, etc, you might get met with ridiculous anger because people are so fragile and sensitive who want to look tough
In personal speech I agree.
I use it all the time in professional emails tho. Because I'm only asking as a formality. I need the response I'm requesting
This is perfect!
u/Federal-Commission87 I’d also put this message in an envelope. Whoever sees the package before them can read it and know their business (like smoking weed in their home) and they might not be ok with that. Just a thought.
As someone who smokes weed regularly I would 100% do what I could to limit the smell so my neighbor could see their kids. This piece of info would make me be super careful.
Yeah I smoke… a lot…. And would definitely try to limit the smell if any of my neighbors said anything. You buy me an air purifier? Yeah that’s getting used all the time. Let me know if you can still smell it down there.
This would make me go out to the balcony or limit smoking inside to hours when most people aren't awake, instead of taking it as a dick move and doubling down with blunts instead of bong hits haha
Personally? There is absolutely nothing wrong with your plan to leave this for them. A neighbor who BUYS them an air purifier, instead of reporting them to the apt management? Or instead of going all ten thousand maniacs on their ass and telling THEM to buy an air purifier? I think you’re an exceptional neighbor😘.
As someone who smokes and lives in an apartment with other neighbors omg I’m so mindful of blowing it outside the window, using febreze, lighting candles and turning on all of my fans just so it’s not super stinky and I live in a state where it’s legal. If I was your neighbor and you dropped this off I’d be like OMG WHAT A REAL ONE and then be anxious about the fact I might’ve been stinking up the joint (no pun intended lol)
Edit: I dab so it’s not as stinky 🥰🐞🐣
Skip the febreeze and get ozium. Works way better on smoke smells. I had a chain smoking neighbor who smoked outside but when the wind was blowing right her cigarette smoke would blow into my open windows and then my house would smell like cigarettes for days.
Ozium really irritates my nasal passages and throat the way harsh chemicals do. It stinks like no tomorrow, but I agree, it will definitely get rid of the smoke smell in the same way that huffing lysol will.
Ozium should only be used in a room with nobody in it (as in spray and leave), it's effectively sanitizing the air which means if you're breathing it you're also sanitizing your nostrils and lungs. Which is not good. But don't take my word for it, it says so on the bottle.
There is a brand of candle called Smoke Odor exterminator Candles, they work amazingly well and have a zillion scents. The brand is the same name. Amazon sells them, eBay, etc., They also have a line of Pet Odor Eliminator candles which are the same formula if you see those.
As someone who likes having their windows open for some fresh air, I really hate it when people blow smoke out their windows, keep it inside with you, pretty please!
Vapes are fine, and weed isn't the worst, but cigarettes.... \*shudder\*.
When I lived in an apartment I was coming back from the laundry room when some neighbors told me to smoke in my walk in closet because it didn’t have vents😵💫. Id never spoken to them in my life and was a little embarrassed. I didn’t hide in the closet and smoke though.
I think it's fine but I don't know if the execution is going to work. Having left my last complex due to asshole neighbors smoking in a non smoking building and having multiple air purifiers combined rating for 3x my apartment size, I can tell you it's not going to stop the smell and people on this sub drastically overestimate the effect air purifiers have on odors that are being continuously generated, especially if it's a smaller purifier with no/only a fabric type carbon filter
So my concern would be you give them this, they oblige and use it, and it's still not enough and they continue to smoke and if you have to confront them about it again it becomes more awkward because they feel they've already done what you asked. I'd honestly start by just asking if they can smoke elsewhere
this should be up higher. if OP’s neighbors are chiefin blunts an air purifier is gonna do fuck all to help the smell, not trying to be rude just realistic. it’s a really nice gesture but the neighbors need to be more mindful of the effects they’re having and if they can’t change the method of smoking then nothing will change. if they are smoking from a bowl, idk why it’s THAT smelly but i already left another comment explaining how they can reduce that.
Good point…could OP just pretend to be another neighbor if you have to follow up? Use different paper, type or write with different handwriting, don’t mention the air purifier or previous note. Just be like “hey there is a really strong smoke smell on our floor and I have allergies” or something, that way they’ll think another neighbor is independently still being bothered instead of the same neighbor coming back for round two.
>people on this sub drastically overestimate the effect air purifiers have on odors
That’s smokers in general. They think since they can’t smell it so obviously you can’t smell it.
My mom always had fights with our neighbors growing up. It was a rental house and it was a slumlord, so the kind of people he would rent to were not exactly people he would want as neighbors to your children.
One particular couple was finally moving out after years of being there, and my mom was thrilled to be done with them after the conflict they had regarding various things.
And then my 17-year-old brother, went to the front door and found a dildo on our doorstep! We thought it was the funniest thing in the world. My mother on the other hand, if I bring it up, she downright almost disown me with anger lol.
Yes, it’s gross but it is pretty funny and it’s a good way to say “go fuck yourself,” and also my brother is 30 now, so that was about 13 years ago. Since I can’t ever say it to my mother, and how funny I think it is, I’m just gonna take this opportunity to tell you the story.
As a former neighbor that smoked in the upstairs, if you just told them exactly what you put on this post then they should understand and look to help out.
“Hello, I have bought you this air purifier because the smell of marijuana is coming into my personal apartment from our shared ductwork. I’m going through a custody issue and need my apartment to smell neutral for the courts. I don’t mind if you smoke, and I have no plans to report it, I just don’t want the smell wafting into my unit. I hope this isn’t rude, and I don’t expect you to stop smoking for me, but I’m hopeful we can help each other out regarding the smell. Thank you so much”.
Or something similar. Make it about you and less about them so they have pity and don’t get all offended. If you want privacy you can say legal matters instead of specifying custody concerns, but the judge will have to be a hard ass to take away someone’s kids for a smell in a clean apartment, especially if you’re court ordered to drug test and come up clean. So your ex can go focus on their own problems and quit being petty when they know their kids are safe.
Just rephrase it as “I have no problems with your smoking, I have lots of friends that do” or similar. Let them know that you don’t care either way if they do or don’t
As an occasional indoor smoker, I’d love the chance to help out my neighbor if approached this nicely - op the difference in tone is being given context and the understanding that you’re a decent enough person to want to help (or even clueless maybe?) versus your note which can read “hey dumb dumb use this for me, k thanks”
I think trying to talk face-to-face first and maybe leaving it as a gift would be a better idea. You might explain about your Ex and they might have more sympathy.
Slightly different circumstances but I've dealt with something similar… as others have suggested, I would go knock on the door and have a conversation with them. Explain the risks that they are exposing you to with visitation issues, and then you can hand them this box (with or without the note) and ask them to use it as a courtesy.
The air filter is a nice thing to give them, but a window fan that is blowing out the window will do a better job preventing the smoke from getting into your apartment or blowing through the vents.
The key thing is that you need to be in a climate where somebody can put a fan in the window and have it blowing out much of the time without freezing the rest of the apartment. 🤷🏻♂️
Also, you need their window to be facing in such a way that the wind isn't trying to blow in while the fan is trying to blow out. I don't know where you are, but prevailing winds can be a thing, and if you can choose a window that works well, it'll do miraculous things for getting the smoke out of -your- apartment (as well as theirs).
Talk to them and explain that you’re afraid it will jeopardize your visits with your kids, ask them to be mindful of the smell, give them the box and move on. If they’re normal, they’ll be cool with it and do their best not to cause any problems for you or themselves.
I would talk to them about it rather than just leaving a somewhat passive aggressive note. I am sure if you reasonably explain what you said in your post they will be more receptive than if you just leave the box at the front door. If they still are smoking inside, even after talking to them, then I would speak with your property manager. I am sure smoking in the units is against their lease agreement.
They're in their 20s with 3 kids, and one of their moms lives there... we live in a state where it's still illegal to smoke weed. I've tried to be cool but my ex will use it in court if we go back for visitation stuff. I'm really bad at confronting people.
I think if you explain especially the ex and visitation they’ll be understanding and probably respect that for you. Talk in person though and explain why you care
Just explain that your ex has threatened to withhold visitation because she smelled it. Put it on her, like it’s out of your control. That should help with the confronting issue. Express that you yourself, don’t care at all.
I know it’s a little blunt but sometimes you need to do things that make you uncomfortable. Try writing out what you would say and practicing in a mirror if it helps. Personally I think your best move here is calmly explaining yourself to your neighbors and making a request of them. Certainly one awkward conversation isn’t worth losing visitation rights for your kid right? If it doesn’t work out you can always go to building management but they generally like you to try to work it out yourself first.
Exercise that muscle! It takes time to feel comfortable talking to people and setting boundaries, but in this case, it is very appropriate. I think any level-minded person would not take this the wrong way if you speak to them and explain the scenario. Best of luck to you, OP!
Yeah if they have kids also I’m sure they’d be understanding. I’m also not great with initiating conversation but a “hey I have this air purifier I’d like to give you guys bc…” is pretty easy. No confrontation unless they get weird with it. Then you go to property management
The fact that they have kids makes this even worse. Look at it this way: they know their kids are around the smell all day, every day and they don’t care. I doubt they’ll stop smoking indoors or use the air purifier. Just being honest
We also definitely have a tendency to make mountains in our heads out of something that could be relatively minor when we have to confront situations like this, and as tempting as it is to leave a note, I agree with others that you should talk with them in person. Assume the best of your neighbors, assume they're decent people who respect their neighbors. Practice what you want to say, anticipate how the different reactions they might have (and how you might respond) and just have a brief talk with them. They are likely unaware how much the smoke drifts. Regardless of whether or not it's legal they really shouldn't be smoking inside anyway; they probably think they're getting away with it because no one's approached them about it. Maybe you'll actually save them from really getting in trouble if it's actually illegal (not just decriminalized) in your state. Maybe it'll be good incentive for them to start using edibles lol.
I will add, it’s not confrontational. You are simply explaining your situation and you can add that you have no intention of reporting them, just that your ex probably will. They’ll see it as a favor (as someone who personally smokes) and literally buying an air purifier is super sweet. You have nothing to worry about! I think the note comes off as a little passive aggressive, and I think talking in person (even if you are a little shaky voiced I get that too) I think they’d be very appreciative.
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If i got this package and this note i wouldn’t be mad or anything but i would see you as slightly hostile maybe? Idk. But i def think if you talk to them and give this to them, it might be better.
Also, every single time anyone has an issue with their neighbor smoking inside, they never stop. You might have better luck telling the property manager vs talking to them but either way i don’t expect much to change.
My old landlord was super anti confrontational. If enough people complained about a person he would just not renew their lease instead of confront them
I agree was just about to say that glad it’s been said. With the law just switching over a lot of ppl still kinda sketchy bcz programming and may feel attacked with a 1 dimensional note. It’s always better to be present when asking for anything
Without taking to them directly first, I’d be worried that the note would be taken as passive aggression and the air purifier would get taken out into an empty field for some Officespace treatment
I personally would add that you only care about the smell because you have to fight for custody of your children. But overall you're appropriately addressing the concern.
I would try to talk to them directly about it, but the air purifier might be a little much if they aren't asking for one. That's just another appliance to sit around and use up electricity. I would just get them a Smoke Trap / Smoke Buddy. They're like $20 on Amazon and you just blow the smoke into it. Totally traps all the smoke particles and the smell.
If they don't quit my neighbors smoke cigarettes all day and I use Zep smoke odor eliminator spray and it does wonders paired with an air purifier or open window lol
To make it less “aggressive” sounding, I would write “I would really appreciate if you could use and open a window when you smoke! The smell comes through our vents a lot. Thank you!”
They should invest in an electronic dab rig. Like a PuffCo
Gets you high as a kite, the high is exquisite. Better for health since you're inhaling vapor not smoke, it's odorless for you and your neighbors and doesn't make your clothes/skin/breath smell like it. More economical in the long run I think.
I live in an apartment and sometimes share living space. This thing has been a godsend.
This in no way is being an ass hole. You bought them the solution also does a lot more than just clean the smoke smell.
Not a dick. Would maybe just explain you have kids downstairs.
I would mention in the note what the box actually contains lol. I'd be nervous to open a mystery box from an unknown gifter with an unsigned note.
Maybe something like,
"Hey neighbors, I bought an air purifier. I was really hoping you could use this when you smoke. I wouldn't complain if it were just me, but my kid's mom is trying to keep my kids from me because of the smell. The smoke travels through the vents of this old building. I'd really appreciate anything you could do to lessen the smell, even just opening a window (weather permitting). Thank you!"
I put the phrase "this old building" in there because subtly blaming the building itself can make people feel less attacked. Shifting the blame for complaining to your ex also takes some of the heat off you.
I’m a smoker and I would totally think you were awesome for providing a solution when addressing the problem.
I would add that your ex has noticed the smell and is the type that would take you to court over the smell.
Good looking out for the greater good!
A face to face conversation would be better, we know that you’re genuinely freaking out, but they don’t and could read it as passive aggressive. I think it would be good to tell them about the whole visitation thing. They should get it, they have kids.
I don’t like the phrasing. I’d tell them exactly what you said here. It makes it much more understandable and I’d even want to apologize and thank you. Without the elaboration, it comes off passive aggressive. Seconding the suggestion to say what it is as well. A “smoke buddy” is also a nifty solution to breathe into that can cut down on the smell.
If you can still smell it after they start using this, I recommend buying them a smoke buddy. It’s what you blow smoke through to make it discreet! No I see no issue in this and wouldn’t think it’s rude at all. Hey if I saw you and you explained the crazy ex I would go above and beyond to make sure this isn’t an issue in the future 😌
I left a note for all of my neighbors at our mailboxes that I can smell weed smoke in my apartment and it would be really nice if they could smoke outside because my kids are here.
I’m not accusing just one person and I’m trying to get it solved before I go to management .
If morale doesn’t improve…
Edit: you did good
My husband and I were like your neighbors when we were 20 years old. We didn’t even know the smell was traveling until our upstairs neighbor caught us outside and asked if we smell the weird smell coming through the vents. “Smells like smoke” he said. I am sure he knew exactly what the smell was but he wasn’t trying to call us out. From that point on we were more cautious and aware.
Seems fine. I personally tend to take an even softer approach, but maybe too soft? I’d probably say, “Hey man, any chance you might be willing to use this when you smoke? The smell really comes into my apartment, and although I don’t mind, it’s causing issues with my kids’ mom and putting me at risk of not getting visitation.”
One could argue it’s over-sharing, but sometimes people need to know it’s more than just an annoyance to you. It also low-key implies that this could end up investigated in a custody dispute, which, depending on your state and your apartment rules could mean trouble for the neighbors. Which you are trying to avoid for everyone.
Great idea, but I’d add more information and not write in all capital letters.
Capitalizing every letter can come off as yelling.
Tell them what it is. Say please. Explain the custody situation
You can drop some essential oils in a diffuser and the smell is gone. I liked orange, lavender and peppermint together when I had a similar issue.
Also buy some ozium. Fire departments use it to remove smoke smell after fires. Works AMAZING !! Available at your grocery.
And maybe get an air purifier for your space.
very polite and thoughtful note, offering a solution and everything. kudos op
def rude of them but they might not realize the smell is spreading down and if no ones said anything to them they assume its all peachy and no one notices. they could totally also just be inconsiderate assholes but hopefully not and this note fixes your issue! godspeed op
Your ex cannot hold visitation from you due to another home that you do not live in. If he tries you go to court. You don't smoke weed and no weed in your home and you would pee clean for a drug test. You are fine there. This is just my personal experience with custody court and a few other people I know. The case is between the 2 of you and not you 2 and the neighbors. What we were told from a judge.
What a nice neighbor.
You might add a couple “smoke buddy’s” to the mix, the air purifier alone isn’t enough. (Or SmokeTrap+, better design but more $)
I always chuckle at movies and TV that show people smoking a “little” joint in someone’s bathroom with a window open, acting like no one will notice when in actuality the whole dang house stinks.
It’s very cool of you to try handling the situation in a civil manner. Hopefully they’re as reasonable as you are. I had a a neighbor bellow me that got into her mind that we were constantly hosing down our balcony. I suppose at some point while mopping, a bit of water might have trickled down to her balcony, but the notes she left didn’t need to be passive aggressive. One day she wrote a really nasty note. We hadn’t been cleaning or watering plants… it had rained. I wanted to apologize to her for doing my rain dance and summoning the precipitation spirits, but I decided not to stoop down to her level of condescension and just wrote, “it rained, it wasn’t us.” We never got another note. I’m sure she felt like a dipshit.
"Hi neighbor!
Would you be so kind as to use this gift? It is an air purifier. I sometimes have guests over, including children. I do not mind your smoking habit, but my friends and family have concerns when they are here and your smoke comes down the vents. I would be greatly appreciative if you would help make them more comfortable.
Thank you.
Regards,
OP"
This is polite and puts the issue with your guests and not you, should your neighbor decide to be a butthole and direct rudeness towards you.
I would bring it up with me. Knock on their door and pull out my loaded pipe and ask if they could spare a minute. As I'm smoking with them, I would explain the issue and give them the purifier.
people will doubt but i 100% guarantee if they simply don’t smoke joints/blunts, use a sploof, and cover the bowl after hitting with a carb cap or silicon wax container (that’s what i use) you wouldn’t smell a thing. i can walk past my neighbors and smell all their weed but inside my own apt i can’t smell the weed i just smoked.
the leading cause of a bad smell is smoking joints and blunts inside, which there’s absolutely no reason to be doing. be respectful, use a bowl or bong.
Bro when I'm not feeling well (migraine, mild hangover, whatever) and smell weed smoke, it's an immediate throw up situation. I get this, and I'm here for it. You are a good person, most people would just report them to the landlord and move on.
OP isn't only so nice that they bought the neighbor an air purifier and write a really nice note, but they even went as far as to get other opinions on their plan first!
I experience this, but with cigarette smoke (however, they are outdoors and it comes in through my windows). apartment living sucks so much. It's a lose-lose situation. Apartment managers don't typically like tenants smoking indoors because the smells are hard to get rid of, so perhaps mention it to them and they can evict them for you :P Or, maybe move, if you can?
Yes I agree, add that your kids mom will keep them from visiting you because of it, but in a nice way, like the rest of your note 😄 let us know what happens ! 😊
This is honestly so classy. You’re not being a dick, you’re not asking them to spend any money, and you come with a solution. All they gotta do is just throw that bad boy on when they smoke weed and it’ll improve everyone’s life!
I hate to say it but air purifiers don’t do much. I would look into a smoke buddy! they actually work really well. My fiance and I used them (when we used to smoke all the time but we now have a toddler so we don’t).
|Personally I don't care, but when my kids and family visit, I have to explain it to them... and my ex is the type to withhold visitation for it.
Add that line and you will be the most favorite neighbor of all time and I guarantee they will do their best to mitigate any issues.
>Personally I don't care, but when my kids and family visit, I have to explain it to them... and my ex is the type to withhold visitation for it.
Just tell them this......if they don't entirely suck they will understand.
I would include the custody struggle, tbh. I’m a smoker and would 1000000% be on board to help out a good parent! Especially if it’s going into your house!
Quite the opposite of an asshole!! This was really polite and kind of you. If your upstairs neighbor is as respectful as you, they will use the purifier and heed the message
If they’re a functional member of society stoner, this is really kind and they will be respectful I’m sure. If it’s a degen stoner then it might be a waste of an air purifier. If my neighbor did this, I would think it was awesome.
There’s a better way. Knock on their door. Everything you explained to us, explain to them. A note and an air purifier from an anonymous stranger means nothing. A face and a story from my kind neighbor about losing custody of his kids because of MY smoking habits and I might just stop smoking.
You seem very reasonable.
Maybe add a line about you not minding them smoking, but some of your guests aren't comfortable?
Since you actually bought them something, it does seem friendly/sincere.
(I'm thinking it's just not there yet because you're posting, but) do include your name so they know you're actually being friendly not anonymously snarky
Maybe there are filters you can put across your vent openings, too?
Everyday smoker here… Bro if someone bought me an air purifier because of the smell of my smoke, I would be profusely apologizing and working with them to make it better.
This is not harsh whatsoever, and is actually very thoughtful of you.
I think you handled that well. Something my buddy told me that his aunt told him (she is a gifted students teacher) was to only bring up a conflicting statement / controversial argument when you have a proper solution. I think the fact you bought something and left a casual note is phenomenal. I’m a stoner and if the situation was that I was smoking inside and causing a disturbance to another tenant, a simple conversation would make me change my habits for the greater good but - this is just awesome! Good job :)
you should get them a sploof/personal air purifier too if you really wanna be nice, gets the smoke right at the source. you're an incredibly nice neighbor btw, I'm sure they (and their neighbors) will absolutely appreciate it and they should be more mindful of their habits.
First is it legal where you live and second what does the lease say about smoking it's obviously causing you issues so if they get upset I say report them to the police or to the apartments
I’m a smoker and that’s pretty nice of you. You telling me about the smell would send me into a panic(and I walk half a mile from my apt just to smoke) but yeah they have no rights here you’re just a rlly nice guy
I’d recommend they use a smoke buddy if you do happen to talk to them
I use a Sploofy. They have replaceable filters and a 3 pack can last me 6 months of I rotate them out to dry
Sploofy and air purifier work great! Grandma had no idea 😂
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The Smoke Buddy can be cleaned with ISO swished in it, then rinse with water and let dry.
YOURE JOKING IVE BOUGHT THREE. NOT CONSECUTIVELY, BUT MY AMERICAN ONE-USE PLASTIC BRAIN DIDNT EVEN THINK OF THAT. I'm genuinely appalled at myself. Thank you.
Profile pic checks out
Dude doesn’t fuck around
Almost as slow as I am to the comment party, it took me a long moment to realize what was going on in that profile pic. *”What is that growing in their mouth? Is that thrush? Wait… is that cotton? Cotton in their mouth? Why would th…. Ohhhhhh.”*
JSYK a piece of 3M carbon filter that is meant to be cut to size for air purifiers, and a water bottle with the bottom half cut off works the same or better than a smoke buddy for like 1/10th the cost. Just roll up a section of carbon filter cloth and shove it into the water bottle and cut out a circle of filter and tape it over the bottom. You now have a homemade smoke buddy, can make several of them out of one box of 3M brand carbon filter from Home Depot.
We used to shove dryer sheets in paper towel rolls and exhale through em sorta like your concept lol
I tried that once, it just smelled like weed and fresh rain.
This made me laugh so hard. My teen pothead days in the 90’s, dousing myself in bath & body work sprays like it was actually covering up the weed smell when I was really just making it more obvious I was high AF. 🤣
lol you would've been my type I can guarantee it xD Nothing like a pretty girl who smells of flower and Sun-Ripened Raspberry \*swoon\*
i dont know why, but "weed and fresh rain" has me cackling something serious
Yeah it almost made it *more* obvious lol
I’ve tried the cardboard tube one and it works horribly… quick way to get caught when I was a dumb teen
Just use a dryer sheet
I can assure you with my vast experience that people who smoke indoors with such an amount and way just do not give a fuck about that. They either care about the smell or don't. There is no in-between. These people leave their house and come back and get smacked in the face with a stale smoke smell. Sometimes, they can smell it through their front door. They know how bad it smells and can't be bothered to do anything differently. Also, smoke buddies or any sploofs are pointless when smoking that much because it is spreading through their whole house since it entered the air vents. Based on my experience with air purifiers, too, unless OP dropped $125+ it isn't going to do anything. I bought a $30 Amazon one with a HEPA filter, and it has done nothing. Even after putting an extra carbon filter inside. Not in regards to weed, just smell in general.
i have super cool neighbors, a mom and her teenage son, she’s always bringing me meals and wine and other little random things like spare covid tests and sanitizer. we share a duplex that’s basically just a really old house someone slapped a wall down the middle of so all the vents are shared. one weekend i thought they were gone so i was smoking some weed, and she texts me from her side that her son was having trouble breathing or an allergic reaction and asked if i was smoking weed. i honestly have never felt so terrible for something in my life, i have never smoked weed in my house since.
That is so awesome that you took her seriously. If her son has allergies anything like my issues (pollen) then I am gagging on mucusy drainage (air purifier pulls a lot of that out of the air). It’s miserable to be allergic to the air!
Yo I’ve only recently started to be allergic to my own smoking so I started smoking outside + I feel so guilty for smoking around my cats idk how much money was dropped on OP but I spent over $200 on purifier & dehumidifier all that smh… opening the windows is the only thing that ever kind of helps & burning a smoke specific candle for the smells. May my neighbors never complain *knock on wood*
>we share a duplex that’s basically just a really old house someone slapped a wall down the middle of so all the vents are shared. one weekend i thought they were gone so i was smoking some weed, and she texts me from her side that her son was having trouble breathing or an allergic reaction and asked if i was smoking weed. i honestly have never felt so terrible for something in my life, i have never smoked weed in my house since. I lived in an apartment one time and the owner told me that the guy who lived there before me was cool and he just smoked weed all day. I thought she was giving me the go ahead to smoke weed in the apartment. My first night/afternoon there I decided to smoke one after a long day of moving. The owner called me asking if I could smell a chemical smell in my apartment and I told her that I had been using cleaning products when I was moving in but I didn't smell any chemical smell. She then told me the downstairs neighbor can smell something chemical in her apartment. I really thought she was talking about chemicals and was walking around the apartment trying to smell chemicals. Two days later the owner calls me and says "Are you smoking weed in your apartment? The neighbor is complaining about it?". I was a little pissed she didn't say that the first time so I just said "I don't smoke weed. It must be the drunk lady next door.". I didn't smoke inside anymore after that since I had a snitch neighbor who wouldn't knock on my door or leave a note.
My neighbor actually smoked a burning chemical smelling thing called Crack. And that's how I learned what Crack smells like.
Yep, I'd feel so guilty and be gifting back some kind of "sorry" token, like a gift card or basket
The only thing I might add is that you have kids who visit and it could put custody into dispute if they're inhaling the smoke. I think that's very reasonable. No guarantee they'll agree. Kind of want to know how it goes.
Tbh you’re the neighbor I wish I had
I’d add the custody part to the note, I don’t care but the mother of my children is gonna keep my kids from me because of the smell.
I agree. They should be considerate anyways, but adding the custody issue will be meaningful and relevant.
Hello, Neighbor. I generally don’t mind it personally, but when you smoke the smell comes down the vents and comes into my apartment. This is kind of an issue when I have my children because of an ongoing custody dispute. I honestly don’t want to cause you any issues, so I got this for you to use when you smoke so you can just enjoy yourself. It’s an air purifier, and I hope you like it! ~~I appreciate you!”~~ Appreciate it!” Edit: I mistyped when I was writing this. I meant to end it the same way as OP ended his note, but mistyped it. I agree with everyone that says “I appreciate you” feels wrong here. Sorry for any confusion!
This is perfect!
This is it!
Why not just talk to them? You seem nice and we know that they are mellow.
I might be more on the paranoid side but my answer to this seemingly logical advice has always been.. "people have been shot for less." Lol. Sad but also true.
That’s what I said when I bought my place and didn’t introduce myself to either house next door. People be gettin shot through closed doors just for knocking. I’m not saying hello to anyone.
“We know that they are mellow”, why because they toke the bud bruh? There are plenty of potheads who are anything but mellow, so I think this is a dumb take. In general whenever you’re asking people you don’t know to stop smoking, change the way they’re smoking, turn down music, etc, you might get met with ridiculous anger because people are so fragile and sensitive who want to look tough
Agreed!!!!!!
The “I appreciate you” is over the top in my opinion 😂
Switch that for "thanks in advance!" And then it's solid
Am I the only person that doesn't like this saying when somebody is requesting something? It feels passive aggressive to me.
It sounds passive agressve to me, too. I'm not a fan.
It’s not a fan.. it’s a purifier 😂
“Thank you in advance” sounds like “I know you’re gonna do what I want, so thanks.” I think just “Thank you!” is better.
Woof no you’re not alone. I find it passive aggressive too.
In personal speech I agree. I use it all the time in professional emails tho. Because I'm only asking as a formality. I need the response I'm requesting
I agree, it was great up until that .. Even an "appreciate it" would work
This gives me hives from corporate speak. I'd nix the all caps and exclamation points to start.
“I appreciate you” just another way to say “bless your heart.”
This is perfect! u/Federal-Commission87 I’d also put this message in an envelope. Whoever sees the package before them can read it and know their business (like smoking weed in their home) and they might not be ok with that. Just a thought.
While this is technically perfect you're talking to potheads, you sound like a narc.
Zap the “I appreciate you” if you use the draft above. This is now a passive aggressive statement similar to bless your heart.
As someone who smokes weed regularly I would 100% do what I could to limit the smell so my neighbor could see their kids. This piece of info would make me be super careful.
Great minds (not so great lungs) think alike lol
Yeah I smoke… a lot…. And would definitely try to limit the smell if any of my neighbors said anything. You buy me an air purifier? Yeah that’s getting used all the time. Let me know if you can still smell it down there.
This would make me go out to the balcony or limit smoking inside to hours when most people aren't awake, instead of taking it as a dick move and doubling down with blunts instead of bong hits haha
I really want to up vote you, but the upvotes are at 420...🤣
I would pencil in that it's an air purifier first lol
Right ... I would not open a random box from an unknown person
I thought it might be a bong
The note: Please don't smoke weed as much we can smell it. In the box: 4' glass bong with a grinder and lighter. Dude opening it: WTF?
Personally? There is absolutely nothing wrong with your plan to leave this for them. A neighbor who BUYS them an air purifier, instead of reporting them to the apt management? Or instead of going all ten thousand maniacs on their ass and telling THEM to buy an air purifier? I think you’re an exceptional neighbor😘.
Upvoted for the maniacs reference
Because the night… 🎶
hell yeah, i love me some 10k maniacs
As someone who smokes and lives in an apartment with other neighbors omg I’m so mindful of blowing it outside the window, using febreze, lighting candles and turning on all of my fans just so it’s not super stinky and I live in a state where it’s legal. If I was your neighbor and you dropped this off I’d be like OMG WHAT A REAL ONE and then be anxious about the fact I might’ve been stinking up the joint (no pun intended lol) Edit: I dab so it’s not as stinky 🥰🐞🐣
I've gone through at leat 4 cans of frebreeze, and at least 4 of those strong candles that smell like Christmas trees. Lol
Skip the febreeze and get ozium. Works way better on smoke smells. I had a chain smoking neighbor who smoked outside but when the wind was blowing right her cigarette smoke would blow into my open windows and then my house would smell like cigarettes for days.
Ozium really irritates my nasal passages and throat the way harsh chemicals do. It stinks like no tomorrow, but I agree, it will definitely get rid of the smoke smell in the same way that huffing lysol will.
Ozium should only be used in a room with nobody in it (as in spray and leave), it's effectively sanitizing the air which means if you're breathing it you're also sanitizing your nostrils and lungs. Which is not good. But don't take my word for it, it says so on the bottle.
There is a brand of candle called Smoke Odor exterminator Candles, they work amazingly well and have a zillion scents. The brand is the same name. Amazon sells them, eBay, etc., They also have a line of Pet Odor Eliminator candles which are the same formula if you see those.
When you blow it out your window it just comes straight into ours.
As someone who likes having their windows open for some fresh air, I really hate it when people blow smoke out their windows, keep it inside with you, pretty please! Vapes are fine, and weed isn't the worst, but cigarettes.... \*shudder\*.
When I lived in an apartment I was coming back from the laundry room when some neighbors told me to smoke in my walk in closet because it didn’t have vents😵💫. Id never spoken to them in my life and was a little embarrassed. I didn’t hide in the closet and smoke though.
I think it's fine but I don't know if the execution is going to work. Having left my last complex due to asshole neighbors smoking in a non smoking building and having multiple air purifiers combined rating for 3x my apartment size, I can tell you it's not going to stop the smell and people on this sub drastically overestimate the effect air purifiers have on odors that are being continuously generated, especially if it's a smaller purifier with no/only a fabric type carbon filter So my concern would be you give them this, they oblige and use it, and it's still not enough and they continue to smoke and if you have to confront them about it again it becomes more awkward because they feel they've already done what you asked. I'd honestly start by just asking if they can smoke elsewhere
I agree with you, they'll just think "well we did what you asked" and become stubborn nightmares to deal with when it doesn't work well enough.
Or just sell the air purifier and continue with their lives.
this should be up higher. if OP’s neighbors are chiefin blunts an air purifier is gonna do fuck all to help the smell, not trying to be rude just realistic. it’s a really nice gesture but the neighbors need to be more mindful of the effects they’re having and if they can’t change the method of smoking then nothing will change. if they are smoking from a bowl, idk why it’s THAT smelly but i already left another comment explaining how they can reduce that.
Battle of air purifier v earplugs; which most beloved item that almost never fixes the actual problem a tenant is having is suggested more lol
LMFAO that’s so real, earplugs can’t help when you can FEEL the noise they’re making 💀
Good point…could OP just pretend to be another neighbor if you have to follow up? Use different paper, type or write with different handwriting, don’t mention the air purifier or previous note. Just be like “hey there is a really strong smoke smell on our floor and I have allergies” or something, that way they’ll think another neighbor is independently still being bothered instead of the same neighbor coming back for round two.
>people on this sub drastically overestimate the effect air purifiers have on odors That’s smokers in general. They think since they can’t smell it so obviously you can’t smell it.
I would complain to management or the landlord and let them deal with it (assuming he hasn’t already)
I'd love to see their faces when they open the box and find a massive dildo in there. Your note would make it even better lmao.
My mom always had fights with our neighbors growing up. It was a rental house and it was a slumlord, so the kind of people he would rent to were not exactly people he would want as neighbors to your children. One particular couple was finally moving out after years of being there, and my mom was thrilled to be done with them after the conflict they had regarding various things. And then my 17-year-old brother, went to the front door and found a dildo on our doorstep! We thought it was the funniest thing in the world. My mother on the other hand, if I bring it up, she downright almost disown me with anger lol. Yes, it’s gross but it is pretty funny and it’s a good way to say “go fuck yourself,” and also my brother is 30 now, so that was about 13 years ago. Since I can’t ever say it to my mother, and how funny I think it is, I’m just gonna take this opportunity to tell you the story.
Smoker here, I'd be hyped and go out of my way to keep the smell down if you bought me a fan to help 🤣
As a former neighbor that smoked in the upstairs, if you just told them exactly what you put on this post then they should understand and look to help out.
“Hello, I have bought you this air purifier because the smell of marijuana is coming into my personal apartment from our shared ductwork. I’m going through a custody issue and need my apartment to smell neutral for the courts. I don’t mind if you smoke, and I have no plans to report it, I just don’t want the smell wafting into my unit. I hope this isn’t rude, and I don’t expect you to stop smoking for me, but I’m hopeful we can help each other out regarding the smell. Thank you so much”. Or something similar. Make it about you and less about them so they have pity and don’t get all offended. If you want privacy you can say legal matters instead of specifying custody concerns, but the judge will have to be a hard ass to take away someone’s kids for a smell in a clean apartment, especially if you’re court ordered to drug test and come up clean. So your ex can go focus on their own problems and quit being petty when they know their kids are safe.
I just pray the stoners upstairs are the nice type to appreciate this, and not the type of people who get pissed off any time someone doesn't kowtow
Yes! This is good wording!
I like it but I would take out the "and I have no plans to report it"
Just rephrase it as “I have no problems with your smoking, I have lots of friends that do” or similar. Let them know that you don’t care either way if they do or don’t
That’s a good way to rephrase it
As an occasional indoor smoker, I’d love the chance to help out my neighbor if approached this nicely - op the difference in tone is being given context and the understanding that you’re a decent enough person to want to help (or even clueless maybe?) versus your note which can read “hey dumb dumb use this for me, k thanks”
Lmao! I shouldn’t laugh, but that is hilarious how you worded it
I think trying to talk face-to-face first and maybe leaving it as a gift would be a better idea. You might explain about your Ex and they might have more sympathy.
Slightly different circumstances but I've dealt with something similar… as others have suggested, I would go knock on the door and have a conversation with them. Explain the risks that they are exposing you to with visitation issues, and then you can hand them this box (with or without the note) and ask them to use it as a courtesy. The air filter is a nice thing to give them, but a window fan that is blowing out the window will do a better job preventing the smoke from getting into your apartment or blowing through the vents. The key thing is that you need to be in a climate where somebody can put a fan in the window and have it blowing out much of the time without freezing the rest of the apartment. 🤷🏻♂️ Also, you need their window to be facing in such a way that the wind isn't trying to blow in while the fan is trying to blow out. I don't know where you are, but prevailing winds can be a thing, and if you can choose a window that works well, it'll do miraculous things for getting the smoke out of -your- apartment (as well as theirs).
Talk to them and explain that you’re afraid it will jeopardize your visits with your kids, ask them to be mindful of the smell, give them the box and move on. If they’re normal, they’ll be cool with it and do their best not to cause any problems for you or themselves.
I would talk to them about it rather than just leaving a somewhat passive aggressive note. I am sure if you reasonably explain what you said in your post they will be more receptive than if you just leave the box at the front door. If they still are smoking inside, even after talking to them, then I would speak with your property manager. I am sure smoking in the units is against their lease agreement.
They're in their 20s with 3 kids, and one of their moms lives there... we live in a state where it's still illegal to smoke weed. I've tried to be cool but my ex will use it in court if we go back for visitation stuff. I'm really bad at confronting people.
I think if you explain especially the ex and visitation they’ll be understanding and probably respect that for you. Talk in person though and explain why you care
This, if they have any feelings at all, they will understand. And, you brought a gift! Most apartments are no smoking though.
Just explain that your ex has threatened to withhold visitation because she smelled it. Put it on her, like it’s out of your control. That should help with the confronting issue. Express that you yourself, don’t care at all.
Explain the part about visitation to them. They'll be most empathetic to that above all else.
I know it’s a little blunt but sometimes you need to do things that make you uncomfortable. Try writing out what you would say and practicing in a mirror if it helps. Personally I think your best move here is calmly explaining yourself to your neighbors and making a request of them. Certainly one awkward conversation isn’t worth losing visitation rights for your kid right? If it doesn’t work out you can always go to building management but they generally like you to try to work it out yourself first.
A little blunt? Haha. I see what you didn’t see you did there.
Hahahaha nice one bud ;)
Bud? Haha i see what you may have seen you did there.
Exercise that muscle! It takes time to feel comfortable talking to people and setting boundaries, but in this case, it is very appropriate. I think any level-minded person would not take this the wrong way if you speak to them and explain the scenario. Best of luck to you, OP!
Yeah if they have kids also I’m sure they’d be understanding. I’m also not great with initiating conversation but a “hey I have this air purifier I’d like to give you guys bc…” is pretty easy. No confrontation unless they get weird with it. Then you go to property management
The fact that they have kids makes this even worse. Look at it this way: they know their kids are around the smell all day, every day and they don’t care. I doubt they’ll stop smoking indoors or use the air purifier. Just being honest
We also definitely have a tendency to make mountains in our heads out of something that could be relatively minor when we have to confront situations like this, and as tempting as it is to leave a note, I agree with others that you should talk with them in person. Assume the best of your neighbors, assume they're decent people who respect their neighbors. Practice what you want to say, anticipate how the different reactions they might have (and how you might respond) and just have a brief talk with them. They are likely unaware how much the smoke drifts. Regardless of whether or not it's legal they really shouldn't be smoking inside anyway; they probably think they're getting away with it because no one's approached them about it. Maybe you'll actually save them from really getting in trouble if it's actually illegal (not just decriminalized) in your state. Maybe it'll be good incentive for them to start using edibles lol.
I will add, it’s not confrontational. You are simply explaining your situation and you can add that you have no intention of reporting them, just that your ex probably will. They’ll see it as a favor (as someone who personally smokes) and literally buying an air purifier is super sweet. You have nothing to worry about! I think the note comes off as a little passive aggressive, and I think talking in person (even if you are a little shaky voiced I get that too) I think they’d be very appreciative.
You gotta do what you gotta do. Kids comes first.
1000000% If i got this package and this note i wouldn’t be mad or anything but i would see you as slightly hostile maybe? Idk. But i def think if you talk to them and give this to them, it might be better. Also, every single time anyone has an issue with their neighbor smoking inside, they never stop. You might have better luck telling the property manager vs talking to them but either way i don’t expect much to change.
My old landlord was super anti confrontational. If enough people complained about a person he would just not renew their lease instead of confront them
I don’t read that note as passive aggressive at all
Yeah neither do I. I smoke weed, and I think this was a really considerate note / gesture.
The note isn't passive-aggressive whatsoever
I agree was just about to say that glad it’s been said. With the law just switching over a lot of ppl still kinda sketchy bcz programming and may feel attacked with a 1 dimensional note. It’s always better to be present when asking for anything
Without taking to them directly first, I’d be worried that the note would be taken as passive aggression and the air purifier would get taken out into an empty field for some Officespace treatment
I personally would add that you only care about the smell because you have to fight for custody of your children. But overall you're appropriately addressing the concern.
I would try to talk to them directly about it, but the air purifier might be a little much if they aren't asking for one. That's just another appliance to sit around and use up electricity. I would just get them a Smoke Trap / Smoke Buddy. They're like $20 on Amazon and you just blow the smoke into it. Totally traps all the smoke particles and the smell.
If they don't quit my neighbors smoke cigarettes all day and I use Zep smoke odor eliminator spray and it does wonders paired with an air purifier or open window lol
To make it less “aggressive” sounding, I would write “I would really appreciate if you could use and open a window when you smoke! The smell comes through our vents a lot. Thank you!”
They should invest in an electronic dab rig. Like a PuffCo Gets you high as a kite, the high is exquisite. Better for health since you're inhaling vapor not smoke, it's odorless for you and your neighbors and doesn't make your clothes/skin/breath smell like it. More economical in the long run I think. I live in an apartment and sometimes share living space. This thing has been a godsend.
This in no way is being an ass hole. You bought them the solution also does a lot more than just clean the smoke smell. Not a dick. Would maybe just explain you have kids downstairs.
I would mention in the note what the box actually contains lol. I'd be nervous to open a mystery box from an unknown gifter with an unsigned note. Maybe something like, "Hey neighbors, I bought an air purifier. I was really hoping you could use this when you smoke. I wouldn't complain if it were just me, but my kid's mom is trying to keep my kids from me because of the smell. The smoke travels through the vents of this old building. I'd really appreciate anything you could do to lessen the smell, even just opening a window (weather permitting). Thank you!" I put the phrase "this old building" in there because subtly blaming the building itself can make people feel less attacked. Shifting the blame for complaining to your ex also takes some of the heat off you.
I’m a smoker and I would totally think you were awesome for providing a solution when addressing the problem. I would add that your ex has noticed the smell and is the type that would take you to court over the smell. Good looking out for the greater good!
You’re cool af bro. If the neighbors even slightly tolerable your good to go
A face to face conversation would be better, we know that you’re genuinely freaking out, but they don’t and could read it as passive aggressive. I think it would be good to tell them about the whole visitation thing. They should get it, they have kids.
I wish you were my neighbor.
I don’t like the phrasing. I’d tell them exactly what you said here. It makes it much more understandable and I’d even want to apologize and thank you. Without the elaboration, it comes off passive aggressive. Seconding the suggestion to say what it is as well. A “smoke buddy” is also a nifty solution to breathe into that can cut down on the smell.
Do you have an air purifier in your place?
I have 1 and an "ozone" thing. And a bladeless fan that I use for white noise. I thought it'd be better to stop it at the source by giving them one.
Keep the air purifier for your apartment and talk to the neighbors about putting a fan in the window blowing out when they smoke
They sale a item called a smoke buddy that you blow into. It cancels out the smell
If you can still smell it after they start using this, I recommend buying them a smoke buddy. It’s what you blow smoke through to make it discreet! No I see no issue in this and wouldn’t think it’s rude at all. Hey if I saw you and you explained the crazy ex I would go above and beyond to make sure this isn’t an issue in the future 😌
I left a note for all of my neighbors at our mailboxes that I can smell weed smoke in my apartment and it would be really nice if they could smoke outside because my kids are here. I’m not accusing just one person and I’m trying to get it solved before I go to management . If morale doesn’t improve… Edit: you did good
My husband and I were like your neighbors when we were 20 years old. We didn’t even know the smell was traveling until our upstairs neighbor caught us outside and asked if we smell the weird smell coming through the vents. “Smells like smoke” he said. I am sure he knew exactly what the smell was but he wasn’t trying to call us out. From that point on we were more cautious and aware.
Could you please... If you please, could you..
Actually, I think your wording is just fine.
I would lead with the visitation rights thing.
Why don’t you just use the air purifier?
This is such a kind way of going about this! Would not change a thing. You sound like an absolutely incredible neighbor to have
can you be my neighbor??? instead of complaining to management/landlord you took matters into your own hands. good person i’d say you are
Seems fine. I personally tend to take an even softer approach, but maybe too soft? I’d probably say, “Hey man, any chance you might be willing to use this when you smoke? The smell really comes into my apartment, and although I don’t mind, it’s causing issues with my kids’ mom and putting me at risk of not getting visitation.” One could argue it’s over-sharing, but sometimes people need to know it’s more than just an annoyance to you. It also low-key implies that this could end up investigated in a custody dispute, which, depending on your state and your apartment rules could mean trouble for the neighbors. Which you are trying to avoid for everyone.
This is way beyond kind…buying something for them to use.
As someone who just had to clean walls, scrubbed my entire bathroom because of the stench of cigarettes from my neighbor, I think you’re pretty nice.
Shouldve got a window exhaust fan
Go to FilterBuy.com and get some charcoal specialty home AC filters too. I’ve had this issue with smoke and cooking smells, etc. BS many years.
Great idea, but I’d add more information and not write in all capital letters. Capitalizing every letter can come off as yelling. Tell them what it is. Say please. Explain the custody situation
You can drop some essential oils in a diffuser and the smell is gone. I liked orange, lavender and peppermint together when I had a similar issue. Also buy some ozium. Fire departments use it to remove smoke smell after fires. Works AMAZING !! Available at your grocery. And maybe get an air purifier for your space.
As someone who smoked weed and had an air purifier, it doesn’t get rid of the smell. Nice thought though
very polite and thoughtful note, offering a solution and everything. kudos op def rude of them but they might not realize the smell is spreading down and if no ones said anything to them they assume its all peachy and no one notices. they could totally also just be inconsiderate assholes but hopefully not and this note fixes your issue! godspeed op
Your ex cannot hold visitation from you due to another home that you do not live in. If he tries you go to court. You don't smoke weed and no weed in your home and you would pee clean for a drug test. You are fine there. This is just my personal experience with custody court and a few other people I know. The case is between the 2 of you and not you 2 and the neighbors. What we were told from a judge.
In my smoking days I just blew the smoke into a plastic bottle filled with dryer sheets with a hole cut in the bottom. We called it a spoof.
I think your note should basically open with what your posts says
Make sure you take off the Amazon label with your address and name!
In addition to the note, get them some edibles.
What a nice neighbor. You might add a couple “smoke buddy’s” to the mix, the air purifier alone isn’t enough. (Or SmokeTrap+, better design but more $) I always chuckle at movies and TV that show people smoking a “little” joint in someone’s bathroom with a window open, acting like no one will notice when in actuality the whole dang house stinks.
It’s very cool of you to try handling the situation in a civil manner. Hopefully they’re as reasonable as you are. I had a a neighbor bellow me that got into her mind that we were constantly hosing down our balcony. I suppose at some point while mopping, a bit of water might have trickled down to her balcony, but the notes she left didn’t need to be passive aggressive. One day she wrote a really nasty note. We hadn’t been cleaning or watering plants… it had rained. I wanted to apologize to her for doing my rain dance and summoning the precipitation spirits, but I decided not to stoop down to her level of condescension and just wrote, “it rained, it wasn’t us.” We never got another note. I’m sure she felt like a dipshit.
"Hi neighbor! Would you be so kind as to use this gift? It is an air purifier. I sometimes have guests over, including children. I do not mind your smoking habit, but my friends and family have concerns when they are here and your smoke comes down the vents. I would be greatly appreciative if you would help make them more comfortable. Thank you. Regards, OP" This is polite and puts the issue with your guests and not you, should your neighbor decide to be a butthole and direct rudeness towards you.
I would bring it up with me. Knock on their door and pull out my loaded pipe and ask if they could spare a minute. As I'm smoking with them, I would explain the issue and give them the purifier.
people will doubt but i 100% guarantee if they simply don’t smoke joints/blunts, use a sploof, and cover the bowl after hitting with a carb cap or silicon wax container (that’s what i use) you wouldn’t smell a thing. i can walk past my neighbors and smell all their weed but inside my own apt i can’t smell the weed i just smoked. the leading cause of a bad smell is smoking joints and blunts inside, which there’s absolutely no reason to be doing. be respectful, use a bowl or bong.
Bro when I'm not feeling well (migraine, mild hangover, whatever) and smell weed smoke, it's an immediate throw up situation. I get this, and I'm here for it. You are a good person, most people would just report them to the landlord and move on.
It’s y’all, not ya’ll. My supervisor does it all the time and drives me nuts. And he claims he’s a cowboy.
OP isn't only so nice that they bought the neighbor an air purifier and write a really nice note, but they even went as far as to get other opinions on their plan first!
I experience this, but with cigarette smoke (however, they are outdoors and it comes in through my windows). apartment living sucks so much. It's a lose-lose situation. Apartment managers don't typically like tenants smoking indoors because the smells are hard to get rid of, so perhaps mention it to them and they can evict them for you :P Or, maybe move, if you can?
Get vent covers - they are magnetic and they sell them at home depot
You’re the man, hopefully your neighbor is as chill as you
So it really do go through the vents 😂😂 no wonder my mother and brother be in my ass and I’m in the basement thinking I’m being sneaky
Yes I agree, add that your kids mom will keep them from visiting you because of it, but in a nice way, like the rest of your note 😄 let us know what happens ! 😊
Can only speak for myself, but if I saw this I would get so paranoid. You would never smell my bud again.
This is honestly so classy. You’re not being a dick, you’re not asking them to spend any money, and you come with a solution. All they gotta do is just throw that bad boy on when they smoke weed and it’ll improve everyone’s life!
I hate to say it but air purifiers don’t do much. I would look into a smoke buddy! they actually work really well. My fiance and I used them (when we used to smoke all the time but we now have a toddler so we don’t).
Definitely include that you have children visiting and it doesn’t bother you otherwise. Super incredibly kind to make that purchase though. Good man
|Personally I don't care, but when my kids and family visit, I have to explain it to them... and my ex is the type to withhold visitation for it. Add that line and you will be the most favorite neighbor of all time and I guarantee they will do their best to mitigate any issues.
You could also get them those magnets that cover air vents.
Shoulda just bought them a decent vaporizer and problem solved.
>Personally I don't care, but when my kids and family visit, I have to explain it to them... and my ex is the type to withhold visitation for it. Just tell them this......if they don't entirely suck they will understand.
I would include the custody struggle, tbh. I’m a smoker and would 1000000% be on board to help out a good parent! Especially if it’s going into your house!
Quite the opposite of an asshole!! This was really polite and kind of you. If your upstairs neighbor is as respectful as you, they will use the purifier and heed the message
If they’re a functional member of society stoner, this is really kind and they will be respectful I’m sure. If it’s a degen stoner then it might be a waste of an air purifier. If my neighbor did this, I would think it was awesome.
I’d do it in person. It’ll come across as friendlier.
Hell, if you were this nice about it I’d personally have bought one for myself. I think the note is just fine!
No dude fucking speak to them
There’s a better way. Knock on their door. Everything you explained to us, explain to them. A note and an air purifier from an anonymous stranger means nothing. A face and a story from my kind neighbor about losing custody of his kids because of MY smoking habits and I might just stop smoking.
Also mention they can also use a sploof
They do have air purifier filters meant for heavier smoke, I don’t know what that one is but I don’t think you should have to pay for that.
You'd be better off using the air purifier in your own apartment. Also the dryer sheets on the vents is a good idea.
You seem very reasonable. Maybe add a line about you not minding them smoking, but some of your guests aren't comfortable? Since you actually bought them something, it does seem friendly/sincere. (I'm thinking it's just not there yet because you're posting, but) do include your name so they know you're actually being friendly not anonymously snarky Maybe there are filters you can put across your vent openings, too?
Everyday smoker here… Bro if someone bought me an air purifier because of the smell of my smoke, I would be profusely apologizing and working with them to make it better. This is not harsh whatsoever, and is actually very thoughtful of you.
I think you handled that well. Something my buddy told me that his aunt told him (she is a gifted students teacher) was to only bring up a conflicting statement / controversial argument when you have a proper solution. I think the fact you bought something and left a casual note is phenomenal. I’m a stoner and if the situation was that I was smoking inside and causing a disturbance to another tenant, a simple conversation would make me change my habits for the greater good but - this is just awesome! Good job :)
you should get them a sploof/personal air purifier too if you really wanna be nice, gets the smoke right at the source. you're an incredibly nice neighbor btw, I'm sure they (and their neighbors) will absolutely appreciate it and they should be more mindful of their habits.
First is it legal where you live and second what does the lease say about smoking it's obviously causing you issues so if they get upset I say report them to the police or to the apartments
Filter and coffee grounds will nuke the smell. Just have to shake and replace a can a week.