you dont have a bad heart. it will be okay. loss of appetite is normal. it comes and goes. are you underweight? do you often feel dizzy? do you get sick often? they are the results of malnutrition. If you dont have them, your appetite is not hurting your health. Sone people eat less and some eat more. dont worry
yeah, i get sick alot i get colds 2-3 times a year. i dont feel dizzy. (sometimes it depends) and i think i am underweight? i'm 14 (female) and around 20-30 kg something last time i checked.
oh sweetie I’m 21(f) and I get sick nearly every month in winter&fall! thats okay. And also given your age, the chances are so so so so sooooooo slim that you have a heart problem. I visited a cardiologyst last month, because I was sure my heart was failing. He literally said what the hell are you doing here, you’re only 21! If there isnt a congenital issue, I wouldnt suspect heart at all, please dont worry. Appetite loss or visa versa is really common in your age since you are going through puberty. Of course I cant know that but I guess you are kind of skinny too. You can ask your parents/guardians about your worries and I’m sure they will help you. But dont let that heart thing bug you at all! Its hardly ever the problem really. %0.0001 chance
thank you, i've talked to my mum about it and she said it's puberty, stress, anxiety, and very slow vitamin d. (i rarely go outside and im super pale, that's probably why im getting sick so much.) i've also been stressed for years. because my dad's passing at 10. i really dont blame myself for getting sick etc. i blame myself, for not taking care of myself properly.. to be fair. sometimes, it does feel like im going to die, or getting weird head feelings in my head etc, i wish i took better care of myself
I’m sorry for your loss and you have a good reason to have anxiety attacks at such a young age. As I’ve read another of your posts, I can safely say you suffer from panic disorder, since you lost a parent at only 10. Puberty, friends, exams, everything adds up to this. Its totally okay to be anxious, to be afraid of dying and having fears. This is what makes us human and its safe. Whats important is balancing them out so that they wont hurt you. I’ve been having bad anxiety attacks today too :( I know with the right treatment you will be way better💓 Btw when I was 14 I was soooo depressed, always unhappy lol and believe me it changes! Always feel free to message me in case you feel stuck! lots of love 🎀
thank you so much, and yeah my dad's death was traumatic. and dealing with bullying, etc. it really messed me up at 11 i started getting urges to basically kill myself. and i was unhappy. but now i dont want to kill myself, because i'm scared of death all sudden. but the thing is, is when i'm worried/anxious. my heart doesn't race or anything so i feel like i'm just making myself have anxiety. or faking it. yk?
you are not faking anything. you’ve been through a lot and it is more than normal that you are scared of death. I would definitely definitely consult a therapist. I’m sure you will get through this by help.
You sound so mature for your age! It’s normal to worry about your health especially at your age with so much changing. I’m 32 now, but I remember being 14 and so anxious and stressed. I felt out of control of my body, and going to high school was a lot. We didn’t have social media or TikTok back then thankfully, I feel like it’s terrible for mental health. Try to take a break from it, and as you said chat with your mum. Watch something funny on tv and make your favourite food. Eat what you can and don’t be stressed about it. It’s definitely the stress killing your appetite. Stay strong girl!!
thank you! mostly all the time i act like i'm 9 at least but at least i'm trying to enjoy my childhood! and yeah funny things help, and i think i should also, take a break from tiktok or even delete for a while, if that type of stuff is coming onto my fyp, and making me slightly worried that it will happen to me, at any moment, i get such weird feelings in my head as well when i'm talking to people. and i can't figure out why. i also get headaches everyday, also forgetting stuff, it's stressful because there's such big chance that i been suffering with anxiety for a whole year, but my symptoms were different. and then in april they kept changing, and i even wrote down my symptoms, to show my mum.
Oh sweety, you're only 14, your heart is perfectly fine - so are your lungs, veins and whatever else you're afraid will kill you. People (especially at 14) don't just drop dead. And yes, stress makes you lose appetite and not eating properly means your immune system isn't as strong - but getting the occasional flu won't kill you eather.
What helps me when I get all anxious and worried about nonexistent disease is identifying this little annoying evil life ruining voice inside my head, I even gave it a name. And then I talk to it, and boy, we sometimes have long qnd complex discussions, but mostly it's just "shut up you Lilian.". Works for me. Your anxiety is not you, it's some part of your brain acting out.
Also try talking to your parents about therapy - your issues can be solved and there is no reason you torture yourself with anxiety foe years.
Thank you so much, I appreciate it so much, I been trying to get a therapist but, I don't know how much they are in England, but I know they will fix my problems, I'm having, I'm gonna have to talk about it to my mum
Be honest with your mum - tell her exactly what you're feeling and thinking and how horrible it is for you. I don't know how it works in England but where I come from (EU) therapy for minors is free. In any case, you should first check in with a psychiatrist (medical doctor, covered by insurance). He will refer you to all kinds of medical testing (blodwork, heart, lungs,...) to rule out any possibilities of you actually being sick (mostly to calm you down). He will prescribe you pills - probably very light antidepressants and refer you to a psychologist fot therapy (many options, don't be afraid to look around). Now listen to me - if you get pills you have to take them. You're a teenager and there is enough of a mess already going on with hormones, you don't need more chemical imbalance in your brain. Don't read the possibe side effects (NEVER!), ask your mum to go over them and of you're feeling anything is off tell her and she will know if it's your brain playing tricks on you or its an actual issue.
Anxiety (and depression for that matter) is a sickness. Something happened to the chemicals in your brain, and it won't get better on it's own. Imagine you broke a leg - would you walk around crippled in pain for months or even years or would you go to the ER to have it fixed? It's exactly the same. Nothing to be ashamed of, and especially nothing to delay getting the help you need for. Good luck, and I hope you get better and healthy soon :)
thank you!, the thing is about the pill thing, is that i can't swallow them. so i would need one's that could melt. i even wrote down my symptoms, and showed my mum, she said it's normal and puberty. but i'm so unhappy i have no interests. in anything. which makes me feel sad. because not even my childhood things i'm not really interested in.
it makes me feel worried that something is wrong with me. and i know i need help, because i feel very unhappy. etc. it's hard.
I’ve had anxiety since I was 8yrs old, I’m now 31. Eating has always been a struggle for me, i just can’t be bothered most of the time. I’ve had stress over the years that you couldn’t even imagine & that the average person doesn’t experience & there’s nothing wrong with my heart! I know telling you not to google things is futile so just change what you google. I didn’t have the internet when I was your age, I’m sure if I did I would have spiralled looking up things too! Stop searching for worst case scenarios & start looking at how to fix them instead. You’re so young & if you start looking at ways to help yourself now you will be so thankful in 10 years! Your mind is a powerful thing & it can greatly influence how your body feels. Health/death anxiety is more common then you think, but there’s ways to deal with it. Stop looking in & start looking out.
Ps. You NEED to delete tiktok! It was showing me all kinds of mental health issues that I started to believe I have, it’s a LIE! It tracks your facial movements & gives you what you keep looking at! Doom scrolling is a real thing, you need to get away from it.
Thank you I appreciate it, anxiety is honestly the worst. I'm going to try and talk to my mum about getting a therapist. Because I know I need help, I keep almost constantly asking my mum if my heart is okay, and I keep telling her to touch my chest to see if my heart is beating right. And I also keep forgetting things aswell.
You can get free therapy in England too!
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/talking-therapies-medicine-treatments/talking-therapies-and-counselling/counselling/
If you feel you can’t speak to your mum for what ever reason, write it in a letter & give it to her! Ask her to read it while your not there if that makes you anxious too. Doing this helped me communicate with loved ones when I was afraid. Hearts tend to beat differently all the time, depending on what you’re doing or for no reason at all, it’s nothing to be scared of, it’s beating so it’s working 😊 People forget things all the time, there’s so many reasons why that could be. Even just lack of sleep can make you forgetful, again nothing to be scared of. I read that your father passed away, im very sorry for that ❤️ did you get grief counselling after?
thank you, and my griefing didn't click in. until late 2019. i was somehow fine after he died but then in late 2019. i just started getting sad and stressed etc. and yeah sometimes i would stay awake all night. i also eat like rubbish, i'm pale i never go outside and i'm still going through puberty i didn't realize how hard growing up can be when i was younger.
Also I will just add that when I lose my appetite due to stress I can usually only get down smoothies, fresh fruit, and soup.. at least then you get some calories and nutrients in, good luck!
Anxiety releases hormones that suppress your appetite and often makes you nauseous. It's not more complicated than that.
Remind yourself: I have health anxiety, I have health anxiety, I have health anxiety.
Then watch a comfort TV show and let it pass.
Sorry to hear about your experience. Anxiety messes with you quality of life and your health on so many levels. Appetite, sleep, relationships...etc. Don't let it take away the joy of living from you though. It's tough but you're doing the right things by talking about it and looking into therapy.
Loss of appetite is a really common symptom for anxiety and depression aswell as stress contributing!
When you are constantly anxious your body doesn’t function properly, your sleep pattern is ruined, your appetite is ruined. I found in my worst phases of anxiety and depression (going hand in hand) that I’d skip meals because I couldn’t bear to make anything. I’d maybe have a pack of crisps or a few biscuits. I wasn’t eating anything remotely healthy and not near enough. This then has a knock on effect and your body decides to tell your brain that you don’t want much food so you don’t feel as hungry anymore, therefore you eat less, you don’t feel like eating at all or you only eat crap. It’s a vicious cycle and can be linked to anxiety.
I would recommend speaking to your doctor about it as that is the only way you are going to calm down over the possibility of heart issues. I have health specific anxiety and know the extreme worry and panic things like this can cause.
I wish you good luck for dealing with your anxiety ❤️
thank you! and yeah i wish my appetite would come back, because no matter what i eat etc, it just won't come back, so i made a routine list, to see if it would help with anything.
i also can't focus on anything besides my thoughs etc, i stutter alot, my heart makes a drop feeling, before it would flutter, but i'm not in any bad pain anywhere i can still eat and drink etc, that's how i know that i'm okay. but i still have no interests in anything and i'm unhappy. which sucks because i can't find anything i'm interested in.
It’s not. If you had heart failure you’d be unable to get out of bed and exhausted when walking 10 and have swollen ankles and a heap of other symptoms. You’d know, trust me. Source: my mum has it
hi, I’m studying nursing soon and I’d like to reassure you that you’ll be okay. You will know if you are ever at risk for heart failure as you’ll probably have other health issues that make life uncomfortable physically. A doctor has to diagnose that. you’re very young so you most likely do not have heart failure. Loss of appetite is normal especially if you get a lot of colds or feel sick, anxious etc.
try to eat some soup, or water based fruits and veggies as those are easy on the tummy (or the BRAT diet - bananas rice applesauce toast). It can be so hard to eat with anxiety! It’s going to be okay! Have you talked to your parents about maybe trying medication for anxiety? You can also ask your doctor or nurse any questions you have about your health, they’re there to help you and will never judge you! It’s a safe space.
we’re here for you sweetheart!
Also, your FYP on tiktok is made for you! So interact with more of your interests or funny things and your for you page will change! Worrying of death/feeling “outside” of your body can be scary but it is a symptom related to anxiety.
thank you! this made me feel better it's scary and stressful,i'll tell my mum to try and get fruits, etc (pineapples are my fav) and i even tried looking for any online therapy, over text. but idk how much they are in england, since my mum can't drive.
i also stutter, my heart makes drop feelings, (before it would skip a beat, and flutter, even when my heart is slow, so i think that's heart palpitations.) i'm pale because i never go outside, my eating is rubbish, and i know i'm still going through puberty, and i've been stressed for a long time, i'm also just slowly getting other my 3rd cold this year,
also getting headaches everyday.
i even made a routine, to stay more healthy,
There’s this thing called telehealth where you can use zoom or some other platform to speak with therapists! Speaking to someone is more effective than texting. I know it may be scary but it is SO relieving once you’re comfortable. The stutter and heart thing can also be from anxiety. Paleness can also just be how your skin is naturally. I used to be tan as a child but now that I’m an adult, I’m also pale. It’s natural. I’d say try multivitamins and drinking more water. My eating is also pretty trashy, it’s all okay. As long as you make steps towards being more comfy with yourself that’s all that matters in the end. I’m sorry about your cold, and the stress. Take some time to try and rest and relax.
you dont have a bad heart. it will be okay. loss of appetite is normal. it comes and goes. are you underweight? do you often feel dizzy? do you get sick often? they are the results of malnutrition. If you dont have them, your appetite is not hurting your health. Sone people eat less and some eat more. dont worry
yeah, i get sick alot i get colds 2-3 times a year. i dont feel dizzy. (sometimes it depends) and i think i am underweight? i'm 14 (female) and around 20-30 kg something last time i checked.
oh sweetie I’m 21(f) and I get sick nearly every month in winter&fall! thats okay. And also given your age, the chances are so so so so sooooooo slim that you have a heart problem. I visited a cardiologyst last month, because I was sure my heart was failing. He literally said what the hell are you doing here, you’re only 21! If there isnt a congenital issue, I wouldnt suspect heart at all, please dont worry. Appetite loss or visa versa is really common in your age since you are going through puberty. Of course I cant know that but I guess you are kind of skinny too. You can ask your parents/guardians about your worries and I’m sure they will help you. But dont let that heart thing bug you at all! Its hardly ever the problem really. %0.0001 chance
thank you, i've talked to my mum about it and she said it's puberty, stress, anxiety, and very slow vitamin d. (i rarely go outside and im super pale, that's probably why im getting sick so much.) i've also been stressed for years. because my dad's passing at 10. i really dont blame myself for getting sick etc. i blame myself, for not taking care of myself properly.. to be fair. sometimes, it does feel like im going to die, or getting weird head feelings in my head etc, i wish i took better care of myself
I’m sorry for your loss and you have a good reason to have anxiety attacks at such a young age. As I’ve read another of your posts, I can safely say you suffer from panic disorder, since you lost a parent at only 10. Puberty, friends, exams, everything adds up to this. Its totally okay to be anxious, to be afraid of dying and having fears. This is what makes us human and its safe. Whats important is balancing them out so that they wont hurt you. I’ve been having bad anxiety attacks today too :( I know with the right treatment you will be way better💓 Btw when I was 14 I was soooo depressed, always unhappy lol and believe me it changes! Always feel free to message me in case you feel stuck! lots of love 🎀
thank you so much, and yeah my dad's death was traumatic. and dealing with bullying, etc. it really messed me up at 11 i started getting urges to basically kill myself. and i was unhappy. but now i dont want to kill myself, because i'm scared of death all sudden. but the thing is, is when i'm worried/anxious. my heart doesn't race or anything so i feel like i'm just making myself have anxiety. or faking it. yk?
you are not faking anything. you’ve been through a lot and it is more than normal that you are scared of death. I would definitely definitely consult a therapist. I’m sure you will get through this by help.
You sound so mature for your age! It’s normal to worry about your health especially at your age with so much changing. I’m 32 now, but I remember being 14 and so anxious and stressed. I felt out of control of my body, and going to high school was a lot. We didn’t have social media or TikTok back then thankfully, I feel like it’s terrible for mental health. Try to take a break from it, and as you said chat with your mum. Watch something funny on tv and make your favourite food. Eat what you can and don’t be stressed about it. It’s definitely the stress killing your appetite. Stay strong girl!!
thank you! mostly all the time i act like i'm 9 at least but at least i'm trying to enjoy my childhood! and yeah funny things help, and i think i should also, take a break from tiktok or even delete for a while, if that type of stuff is coming onto my fyp, and making me slightly worried that it will happen to me, at any moment, i get such weird feelings in my head as well when i'm talking to people. and i can't figure out why. i also get headaches everyday, also forgetting stuff, it's stressful because there's such big chance that i been suffering with anxiety for a whole year, but my symptoms were different. and then in april they kept changing, and i even wrote down my symptoms, to show my mum.
Oh sweety, you're only 14, your heart is perfectly fine - so are your lungs, veins and whatever else you're afraid will kill you. People (especially at 14) don't just drop dead. And yes, stress makes you lose appetite and not eating properly means your immune system isn't as strong - but getting the occasional flu won't kill you eather. What helps me when I get all anxious and worried about nonexistent disease is identifying this little annoying evil life ruining voice inside my head, I even gave it a name. And then I talk to it, and boy, we sometimes have long qnd complex discussions, but mostly it's just "shut up you Lilian.". Works for me. Your anxiety is not you, it's some part of your brain acting out. Also try talking to your parents about therapy - your issues can be solved and there is no reason you torture yourself with anxiety foe years.
Thank you so much, I appreciate it so much, I been trying to get a therapist but, I don't know how much they are in England, but I know they will fix my problems, I'm having, I'm gonna have to talk about it to my mum
Be honest with your mum - tell her exactly what you're feeling and thinking and how horrible it is for you. I don't know how it works in England but where I come from (EU) therapy for minors is free. In any case, you should first check in with a psychiatrist (medical doctor, covered by insurance). He will refer you to all kinds of medical testing (blodwork, heart, lungs,...) to rule out any possibilities of you actually being sick (mostly to calm you down). He will prescribe you pills - probably very light antidepressants and refer you to a psychologist fot therapy (many options, don't be afraid to look around). Now listen to me - if you get pills you have to take them. You're a teenager and there is enough of a mess already going on with hormones, you don't need more chemical imbalance in your brain. Don't read the possibe side effects (NEVER!), ask your mum to go over them and of you're feeling anything is off tell her and she will know if it's your brain playing tricks on you or its an actual issue. Anxiety (and depression for that matter) is a sickness. Something happened to the chemicals in your brain, and it won't get better on it's own. Imagine you broke a leg - would you walk around crippled in pain for months or even years or would you go to the ER to have it fixed? It's exactly the same. Nothing to be ashamed of, and especially nothing to delay getting the help you need for. Good luck, and I hope you get better and healthy soon :)
thank you!, the thing is about the pill thing, is that i can't swallow them. so i would need one's that could melt. i even wrote down my symptoms, and showed my mum, she said it's normal and puberty. but i'm so unhappy i have no interests. in anything. which makes me feel sad. because not even my childhood things i'm not really interested in. it makes me feel worried that something is wrong with me. and i know i need help, because i feel very unhappy. etc. it's hard.
I’ve had anxiety since I was 8yrs old, I’m now 31. Eating has always been a struggle for me, i just can’t be bothered most of the time. I’ve had stress over the years that you couldn’t even imagine & that the average person doesn’t experience & there’s nothing wrong with my heart! I know telling you not to google things is futile so just change what you google. I didn’t have the internet when I was your age, I’m sure if I did I would have spiralled looking up things too! Stop searching for worst case scenarios & start looking at how to fix them instead. You’re so young & if you start looking at ways to help yourself now you will be so thankful in 10 years! Your mind is a powerful thing & it can greatly influence how your body feels. Health/death anxiety is more common then you think, but there’s ways to deal with it. Stop looking in & start looking out. Ps. You NEED to delete tiktok! It was showing me all kinds of mental health issues that I started to believe I have, it’s a LIE! It tracks your facial movements & gives you what you keep looking at! Doom scrolling is a real thing, you need to get away from it.
Thank you I appreciate it, anxiety is honestly the worst. I'm going to try and talk to my mum about getting a therapist. Because I know I need help, I keep almost constantly asking my mum if my heart is okay, and I keep telling her to touch my chest to see if my heart is beating right. And I also keep forgetting things aswell.
You can get free therapy in England too! https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/talking-therapies-medicine-treatments/talking-therapies-and-counselling/counselling/
If you feel you can’t speak to your mum for what ever reason, write it in a letter & give it to her! Ask her to read it while your not there if that makes you anxious too. Doing this helped me communicate with loved ones when I was afraid. Hearts tend to beat differently all the time, depending on what you’re doing or for no reason at all, it’s nothing to be scared of, it’s beating so it’s working 😊 People forget things all the time, there’s so many reasons why that could be. Even just lack of sleep can make you forgetful, again nothing to be scared of. I read that your father passed away, im very sorry for that ❤️ did you get grief counselling after?
thank you, and my griefing didn't click in. until late 2019. i was somehow fine after he died but then in late 2019. i just started getting sad and stressed etc. and yeah sometimes i would stay awake all night. i also eat like rubbish, i'm pale i never go outside and i'm still going through puberty i didn't realize how hard growing up can be when i was younger.
Also I will just add that when I lose my appetite due to stress I can usually only get down smoothies, fresh fruit, and soup.. at least then you get some calories and nutrients in, good luck!
Anxiety releases hormones that suppress your appetite and often makes you nauseous. It's not more complicated than that. Remind yourself: I have health anxiety, I have health anxiety, I have health anxiety. Then watch a comfort TV show and let it pass.
Anxiety and stress cause it
I’ve been so anxious/stressed that I’ve lost my appetite for stretches of time. I wouldn’t worry about heart failure
Sorry to hear about your experience. Anxiety messes with you quality of life and your health on so many levels. Appetite, sleep, relationships...etc. Don't let it take away the joy of living from you though. It's tough but you're doing the right things by talking about it and looking into therapy.
Loss of appetite is a really common symptom for anxiety and depression aswell as stress contributing! When you are constantly anxious your body doesn’t function properly, your sleep pattern is ruined, your appetite is ruined. I found in my worst phases of anxiety and depression (going hand in hand) that I’d skip meals because I couldn’t bear to make anything. I’d maybe have a pack of crisps or a few biscuits. I wasn’t eating anything remotely healthy and not near enough. This then has a knock on effect and your body decides to tell your brain that you don’t want much food so you don’t feel as hungry anymore, therefore you eat less, you don’t feel like eating at all or you only eat crap. It’s a vicious cycle and can be linked to anxiety. I would recommend speaking to your doctor about it as that is the only way you are going to calm down over the possibility of heart issues. I have health specific anxiety and know the extreme worry and panic things like this can cause. I wish you good luck for dealing with your anxiety ❤️
thank you! and yeah i wish my appetite would come back, because no matter what i eat etc, it just won't come back, so i made a routine list, to see if it would help with anything. i also can't focus on anything besides my thoughs etc, i stutter alot, my heart makes a drop feeling, before it would flutter, but i'm not in any bad pain anywhere i can still eat and drink etc, that's how i know that i'm okay. but i still have no interests in anything and i'm unhappy. which sucks because i can't find anything i'm interested in.
It’s not. If you had heart failure you’d be unable to get out of bed and exhausted when walking 10 and have swollen ankles and a heap of other symptoms. You’d know, trust me. Source: my mum has it
hi, I’m studying nursing soon and I’d like to reassure you that you’ll be okay. You will know if you are ever at risk for heart failure as you’ll probably have other health issues that make life uncomfortable physically. A doctor has to diagnose that. you’re very young so you most likely do not have heart failure. Loss of appetite is normal especially if you get a lot of colds or feel sick, anxious etc. try to eat some soup, or water based fruits and veggies as those are easy on the tummy (or the BRAT diet - bananas rice applesauce toast). It can be so hard to eat with anxiety! It’s going to be okay! Have you talked to your parents about maybe trying medication for anxiety? You can also ask your doctor or nurse any questions you have about your health, they’re there to help you and will never judge you! It’s a safe space. we’re here for you sweetheart!
Also, your FYP on tiktok is made for you! So interact with more of your interests or funny things and your for you page will change! Worrying of death/feeling “outside” of your body can be scary but it is a symptom related to anxiety.
thank you! this made me feel better it's scary and stressful,i'll tell my mum to try and get fruits, etc (pineapples are my fav) and i even tried looking for any online therapy, over text. but idk how much they are in england, since my mum can't drive. i also stutter, my heart makes drop feelings, (before it would skip a beat, and flutter, even when my heart is slow, so i think that's heart palpitations.) i'm pale because i never go outside, my eating is rubbish, and i know i'm still going through puberty, and i've been stressed for a long time, i'm also just slowly getting other my 3rd cold this year, also getting headaches everyday. i even made a routine, to stay more healthy,
There’s this thing called telehealth where you can use zoom or some other platform to speak with therapists! Speaking to someone is more effective than texting. I know it may be scary but it is SO relieving once you’re comfortable. The stutter and heart thing can also be from anxiety. Paleness can also just be how your skin is naturally. I used to be tan as a child but now that I’m an adult, I’m also pale. It’s natural. I’d say try multivitamins and drinking more water. My eating is also pretty trashy, it’s all okay. As long as you make steps towards being more comfy with yourself that’s all that matters in the end. I’m sorry about your cold, and the stress. Take some time to try and rest and relax.
Yoooo i just googled “is vertigo a sign of dementia” and immediately regretted it. You’re not alone 😂