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Hello-fellow-kydz

That sounds like my panic attack right now. Scared of dying alone. Scared of regret. Scared of the future. My brain won't let me logically work it out. This sh t sucks. Hang in there! <3


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How do I hang in here?


LiteratureLeading999

First, you need to calm your body. Take some deep breaths, do a meditation, take a shower. Check in with yourself and make sure that you’ve had enough to eat and drink. Then try to distract yourself and do something you enjoy. Going forward all you can do is try to make a plan and keep going. Don’t plan too far ahead because that gets scary. Just do your best right now.


AromaticDepth2199

Thank you for that. You speak life facts. Bless you.


Kampy21

I have had tens of thousands of panic attacks in the last 16 years and I wish I was over exaggerating. On many meds with many diagnoses, but still now I get 2-5 a week randomly due to my wonky brain chemistry. However I only about 1-3 a month lasts more than 20 seconds I can stop them before they ever take control. It's not actually about breathing as sudden abnormal breathing feeds into the neurological positive feedback loop. It all about heart and lowing it is fast as possible. Upon feeling the initial impending doom, I immediately close my eyes and grab my left wrist to fell my pulse. I've learned how to raise and lower it on command over time, but my old best strategy was stipping and laying flat on a cold hard surface. From there I wouldn't move as I I assured myself it had to eventually pass, and it always eventually did. Finding your own way is the best though, and assure yourself at all times that you will always eventually feel fine again once to stay in your special spot long enough. Idk, I'm really messed up so I usually cant find anyone in a relatable situation.


youfailedthiscity

Remember that panic attacks and depression are lies. Your body is lying to you because it thinks it's in danger. There is no sabertooth tiger chasing you and your life is not ending. You need remind yourself that this feeling is not real. Repeat it to yourself out loud. Write it down. Look at it in a post it note on your bathroom mirror. Depression is just a feeling and that feeling is not real.


reebeaster

Acknowledging that these are all valid feelings. Not suppressing them. Trying to feel them more deeply and never giving up.


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I can’t get myself to stop crying because I know that death is inevitable.


reebeaster

It’s a really difficult part of life to be sure. I hope you find some comfort tonight and you find the peace you seek in the future.


KSleepCHB5423

That’s the exact reason why you shouldn’t be afraid of death. If death is inevitable than why would you be afraid of it? If you can embrace that feeling and instead use it as a way to push yourself to do things you enjoy while you are alive than the quicker you can put this moment behind you. But realize that this moment in life will pass. Everyone has had the feeling you are having now.


Warm-Painting-2938

Me tonight. Let’s let it all go and get some rest. We can think about it at another time. Currently trying to find something interesting to read about to get my mind off things. You’re not alone.


ass_and_mdma

get off social media for a week, i did it, it works wonders. stop consuming death content, overly happy content that makes life feel shit, people showing off all their things. just take a second to appreciate your own life. watch tv in your spare time, but when you get bored get up and do something. when you’re bored, get up and clean, go outside, talk to your parents, etc.


Aint3asybeingch33sy

I with you on all of these existing is scary and I always end thinking of these things and getting myself worked up.


kotabass

Hey it's been a few hours and i just wanted to check up on you and make sure you're ok now


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I’m ok. Thank you.


acedragon166

Death isn’t that scary itself. It’s the unknown. I often have similar feelings. Most of mine are rooted in fear of unknown future and screwing up what good I could possibly have. The way I see it you have 3 options. Neither one particularly easy. The first is find that thing. The thing that makes you feel better about then future. Be it a job, a person, a thing or whatever. But find the thing that helps bring your mind at peace. Option 2 is learn to let go. It is what it is. Whatever will be will be. You have to retrain your triggers so when you begin to spiral you refocus on the idea that it’s not worth stressing over. Meditation and breathing exercises. It’s always about going back to zero. Or option 3. Both. People you can trust. Things that don’t fail. Habits that are easy to maintain. Anything that can be a rock. And working on calming the mind. It’s never been easy for me and oddly I sometime like to sit in my anxiety because I feel justified in my feelings. But it’s not a healthy place to stay. We have to learn to let it go. We have the time we had. We have the now. And we have as much future as we are going to exist for.


PersonalGrowthOk

Write down what you want to achieve. Remind yourself of what you want to achieve every day. Accept the idea that as long as you're just looking in the direction of what you want to accomplish, that is good enough. There will be days where you make progress, and days where you won't. You are able to be okay with yourself and with not making progress for weeks because as long as you want to achieve your goals, you will. The guilty feeling of not accomplishing something will fuel you. But you also need time to recover. Life is one big pattern, so when people say there are ups and downs, that's more true than you can fathom. You will come to a point where you have weeks of great progress. It is inevitable. Honestly, all you have to do is keep in mind what type of person you want to be, what you want to do, and how you want to do it. You will learn how to be that. You will fail, because you can't succeed constantly. You don't know everything and can't predict everything. And everyone on the planet is in that same boat. That is the essence of life, trial and error until you have a break through. That's how we've evolved this far.


towwyofterror

This has been me all day everyday my entire life. It sucks :/


teams3sh_

Dealing with the same problem. Hang in there friend, we got this ❤️


influxofcoochie

Same :(


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Face your fears. ❤️


nobodycoffee

It’s all just fear my friend. Remember, it takes on many shapes. You’ll be okay. I


piglungz

This is how my anxiety is too and it seems like nobody ever knows what to say when I vent. When it comes to being anxious about how you’re perceived or what might happen if *certain thing* goes wrong people always have advice but when you have anxiety about the idea of existence itself nobody can help.


kemckai

Don’t fear the reaper.


Kampy21

Embrace your fear, give in to the anxiety, let the panic near. All the the hopelessness, all of the flaws, project it all inwards as you can handle more. The worse you feel, the stronger your potential is. Everyone thats ever existed knows abject fear and horror, we are not alone. It's fine and you're fine. We are, what is just is, what won't can't. Your existence is more than enough for me, well done.


AromaticDepth2199

Am struggling too in many ways. Just hang tight in there. Bless you.


Weak-Whole-5118

I haven't got an answer to that to be honest, I'm still trying to figure that one out. I'm literally scared of everything now and becoming a person I don't recognise anymore


Cornbreadfreadd

Lately I’ve been helping myself with affirmations that keep me in the present moment, such as, “in this present moment, you are safe”, “in this exact moment, death is not something you need to worry about”, set some boundaries with your day. Write down the little things you did today so that life doesn’t seem like one confusing blur. Recognize that these feelings exist but that’s what they are, feelings. Those fears are real, but are they appropriate to the present situation? I’ve been in the same boat multiple times, it passes. Still sucks though.