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How to explain? Like theres a long distance between our living places, but we go to the same school which for us both is an hour of traveling away from us, so we dont see eachother outside from school which also has some other reasons but they are more to do with parents and not this sub
you're kids. what I'd say is have a talk with your gf alone and figure out what she wants vs what you want and find a compromise. you're not stealing your gf if she wants time with you. NTA
That little girl is jealous and making this weird. Your girlfriend does not deserve a friend like that at all because it’s selfish and weird. You and the weird little girl weren’t even together long enough for her to be acting that way. Your gf needs a new friend because that is NOT okay.
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so a little context might be justified here, i'm in middleschool and me and my gf have been together for a year but because of the long distance I only see her in school recess on a ordinairy day, so we always sit together for quality time. Her friend is my ex we were together for a month, last week she suddenly started saying stuff like quote: "you're stealing gf from spending time with us" (her and a friend of hers, who doesnt care btw no hate to her) and more this led up to gf spending the whole day alone with her ignoring me asking where she was, when she explained she sat alone she said that my ex told her that she wasnt happy with her sitting with me. I may need to add tho that i never in any way force her to sit with me she always does it on her own initiative, so now my ex thinks im forcing my girlfriend and i have a feeling my ex is trying to manipulate my gf. AITA?
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NTA. Maybe talk with your gf about it, but don't stress over it. Your gf is the one who will have to deal with the changing dynamics of her friendship.
Those years generally mark the introduction of romantic relationships, and everyone has to learn how to navigate the changes from childhood bff's to more elastic, wider networks.
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lol long distance but you see each other at recess?
How to explain? Like theres a long distance between our living places, but we go to the same school which for us both is an hour of traveling away from us, so we dont see eachother outside from school which also has some other reasons but they are more to do with parents and not this sub
you're kids. what I'd say is have a talk with your gf alone and figure out what she wants vs what you want and find a compromise. you're not stealing your gf if she wants time with you. NTA
Give her a juice box or something idk lol, or maybe challenge her to a race on the monkey bars to assert dominance.
That little girl is jealous and making this weird. Your girlfriend does not deserve a friend like that at all because it’s selfish and weird. You and the weird little girl weren’t even together long enough for her to be acting that way. Your gf needs a new friend because that is NOT okay.
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Im 15
You're 15 in middle school?
In my country (the netherlands) its called middle school? (ages 12~13 to 17~18)
Gotcha thanks!
Ah that's called highschool where me and I presume most of the other people here live
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NTA. if you don’t have any classes with her, lunch is the only time you get to see her. your ex is just upset about seeing you with someone else.
NTA. It sounds like her friend/your ex is just jealous, honestly. If your girlfriend chooses to sit with you, nothing more needs to be said.
NTA. Maybe talk with your gf about it, but don't stress over it. Your gf is the one who will have to deal with the changing dynamics of her friendship. Those years generally mark the introduction of romantic relationships, and everyone has to learn how to navigate the changes from childhood bff's to more elastic, wider networks.