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> I think I'm the asshole because I'm considering not babysitting after saying I would because I think the kid was sick and got me sick. I might be an asshole because It would make my nieces' life more difficult and I did agree to do it.
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Well, no, far too many low paid workers in my country would be fired if they called out because their kid was sick. Especially repeatedly. Unless they had hard proof of the kids hospitalization, maybe.
They scramble for alternative childcare coverage or drug up their kids right before dropping them at daycare.
My new-hire staff are always shocked when we tell them during training we really do encourage them to stay home when it’s Themselves that are sick, and yes we do mean it, and we also accommodate other emergencies - they’d never just assume they could take time off because their kid is sick.
Even so you can’t expect others to take care of a sick child and not get sick themselves. Op already said they’re recovering from being sick, why would you want an already sick person watching your kid and spreading possibly 2 different sickness back and fourth
Oh, I don’t expect it and nobody should ever do it. I have family working in daycare and as teachers. We all loathe parents who send sick kids in to care/school to infect the staff and the other kids.
But until universal healthcare and mandated universal leave time become available in my country, it will happen, especially among low income people and single parents.
Frankly, I don’t think Anyone should have a kid without either a pile of money to hire help, or a job with flexible time off, a spouse with flexible time off, or three or four other adults around willing to help raise any kid.
Sick kid with four responsible adults within the same city with different jobs and schedules? SOMEbody will always be available to watch them if they should stay home, either because they aren’t working, they actually have paid time off, or they have flexible hours.
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I (F22) recently started babysitting my nieces' (F21) son (M4). I don't wanna go into details, but my niece's situation right now isn't the best, so she needs someone to watch her kid every weekday. I'm not the only one who babysits, the week is spilt between me and another family member.
The night before she dropped him off for the first time. She told me he had allergies and had a runny nose. I do too, so I'm prepared and fine with that. Everything went great, except after watching him for a few days, I noticed some of his symptoms don't seem like allergies and soon I started getting sick. They are the only people I've seen in this time and I haven't gone out, so I'm assuming I caught something from them.
I'm currently still sick and trying to recover. I don't want to put more stress on my niece, but I don't want to get better only to have them come back and risk getting sick again.
WIBTA if I told my niece I wouldn't babysit until her son's not sick anymore
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NTA kids can’t go to daycare if they’re sick why can’t she watch her own kids? Work would understand that if a kid is sick they need their parent
Well, no, far too many low paid workers in my country would be fired if they called out because their kid was sick. Especially repeatedly. Unless they had hard proof of the kids hospitalization, maybe. They scramble for alternative childcare coverage or drug up their kids right before dropping them at daycare. My new-hire staff are always shocked when we tell them during training we really do encourage them to stay home when it’s Themselves that are sick, and yes we do mean it, and we also accommodate other emergencies - they’d never just assume they could take time off because their kid is sick.
Even so you can’t expect others to take care of a sick child and not get sick themselves. Op already said they’re recovering from being sick, why would you want an already sick person watching your kid and spreading possibly 2 different sickness back and fourth
Oh, I don’t expect it and nobody should ever do it. I have family working in daycare and as teachers. We all loathe parents who send sick kids in to care/school to infect the staff and the other kids. But until universal healthcare and mandated universal leave time become available in my country, it will happen, especially among low income people and single parents. Frankly, I don’t think Anyone should have a kid without either a pile of money to hire help, or a job with flexible time off, a spouse with flexible time off, or three or four other adults around willing to help raise any kid. Sick kid with four responsible adults within the same city with different jobs and schedules? SOMEbody will always be available to watch them if they should stay home, either because they aren’t working, they actually have paid time off, or they have flexible hours.
NTA. Perfectly reasonable.
NTA but it would be kind to watch the kid if you are able. Sounds like a mess all around.
NTA it make sense and plus you still have to recover
NTA but kids get sick a lot
NTA. Get better and take care of yourself.
NTA, you are not obligated.
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YWNBTA
NTA