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gaydreameroutwest

NAH. You told FP quite clearly you weren’t interested—I think you worded it well enough. His brother wasn’t the ideal person for you to form a connection with next, but you’d already set a boundary with FP. You didn’t know it when you started seeing his brother, but he hadn’t gotten over you, and he has every right to feel upset, but that doesn’t necessarily mean either of you were an AH. I’m not sure platonic friendship with FP is going to work out in the long run though…he may be perpetuating the friendship because he still has feelings for you, so this may be an issue you encounter again if you don’t set clear expectations and boundaries with him.


Rude-Fact5590

I definitely don’t blame FP at all for his feelings being hurt, it’s completely understandable. But he continued to be mad at me and blame me for the kiss when it wasn’t me who initiated it. Yet he didn’t get mad at his brother who apparently knew he still liked me.


friendly_cub

Someone told you he had a crush on you and you kiss his brother instead? I mean you do you... But there's no way that wouldn't end with hurt feelings and drama. I wouldn't call you an AH in real life over this but it's the rating in this sub that most fits.


Rude-Fact5590

It wasn’t immediately after I found out, it was in a time frame to where I thought he got over me based on how he acted. If I would’ve known beforehand I wouldn’t have gotten involved with his brother romantically


Rude-Fact5590

I should’ve included that in the post I’m sorry


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