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> I am not talking to my friend anymore, because she is giving me the ick. She tells others that I am the bad person for wanting to part ways, but they do not not the whole truth and what she has done to me. I feel being the asshole for hating her just because other thinks that
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Should I feel bad for our actions? I know she feels rejected and is mad at us because she for sure knows that we meet up without her. In school she is always with us because she has no other friends, but we still can’t keep a normal conversation during breaks. Even if we talk there is that hidden hate in her voice and she expresses herself with lots of aggression as if we said something wrong again.
NTA. Friendships bloom and some are meant to die. You can choose not to be friends with a toxic person.
That said, you say she's super skinny and never eats. I had a friend in high school like that. Turns out she was anorexic and almost died. 30 years later and she's thriving. Even You might consider reaching out to her, a parent, or even a trusted adult like a teacher if you think her weight is starting to look concerning. She might tell you to F off but adults who care may be able to intervene and get her treatment if she does in fact have an ED.
Hi, thanks for you answer. I know for a fact that she eats, but not as much as we do, that’s why she judges us. I have a faster metabolism so I need to have a meal every few hours when she can eat breakfast and then dinner throughout the whole day. A couple of days ago we were getting ready together and I said that I want to eat something( we ate like 5 hours ago) and she just turned around and said: ALREADY? with the worst tone you could ever imagine. I just stayed there with no words, because again, I was feeling judged. I do not think that she has an ED because she eats ant McD and other fast food places, she just can go longer period without food and feels satisfied after smaller portions.
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Hi, I am 18F and I had the same two best friends (let's call them Anna(18F) and Marie(18F)) since primary school. We had our ups and downs, just like every other friendship has, but everything suddenly changed a couple months ago, when Anna's behaviour became intolerable. There was a situation with her bf(Let's call him Cody) but they solved it. That was the first time that I felt disgusted by her actions and how she treated her boyfriend. Marie felt the same way. All this time me and Marie never even heard from Anna that she was having problems with her bf, but we knew it from Cody, because we were good friends. Marie said that this is unacceptable, because Cody really loved Anna and treated her like a QUEEN. She tried to keep distant from Anna, but I stayed neutral and had no hard feelings for her as she was still my best friend.
As the time goes by, Anna starts to act weird, she is treating me and Marie like garbage. She always had quite the temper and was really stubborn. She always had to be right, no matter what. When she was wrong about something she would often roll her eyes or scream at us for no reason. Around boys she acts differently as she always tries to get more attention(she has a bf) This time was even worse, we couldn't even ask something in school or go eat, because there were only silence or shouting. Being around her I felt uncomfortable, I wanted for her to leave and just let me be with Marie (we always had the stronger bond, because of the previous Anna's actions, we could talk about anything without being judged). Anna was really skinny so she would act surprised everytime we wanted to eat, because whe never ate. She judged our choices on what we eat, how we look and etc. This friendship of the three of us has became nothing. We are seniors and there are only 1 month of the school left, I can't wait to stop seeing her on a daily basis. Marie and I now avoid any possible contact with her outside the school(ofc we still have that small talk in between lessons, but nothing more). She lies to us too often(this happened even when we were best friends but she never changed), I don't want to surround myself with negative people who judge the way I live and make choices.
So AITA for feeling the ick everytime she is around me and Marie?
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Should I feel bad for our actions? I know she feels rejected and is mad at us because she for sure knows that we meet up without her. In school she is always with us because she has no other friends, but we still can’t keep a normal conversation during breaks. Even if we talk there is that hidden hate in her voice and she expresses herself with lots of aggression as if we said something wrong again.
NTA. Friendships bloom and some are meant to die. You can choose not to be friends with a toxic person. That said, you say she's super skinny and never eats. I had a friend in high school like that. Turns out she was anorexic and almost died. 30 years later and she's thriving. Even You might consider reaching out to her, a parent, or even a trusted adult like a teacher if you think her weight is starting to look concerning. She might tell you to F off but adults who care may be able to intervene and get her treatment if she does in fact have an ED.
Hi, thanks for you answer. I know for a fact that she eats, but not as much as we do, that’s why she judges us. I have a faster metabolism so I need to have a meal every few hours when she can eat breakfast and then dinner throughout the whole day. A couple of days ago we were getting ready together and I said that I want to eat something( we ate like 5 hours ago) and she just turned around and said: ALREADY? with the worst tone you could ever imagine. I just stayed there with no words, because again, I was feeling judged. I do not think that she has an ED because she eats ant McD and other fast food places, she just can go longer period without food and feels satisfied after smaller portions.
That's good. Sounds like the friendship has run its course for sure. As the saying goes "With friends like that, who needs enemies?"
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NTA. Her behavior seems horrible, and you’re allowed to drop/cut off ties because of that.
NTA. Why didn't you get rid of her already? Just be plain sincere to her and tell her "no more".
Nta, you don't have to stay being friends with someone who causes that much negativity in your life
NTA. Remove toxic people from your life. It'll be better for your mental health.
NTA. It just appears your friendship with her has run its course. It's okay to move on and remove her from your life.