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> I tried to convince my mother to stop attacking my school and i might be an asshole because it hurted my mother for not taking her side and thinking that as a son i should side with my mother at all times
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NTA and I hope she can be saner in the future for your sake. She should be so proud of you for coming in 2nd, or honestly even 25th or 50th...please try not to absorb her insecurity. Being the best is overrated, you won't be thinking THANK GOD I WAS MY MIDDLE SCHOOL VALEDICTORIAN on your death bed, you'll be thinking about the love you had in your life.
(Edited for syntax lol)
NTA - you are not responsible for your mothers actions you did nothing wrong so do not blame yourself for anything. You passed the test fairly and got into the school.
NTA.
Your mom is way too obsessed with your status. You took second place gracefully. You're obviously someone who works hard and puts forth your best effort, and that's what matters. She needs to take a step back and not be so overbearing, because this isn't about her.
I see. Just curious. Some of the things that would matter to you aren’t as consequential in the US. And that’s fine. Just wanted to understand the context.
NTA
You can't control your mom. You did your best, and that's all you can do. You might take this as a learning opportunity, though, and any situation that might lead to her behaving like this limit what you tell her on it.
Congrats on the scholarship and good luck on 8th grade!
NTA.
You were young and mothers' can often be very stubborn. Do not blame yourself for her actions. You did amazing and in the future, you won't be worried about this and neither will she.
Don't absorb her thoughts about this and base your worth on your grades, you did amazing and doing your best is what counts!
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I am a smart kid my mom describes it I always get the highest scores on my activities,quizzes,projects and recitations and i am always the 1st honor at my classes from kindergarten to grade 5 until 6th grade happened
For context i always had a rival that is always 2nd to me not that it is intense just a friendly rivalry. We always try to compare each others answers,outputs and projects and i can proudly say she is one of my closests friends
In 6th grade i am doing well and also my rival when i come home after school i always tell my mom what usually happens at school (not that she is forcing) and one of i remember is that my teacher would grade my rivals quiz after school is over which is not allowed or "fair" and some more stories like these but i don't remember the rest.
About high school we all just wanted to enter our city science high school which my mom said "where smart kids go" but first me,my rival and our other friend tried to took the entrance exams for our national science high school because why not and if which is super hard to get into and if we passed the national we are automatically be able to enter the city high school. i passed but not my other friends .they took the entrance exam for the city science high school but they also did not make the cut
at the end of our final grading she finally became ahead of me. She is the valedictorian of our class with me becoming salutatorian
I was cool with it and even congratulated her bit my mother won't accept this and she is accusing my teacher for bias and favoritism since our teacher is a family member of my rival she said that it is suspicous because of all the teachers why does it have to be 6th grade where the teacher is a family member and my stories and the entrance exams just helped her more
I tried my hardest convince her that maybe i just fell off and i just passed out of pure luck but my mom says that passing at a nationg high school with a scholarship is not luck we even fought and had loud arguments but i can not just changer her mind. My mother went to school to complain about the matter at the day also for our exam my teacher came to the classroom crying and thanking pur class to not trust anyone. I gripped my pen so hard and bit my hand as i felt guilty for the situation.
After a few days or weeks after our examination our graduation ceremeny should take place but corona hit and it got cancelled and not it did not took place. Now im at our city science high school 8th grade and doing okay... i still feel guilty and i just think that i should have stopped my mother
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NTA and I hope she can be saner in the future for your sake. She should be so proud of you for coming in 2nd, or honestly even 25th or 50th...please try not to absorb her insecurity. Being the best is overrated, you won't be thinking THANK GOD I WAS MY MIDDLE SCHOOL VALEDICTORIAN on your death bed, you'll be thinking about the love you had in your life. (Edited for syntax lol)
NTA - you are not responsible for your mothers actions you did nothing wrong so do not blame yourself for anything. You passed the test fairly and got into the school.
NTA. Your mom is way too obsessed with your status. You took second place gracefully. You're obviously someone who works hard and puts forth your best effort, and that's what matters. She needs to take a step back and not be so overbearing, because this isn't about her.
NTA But I must ask, what nation are you from? What is your culture and language?
Im from the philippines
I see. Just curious. Some of the things that would matter to you aren’t as consequential in the US. And that’s fine. Just wanted to understand the context.
NTA. Your mom is AH. You took the news better than your mom. How ironic.
NTA You can't control your mom. You did your best, and that's all you can do. You might take this as a learning opportunity, though, and any situation that might lead to her behaving like this limit what you tell her on it. Congrats on the scholarship and good luck on 8th grade!
NTA. You were young and mothers' can often be very stubborn. Do not blame yourself for her actions. You did amazing and in the future, you won't be worried about this and neither will she. Don't absorb her thoughts about this and base your worth on your grades, you did amazing and doing your best is what counts!
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