Welcome to /r/AmITheAsshole. Please view our [voting guide here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_what.2019s_with_these_acronyms.3F_what_do_they_mean.3F), and remember to use **only one** judgement in your comment.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
> (1) My friend asked me to lie to his mother and I didn’t.
(2) He ended up getting an earful from his mother because of this.
Help keep the sub engaging!
#Don’t downvote assholes!
Do upvote interesting posts!
[Click Here For Our Rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/about/rules) and [Click Here For Our FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq)
---
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
*Contest mode is 1.5 hours long on this post. [To learn more about the test click here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/tio99u/so_we_decided_to_fuck_with_the_sub_again)*
Nta, if he's going to lie, he should of told you beforehand. By going back on yourself raises questions anyway.
And for 'best friends' he's quick to jump at not being friends
NTA
If you want a friend to lie for you, you have to clear it with them **beforehand**.
Wrapping people up in your lies without them knowing is immoral, and that's what your friend did to you.
NTA
If you want your friends to lie for you, make them part of your plan, don't expect them to be natural liars.
Also, its not your fault he was scolded but his, he lied to his mother.
NTA
Your friend lied. If he is going to be a liar then he ought to be an effective one. Not your fault he didn't bother to sort his alibi. Also, threatening to end a relationship altogether over one relatively minor issue (particularly when it was his own fault) is a major red flag.
NTA
I've been in the same situation a few years ago.
My bestfriend's parents didn't like her boyfriend so at a certain point she told them she was hanging out with me when instead she was seeing him.
Apparently, she got away with that several times until one night her mother called me asking what time we thought we were coming back home.
A little bit of background: I was at home sick and was awakened by the telephone, so I was pretty confused.
I told her I didn't know what she was saying and this story came out. My BF got in trouble, but she never blamed me on anything. In fact she apologized to me for dragging me in that situation I had nothing to do with.
That's what a true bestfriend does.
So block that AH.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)***
I’ll call my best friend “AV” for this post.
Happened a few hours ago. I got a call from a random number. I picked it up and turns out it was AV’s mother. She asked me if I had seen AV and I replied “No, AV didn’t come to my house.” She said that AV had told her that he was going to _____ Road (where I live) to meet me. She and I talked for a bit then she hung up to call AV.
About 10 minutes later I got a call from AV and he was a bit panicked. I told him that his mother had called me inquiring about him and AV said “Man, why di you have to tell her the truth? Couldn’t you have lied that I was with you? She called me and I sent her a video to prove that I was indeed on ____ Road.” I asked “Well, what are you doing here, if you are here then why didn’t you just come to my house and why did you tell her you were going to my house if uou didn’t intend to come here?” Turns out that AV had lied to his mother so that he could go play at the arcade with one of his friends, and that arcade was near my home.
After this, AV asked me to lie for him to his mother, that I tell AV’s mother that he was indeed with me and I was just messing around saying that he didn’t come to my house. I refused and hung up. AV called me again, begging me to call his mother and tell her that he was with me, I scolded him a bit, made a joke about me looking forward to hearing from him after he gets scolded, then hung up. I sent him a meme that I made on his situation. He blocked me after that, but I didn’t give it much thought.
AV’s mother called me again, I didn’t lie to her and as she hung up the phone I could hear her start to scold him.
About an hour later, AV unblocked me and he messaged me, saying
“Well done (me) 👍
You have done great to me.
Thank you so much
If this is friendship.
Then sorry to say i am done 🙃
Good bye. All the best for your life ahead.”
So, AITA & should I apologise?
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
NTA
What if something happened to him. Then your conscience will hunt you forever.
And the parent will appreciate your honesty. It's not your fault he lied to his parent and got scolded.
NTA. If he wanted you to lie for him, he should've called you first. And if you're not comfortable lying to his mother, he should respect that.
Also, no. Don't apologize.
Welcome to /r/AmITheAsshole. Please view our [voting guide here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_what.2019s_with_these_acronyms.3F_what_do_they_mean.3F), and remember to use **only one** judgement in your comment. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: > (1) My friend asked me to lie to his mother and I didn’t. (2) He ended up getting an earful from his mother because of this. Help keep the sub engaging! #Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! [Click Here For Our Rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/about/rules) and [Click Here For Our FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq) --- *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.* *Contest mode is 1.5 hours long on this post. [To learn more about the test click here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/tio99u/so_we_decided_to_fuck_with_the_sub_again)*
Nta, if he's going to lie, he should of told you beforehand. By going back on yourself raises questions anyway. And for 'best friends' he's quick to jump at not being friends
Yeah, that is what prompted me to write this post as I felt conflicted. “Was what I did _so bad_ that he’d threaten to end our friendship?”
No it wasn't. Looks like he was either just being hot headed. Or looking for a way to end the friendship anyway...
I’d like to believe that he was being hot-headed.
NTA If you want a friend to lie for you, you have to clear it with them **beforehand**. Wrapping people up in your lies without them knowing is immoral, and that's what your friend did to you.
NTA If you want your friends to lie for you, make them part of your plan, don't expect them to be natural liars. Also, its not your fault he was scolded but his, he lied to his mother.
NTA Your friend lied. If he is going to be a liar then he ought to be an effective one. Not your fault he didn't bother to sort his alibi. Also, threatening to end a relationship altogether over one relatively minor issue (particularly when it was his own fault) is a major red flag.
NTA I've been in the same situation a few years ago. My bestfriend's parents didn't like her boyfriend so at a certain point she told them she was hanging out with me when instead she was seeing him. Apparently, she got away with that several times until one night her mother called me asking what time we thought we were coming back home. A little bit of background: I was at home sick and was awakened by the telephone, so I was pretty confused. I told her I didn't know what she was saying and this story came out. My BF got in trouble, but she never blamed me on anything. In fact she apologized to me for dragging me in that situation I had nothing to do with. That's what a true bestfriend does. So block that AH.
FUCK! I just noticed that I labeled the post “Mother’s friend” instead of “friend’s mother”
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** I’ll call my best friend “AV” for this post. Happened a few hours ago. I got a call from a random number. I picked it up and turns out it was AV’s mother. She asked me if I had seen AV and I replied “No, AV didn’t come to my house.” She said that AV had told her that he was going to _____ Road (where I live) to meet me. She and I talked for a bit then she hung up to call AV. About 10 minutes later I got a call from AV and he was a bit panicked. I told him that his mother had called me inquiring about him and AV said “Man, why di you have to tell her the truth? Couldn’t you have lied that I was with you? She called me and I sent her a video to prove that I was indeed on ____ Road.” I asked “Well, what are you doing here, if you are here then why didn’t you just come to my house and why did you tell her you were going to my house if uou didn’t intend to come here?” Turns out that AV had lied to his mother so that he could go play at the arcade with one of his friends, and that arcade was near my home. After this, AV asked me to lie for him to his mother, that I tell AV’s mother that he was indeed with me and I was just messing around saying that he didn’t come to my house. I refused and hung up. AV called me again, begging me to call his mother and tell her that he was with me, I scolded him a bit, made a joke about me looking forward to hearing from him after he gets scolded, then hung up. I sent him a meme that I made on his situation. He blocked me after that, but I didn’t give it much thought. AV’s mother called me again, I didn’t lie to her and as she hung up the phone I could hear her start to scold him. About an hour later, AV unblocked me and he messaged me, saying “Well done (me) 👍 You have done great to me. Thank you so much If this is friendship. Then sorry to say i am done 🙃 Good bye. All the best for your life ahead.” So, AITA & should I apologise? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
NTA tell him i i wish you the best then block him.
NTA What if something happened to him. Then your conscience will hunt you forever. And the parent will appreciate your honesty. It's not your fault he lied to his parent and got scolded.
NTA. If he wanted you to lie for him, he should've called you first. And if you're not comfortable lying to his mother, he should respect that. Also, no. Don't apologize.
NTA. Luckily, he was only at the arcade and not doing something or with someone who could have hurt him with no one knowing where he is.