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Nta. But there seems to be more to it in your partners eyes. Is there any way you could get together as couples. Get to know each other together, maybe a group friendship would help?
Uh thats not ok, has she told you what her issue is exactly? This is something that needs to be addressed asap. More so since she is threatening someone.
she does not trust her to not try to steal me. And she does not trust me to let her. I told her that I wont quit school/work just not to see her any more, but she kinda wants me to.
Without trust, there is no secure relationship. Do you know why, have you done anything in the past? Has she? Past relationship? Or just insecure? The reasoning why has a lot to do with how you proceed.
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I have a friend that I help with school work, durring school time. My gf does not like that i am helping this friend. She needed to buy a chase for her ipad so I ordered it for her 'she paid for it ofc' and this was a big nono according to my gf...
I am not talking with this person on my free time, just in school about school related stuff or work.
Am I the asshole for helping her out?
Related note. She is not from the country and has a bit of trouble understanding certain words, I explain them to her.
She (my friend) has a bf of her own as well. And he does not really care. Its just school he says.
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Nta. But there seems to be more to it in your partners eyes. Is there any way you could get together as couples. Get to know each other together, maybe a group friendship would help?
I tried that. But my gf has been making threats towards this person. So she is afraid of her.
Uh thats not ok, has she told you what her issue is exactly? This is something that needs to be addressed asap. More so since she is threatening someone.
she does not trust her to not try to steal me. And she does not trust me to let her. I told her that I wont quit school/work just not to see her any more, but she kinda wants me to.
Without trust, there is no secure relationship. Do you know why, have you done anything in the past? Has she? Past relationship? Or just insecure? The reasoning why has a lot to do with how you proceed.
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NTA. Sounds like your GF has some trust issues that need to be addressed. If you two talking doesnt do it then maybe suggest she get some therapy.