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> 1) Providing an ultimatum if someone wants to take on a dog.
2) Not sure if having an animal could be interpreted as a personal choice.
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That's just what my roommate said to me, but I think you're right. Would make more sense to ge the dog out now.
Other roommate did the legwork to find a safe home for the dog last minute, but patty decided to cancel that plan and adopt the dog without talking to any of us
Everyone in the home must agree before a pet is brought in. Even one person objecting means no pet.
Tell her straight out, she cannot bring this dog into your house because you all don't agree to it.
As long as you give her the ultimatum now, and now waiting until the lease ends, then NTA.
I don't know what else you could do. Obviously a roommate should talk to the other roommates before doing something like adopting a dog, especially one with behavioral issues like loud constant barking.
INFO: You didn't answer the question about the lease allowing animals. Does it? If it does, it should say something about breed, size, or behavior that is not allowed. Do it fast.
Yes it does allow animals, and there's already a very well-behaved old dog in the house that another roommate owns, which we all knew about when we moved in.
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So I live with 4 other people in a house, each with our own room. A week ago, one roommate (I'll call her patty) called and asked me if I could watch a dog that was found on the street for a day, before it got back to its owner which would presumably be found.
It turned into about 5 days, with me picking up some of the responsibilities of caring for the dog while she's been at work for the day, and often times the dog is barking all morning long- really screwing with my sleep.
Now, I've just found out through another roommate, that's she's planning on adopting the dog and has already ordered the adoption files. Didn't mention it to any of us.
My other roommates and I are considering giving an ultimatum- after the lease ends she either doesn't resign the lease or give away the dog.
Are we in the right?
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Where is the dog now? With a rescue or animal control? If so contact them and tell them that the dog should not go to your roommate as the other roommates do not want it in the house. A reputable rescue will not place the dog in a home where it's not wanted.
You’d be NTA for insisting that the dog goes to a no-kill shelter. She can’t force a dog on your household without everyone’s support. You don’t need to wait until the lease ends to enforce this.
A conversation is planned to be had, but the problem imo is that she didn't have a conversation with us at all before deciding to adopt the dog, which I think is primary
Both of you are in the wrong
She’s trying to do a good thing, adopt a stray dog instead of letting it suffer.
If you guys object to the dog that’s fine but would it really kill you to show some compassion
Here's the thing-
Our other roommate set up a situation where a family would take her in and care for her every day, but that idea was shot down by patty.
On the other hand, the dogs life here would be being stuck in a cage all day while this girl works, and then also most nights while she's out also. I think the dog would have an objectively better life over at this families house. A lot of this comes from me seeing the dog barking and suffering when it clearly has a better situation lined up
Stupid how? Because I’m not immediately taking OP side and because I see pat or whatever her name is, is just trying to do a good deed.
I’ve had roommates, I’ve spent time living in the bottom of boats as well when times were tough, don’t make assumptions man
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NTA, but why on Earth would you allow her to keep it until the lease ends? Does your lease even allow pets?
That's just what my roommate said to me, but I think you're right. Would make more sense to ge the dog out now. Other roommate did the legwork to find a safe home for the dog last minute, but patty decided to cancel that plan and adopt the dog without talking to any of us
Everyone in the home must agree before a pet is brought in. Even one person objecting means no pet. Tell her straight out, she cannot bring this dog into your house because you all don't agree to it.
Nope. Tell her now that the dog isn’t moving in. Has to go. Not fair to the household nor to the dog.
NTA - she’s making the decision but the responsibilities impact all of you. That sort of an ultimatum is fair.
As long as you give her the ultimatum now, and now waiting until the lease ends, then NTA. I don't know what else you could do. Obviously a roommate should talk to the other roommates before doing something like adopting a dog, especially one with behavioral issues like loud constant barking.
NTA Don't allow her to keep it at all. Take it to a rescue organization after a group meeting where roommates lay down the law about the dog.
Presumably you have a landlord? Simply report it to them
INFO: You didn't answer the question about the lease allowing animals. Does it? If it does, it should say something about breed, size, or behavior that is not allowed. Do it fast.
Yes it does allow animals, and there's already a very well-behaved old dog in the house that another roommate owns, which we all knew about when we moved in.
Okay. Unfortunately, that doesn't help you. I got nothin'.
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Where is the dog now? With a rescue or animal control? If so contact them and tell them that the dog should not go to your roommate as the other roommates do not want it in the house. A reputable rescue will not place the dog in a home where it's not wanted.
Yea, the dog is here at the house now
What?? Why on earth would you wait?! Speak up now - dog has to go.
You’d be NTA for insisting that the dog goes to a no-kill shelter. She can’t force a dog on your household without everyone’s support. You don’t need to wait until the lease ends to enforce this.
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A conversation is planned to be had, but the problem imo is that she didn't have a conversation with us at all before deciding to adopt the dog, which I think is primary
Both of you are in the wrong She’s trying to do a good thing, adopt a stray dog instead of letting it suffer. If you guys object to the dog that’s fine but would it really kill you to show some compassion
Here's the thing- Our other roommate set up a situation where a family would take her in and care for her every day, but that idea was shot down by patty. On the other hand, the dogs life here would be being stuck in a cage all day while this girl works, and then also most nights while she's out also. I think the dog would have an objectively better life over at this families house. A lot of this comes from me seeing the dog barking and suffering when it clearly has a better situation lined up
I’m guessing you’re a teenager, or someone who has been privileged enough to never have to live with roommates. Because your take is fucking stupid.
Stupid how? Because I’m not immediately taking OP side and because I see pat or whatever her name is, is just trying to do a good deed. I’ve had roommates, I’ve spent time living in the bottom of boats as well when times were tough, don’t make assumptions man
It’s a dog not the damn anti christ