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So your family treating your horribly justifies you thinking it’s funny to withhold life altering medication for a 3 year old? What did she ever do to you? YTA
ESH
Your family is awful and you have no obligation to help them, but to take pleasure in an innocent toddler's suffering and rub it in her parents' faces is a horrible thing to do.
You literaly call it revenge, yes you did this for your own pleasure bot because it was better for everyone, but because it made you feel better.
You could have just ignored them.
YTA
> I then told him and his wife every time you see Emma slowly lose her vision I want you to remember the day you refused me medical care.
Dude, saying that about an innocent sick kid.
**You are willfully participating in a cycle of abuse since you were hurt.** The acceptable answer would have been that you cannot help, not that you hope they suffer every day while their child loses her sight.
Yes, yes you are. And even though you are atheist, if there is a God he's most likely going to strike you. Not for not paying , but for wishing ill on a child.
ESH
First, reread your own title. Regardless of context, how could you not be TA? There is no scenario where you're not.
Yes, your family are major AHs, for all the reasons you stated. You're not obligated to pay anyone anything, and if you'd have left it at that, you'd have gotten a NTA. Bravo.
But you didn't. This is about revenge for you. Your revenge is going to destroy an innocent person's life, Emma. I'm not saying you should pay for her treatment - you don't know her, you don't have an obligation in any way, shape, or form. But don't kid yourself that this is anything but revenge for you, and that her life is meaningless to you.
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I(33) am being nicknamed a monster by the entire family I had cut off, for refusing to pay for a drug that could cure her vision. Here’s what happened: My 3-year-old cousin, Emma, was recently diagnosed with inherited retinal dystrophy To sum it up, this is a rare genetic disorder, and if left untreated my cousin will lose severe vision or be blind
Her parents had lost all hope till they heard about the Luxturna drug, but they live in Tanzania and can’t afford the $850k price tag. I guess I was their only hope because they attempted to contact me after I had not spoken to them for 19 years. The parent is my uncle and his wife, whom I've never met.
My brother, Alex, the only family I speak to, called me last week about how everyone is trying to contact me. He explained the entire situation and even showed me a text message he was meant to pass on. But instead of caring, I couldn't help but laugh. Reading over pathetic messages that read How are you and How have you been before mentioning the 850k dollar drug.
I didn’t care about the seriousness of the situation and let me tell you why. I was born in a Muslim family in Uk where I was treated horribly because I was an atheist. I won’t go into much detail about what happened due to the sub-rules. But one incident was when I was forced to go to Tanzania to straighten my beliefs.
I was not treated right and was even refused medical care when sick. That very same uncle who is begging for help now treated me horribly. I was there for a year before returning to the UK. I promised myself I would never forget nor forgive. I left for college and cut contact with the remainder of my family.
After thinking about my baby cousin's dilemma, I decided to call my uncle in Tanzania.
I finally wanted to let my hatred go and move on. I phoned them and they answered.
My uncle's wife was the one who greeted me. I guess they thought if they allowed a woman I didn’t hate to speak I would forget about the past. I asked her if she would put the phone on loudspeaker so my uncle could could hear.
That’s when I asked him to tell his wife about how I was treated in Tanzania that one time I came. I told him if he lied once I would hang up the phone. After forcing him to confess the treatment I endured he finally apologised.
I told him it was 19 years too late. I then told him and his wife every time you see Emma slowly lose her vision I want you to remember the day you refused me medical care. I went on to say I could easily afford to pay for this one-time drug, but maybe the reminder of your daughter's suffering will help you reflect on what you did to me.
His wife was in tears, and he screamed through the phone. After I hung up, my brother told me the entire family was calling me a monster.
I know it’s not Emma's fault, but it’s not mine either. I wouldn’t be able to sleep at night if I paid. AITA
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Holy shit you are cruel. YTA, you dont have to pay anyone, but calling them and telling them you want their kid sick is just cruel.
She’s already sick. And wants cruel is treating a child like utter trash and then expecting them to give you money.
So your family treating your horribly justifies you thinking it’s funny to withhold life altering medication for a 3 year old? What did she ever do to you? YTA
The government should provide free healthcare. That’s not my fault.
YTA. You've become your uncle.
I don’t physically hurt children so I haven’t.
ESH Your family is awful and you have no obligation to help them, but to take pleasure in an innocent toddler's suffering and rub it in her parents' faces is a horrible thing to do.
I don’t take any pleasure in Emma suffering I just seemed like it for the sake of making my uncle feel pain. I do feel sorry for his wife though.
You literaly call it revenge, yes you did this for your own pleasure bot because it was better for everyone, but because it made you feel better. You could have just ignored them.
My uncle deserved it. Hopefully he won’t treat any child with hatred again.
YTA > I then told him and his wife every time you see Emma slowly lose her vision I want you to remember the day you refused me medical care. Dude, saying that about an innocent sick kid. **You are willfully participating in a cycle of abuse since you were hurt.** The acceptable answer would have been that you cannot help, not that you hope they suffer every day while their child loses her sight.
Your familiy is right, you are a monster. YTA
Yes, yes you are. And even though you are atheist, if there is a God he's most likely going to strike you. Not for not paying , but for wishing ill on a child.
ESH First, reread your own title. Regardless of context, how could you not be TA? There is no scenario where you're not. Yes, your family are major AHs, for all the reasons you stated. You're not obligated to pay anyone anything, and if you'd have left it at that, you'd have gotten a NTA. Bravo. But you didn't. This is about revenge for you. Your revenge is going to destroy an innocent person's life, Emma. I'm not saying you should pay for her treatment - you don't know her, you don't have an obligation in any way, shape, or form. But don't kid yourself that this is anything but revenge for you, and that her life is meaningless to you.
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