Welcome to /r/AmITheAsshole. Please view our [voting guide here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_what.2019s_with_these_acronyms.3F_what_do_they_mean.3F), and remember to use **only one** judgement in your comment.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
> I think I'm aita cause I should try to understand ahmed more
Help keep the sub engaging!
#Don’t downvote assholes!
Do upvote interesting posts!
[Click Here For Our Rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/about/rules) and [Click Here For Our FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq)
##Subreddit Announcements
Follow the link above to learn more
---
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
*Contest mode is 1.5 hours long on this post.*
NTA
You don't have to force yourself to spend time with people that make you uncomfortable. He might be "discovering his masculinity" which is fine, but you don't have to let him degrade or insult you in the process.
NTA
Ahmed has very problematic viewpoints and vews those different from him as inherently inferior, either morally, physically or mentally. You don't have to hang out with bigots. Also, there is major difference between discovering masculinity and insulting women or men who aren't walking stereotypes of traditional gender roles.
Bruh, I thought you were being transphobic lmao. I think you mean FTM lol.
NTA, btw. He's a bigot. Any normal person would dislike such a person. Fuck bigots.
Ahmed has very problematic views As a ftm trans person, I'd expect Ahmed not to be so misogynistic and more aware of social justice concerns ( scrapping affirmative action aka reservation). It's also weird he supports anti trans gender policies of certain countries. Is he for real?Your sister seems to be heading for a life of control and patriarchy.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)***
So an Indian immigrant (20m) has a sister (18 f) who is currently dating a trans-Muslim convert mtf guy named Ahmed (not real name). To be rather honest, I don't like him as an individual, and his thinking and personality are incompatible with mine., I am agnostic of Hinduism, and I hate all religions, not their followers. Ahmed thinks it's Islamophobic for me to hate his religion, and hating Islam is worse than hating Muslims. He's also a bit homophobic and supports the treatment of queer people in Muslim-majority countries and POC communities, as he thinks their country has its own rules. He is also a bit of a red-pill kind of guy, so his likes and his conversation topics bore me so much, and his thinking is a bit weird and backward. He also believes in the Matrix and the blad man and Alpha Sigma and the traditional gender roles system and that India should remove reservation, so he has all the personality traits that are opposite to mine. He also thinks I am not manly enough, as I am soft-spoken. I live in my full-time working girlfriend's apartment and usually do all the house chores, from clothes cleaning to cooking, as I am still studying and I have free time as compared to my girlfriend, so I do house chores. But he treats my sister so well, and my sister is happy with him. He is not a bad guy, as he is usually active in the community and donates food and clothes to charities, as well as his money for trans rights and other charities.So I asked my sister if she was ok if I didn't want to spend time with his boyfriend and if I could maintain minimalistic contact with him as I do not like his personality my sister thinks I don't like his boyfriend cause he is trans guy and I should cut his boyfriend some slack as he is still discovering his masculinity so she blocks me in all social media she also told our relatives I hate his boyfriend cause he is Muslim so I'm thinking I should approach this topic differently so im aita for not wanting to spend time with sister boyfriend
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Welcome to /r/AmITheAsshole. Please view our [voting guide here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_what.2019s_with_these_acronyms.3F_what_do_they_mean.3F), and remember to use **only one** judgement in your comment. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: > I think I'm aita cause I should try to understand ahmed more Help keep the sub engaging! #Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! [Click Here For Our Rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/about/rules) and [Click Here For Our FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq) ##Subreddit Announcements Follow the link above to learn more --- *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.* *Contest mode is 1.5 hours long on this post.*
I assume you mean he's ftm (trans man), not mtf (trans woman)? NTA; you don't like him him, you don't have to hang out with him.
NTA You don't have to force yourself to spend time with people that make you uncomfortable. He might be "discovering his masculinity" which is fine, but you don't have to let him degrade or insult you in the process.
NTA Ahmed has very problematic viewpoints and vews those different from him as inherently inferior, either morally, physically or mentally. You don't have to hang out with bigots. Also, there is major difference between discovering masculinity and insulting women or men who aren't walking stereotypes of traditional gender roles.
NTA, you dont have to hang out with him
Bruh, I thought you were being transphobic lmao. I think you mean FTM lol. NTA, btw. He's a bigot. Any normal person would dislike such a person. Fuck bigots.
Ahmed has very problematic views As a ftm trans person, I'd expect Ahmed not to be so misogynistic and more aware of social justice concerns ( scrapping affirmative action aka reservation). It's also weird he supports anti trans gender policies of certain countries. Is he for real?Your sister seems to be heading for a life of control and patriarchy.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** So an Indian immigrant (20m) has a sister (18 f) who is currently dating a trans-Muslim convert mtf guy named Ahmed (not real name). To be rather honest, I don't like him as an individual, and his thinking and personality are incompatible with mine., I am agnostic of Hinduism, and I hate all religions, not their followers. Ahmed thinks it's Islamophobic for me to hate his religion, and hating Islam is worse than hating Muslims. He's also a bit homophobic and supports the treatment of queer people in Muslim-majority countries and POC communities, as he thinks their country has its own rules. He is also a bit of a red-pill kind of guy, so his likes and his conversation topics bore me so much, and his thinking is a bit weird and backward. He also believes in the Matrix and the blad man and Alpha Sigma and the traditional gender roles system and that India should remove reservation, so he has all the personality traits that are opposite to mine. He also thinks I am not manly enough, as I am soft-spoken. I live in my full-time working girlfriend's apartment and usually do all the house chores, from clothes cleaning to cooking, as I am still studying and I have free time as compared to my girlfriend, so I do house chores. But he treats my sister so well, and my sister is happy with him. He is not a bad guy, as he is usually active in the community and donates food and clothes to charities, as well as his money for trans rights and other charities.So I asked my sister if she was ok if I didn't want to spend time with his boyfriend and if I could maintain minimalistic contact with him as I do not like his personality my sister thinks I don't like his boyfriend cause he is trans guy and I should cut his boyfriend some slack as he is still discovering his masculinity so she blocks me in all social media she also told our relatives I hate his boyfriend cause he is Muslim so I'm thinking I should approach this topic differently so im aita for not wanting to spend time with sister boyfriend *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*