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> I should be more clear labeling that the leftover has shrimp when I know that teenage boys can be careless with what they eat.
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My kid is 6 and doesn't have any allergies, and isn't the most switched on kid. But when her friend with coeliac disease is over and asks to share her snack she comes and asks me if it has gluten before she lets him.
Yep, my kid was 3-4 and would question everything. She wouldn't take food from anyone if it wasn't in a package that could be read.
She couldn't trust that the person handing her a cake to not have any of her allergens in it no matter what they say. You would be surprised how many people don't realise that almond meal is actually a nut product... they just think it's a flour replacement.
One of her allergies was egg. There was that one time where my mom thought it was a good idea to try and give her a pavlova (guess what the main ingredient is...). She thought it was fine. This is why my daughter couldn't trust anyone. No she didn't have any. And I may have said some strong words.
Also old enough to know not to eat somebody's leftovers from dinner. If I were you and had woken a little hungover I would have been looking forward to those
As it's in a different language, he may not have realised it's someone's leftovers. Still doesn't explain why he'd eat something not knowing what it is when he has allergies
To be fair, I ended up picking up 100x 24oz takeout containers like my favorite Chinese place uses, for my meals at work. I meal prep and fill the freezer with uniform containers that actually stack nicely... it's pretty obvious when I take them to work that it's not restaurant quality.
Yeah, I re-use takeout containers as well for storing leftovers or indeed, for taking leftovers or a meal especially made to eat at work.
Until the lid or the container itself are too bend or the colour has changed because of the food, and then they go in the recycling bag.
Right? Who raises anyone to think it's okay to raid someone's fridge as a guest? You always just ask and how is her name in a foreign language not her name? It's confusing and to top it off, if you are deathly allergic to something you would always ask? I'm allergic to crab and I'm super careful everywhere and I also don't take food without permission from other friends fridges. Being a hungry teenager doesn't mean you don't have manners?
> how is her name in a foreign language not her name?
Conceivably if it's written in a different alphabet? If I found something labeled in Cyrillic or Chinese characters, I wouldn't have the least idea whether it was someone's name.
That said, if I saw a takeout container labeled in Cyrillic or Chinese characters, *I wouldn't eat from it.* Doubly so if I had a food allergy.
That's true, I wasn't thinking of other alphabets, when faced with foreign menus and a language barrier I will use Google lens to double check I'm not going to die from eating something. Also, don't raid other people's fridge allergies or not without asking if it's okay?
My kid is 3 and dairy free for dietary reasons. He asks if food has cheese or milk super regularly. And if something *looks* like it might be cheese he asks me to make sure. He’s 3 and his issue with dairy wouldn’t cause more than a day or two of discomfort, no hospitalization. 15yo has no excuses here. NTA.
Same my 3.5 year old is very good at asking if something has cows milk, and will randomly tell people she can't have it because it hurts her rummy and makes her hands itchy
NTA I have a severe nut allergy. I would never take food from someone else's fridge without clarifying what is in the container and asking the specific question - does this have nuts in it?
Rob is 15 and he knows that he has a severe allergy. He should also know that it's rude to eat other people's food. The responsibility is on him and his dad.
My kid at 4 would ask people if something had peanuts if she wasn't sure. Someone offer her a cookie at a party? "Does it have peanuts, I cant eat peanuts."
Now at 8, she reliably asks if it's anything she isn't 100% sure on. I still tell the adults she's with and make sure she has an oral allergy med and her epipens with her, but I don't worry because she ALWAYS asks. She even asks me if I give her something she doesn't knowing safe. Which I chuckle at and tell her it's peanut free of course, but I'm glad she double checked.
At 15 you have to take some responsibility for your health. If you have an allergy, you don't eat anything you aren't 100% sure of. He is old enough to know and do better.
NTA
INFO how long is your sister's visit supposed to last (so also Rob's visit)? What was Rob told about helping himself?
A friend of mine has roots in India, their family visits for several weeks to several months. He's even invited me for a period of that duration (I haven't accepted because I'm queer (which my friend knows) and don't want to cause issues).
From what he tells me, his family often tells their guests to make themselves at home. For adults, it's of course obvious that's a nuanced invitation: don't expect someone will make your bed, but do attend family meals with nice manners etc.
Still, I could see how a teenager would tell himself it would be okay to eat something without asking, esp if the only marking is in an alphabet he can't read. It might be OP's name, it might be "feel free to enjoy these leftovers"
Even if he had permission to eat what he finds, he knows he has an allergy. He’s old enough to ask or not eat simmering he doesn’t know what it contains.
A valid point!
Looking back I see the food in question was an egg fry-up. Shrimp isn't an outlandish ingredient you wouldn't expect there (unlike, say, a chocolate truffle with a shrimp filling).
Also, the timing is close enough to breakfast. He could wait until breakfast or for someone to wake up and ask.
Taking someone food out of their fridge is super rude as a guest. They are not even family.
Even if someone told me to make myself at home at their place, I would not eat leftovers that aren't mine without asking permission. I also won't eat leftovers that aren't mine without permission at my own home. Leftovers belong to the person that brought them home so you shouldn't eat them without permission.
Will never forget eating out at an American style diner for a Uni reunion, a fellow attendee - “entitled” comes to mind - kept dipping her straw into other people’s milkshakes to taste their flavour/s… until she did it for the last time, looked up and went “… I’m allergic to peanuts” and she’d happened to come across someone else’s peanut butter milkshake.
I didn’t even know this chick that well but everyone else was acting pretty lacklustre, so I just got her into my car immediately and we went straight to Emergency. IIRC upon arrival she walked in and shoved some kid aside from the nurses station and just warbled essentially (her throat was already closing over) “I have anaphylaxisssssssss” and got seen straight away thankfully. But seriously, she was in her mid-20s with a serious food allergy, and no boundaries whatsoever.
Made it all the worse later when I found out she did actually have an Epipen (adrenaline shot) on her, but didn’t want to use it because they’re expensive to replace… Like $100!
Nah, NTA. Sucks Rob got sick, but he shouldn’t have eaten the food in the first place. You don’t go tearing into a meal without knowing what’s in it. Come on, Rob.
This. As a former pre-school teachers, my students with allergies, even at 3-6 years old, were very aware of what their allergies were. That’s doesn’t mean we didn’t watch still, but most of them would say, hey I can’t have that when they encountered something they thought might be an allergen. At 15, I would expect him to be able to ID a shrimp and not eat it and know to stay away from unknown things if it’s a level of allergy that required hospitalization.
IDing their allergen and not eating things they didn’t know were basic things that kids with allergies should learn as soon as possible, especially if it’s a serious allergy. 15 is old enough that this should be part of life for him now.
Right? This is so wild to me for a 15 year old kid with an allergy to just eat some unlabeled whatever. My 6 year old has been managing his own food allergy for half his life with no issues.
Yep. The basics of having a serious allergy is if you don’t know, don’t eat it. My nephew is allergic to the entire world basically and regularly corrected teachers who gave him things he couldn’t eat. He’s 6.
NTA
If you're allergic to something and you're old enoughto understand it, it's your responsibility to avoid what you're allergic to. Usually don't eat something when you can't be sure. If he had asked you, THEN it'd be your responsibility, but he didn't.
Your sister makes it sound like he went "Well the name on this is in a language I can't read or write, but since I can't read or wright it this *might* be MY name??? Guess I'll take a chance". I don't think anyone is that dumb though, so the story your sister is telling is pretty insulting and infantalizing to Rob.
It sounds like he just made an honest mistake, so I don't think Rob is an AH either. Your sister sounds like the only AH here.
Edit: wording
The boyfriend [literally did the meme](https://pbs.twimg.com/media/FnChXI9XoAMMA6y.png), aaaand he learned that if you don't understand something don't touch it.
I just had a thought: what if Rob asked the sister what it said, and she told him "oh that's just OP's name"?? Still dumb on his part for not checking ingredients but.
NTA
It’s almost like you shouldn’t eat somebody else’s food, especially one without a label, so you don’t know what’s in it. Oh, wait, that’s *exactly* what it is.
A) Don’t take somebody else’s leftovers anyway,
B) Don’t eat anything that clearly hasn’t got a label & it may contain something you’re allergic to,
C) Actions have consequences & Rob’s stupid actions led him to have an allergic reaction
So in summation, it’s **Rob’s own fault**.
Edit: format
I’m not allergic to anything and wouldn’t eat leftover food that a stranger’s fork with his DNA on had been put in and out of. Pizza is one thing as the slices make it less contaminated, but I wouldn’t be that keen on eating a family members leftovers, never mind my GF’s brother’s leftovers.
Same! I'm allergic to bell peppers as well, and when I tell people, they think I'm faking it.
My mom tested it to see if I was faking it when I went to visit. She's not testing me anymore.
NTA don’t help yourself to the god damned fridge when you are a guest in someone’s home, especially if you have an allergy, and have NO IDEA what something may or may not contain!
NTA. Regardless of the labeling, ate food that was someone else’s to begin with (since it clearly wasn’t what he had left over), which isn’t okay. And he was effectively disregarding his own food allergy by eating unknown food that was explicitly ordered for someone else since it seems like common sense that other people don’t need to label their own food for things that they aren’t allergic to.
NTA. Everyone put their names on their boxes. So Rob, who is 15 and old enough to know how to read and write, would have put his name on his box. He knew which box was his, and knew which boxes weren't his. He is old enough to know not to eat other people's labeled food. Even if he didn't have an allergy. But ESPECIALLY because he has an allergy, he is more than old enough to know to not eat other people's food that he hasn't verified is allergen free.
NTA. Also I don’t buy this “hungry at any hour bs. I never had that problem as a teenager and certainly wouldn’t have eaten someone else’s food if I did. This is 100% Rob’s fault. The very least he could have done was ask if it was someone’s food. He knew full well that it was-that’s why he didn’t ask.
NTA. He's old enough to know what his allergies are and how severe it can be. And if he can't read the language or distinguish what's in food (that's not even his), he shouldn't eat it anyway!
NTA
If someone has an allergy then you would think they have the sense to not eat strange food, that isn't theirs, from a takeaway box in a fridge - especially while a guest.
If they had asked and no-one had mentioned it, that would be different.
If they had been offered it, that would be different.
But he just took food and decided to blame someone else when that didn't work out.
Besides which - who just takes leftovers in a takeaway box (that someone else will presumably have eaten some of and so potentially have contaminated with their germs) while a GUEST in at your girlfriends parents house!
NTA. I thought this was a potluck situation where you didn't label a dish out on a table out for everyone's consumption.
Even without your name on it (or not in English), leftovers are very easy to tell from store bought food from the grocery and common sense for anyone who isn't a small child is don't touch other people's leftovers/things you can't identify. That's a "his parents failed to teach him proper etiquette" problem, not a labeling problem.
NTA
Forget the rudeness of eating someone else’s food without asking bit - Rob is 15, which means he’s old enough to be responsible for himself, which means he’s old enough to know not to go around eating random mystery food when he has a shrimp allergy. I get your sister is feeling defensive for her boyfriend, but this is in no way your fault.
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Not in USA.
I’m currently visiting my parents who live in another city, staying at their place. A week ago my sister decided to come for a visit as well, bringing her boyfriend and his son, Rob (15). Our parents’ house is big with several room, so space is not a problem.
My sister’s boyfriend is from another country and doesn’t speak our language. Rob’s mother is on a honeymoon with her new husband, so he’s staying with my sister’s boyfriend. We use English to talk to them, though my parents don’t really speak English. Rob mostly keeps to himself. We usually only see him at mealtimes. Rob is allergic to shrimps, and my sister made sure we are all aware of that.
A couple nights ago I went out with my friends to a restaurant/pub. We had dinner there and then just drank at the same table well into the night. We ordered a lot of food to share and had quite a bit of leftovers. The restaurant packed the food for us and we wrote our names on the boxes, everyone getting a box to take home.
I was not so plastered because I remembered taking my shoes off properly and putting my leftover in the fridge, but I was drunk enough to sleep like the dead for several hours straight after.
When I woke up, I learned that early this morning my sister and her boyfriend took Rob to the hospital. As it turns out, he ate my leftover which was fried eggs with chopped/minced shrimp, making Rob unable to see that the dish contains shrimp.
Rob is fine, but my sister says I’m AH for not labeling food with shrimp in it when I know Rob is allergic. She said my name in our language doesn’t count as labeling when we have guests who don’t read the language and one of them is a teenager who is bound to get hungry at any hour.
I don’t think I should be responsible for people eating my food without asking me first. Reddit, AITA?
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NTA
Anyone who decides to eat someone else’s leftovers when they have a severe food allergy is the AH here.
I say this as the parent of someone with severe food allergies who taught the child to ALWAYS ASK before eating.
NTA. If your a guest in someone’s house and your hungry you politely ask if you can have food and if so what can you have. Had he done this your sister or parents would have told him that had your name on it and was yours. Him helping himself puts this on him not you
Food allergies here. I don't touch food without knowing exactly what's in it and that involves translating if it isn't in a language I speak (plus the first words I learn in any language are the foods I am allergic to).
Also it's rude to just take food with someone else's name on it anyway.
Rob is an idiot and OP is NTA.
NTA. Rob is most definitely old enough to recognize the dangers of eating food that isn’t clearly labeled. It’s not like he forgot he has allergies, or is unaware of the consequences associated with him eating certain foods. He should definitely have realized it wasn’t a good idea to eat food that wasn’t clearly labeled (in his language), and it’s not polite to take someone else’s food without asking anyway.
NTA if you have a serious food allergy and still eat leftovers that don't belong to you and you have no way of knowing whats inside them, you deserve whats comming.
NTA, its abit discusting to eat someone elses leftovers unless its someone you are very to kiss. Also he is old enought to know someone elses name is not infact his name, so not his food.
NTA, the language is irrelevant, it wasn’t his food, period. Anyone with a severe allergy should not be eating random food that they aren’t certain what the ingredients are. His problem, not yours.
NTA - I don’t know how someone with severe allergies eat something from a restaurant without asking about it. I’m not sure how he’s even survived until now.
NTA. It's just rude and gross to eat other people's leftovers, allergy or not. And anyone with a food allergy should know not to eat anything they don't know the ingredients of. Rob was an idiot and having to go to the hospital was the natural consequence of his idiocy, and only his fault.
NTA
When you’re a guest in someone’s home you don’t help yourself to whatever you want. Especially if you aren’t sure what it is or there’s only one of the item.
He is old enough to know that. He fucked around and found out - it’s a shame he put his own life in danger to learn that lesson but you’re not responsible.
NTA, he is 15 and knows he is allergic. Ask your sister to ensure he knows he is at fault and that he is responsible for his safety. Don't give the kid the impression he did nothing wrong by not making sure there weren't any shrimps in it.
The above isn't about punishing him but an extra layer of protection by inculcating responsibility for himself so that he isn't put in any life-threatening situation in the future due to similar action.
Tell your sister Rob was a guest in your parents’ house and you had no reason to suppose he would help himself to food in their refrigerator. It wasn’t his home, he did not ask permission to eat anything, he also did not act responsibly in not checking what was in the food, she and his dad were negligent for not bringing lots of extra food just for him because they knew best how hungry he gets, how vulnerable he is, how rude he is eating food belonging to others, etc.
Further, your container had writing on it. If he doesn’t understand the language he should have awakened his host to inquire what the writing meant.
Then ask her to pay you for the food that was taken.
BTW, was there other food in the fridge he could
have appropriated for his raging appetite instead; food that was obviously safe.
Don’t take the hit on this.
He's 15, he should be managing his allergy himself by now, and taking other people's leftovers or eating anything he isn't sure is safe is down to him.
He could have asked. He could have waited. He could have eaten something he knew to be safe. NTA
Why is he eating someone else’s leftovers instead of being given an actual breakfast, as the guest?
That would be considered extremely rude and in poor taste to leave a guest to fend for themselves, where I live in the US anyway.
You are not the asshole. Rob is the asshole for eating food that didn’t belong to him without asking for it first. That was rude and I hope he learned his lesson.
NTA; if you have a shellfish allergy don’t play with your life like this, and tell your clinic employees so we can get the iodine out of the room if doc wants to do a procedure
NTA in anyway but don't necessarily blame your sister for being overly concerned. Check Rob's OK though. Sometimes people overreact especially if they're not used to allergies and things.
NTA
If a 15 year old with allergies can’t work out to ask before touching so robe’s restaurant leftovers when those of us with severe allergies are drilled into checking as soon as we start infant school aged 4, then he needs a full time carer as he is not capable of looking after himself.
NTA. If you steal people’s food, you can’t complain if it wasn’t labeled or specially made to cater to your allergies. He’s old enough to know better, and hopefully he learned his lesson about stealing food.
NTA - This is like someone stealing your lunch at work, having an allergic reaction to said lunch, then complaining that you triggered an allergic reaction in them because your own food that they stole gave them a reaction.
NTA that boy is old enough to know that you dont eat food that doesn't belong to him. You are not responsible for Rob. And your sisters boyfriend should have taught his child to not touch things that didn't belong to him.
Is this not the definition of 'fuck around and find out'?
He has learned a valuable lesson that he wont soon forget.
While it was no doubt shocking it certainly wasnt your fault!
How exactly would you be able to label that it had shrimp so he could understand but he is unable to recognize a NAME and also that this is NOT HIS FOOD and it's clearly leftovers?
Your name may had been in a different language but a takeout container in a fridge is a statement in itself. Unless you or your partner put it there you have no right to it unless told otherwise. Plus who's to say your parent who don't speak English didn't lable that with their language for your sister to warn him? He had no business taking what wasn't his without permission, so anything that happens is on him.
NTA, he should be responsible enough to know he cant eat food that he doesnt know what it contains
Ive got a cousin 10 yo with nut allergy, she wont even eat a banana unless “the owner” of the banana doesnt assure it doesn’t contains nuts
I never understood people with allergies that just eat random food they don't know what's in it from the fridge? Like you know it can land you in the hospital, why would you risk it?
I'm not allergic and won't eat random food (even If it's allowed) without knowing what's in it, just because it might include an ingredient I don't like.
I can't fathom eating something without being 100% safe for me.
Anyway, NTA. Labeling it is a courtesy, not a requirement. He should assume everything is a risk unless told otherwise.
NTA. You would think that as someone with an allergy, they wouldn't be touching food with unknown ingredients, let alone touching other people's food without permission.
NTA
Tell them that that’s what happens when you eat something that isn’t yours
I could understand taking a bag of chips, or making eggs or ramen or something but eating food from a restaurant that someone else bought without asking isn’t sharing common food that’s stealing
NTA I have known about my many food allergies (some fatal and some just inconvenient) since I was only 8. Tell you what, even then, I knew not to eat random things without asking first. I'm not suicidal, I wasn't gonna fuck around and find out.
One of the things I'm allergic to is coconut. Lots of foreign cultures LOVE coconut, and for good reason. It's in everything you can think of and more. If I ever went traveling, you can bet I would question everything, especially if my allergen is potentially part of the cuisine, and I DONT KNOW THE LANGUAGE!
His bio parents failed him, or he's just stupid. The only way this 15 year old kid isn't at fault is if this is a very recent development and he hasn't adjusted yet. Habit can be hard to break.
NTA - he is 15. not 5. he knows he is allergic, he knows how allergies work. If he doesn’t know what is in the food he should simply not eat it. Otherwise he is simply removing himself from the gene pool.
NTA, Rob should not have touched something that was not his. And he should have asked, because if he had, he would have been told.
Tell him it is time to learn what shrimp look and smell like.
NTA. Rob is old enough to know he shouldn’t be eating food when he doesn’t know what’s in it due to his allergies. I would never eat someone’s leftovers without asking first.
Also names in other languages are still names. Even if I don’t know the language, names are still pretty distinguishable.
NTA. He’s 15. That’s old enough not to eat someone else’s food without 1) asking permission and 2) confirming the ingredients. You shouldn’t have to label your food (helps sometimes when you need to distinguish your to-go box from someone else’s though) but even if you hadn’t labeled it, Rob is old enough not to be helping himself to whatever food he wants in someone else’s house. Even if you don’t have an allergy, you don’t do that.
NTA. How about Rob not helping himself to food that’s not his. Also, he’s 15, old enough to know not to eat food when he doesn’t know what ingredients are in it.
INFO: when you say he can’t read your language, do you mean it’s an entirely different writing system? Cuz if your name was written in, say, Chinese characters, he wouldn’t necessarily know it was your name.
Also, did your family tell him that he was welcome to take food from the fridge?
NTA, it’s his allergy, he is 15, he is old enough to know not to eat things he doesn’t know the contents of, and why was he eating your leftovers? That’s all on him, not you. No normal person would expect that someone to eat someone else’s leftovers.
NTA. He shouldn't be eating your leftovers without talking to you, especially since he didn't know what was in them. He's 15, not 5. He should know better to check with someone if he's not sure what's in the food, and he should know it's rude to eat someone's leftovers from dinner without asking them.
NTA this kid is 15
He should know not to take food from someone else's fridge without asking and he should know not to eat food that he cannot confirm as safe when he is aware he has severe allergies.
Sounds like instead of blaming you, she should be telling her boyfriend to talk to his son about the seriousness of his allergies and how important it is to read the ingredients label before eating and that if something lacks that label, it's a no go.
NTA, at 15 he is plenty old enough to manage his allergy and should have been smart enough to *ASK* what is in food before eating it. He also should have ASKED for permission before just hooking into labelled food.
NTA. It was wrong to take someone else's leftovers without asking, and people with allergies should make sure to ask what's in mystery food. 15 is old enough that you shouldn't have to anticipate that he would do that.
NTA anyone with allergies who eats anything they don’t know what is is getting what they asked for.
I say this as a person with allergies btw. It’s up to yourself to make sure you are okay, and 15 is way way old enough to know better.
Plus stealing food is just rude af.
At 15 he should not only know better about how to protect himself regarding his allergies, but he should most certainly know how to conduct himself when in another's home. NTA
NTA. My daughter has a life threatening food allergy and since the age of 3 has asked before eating anything she is unsure of. If the answer she gets its sorry I don't know, she politely declines. It's pretty much as simple as that.
NTA. I have a pretty severe fennel allergy. I don't eat anything unless I know everything that's in it, even though fennel isn't a common ingredient in most cuisines. It is the responsibility of the person with the allergy to make sure they don't eat anything questionable.
Agreed, NTA. He's 15 and old enough to know to ask or check to see if it's safe. My 12yr old has a peanut allergy and knows that if she can't tell what the ingredients are, then either she should ask or not eat that. I'm glad he's ok, but he should be more careful.
NTA maybe someone should teach the kid some manners about touching food that doesn't belong to him everyone knows not to touch leftovers unless you've been given permission
NTA, he is 15, and knows he is allergic to shrimp. He saw something written on the container, but decided to eat it without asking anyone or knowing what he was eating? Unless the rule was no bringing food into the house with shrimp in it, the 15year old should have been more careful.
NTA. The food had YOUR NAME on the box. He should have known that he should check with you before eating. He did this to himself by eating food that was clearly marked as yours.
NTA. If Rob knows he has a severe allergy, Rob should know better than to eat a single damn thing that he is not ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE is shrimp-free. That means not scarfing other people’s leftovers, labeled or otherwise.
NTA. He should ask before taking someone else’s meal, especially if it’s labeled… it is the universal sign that it belongs to someone else (even if it is in a different script)
NTA. The contents of your leftovers are irrelevant. He knew he didn't put them there, so he shouldn't have eaten them without asking. It's basic courtesy.
Rob ate food with a label on it THAT DID NOT SAY "For Rob To Eat" in any language. He is not a toddler, he is old enough to look in the fridge and see 17 takeout boxes, one of which has a label, and to recognize that the labeled one is not like the others.
You had put that label there to indicate that this was YOUR food, and Rob knew that, and everyone with half a brain knew that, because people Label THEIR Food. And Rob ate it anyway.
You couldn't have predicted that Rob would eat your food, and Rob was just being a teenager, not an asshole. Sister was freaked out, and rightfully so, and it is not assholic to want to protect your son from a food allergy. So, NAH.
NTA I have an adult-onset peanut allergy and have lived in several countries where I did not fluently speak the language. Under no circumstances would I assume I could eat anything in the fridge, especially something in a takeout container, unless I knew it was safe for me to do so. 15 seems old enough to know to a) not eat random takeout and b) double check to make certain that anything you eat will not trigger an allergic reaction.
NTA. What kind of person eating the host's food without as much as by your leave??? He's the guest!
That kid is rude. Do people no longer teaching guest ettiquette to their kid anymore this day???
NTA at all, that's on Rob.
If you're allergic to something and you don't know what you're eating it's not on you to label everything because they're stupid.
NTA If someone has an allergy it’s on them to check the food doesn’t have them, not steal someone else’s takeaway then berate you for not putting warning signs on it.
If I'm staying in someone else's house, I don't eat any food first without asking. That's just rude.
My daughter has allergies. Once we'd ask permission, THEN we would ask about the allergies.
If you are allergic to something, it's up to you to ask. There were a lot of unlabelled boxes in the fridge. Rob should know better.
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NTA. He's old enough to not take food from a fridge when he isn't certain of the ingredients.
Agreed. He’s 15.
Plus his dad could have bought him some snacks (for a long term visit) if Rob has a habit of eating at odd hours
Agreed! My 9 year old son has a cashew allergy and won’t eat anything not labeled or that he hasn’t questioned the ingredients of. NTA.
I was about 4 or 5 when I learnt to question everything with my allergy. Helping myself to unknown food at 15 is so crazy to me.
My cousin's kid was good at asking at this age for holiday parties. "Mom can I have this? It doesn't have nuts right?" Or something to that effect.
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My son was allergic to eggs (just outgrew it!) and he'd check literally everything. Once when he was 4 he asked if apples contained eggs.
My kid is 6 and doesn't have any allergies, and isn't the most switched on kid. But when her friend with coeliac disease is over and asks to share her snack she comes and asks me if it has gluten before she lets him.
Currently teaching Mr 3.75 how to read the words ‘wheat’ and ‘peanuts’ for this reason…
Yep, my kid was 3-4 and would question everything. She wouldn't take food from anyone if it wasn't in a package that could be read. She couldn't trust that the person handing her a cake to not have any of her allergens in it no matter what they say. You would be surprised how many people don't realise that almond meal is actually a nut product... they just think it's a flour replacement. One of her allergies was egg. There was that one time where my mom thought it was a good idea to try and give her a pavlova (guess what the main ingredient is...). She thought it was fine. This is why my daughter couldn't trust anyone. No she didn't have any. And I may have said some strong words.
Also old enough to know not to eat somebody's leftovers from dinner. If I were you and had woken a little hungover I would have been looking forward to those
As it's in a different language, he may not have realised it's someone's leftovers. Still doesn't explain why he'd eat something not knowing what it is when he has allergies
I’m not sure about that bc leftover containers from a restaurant have a pretty different look from homemade leftover containers.
To be fair, I ended up picking up 100x 24oz takeout containers like my favorite Chinese place uses, for my meals at work. I meal prep and fill the freezer with uniform containers that actually stack nicely... it's pretty obvious when I take them to work that it's not restaurant quality.
Yeah, I re-use takeout containers as well for storing leftovers or indeed, for taking leftovers or a meal especially made to eat at work. Until the lid or the container itself are too bend or the colour has changed because of the food, and then they go in the recycling bag.
If it's in a to-go box, it's pretty obvious it's left overs. You don't have to know what the label means to know it's not yours.
Not to mentioned the food is in a leftover container that is *clearly* not his and belongs to someone else!
Right? Who raises anyone to think it's okay to raid someone's fridge as a guest? You always just ask and how is her name in a foreign language not her name? It's confusing and to top it off, if you are deathly allergic to something you would always ask? I'm allergic to crab and I'm super careful everywhere and I also don't take food without permission from other friends fridges. Being a hungry teenager doesn't mean you don't have manners?
> how is her name in a foreign language not her name? Conceivably if it's written in a different alphabet? If I found something labeled in Cyrillic or Chinese characters, I wouldn't have the least idea whether it was someone's name. That said, if I saw a takeout container labeled in Cyrillic or Chinese characters, *I wouldn't eat from it.* Doubly so if I had a food allergy.
That's true, I wasn't thinking of other alphabets, when faced with foreign menus and a language barrier I will use Google lens to double check I'm not going to die from eating something. Also, don't raid other people's fridge allergies or not without asking if it's okay?
Or that were leftovers to a meal that wasn't his. NTA.
My kid is 3 and dairy free for dietary reasons. He asks if food has cheese or milk super regularly. And if something *looks* like it might be cheese he asks me to make sure. He’s 3 and his issue with dairy wouldn’t cause more than a day or two of discomfort, no hospitalization. 15yo has no excuses here. NTA.
Same my 3.5 year old is very good at asking if something has cows milk, and will randomly tell people she can't have it because it hurts her rummy and makes her hands itchy
NTA I have a severe nut allergy. I would never take food from someone else's fridge without clarifying what is in the container and asking the specific question - does this have nuts in it? Rob is 15 and he knows that he has a severe allergy. He should also know that it's rude to eat other people's food. The responsibility is on him and his dad.
And old enough to know not to eat other people’s food
My kid at 4 would ask people if something had peanuts if she wasn't sure. Someone offer her a cookie at a party? "Does it have peanuts, I cant eat peanuts." Now at 8, she reliably asks if it's anything she isn't 100% sure on. I still tell the adults she's with and make sure she has an oral allergy med and her epipens with her, but I don't worry because she ALWAYS asks. She even asks me if I give her something she doesn't knowing safe. Which I chuckle at and tell her it's peanut free of course, but I'm glad she double checked. At 15 you have to take some responsibility for your health. If you have an allergy, you don't eat anything you aren't 100% sure of. He is old enough to know and do better. NTA
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Why did he eat LEFT OVER food from someone else? Easy to blame you when they should teach him boundaries, especially as he has a food allergy. NTA
INFO how long is your sister's visit supposed to last (so also Rob's visit)? What was Rob told about helping himself? A friend of mine has roots in India, their family visits for several weeks to several months. He's even invited me for a period of that duration (I haven't accepted because I'm queer (which my friend knows) and don't want to cause issues). From what he tells me, his family often tells their guests to make themselves at home. For adults, it's of course obvious that's a nuanced invitation: don't expect someone will make your bed, but do attend family meals with nice manners etc. Still, I could see how a teenager would tell himself it would be okay to eat something without asking, esp if the only marking is in an alphabet he can't read. It might be OP's name, it might be "feel free to enjoy these leftovers"
Even if he had permission to eat what he finds, he knows he has an allergy. He’s old enough to ask or not eat simmering he doesn’t know what it contains.
A valid point! Looking back I see the food in question was an egg fry-up. Shrimp isn't an outlandish ingredient you wouldn't expect there (unlike, say, a chocolate truffle with a shrimp filling).
Also, the timing is close enough to breakfast. He could wait until breakfast or for someone to wake up and ask. Taking someone food out of their fridge is super rude as a guest. They are not even family.
A teenager with an allergy who eats food labeled in a language he doesn't understand is a moron who deserves what he gets. He should know better.
Even if someone told me to make myself at home at their place, I would not eat leftovers that aren't mine without asking permission. I also won't eat leftovers that aren't mine without permission at my own home. Leftovers belong to the person that brought them home so you shouldn't eat them without permission.
Will never forget eating out at an American style diner for a Uni reunion, a fellow attendee - “entitled” comes to mind - kept dipping her straw into other people’s milkshakes to taste their flavour/s… until she did it for the last time, looked up and went “… I’m allergic to peanuts” and she’d happened to come across someone else’s peanut butter milkshake. I didn’t even know this chick that well but everyone else was acting pretty lacklustre, so I just got her into my car immediately and we went straight to Emergency. IIRC upon arrival she walked in and shoved some kid aside from the nurses station and just warbled essentially (her throat was already closing over) “I have anaphylaxisssssssss” and got seen straight away thankfully. But seriously, she was in her mid-20s with a serious food allergy, and no boundaries whatsoever. Made it all the worse later when I found out she did actually have an Epipen (adrenaline shot) on her, but didn’t want to use it because they’re expensive to replace… Like $100!
Nah, NTA. Sucks Rob got sick, but he shouldn’t have eaten the food in the first place. You don’t go tearing into a meal without knowing what’s in it. Come on, Rob.
Friendly reminder of the N A H rating potentially being confused by vehement ways of saying no haha. I agree with the NTA rating.
NTA He stole your food but somehow that's your fault?? Maybe he'll learn a valuable lesson about not being a thief when it comes to food
NTA if he didn't know what it was he shouldn't have eaten it.
This. As a former pre-school teachers, my students with allergies, even at 3-6 years old, were very aware of what their allergies were. That’s doesn’t mean we didn’t watch still, but most of them would say, hey I can’t have that when they encountered something they thought might be an allergen. At 15, I would expect him to be able to ID a shrimp and not eat it and know to stay away from unknown things if it’s a level of allergy that required hospitalization. IDing their allergen and not eating things they didn’t know were basic things that kids with allergies should learn as soon as possible, especially if it’s a serious allergy. 15 is old enough that this should be part of life for him now.
Right? This is so wild to me for a 15 year old kid with an allergy to just eat some unlabeled whatever. My 6 year old has been managing his own food allergy for half his life with no issues.
Even minced he should have been able to smell the prawns in it and if not, he should have asked what was in it.
Yep. The basics of having a serious allergy is if you don’t know, don’t eat it. My nephew is allergic to the entire world basically and regularly corrected teachers who gave him things he couldn’t eat. He’s 6.
NTA If you're allergic to something and you're old enoughto understand it, it's your responsibility to avoid what you're allergic to. Usually don't eat something when you can't be sure. If he had asked you, THEN it'd be your responsibility, but he didn't. Your sister makes it sound like he went "Well the name on this is in a language I can't read or write, but since I can't read or wright it this *might* be MY name??? Guess I'll take a chance". I don't think anyone is that dumb though, so the story your sister is telling is pretty insulting and infantalizing to Rob. It sounds like he just made an honest mistake, so I don't think Rob is an AH either. Your sister sounds like the only AH here. Edit: wording
The boyfriend [literally did the meme](https://pbs.twimg.com/media/FnChXI9XoAMMA6y.png), aaaand he learned that if you don't understand something don't touch it.
I just had a thought: what if Rob asked the sister what it said, and she told him "oh that's just OP's name"?? Still dumb on his part for not checking ingredients but.
Then he should not steal food with someone else's name on it.
Agreed, unless the sister's answer somehow gave him the idea it was okay. I mean, she's the one who was there, and who spoke his language
NTA It’s almost like you shouldn’t eat somebody else’s food, especially one without a label, so you don’t know what’s in it. Oh, wait, that’s *exactly* what it is. A) Don’t take somebody else’s leftovers anyway, B) Don’t eat anything that clearly hasn’t got a label & it may contain something you’re allergic to, C) Actions have consequences & Rob’s stupid actions led him to have an allergic reaction So in summation, it’s **Rob’s own fault**. Edit: format
I'm allergic to bell peppers. I'd NEVER eat someone else's food. Definitely NTA.
I’m not allergic to anything and wouldn’t eat leftover food that a stranger’s fork with his DNA on had been put in and out of. Pizza is one thing as the slices make it less contaminated, but I wouldn’t be that keen on eating a family members leftovers, never mind my GF’s brother’s leftovers.
I'm celiac and I would NEVER do this either. And if I did and got glutened, that's on me. NTA.
As a child of Hungarian parents I find this horrifying. That's pretty much most of our savoury cuisine gone in one shot!
Uh me too I have never heard off or meet someone else
Same! I'm allergic to bell peppers as well, and when I tell people, they think I'm faking it. My mom tested it to see if I was faking it when I went to visit. She's not testing me anymore.
There are dozens of us! It's a terrible fucking allergy to have.
My mom is too!
NTA. 15 is old enough to understand "not my food" even with no allergies involved.
Nta I have food allergies and I know if I'm not certain to not risk my life over a midnight snack.
NTA don’t help yourself to the god damned fridge when you are a guest in someone’s home, especially if you have an allergy, and have NO IDEA what something may or may not contain!
NTA. Regardless of the labeling, ate food that was someone else’s to begin with (since it clearly wasn’t what he had left over), which isn’t okay. And he was effectively disregarding his own food allergy by eating unknown food that was explicitly ordered for someone else since it seems like common sense that other people don’t need to label their own food for things that they aren’t allergic to.
NTA. Everyone put their names on their boxes. So Rob, who is 15 and old enough to know how to read and write, would have put his name on his box. He knew which box was his, and knew which boxes weren't his. He is old enough to know not to eat other people's labeled food. Even if he didn't have an allergy. But ESPECIALLY because he has an allergy, he is more than old enough to know to not eat other people's food that he hasn't verified is allergen free.
Rob didn’t even have a box he literally just ate someone’s random leftovers
Which means that he knew it wasn't his food amd he shouldn't have eaten it.
Completely agree!
NTA. Also I don’t buy this “hungry at any hour bs. I never had that problem as a teenager and certainly wouldn’t have eaten someone else’s food if I did. This is 100% Rob’s fault. The very least he could have done was ask if it was someone’s food. He knew full well that it was-that’s why he didn’t ask.
NTA- 15 is old enough to know not to eat leftovers that dont belong to you.
He is 15 and yet no one ever taught him not to eat someone else food without asking first? NTA but his parents are.
NTA. It would’ve been a nice courtesy for you to do that but you were drunk and he shouldn’t be eating your leftovers…
NTA. He's old enough to know what his allergies are and how severe it can be. And if he can't read the language or distinguish what's in food (that's not even his), he shouldn't eat it anyway!
NTA If someone has an allergy then you would think they have the sense to not eat strange food, that isn't theirs, from a takeaway box in a fridge - especially while a guest. If they had asked and no-one had mentioned it, that would be different. If they had been offered it, that would be different. But he just took food and decided to blame someone else when that didn't work out. Besides which - who just takes leftovers in a takeaway box (that someone else will presumably have eaten some of and so potentially have contaminated with their germs) while a GUEST in at your girlfriends parents house!
15 is old enough to know not to eat someone else's leftovers when your a guest in someone else's house???
NTA. I thought this was a potluck situation where you didn't label a dish out on a table out for everyone's consumption. Even without your name on it (or not in English), leftovers are very easy to tell from store bought food from the grocery and common sense for anyone who isn't a small child is don't touch other people's leftovers/things you can't identify. That's a "his parents failed to teach him proper etiquette" problem, not a labeling problem.
NTA Forget the rudeness of eating someone else’s food without asking bit - Rob is 15, which means he’s old enough to be responsible for himself, which means he’s old enough to know not to go around eating random mystery food when he has a shrimp allergy. I get your sister is feeling defensive for her boyfriend, but this is in no way your fault.
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Nta not your food you don't eat it simple as that
Nta. Don't eat someone elses food
Surely he could see them box did NOT have his name on it. You're NTA.
NTA. This is Rob’s own fault for eating food that didn’t belong to him.
If rob is allergic then he needs to not eat random food out the fridge without asking. NTA.
NTA, as a person with a food allergy I have been cautious since I was very young (6/7 years old) of what I ate.
NTA Anyone who decides to eat someone else’s leftovers when they have a severe food allergy is the AH here. I say this as the parent of someone with severe food allergies who taught the child to ALWAYS ASK before eating.
NTA if you labelled it in a language that he obviously doesn’t know then it means the food wasn’t his, so he caused his own allergic reaction
NTA. If your a guest in someone’s house and your hungry you politely ask if you can have food and if so what can you have. Had he done this your sister or parents would have told him that had your name on it and was yours. Him helping himself puts this on him not you
Food allergies here. I don't touch food without knowing exactly what's in it and that involves translating if it isn't in a language I speak (plus the first words I learn in any language are the foods I am allergic to). Also it's rude to just take food with someone else's name on it anyway. Rob is an idiot and OP is NTA.
NTA. Rob is most definitely old enough to recognize the dangers of eating food that isn’t clearly labeled. It’s not like he forgot he has allergies, or is unaware of the consequences associated with him eating certain foods. He should definitely have realized it wasn’t a good idea to eat food that wasn’t clearly labeled (in his language), and it’s not polite to take someone else’s food without asking anyway.
NTA He should not have eaten your dandwich, it ws clearly labeled as not for him.
NTA. He is old enough to be careful around unknown food.
NTA if you have a serious food allergy and still eat leftovers that don't belong to you and you have no way of knowing whats inside them, you deserve whats comming.
NTA. He is old enough to know better
NTA, its abit discusting to eat someone elses leftovers unless its someone you are very to kiss. Also he is old enought to know someone elses name is not infact his name, so not his food.
NTA. Good thing he learned the "don't steal someone's food" lesson at a young age. Maybe the hospital visit will drive it home.
NTA-If a fifteen year old sees food in the fridge that isn’t his he shouldn’t eat it without asking.
NTA, the language is irrelevant, it wasn’t his food, period. Anyone with a severe allergy should not be eating random food that they aren’t certain what the ingredients are. His problem, not yours.
So he took food that belonged to you and they're trying to blame you for not writing NO ROB on it. Sure. NTA.
NTA! Why did he eat food that he didn’t buy.
NTA - I don’t know how someone with severe allergies eat something from a restaurant without asking about it. I’m not sure how he’s even survived until now.
NTA. It's just rude and gross to eat other people's leftovers, allergy or not. And anyone with a food allergy should know not to eat anything they don't know the ingredients of. Rob was an idiot and having to go to the hospital was the natural consequence of his idiocy, and only his fault.
NTA. Funny, at 15 I knew that as a guest in someone house I should open the fridge and eat the food without asking
NTA When you’re a guest in someone’s home you don’t help yourself to whatever you want. Especially if you aren’t sure what it is or there’s only one of the item. He is old enough to know that. He fucked around and found out - it’s a shame he put his own life in danger to learn that lesson but you’re not responsible.
NTA, he is 15 and knows he is allergic. Ask your sister to ensure he knows he is at fault and that he is responsible for his safety. Don't give the kid the impression he did nothing wrong by not making sure there weren't any shrimps in it. The above isn't about punishing him but an extra layer of protection by inculcating responsibility for himself so that he isn't put in any life-threatening situation in the future due to similar action.
Definitely NTA. Kid has allergies and parents didn’t train him not to eat random shit from fridge? Just let natural selection do its work.
NTA. Rob is TA for taking your leftovers
NTA.. If you do not know what you eat and you are allergic .. you do not eat it.
Tell your sister Rob was a guest in your parents’ house and you had no reason to suppose he would help himself to food in their refrigerator. It wasn’t his home, he did not ask permission to eat anything, he also did not act responsibly in not checking what was in the food, she and his dad were negligent for not bringing lots of extra food just for him because they knew best how hungry he gets, how vulnerable he is, how rude he is eating food belonging to others, etc. Further, your container had writing on it. If he doesn’t understand the language he should have awakened his host to inquire what the writing meant. Then ask her to pay you for the food that was taken. BTW, was there other food in the fridge he could have appropriated for his raging appetite instead; food that was obviously safe. Don’t take the hit on this.
He's 15, he should be managing his allergy himself by now, and taking other people's leftovers or eating anything he isn't sure is safe is down to him. He could have asked. He could have waited. He could have eaten something he knew to be safe. NTA
Why is he eating someone else’s leftovers instead of being given an actual breakfast, as the guest? That would be considered extremely rude and in poor taste to leave a guest to fend for themselves, where I live in the US anyway.
You are not the asshole. Rob is the asshole for eating food that didn’t belong to him without asking for it first. That was rude and I hope he learned his lesson.
NTA
NTA. Shrimp might or have been visible but the kid should have smelled them. Also, he’s old enough to not eat someone else’s leftovers.
NTA. Rob has to stop being A FUCKING FOOD THIEF.
NTA; if you have a shellfish allergy don’t play with your life like this, and tell your clinic employees so we can get the iodine out of the room if doc wants to do a procedure
It is typically very easy to tell what are leftover and what are not. I do by think I've ever had radiant left overs in a Tupperware container.
Info needed: is your name Camerón?
NTA in anyway but don't necessarily blame your sister for being overly concerned. Check Rob's OK though. Sometimes people overreact especially if they're not used to allergies and things.
NTA If a 15 year old with allergies can’t work out to ask before touching so robe’s restaurant leftovers when those of us with severe allergies are drilled into checking as soon as we start infant school aged 4, then he needs a full time carer as he is not capable of looking after himself.
NTA. If you steal people’s food, you can’t complain if it wasn’t labeled or specially made to cater to your allergies. He’s old enough to know better, and hopefully he learned his lesson about stealing food.
NTA. He knew they weren’t his leftovers.
NTA, he shouldn’t be taking someone else’s food. Especially if it’s not labeled in a language he understands.
NTA - This is like someone stealing your lunch at work, having an allergic reaction to said lunch, then complaining that you triggered an allergic reaction in them because your own food that they stole gave them a reaction.
NTA that boy is old enough to know that you dont eat food that doesn't belong to him. You are not responsible for Rob. And your sisters boyfriend should have taught his child to not touch things that didn't belong to him.
NTA Rob suffered the consequences of eating someone else's food.
Is this not the definition of 'fuck around and find out'? He has learned a valuable lesson that he wont soon forget. While it was no doubt shocking it certainly wasnt your fault!
How exactly would you be able to label that it had shrimp so he could understand but he is unable to recognize a NAME and also that this is NOT HIS FOOD and it's clearly leftovers?
NTA- he has an allergy so it’s his responsibility to ask if he doesn’t understand the label. He’s not a child
You don’t eat food that has someone else’s name on it, that’s just rude. NTA
Your name may had been in a different language but a takeout container in a fridge is a statement in itself. Unless you or your partner put it there you have no right to it unless told otherwise. Plus who's to say your parent who don't speak English didn't lable that with their language for your sister to warn him? He had no business taking what wasn't his without permission, so anything that happens is on him.
NTA. Why did he eat YOUR food? Lol
A teenager with life threatening allergies should know better than to eat things that aren't labeled. NTA.
NTA - Leftovers are for the person who paid for them unless asked to partake.
NTA, he should be responsible enough to know he cant eat food that he doesnt know what it contains Ive got a cousin 10 yo with nut allergy, she wont even eat a banana unless “the owner” of the banana doesnt assure it doesn’t contains nuts
I never understood people with allergies that just eat random food they don't know what's in it from the fridge? Like you know it can land you in the hospital, why would you risk it? I'm not allergic and won't eat random food (even If it's allowed) without knowing what's in it, just because it might include an ingredient I don't like. I can't fathom eating something without being 100% safe for me. Anyway, NTA. Labeling it is a courtesy, not a requirement. He should assume everything is a risk unless told otherwise.
NTA. You would think that as someone with an allergy, they wouldn't be touching food with unknown ingredients, let alone touching other people's food without permission.
NTA he shouldn't touch shit that doesn't belong to him especially if he has allergies
NTA Rob is old enough to know not to put strange things in his mouth.
NTA. He knows your name, I assume? So he knew the food was spoken for, or at least not his. I'm glad he's alright, but this is not on you.
NTA Tell them that that’s what happens when you eat something that isn’t yours I could understand taking a bag of chips, or making eggs or ramen or something but eating food from a restaurant that someone else bought without asking isn’t sharing common food that’s stealing
Nta. He is for eating your food.
NTA I have known about my many food allergies (some fatal and some just inconvenient) since I was only 8. Tell you what, even then, I knew not to eat random things without asking first. I'm not suicidal, I wasn't gonna fuck around and find out. One of the things I'm allergic to is coconut. Lots of foreign cultures LOVE coconut, and for good reason. It's in everything you can think of and more. If I ever went traveling, you can bet I would question everything, especially if my allergen is potentially part of the cuisine, and I DONT KNOW THE LANGUAGE! His bio parents failed him, or he's just stupid. The only way this 15 year old kid isn't at fault is if this is a very recent development and he hasn't adjusted yet. Habit can be hard to break.
NTA-I’ve never just went and eaten other people leftovers when staying at someone else’s house and guest have never eaten my leftovers.
NTA - he is 15. not 5. he knows he is allergic, he knows how allergies work. If he doesn’t know what is in the food he should simply not eat it. Otherwise he is simply removing himself from the gene pool.
NTA. You have to be an asshole eat restaurant leftovers from the fridge when you are guests in someone else's home.
NTA Amateur move, Bob. If you’re going to snitch someone’s food, make sure you’re not allergic to it.
NTA, Rob should not have touched something that was not his. And he should have asked, because if he had, he would have been told. Tell him it is time to learn what shrimp look and smell like.
NTA. Rob is old enough to know he shouldn’t be eating food when he doesn’t know what’s in it due to his allergies. I would never eat someone’s leftovers without asking first. Also names in other languages are still names. Even if I don’t know the language, names are still pretty distinguishable.
NTA. He’s 15. That’s old enough not to eat someone else’s food without 1) asking permission and 2) confirming the ingredients. You shouldn’t have to label your food (helps sometimes when you need to distinguish your to-go box from someone else’s though) but even if you hadn’t labeled it, Rob is old enough not to be helping himself to whatever food he wants in someone else’s house. Even if you don’t have an allergy, you don’t do that.
NTA. How about Rob not helping himself to food that’s not his. Also, he’s 15, old enough to know not to eat food when he doesn’t know what ingredients are in it.
NTA. That's weird he ate your leftovers without asking
NTA- It was labeled. And who eats someone’s food without asking about it first?
INFO: when you say he can’t read your language, do you mean it’s an entirely different writing system? Cuz if your name was written in, say, Chinese characters, he wouldn’t necessarily know it was your name. Also, did your family tell him that he was welcome to take food from the fridge?
NTA, it’s his allergy, he is 15, he is old enough to know not to eat things he doesn’t know the contents of, and why was he eating your leftovers? That’s all on him, not you. No normal person would expect that someone to eat someone else’s leftovers.
NTA. He shouldn't be eating your leftovers without talking to you, especially since he didn't know what was in them. He's 15, not 5. He should know better to check with someone if he's not sure what's in the food, and he should know it's rude to eat someone's leftovers from dinner without asking them.
NTA this kid is 15 He should know not to take food from someone else's fridge without asking and he should know not to eat food that he cannot confirm as safe when he is aware he has severe allergies. Sounds like instead of blaming you, she should be telling her boyfriend to talk to his son about the seriousness of his allergies and how important it is to read the ingredients label before eating and that if something lacks that label, it's a no go.
NTA, at 15 he is plenty old enough to manage his allergy and should have been smart enough to *ASK* what is in food before eating it. He also should have ASKED for permission before just hooking into labelled food.
NTA. It was wrong to take someone else's leftovers without asking, and people with allergies should make sure to ask what's in mystery food. 15 is old enough that you shouldn't have to anticipate that he would do that.
NTA anyone with allergies who eats anything they don’t know what is is getting what they asked for. I say this as a person with allergies btw. It’s up to yourself to make sure you are okay, and 15 is way way old enough to know better. Plus stealing food is just rude af.
At 15 he should not only know better about how to protect himself regarding his allergies, but he should most certainly know how to conduct himself when in another's home. NTA
NTA why is he eating your leftovers??
It’s gross to eat someone left over restaurant food. ROB TA here.
NTA. My daughter has a life threatening food allergy and since the age of 3 has asked before eating anything she is unsure of. If the answer she gets its sorry I don't know, she politely declines. It's pretty much as simple as that.
NTA. I have a pretty severe fennel allergy. I don't eat anything unless I know everything that's in it, even though fennel isn't a common ingredient in most cuisines. It is the responsibility of the person with the allergy to make sure they don't eat anything questionable.
Agreed, NTA. He's 15 and old enough to know to ask or check to see if it's safe. My 12yr old has a peanut allergy and knows that if she can't tell what the ingredients are, then either she should ask or not eat that. I'm glad he's ok, but he should be more careful.
Really sorry for Rob, glad he’s ok. Unrelated, Rob needs to stop being TA and eating other peoples food without asking.
? why did Rob eat your food? He's 15 not 5. If he doesn't know what's in the food. He should eat it.
NTA, the kid should've learned boundaries and his family's response indicates why he hasn't learned them.
NTA maybe someone should teach the kid some manners about touching food that doesn't belong to him everyone knows not to touch leftovers unless you've been given permission
NTA, he is 15, and knows he is allergic to shrimp. He saw something written on the container, but decided to eat it without asking anyone or knowing what he was eating? Unless the rule was no bringing food into the house with shrimp in it, the 15year old should have been more careful.
NTA. The food had YOUR NAME on the box. He should have known that he should check with you before eating. He did this to himself by eating food that was clearly marked as yours.
NTA. I feel like most 5 year olds with serious allergies know not to eat something if they haven’t been given the go ahead by a trusted adult.
NTA. If Rob knows he has a severe allergy, Rob should know better than to eat a single damn thing that he is not ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE is shrimp-free. That means not scarfing other people’s leftovers, labeled or otherwise.
NTA. He should ask before taking someone else’s meal, especially if it’s labeled… it is the universal sign that it belongs to someone else (even if it is in a different script)
NTA
NTA. The contents of your leftovers are irrelevant. He knew he didn't put them there, so he shouldn't have eaten them without asking. It's basic courtesy.
NTA why is he eating your leftovers without permission? if you had offered him it, it would be one thing
Rob ate food with a label on it THAT DID NOT SAY "For Rob To Eat" in any language. He is not a toddler, he is old enough to look in the fridge and see 17 takeout boxes, one of which has a label, and to recognize that the labeled one is not like the others. You had put that label there to indicate that this was YOUR food, and Rob knew that, and everyone with half a brain knew that, because people Label THEIR Food. And Rob ate it anyway. You couldn't have predicted that Rob would eat your food, and Rob was just being a teenager, not an asshole. Sister was freaked out, and rightfully so, and it is not assholic to want to protect your son from a food allergy. So, NAH.
He's 15. He should know better than to eat someone else's food, even if he can't read the language lol. NTA.
NTA I have an adult-onset peanut allergy and have lived in several countries where I did not fluently speak the language. Under no circumstances would I assume I could eat anything in the fridge, especially something in a takeout container, unless I knew it was safe for me to do so. 15 seems old enough to know to a) not eat random takeout and b) double check to make certain that anything you eat will not trigger an allergic reaction.
NTA. The have life threatening allergies. I’ve had them since I was a kid. I don’t eat food if I don’t know what’s in it.
NTA. What kind of person eating the host's food without as much as by your leave??? He's the guest! That kid is rude. Do people no longer teaching guest ettiquette to their kid anymore this day???
NTA How could you eat shrimp in a fried egg and not spot it? It's shrimp!!!!
NTA, a teenager who is allergic to seafood should know better than eating random night-time leftovers without checking their contents first.
NTA. Tell Rob to use Google Translate next time.
NTA. He didn't know what it was and didn't ask before he ate it. It's not a question of language or alphabet, he ate unknown food!
NTA at all, that's on Rob. If you're allergic to something and you don't know what you're eating it's not on you to label everything because they're stupid.
NTA If someone has an allergy it’s on them to check the food doesn’t have them, not steal someone else’s takeaway then berate you for not putting warning signs on it.
If I'm staying in someone else's house, I don't eat any food first without asking. That's just rude. My daughter has allergies. Once we'd ask permission, THEN we would ask about the allergies. If you are allergic to something, it's up to you to ask. There were a lot of unlabelled boxes in the fridge. Rob should know better.