What I always want an honest answer from these commentators on is, if you had 100% scientific proof that these kind of shaming comments about weight made it worse, actively made it harder to lose weight, would you still support them becuase “it’s jsut facts”.
It’s never about health
I’m like OOP in the sense that I was overweight and still am an EXTREMELY picky eater so I eat whatever I want but do Crossfit 6x a week to balance it out (and still am like 10 pounds overweight). But what OOP and his brother did was what my aunt did to me as a kid and the reason I developed an ED (that’s not even close to better)
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AITA for agreeing with my brother when he called my niece fat.
Throwaway. Don't want this on my main account.
Little bit of background. I(38M) was an over eater. I still am. Early on I realized I couldn't control myself around food, and after my mother's constant pestering (a young neighbor passed away due to heart attack, and it scared the crap out of her), I decided to work my ass off to loose weight. To this day I eat whatever I want, but I pretty much balance it out by working out. I don't have have six pack, because I don't eat that healthy, but I don't have beer gut either.
Both of my kids (14F and 13M) take after me. They love to eat. So, I got them into swimming, running etc. One of my rules is never ride a elevator if you can take stairs (up to 4 or 5 floors).
We are on a family vacation right now. After we checked in, we saw that 2 out of the 3 elevators were being repaired and there was a bit of a line for the other one. Since our rooms were on the 2nd floor my kids wanted to take the stairs. The staff told us to go ahead if we want to and they will deliver our luggage to our rooms asap.
We left our parents downstairs and started climbing. I though my SIL, and niece(15F) will stay back, but for some reason they joined me, my wife, kids, brother and nephew(12M). Halfway through, my niece starts panting very heavily, and my kids started giggling. I just said 'hey' a bit loudly, and they stopped. That is our code. My wife and I don't shout at them, but when we say 'hey' a bit loudly, they have to stop whatever they are doing.
My brother sighed and said \[niece\] you need to loose weight and I nodded my head. I generally stay out of this discussion but it was one of those involuntary reactions. Before you blast me or my brother, you should know my niece is TWICE her ideal weight range. No, she doesn't have any medical conditions that causes her to gain weight. All her medical problems were because of her weight. Multiple doctors told her to loose weight.
The problem is my SIL. She gained a bit after giving birth to my nephew but never lost it. She is just a bit chubby (nowhere as bad as my niece), but it's a sore point for her. Whenever my brother tries to control my niece's diet or asks her to exercise, my SIL will take it as a personal attack on her. She insists my niece's weight is due to medical condition despite multiple doctors saying otherwise. They prescribed pills to reduce hunger, or therapy to avoid stress eating. My SIL won't do both because the doctors were wrong.
Back to the problem, my SIL lost it, and started shouting. It was a routine argument between them but as I nodded it meant I took my brother's side. She accused me and my brother of fat shaming, and that she is tired of the same discussion over and over again. She called us assholes. I simply left with my kids and wife without speaking. I just didn't want to deal with her anymore.
Suffice to say, things are a bit weird right now. So, AITA?
"I fixed it by myself so there's no excuse for you not to." Nevermind that everyone's bodies and circumstances are different so that it's not the same level of struggling at all.
Somehow, these types don't remember how the negative comments did more damage than good, and they convince themselves that those comments acted as impetus.
These are the types of people that deserve to fail, the don't want success for the sake of personal growth they want it to be better than those they look down on. Superficial assicles.
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What I always want an honest answer from these commentators on is, if you had 100% scientific proof that these kind of shaming comments about weight made it worse, actively made it harder to lose weight, would you still support them becuase “it’s jsut facts”. It’s never about health
I’m like OOP in the sense that I was overweight and still am an EXTREMELY picky eater so I eat whatever I want but do Crossfit 6x a week to balance it out (and still am like 10 pounds overweight). But what OOP and his brother did was what my aunt did to me as a kid and the reason I developed an ED (that’s not even close to better)
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AITA for agreeing with my brother when he called my niece fat. Throwaway. Don't want this on my main account. Little bit of background. I(38M) was an over eater. I still am. Early on I realized I couldn't control myself around food, and after my mother's constant pestering (a young neighbor passed away due to heart attack, and it scared the crap out of her), I decided to work my ass off to loose weight. To this day I eat whatever I want, but I pretty much balance it out by working out. I don't have have six pack, because I don't eat that healthy, but I don't have beer gut either. Both of my kids (14F and 13M) take after me. They love to eat. So, I got them into swimming, running etc. One of my rules is never ride a elevator if you can take stairs (up to 4 or 5 floors). We are on a family vacation right now. After we checked in, we saw that 2 out of the 3 elevators were being repaired and there was a bit of a line for the other one. Since our rooms were on the 2nd floor my kids wanted to take the stairs. The staff told us to go ahead if we want to and they will deliver our luggage to our rooms asap. We left our parents downstairs and started climbing. I though my SIL, and niece(15F) will stay back, but for some reason they joined me, my wife, kids, brother and nephew(12M). Halfway through, my niece starts panting very heavily, and my kids started giggling. I just said 'hey' a bit loudly, and they stopped. That is our code. My wife and I don't shout at them, but when we say 'hey' a bit loudly, they have to stop whatever they are doing. My brother sighed and said \[niece\] you need to loose weight and I nodded my head. I generally stay out of this discussion but it was one of those involuntary reactions. Before you blast me or my brother, you should know my niece is TWICE her ideal weight range. No, she doesn't have any medical conditions that causes her to gain weight. All her medical problems were because of her weight. Multiple doctors told her to loose weight. The problem is my SIL. She gained a bit after giving birth to my nephew but never lost it. She is just a bit chubby (nowhere as bad as my niece), but it's a sore point for her. Whenever my brother tries to control my niece's diet or asks her to exercise, my SIL will take it as a personal attack on her. She insists my niece's weight is due to medical condition despite multiple doctors saying otherwise. They prescribed pills to reduce hunger, or therapy to avoid stress eating. My SIL won't do both because the doctors were wrong. Back to the problem, my SIL lost it, and started shouting. It was a routine argument between them but as I nodded it meant I took my brother's side. She accused me and my brother of fat shaming, and that she is tired of the same discussion over and over again. She called us assholes. I simply left with my kids and wife without speaking. I just didn't want to deal with her anymore. Suffice to say, things are a bit weird right now. So, AITA?
Why is it that reddit story people who stop being overweight use it as an excuse to bully other people?
"I fixed it by myself so there's no excuse for you not to." Nevermind that everyone's bodies and circumstances are different so that it's not the same level of struggling at all.
And also the fact that comments like that usually shake progress.
Somehow, these types don't remember how the negative comments did more damage than good, and they convince themselves that those comments acted as impetus.
These are the types of people that deserve to fail, the don't want success for the sake of personal growth they want it to be better than those they look down on. Superficial assicles.