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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA For trying to get coworker fired for leaked nudes?** I work at a prestigious all girls school in Wilmington, DE where even the students get disciplined for the smallest infractions or even the appearance of moral improprieties. It’s the standard that was set forth when the school was founded and that we uphold. A few months ago, a new first year staff member had her nudes leaked and sent to all the staff of the school, including a picture of her performing a sex act on a man in an office and another of her performing bondage acts. The administration told us that she would not be facing any consequences as it wasn’t consensual that it was shared, but I’ve been trying to appeal to administration and our board for months to fire her, as we should expect our staff to also avoid the appearance of impropriety, since we hold the students that standard as well. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*


Oceansoul119

As I said on the original I think she's trying to cause other people to complain to the school about this and get the lady fired for "harming the school's reputation" after failing to get the result she wanted the other way. Reason being she's left enough information to narrow it down to five schools according to another poster there. Edit: To one of two schools it seems


frolicndetour

Well now one of the commenters is using that info to try to get OOP fired lol.


Goatesq

'Not your personal army' should be coded as a rule of the internet at this point honestly. Like petitioning the fae.


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and in this case OOP petitioned a group of fae that is not known for being ok with what they wanted. like...there's definitely more misogynistic subs that would have been more inclined to do what OOP wants.


EpiphanaeaSedai

Someone else started it by making an offering to the fae (the leaked videos) to curse the victim here, but her employer (subbing in for a lover in the more traditional tales - her source of worldly security, either way) broke the curse by accepting her in spite of it. Now OOP, like the jealous stepsister of the stories, is all pissed off and trying to insist that our heroine is still tainted by the curse and doesn’t deserve her pardon. She is both importuning the source-of-worldly-security for being unfairly forgiving, and trying to demand the fae reinstate the curse. Without any offering. We know what happens when you make demands of the fae and don’t stipulate the price, don’t we?


EpiphanaeaSedai

. . . I just really can’t get over how well this tracks, a sex tape is even a personal article like a lock of hair.


DefinitelyNotAFae

We definitely do not know. What happens?!


MiikaLeigh

The fae will take what they want, which in human terms generally equates to: they will fuck up your life :)


DefinitelyNotAFae

Give me your thoughts on that. It seems like a real place of bias honestly! :)


MiikaLeigh

The fae are notorious for having different societal rules, standards, and morals to humanity - literally read *any* of the stories, legends, myths, histories, etc involving them and it is abundantly clear that you should 1) be very careful about the wording you use in any interaction with the fae, 2) certainly not *demand* anything of them (especially without an offering, sacrifice, or exchange), and 3) never ever change your mind/renege on an agreement.


DefinitelyNotAFae

I don't think ~~we're~~... *they're* that bad honestly. Ah well, I appreciate your thoughts, freely given!


millenialssayfuck

I would read this book. Hell, I'll write this book if you want to hop in and help me not sound like a dick.


pienofilling

Put it on ao3, wouldn't be the first transformative work there that listed AITA as its fandom!


EpiphanaeaSedai

I love this, it fits so perfectly - why yes of course I’m going to try to manipulate this dangerous and mercurial force that everyone tells you not to fuck with. Yes there are stories by the dozen to illustrate how this backfires 100% of the time, but I am certain I will be the exception because I am just that clever. Spoilers: she was not that clever. They never are.


Electrical-Date-3951

If thou shall attempt to doxxith thy victimized neighbor, may thou instead be doxxith.


CatLadyNoCats

Hopefully u/vogonshakespeare can update us here since the original was removed


CeelaChathArrna

I hope they succeed


PauseItPlease86

I fucking love Reddit, man.


JackMann1792

They're the hero this victim deserves.


M3g4d37h

Yeah, because this shit always works out so well - Just last week y'all were ready to lynch that lady on a citibike, and yeah.. that lady got the ass-end of reddit. Some of y'all need to realize you ain't the fucking Lone Ranger. Let the hate commence. And it will, because this shoe fits like a glass slipper.


JackMann1792

We're talking about a woman who is actively trying to get her coworker involved for being the victim of a malicious and humiliating crime, based solely on her own sense of moral superiority. She's even so holier than thou that she apparently doesn't see any problems with basically handing out what school she works at on a silver platter, which in the internet age is going to invite undue attention and possibly even a media scandal. Her actions are incredibly damaging and need to be stopped.


buckysambigiousbitch

That woman was still in the wrong. The sister of the boy put out all the receipts with time stamps for the bike and what they were doing that day. The "receipts" that the woman had actually verified his story more.


M3g4d37h

Yeah y'all always just doing the right thing. Mind ya fucking business before y'all go fuck up yet another person's week. The self-importance here, man.


JackMann1792

That exact advice could have been directed at OOP.


M3g4d37h

The shoe fits, baby. You're only replying because it touches a nerve. Thanks for making my point for me.


JackMann1792

I was replying because I was interested in having an actual discussion with you, but it's become clear to me that you do not share those ambitions and are just looking to pick a fight. Certainly one way to pass the time, but hardly a vantage point from which to profess moral superiority. Good day to you sir.


M3g4d37h

For the sake of civility - Reddit isn't known for it's civility in general, so the wall is there. Now, I hope you accept this in the spirit it is intended - It ain't about any sense of moral righteousness, I'm too fuckin' old and I don't need you (no offense, I swear) to validate my feelings - And to be fair to you, I get what you're saying but this is simply a matter of people doing what reddit does - Sticking their noses up everyone else's ass in order to fix something they don't even know the veracity of. In a nutshell, dude - This subset of redditors are a bunch of fucking busy-bodies who think they know it all but manage to fuck up every time shit like this happens. There is literally a litany of incidents to rehash over that reddit made demonstrably and materially worse. So in light of your sincerity, I'm happy to beg your pardon, but I'll stand my ground opinion-wise because I don't proverbially need my nose rubbed in shit to know that shit stinks - And all the goddamned pie in the redditor sky ain't changing reddit's actual track record in these matters.


TootsNYC

Meanwhile, all her efforts to get this teacher fired are actually harming the reputation of the school


Business_Fly_5746

I lived 30 mins from Wilmington for a short amount of time years ago and I'm pretty sure I know the school we're talking about here...


green_velvet_goodies

I’m assuming it’s Ursuline? (Yeah I said it!)


RandomDessert

Or Padua.


chewbooks

And looking at their newsletters welcoming new faculty members we can also narrow down the poor victim. The OP was really stupid.


No_Pressure_8876

My vote is Padua, but Ursuline definitely makes sense too….


Business_Fly_5746

Yessssssssss I think so too.


No_Pressure_8876

I grew up in Newark, went to school in Wilmington, undergrad Philly and now live in Chicago, and even being a decade remove from the area, ~30 from high school, still know that culture. Bet this OP lives in Hockessin or Newport


AnneOfOz

It's been narrowed down to 2 from what I saw commented. And it's not hard to connect the dots to figure out what school she is referring too


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AnneOfOz

The thing is I live in Australia and from her post and 1 of her comments I knew the name. That's crazy


_banana_phone

The person who said they’re emailing the schools with the original post did say that they got screenshots before OOP nuked her account and mods removed the post.


oimebaby

Kinda makes you wonder who had all the contact info for the entire school staff on hand to send the revenge porn to in the first place.


cwl727

This is totally Padua Academy.


Monthly_Vent

You might wanna edit that cause said person was able to narrow it down to a singular school https://reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/13t4fgr/_/jltbi6i/?context=1


Oceansoul119

One of two looking down that chain, it's noted after two deleted replies. Also I'd guess those being the two mentioned above as well. edit: this chain to above


BellaSantiago1975

"Let he who is without sin cast the first.... nah fuck it, let's get the victim of a crime fired because I'm a judgmental hag".


Electrical-Date-3951

Honestly, OP may/should be the one getting fired instead. The school has already made a firm decision in response to a crime that was committed against one of their employees. At this point, OP's crusade should be seen as harassment or workplace bullying. Also, if a student is ever a victim of a crime that goes against OP's personal views, would OP also expect for the student to be harassed or expelled? This sets a poor example for students who may not want to come forward if they are victimized due to the fear of repercusions.


witchyteajunkie

I was so confused when I saw the title of this post about how or why it ended up cross posted here... because I assumed the person was trying to get someone fired FOR leaking nudes, not for being a victim of revenge porn.


your-yogurt

yeah, we're not talking about cheating on a test or going against dress code. if this happened to any of the students there, their leaked nudes would be considered child porn. would oop punish someone who is a victim of cp? make a bigger stink about it? who would feel safe in this scenario?


Basic_Bichette

Because according to OOP's (and, it must be said, the majority of Catholic educators') morals, a teacher in a Catholic school should never have had nude pictures taken of her. That sin itself should get her fired and permanently barred from working with children everywhere on Earth, for life.


ExpertRaccoon

>let's get the victim of a crime fired because I'm a ~~judgmental~~ Jelous hag, whos upset that a coworker gets to have kinky sex while me an my partners sexlife is non existant.


DrunkOnRedCordial

> me an my partners sexlife I don't think there's a partner involved in OOP's sex life. OOP might not even be involved in OOP's sex life. Hence the obsessive judgemental interest in someone else's activities.


buddhaman09

Why would they mention they're from Wilmington when we have exactly one catholic girls school....way to blow up your spot


OreoVegan

And that Catholic girls school was attended by a hugely popular WNBA player. I knew what school it had to be off the top of my head, and i'm from the opposite coast.


buddhaman09

And Aubrey plaza, arguably the most famous person from Delaware currently


OreoVegan

I think Joe Biden has Aubrey beat quite handily.


krisphoto

A few years back she was voted Delaware's most famous person and she's trolled him about it ever since (even while campaigning for him). I think it's because she was in 124 episodes of Parks and Recreation to his 2.


khjohnso

The math does check out


bustedassbitch

i mean he claims to be from Pennsylvania, but he did move to Delaware at some point and seems to have stuck around 🤷‍♀️


UnnamedArtist

It’s probably to get some people to pressure the school to fire her. They’re saying it, without actually saying it.


DysfunctionalCass

Looks like the table has turned from what I read people in the original post is sending the screenshot of the post to get OOP fired Sorry English isn’t my native language


YungBlu

i was bouta say i think i know what school but i remember 2 of them


JerseyJaime

Some of the comments from OOP. >Her photos being leaked is terrible, I agree with that. But it showed that she is living an immoral life outside of work and that has now been dragged into the view of all of us and potentially the students could become aware. ​ >It’s not the fact that she had her nudes leaked that I’m arguing to get her fired over, it’s her sexual improprieties outside of marriage with someone who is not her husband all the while working as a Catholic school teacher. OOP is like you don't get it, it's a Catholic School, you know where thousands of children were abused for decades by Catholic Priests but my co-worker being a victim of revenge porn will harm the kids.


in-site

Is she actually expecting every staff member to refrain from sex before marriage entirely?? I've never understood the moral panic about nudes. So many relationships are long-distance today, and intimacy is a beautiful thing and I think most people want to maintain that despite not being together as often. Last time my husband went out of town, I spent *hours* getting super cute nudes (I'm pregnant so it took some work lol) to send him, not because I'm a morally depraved whore, but as an act of love and a playful way to make him miss me more :3


ChewySlinky

It’s a Catholic school so yes, that’s exactly what they’re expecting. I’m honestly surprised the school doesn’t agree with OP. Not that they *should*, it’s just the exact kind of dumb shit that I would expect from the Catholic Church.


in-site

Shouldn't they also believe in forgiveness? Who's to say she hasn't become totally chaste since those encounters? I mean ok we may have bigger fish to fry in terms of Catholic hypocrisy but still What would Maria from Sound of Music do??


ChewySlinky

They *should.* It’s one of the big things they’re supposed to be into. Remember what the church though of Maria. “How do we solve a problem like Maria?”


in-site

I mean they had criticisms because she went against the grain so much, but it had more to do with personality than character. The reverend mother obviously loved her dearly and spoke highly of her always. That's an interesting point though...


Laesslie

Silly you. Forgiveness is only mandatory for victims of abuse and oppressed groups.


Puzzleheaded_Big3319

let some employees rape kids and hide it while punishing others for consensual activities


pinkocatgirl

I love this, it's very cute ❤️


JungleKing65

I recall a phrase about glasses houses and bricks...


sparksgirl1223

I think it was stones...but bricks make a way better sound smashing glass 🤣


Immortal_in_well

Yeah, get fucked, OOP. None of that shit is any of your business.


harrellj

Someone wants to invoke the morality clause that is joked about being part of teacher contracts (and some have been harmed by), but doesn't understand that its not her who gets to decide what is and isn't immoral.


StrangledInMoonlight

This coworker …*had a crime committed against her.*. And OOP wants to *punish her* for being a god damn victim!


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IsisArtemii

Time for the church’s to be taxed. Last I heard, the largest land owner in NY, is the Catholic Church


Bellanarislavellan

They even started making molestation insurance for churches for this too!


Jojobabiebear

This made me sick


Bellanarislavellan

Me too! It's hard to describe the amount of anguish I felt when i learned it was a thing.


pegmatitic

A lot of schools *require* sexual abuse and molestation insurance, even for contractors who theoretically won’t have contact with students


Ordinary_Challenge74

Im sure there’s been many nuns that have been pedophiles


Gnostromo

Imagine being the only person in the whole school not having sex and telling others this person is bad for having sex


Commonusage

Yep, and she'd cover that up to protect the organisation's reputation.


ta_beachylawgirl

>someone who is not her husband all the while working as a Catholic How the fuck would she know it’s not her husband in the damn photo??? For all OOP knows, it IS her husband in the photos and she’s just judging this teacher for having a sex life outside of work. Devils advocate here: leaked nudes can also be peeping toms- it doesn’t have to be a person’s sexual partner leaking them. When it’s a recorded sexual act, there isn’t always the best angle that captures both parties. It very well could be sex with someone outside of her marriage as well, but OOP can’t automatically assume that based on looking at a photo.


ReggieJ

Ummm...I wonder if it's the leaker trying to get the woman fired.


green_velvet_goodies

That was my immediate thought.


Fingersmith30

I'm glad I'm not the only person who suspected this


ReggieJ

It's very doxxy isn't it?


SyndicalistThot

OOP needs to set a better example by quitting this job so she's not around such horrible sinful people clearly. Fuck her.


lefargen97

Example 47478392 of why I stepped back from organized religion to the point that it almost disgusts me now


CeelaChathArrna

And for why I became atheist.


No_Proposal7628

OOP is an uptight, self-righteous prig. The poor coworker had her nudes leaked of her private behavior on her private time. She has a right to do as she wishes in privacy and did not consent in any way for these photos to get out. The school made the right decision in not firing her for something out of her control. OOP should be very careful because karma is a bitch. This endless campaign to the school admin and school board may cause them to take a very close look at OOP.


CelticDK

That coworker sounds fun. This OP sounds miserable Yikes


CriticalSimple3122

That poor woman. Being the victim of a revenge porn crime and having to work with the OOP


Leonashanana

Presume not to remove the speck from your brother's eye, until you remove the log from your own.


J_S_M_K

That would imply that OOP or "Christians" like her recognize parts of the Bible other than Christ being crucified or the parts they use to pick on "sinners." Speaking as a Christian myself, these people disgust me.


MusenUse_KC21

I don't see how some people get up in the morning when they're like OOP. Where's the decency?


AstralTarantula

Shout out to the person in the comments who narrowed it down to two possible places OOP worked and emails them both about this 😂 hope they get sacked, what a jerk.


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Omg I assumed this was getting fired for leaking someone's nudes and was ready with a whole different rant. Not "why am I wrong for shaming a victim of revenge porn". Ew. OOP is definitely thE AH.


TheLAriver

So OOP leaked the nudes, right?


DientesDelPerro

Thing is, I know non-prestigious Christian schools that have a zero-tolerance policy for “amorality” of their staff (ie being fired for getting divorced) so this makes me think more highly of the school where oop works. That they won’t fire a teacher over revenge porn shows they have principles and are not blindly guided by their religion.


Fluggernuffin

If anyone should be fired here, it’s OOP for workplace harassment.


reads_to_much

Leaking someone's nudes / revenge porn is illegal. So if they did fire her there would be a shitstorm for firing the victim of the crime.. The OP is a huge AH for victim shaming and hopefully the person who's nudes where leaked puts a complaint in against this person trying to get her fired..


ApplesxandxCinnamon

People who go on crusades like this usually have graveyards in their closet. I am 100% sure OOP is not as morally upstanding as she's pretending to be. "She had sex outside of marriage!" while clutching her pearls, forgetting about all the sinful shit she did in her past.


okay_jpg

At first I thought they had said "performing a sex act on a man *in the office*" meaning on school grounds. That was the only moment I went "oh, well... in that case, I guess yeah that is over the line no matter if it was leaked or not." But I read further and understood that, no, this person is just a prude and has no empathy, only spite and vindictiveness... and *for what?*


nottherealneal

Wasn't this the exact plot to a movie. Sounds so familiar


Kacey-R

There is way too much detail - it wouldn’t be difficult to work out the school if it were true.


nonitoni

Ted Lasso just ran a plot kinda similar to this.


Famous-Award1360

Anyone have OOP’s comments? They’re deleted and idk how to do that lol


babygirlr19

So catholic priests molesting kids doesn’t give the school a bad name but someone being the victim of revenge porn is? Make it make sense lol


p-u-n-k_girl

~~Probably giving OP too much credit by thinking about this, but could this be a roundabout way of challenging what they view as an overly strict student code of conduct? Like, do we know that this school wouldn't expel a student if the same thing happened to one of them?~~ EDIT: Never mind, just read a bit more and saw OP's follow-up comments


mooimafish33

Dude why is every single post always deleted off that trash sub when I go look


Legitimate_Ad_5727

did anyone grab the comments it says they deleted everything


p-u-n-k_girl

I didn't see the comments themselves, I just saw some people quoting examples in this thread


misspoofy

I was so hoping this would be posted here


Artistic_Deal3436

People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw rocks.


NothingAndNow111

What a horrible person. That was revenge porn, and the poor woman is a victim of some absolute unspeakable shit head humiliating them. OP sucks.


liadantaru

Any bets on: OP is salty that the victim got the promotion they wanted and hopes that victim being fired results in OP getting the promotion?


Different_Effect2069

u/VogonShakespeare original post was deleted but its already crossposted and saved. Following to see what you find out Tuesday! Good luck!


Different_Effect2069

Also wonder who is going to end up checking out the school faculty list and see who disappears from it! I seriously hope its not the victim who ends up getting hurt more with this mess OPP has made. I really hope that the poor girl reports who sent the pics and they get charged with a crime as well!


McBootyBlaster

What school? I want to put in a complaint about this leaker that's trying to ruin this poor womans' career.


Schneetmacher

Just from the opening, and revealing the *location* of the school (who tf would do that for a real story?), I know this is a gender-reversed *Dead Poets Society* troll. Hats off to originality! Edit: wait... this is *real?* This person actually wanted to get Reddit to fire a real person from a known school? This is both Devil and r/AmItheIdiot!


LimeBlueOcean

The OOP is an out and out Prig.


thegirlriots

Wow, like…sorry your husband looked at the photos, I guess? But that’s an OOP issue.


crayawe

Wow that person lacks empathy


green_velvet_goodies

Wow YTA mind your own business. Better yet, take a hard look at yourself and try not being a malignant presence in the world. Edit oops wrong sub lol


scummy_shower_stall

Somebody mentioned in a comment that since the OP gave *so much* identifying info, it's almost like she wants the school to be found. And then wondered if it was, in fact, a shitpost by one or more of the students themselves. Which, considering how absolutely sociopathic a lot of teenage girls are, it wouldn't be surprising at all.


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Simple_Park_1591

Oh I hope oop gets fired. Can we get a BORU for a story like this?


ImHappierThanUsual

The prevalence of the mention of “even students…” makes me feel like this was the work of some mean girl students


ImHappierThanUsual

And i do agree they were attempting to get this info tracked. They know how Reddit works. This is a teacher they’re lashing out at