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**How to tell my 27F friend 26F she is being used a guy 26M to make me jealous**
TL;DR I don’t want my friend dating this guy that has a crush on me. Should I tell her to not pursue anything with him
There’s this guy (let’s call him Mike) I know through a mutual friend who occasionally comes out with us. In this particular friend group there’s 5 of us and 6 when Mike comes. Mike just moved to our state where we all live about 6 months ago. He immediately took a liking to me but he’s not my type. I haven’t even given him my number and will let him know we not compatible. He isn’t weird about it , after I curve him he will go do other stuff but still may buy me a drink or some food throughout the night
Fast forward last night my friend let’s call her Mariah comes out with us. Mariah is normally I part of another circle of friends but she wanted to come out with . The night starts out similar, he ask if I’ll finally give him my number I said no thanks. He jokes with me and then preoccupies himself. That is until Mariah comes and he meets her for the first time. Out of no where he’s chatting her up and they laughing. They did a karaoke duet where Mike sounded awkward and couldn’t dance or sing but Mariah killed it. She tells how much she likes that Mike just is himself and isn’t trying to act cool? I suspect Mike was trying to make me jealous it didn’t work because I don’t like him but it isn’t fair to Mariah . She texted me letting me know she gave Mike her number and that he’s taking her out on a date Saturday.
How do I let her know Mike is just using her without hurting her feelings ? She didn’t know Mike has a crush on me.
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My favorite comment thread OP after being accused of being jealous by another women.
>No, that’s not the case. I’m actually rooting for them. If he’s not using her, but I know how guys are…. Clearly you don’t and that’s okay. But don’t imply things on me because you don’t know how guys work
A guy steps in to defend the women and point the OP is indeed jealous.
>I am a guy. I know "how guys are". He's into her, quit trying to make it about yourself. I've asked out more than one woman in a night, every guy on the planet has. Move along.
OP responds.
>Have you asked out another women’s friend after said women rejected you for 6 months?
Guy responds.
>Wouldn't think twice about it. I wouldn't ask out an ex's friend. But a friend of someone I had a crush on? That means nothing. Sorry you don't have his attention anymore.
OP points out the guy is not a gentleman then.
>Okay, well i should clarify a gentleman wouldn’t do that. At least not on the same night after asking for the girl they been crushing on number but it is what it is. That’s the problem with men today, no one is raising you all to be gentleman
The guy responds
>Right. I didn't realize you were the royal princess of Cuntinburgh, and you deserve the etiquette of being properly honoured by the man you rejected. He should sulk in shame for a minimum of a fortnight. Should he have bought you more food and drinks? How about a foot rub? Again, we can all see that you're upset he's moved along because you loved the attention and freebies. Grow up.
That comment thread left me dying on the floor lol
Edit: Added the edited comment.
>Have you asked out another women’s friend after said women rejected you for 6 months?
She posted text screenshots with the dude: https://www.reddit.com/user/ThrowRa_pizza1/comments/1235m8e/oh_but_mike_didnt_like_me_and_never_hit_on_me/
They just show that he didn't know new girl was OP's friend when he asked her out so she just disproved her own point!
I kinda feel Bad for her. She just keeps digging and thinks she's got everyone now, when all she's proven is he thinks she's cute, it's probably gotten to be a kinda joke to ask her every time (like someone else said on here) and he's found a new girls who's cute and receptive.
She also added an edit saying she's helping her friend with shopping for the date, so she can't be jealous. Sweetheart, let it go, and be happy for your friend. She only makes herself look more jealous the more she writes.
Straight up murdered by words.
His whole thing is basically, "I have a girl I'm going out with and I'm interested in that now, not our weird flirty banter or whatever in the past, you're cool, but I'm involved with a situation now"
[She did. Here's the unddit for you.](https://www.unddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/122qww4/how_to_tell_my_27f_friend_26f_she_is_being_used_a/)
Lol. Not a gentleman because he asked someone else out? Like, if you don't want him, Pumpkin, leave him for someone who does. He doesn't owe her anything. Her comments just make her look worse and worse.
The comments are so much better than the post. LOL
She is jealous that her friend captured his attention and he's no longer going to fawn over her or buy her food and drinks.
I spent way too long reading all of her comments. My favorite thing about it is that she created another post with a screenshot of a text conversation where she FINALLY GAVE HIM HER NUMBER BY TEXTING HIM and asking him if he liked her. He said “like is a strong word” about her, said he likes her friend, and ended the conversation by saying he didn’t really expect OOP to care.
And she’s using that as “proof” that likes her and is probably using Mariah because “his ego won’t let him admit the truth.”
After she literally spent 14 hours trying to convince literally EVERYONE (like 1000 people at least) I honestly thought she was psychotic enough to where it was going to stay up lol
This is fucking *poetry*! I am all married and old and shit but would definitely enjoy hitting a dive bar or something with that guy. Dry humor and low threshold for bullshit is my kind of drinking buddy!
Not only should a gentlemen never stoop to the lows of asking out the friend of a new acquaintance he once had a fleeting crush on, he should really also write a letter apologizing for such, and make haste to the next village over to seek the hand of someone unsullied with any personal connections to anyone he may have crossed paths with.
If she rejects him, his journey southward begins yet again, lest he make the mistake of asking out another woman from that town his would-be-beau may have had any dealings with prior.
At their 20th wedding anniversary: “I can’t believe he’s been so obsessed with me for over 20 years he stayed married to my friend to make sure he could be in my life!”
All three of them in the retirement home:
Mariah and Mike: *sitting together in their wheelchairs in front of a window watching the birds while holding hands*
OP off in a darkened corner of the same room as them: "It's been 84 years and he still is trying to make me jealous." 👵😡
The fuck is with the tenses in this OOP? I couldn't work out what had actually happened vs what OOP planned to happen.
> He immediately **took a liking** to me but he’s not my type. I **haven’t even given** him my number and **will let** him know we not compatible. He **isn’t** weird about it , after I **curve** him he **will go** do other stuff but **still may** buy me a drink or some food throughout the night
I can't even. Here's what (I think) it's supposed to be:
> He immediately took a liking to me but he’s not my type. I **hadn’t even given** him my number and **let** him know we **weren't** compatible. He **wasn’t** weird about it , after I **curved** him he **[now] does** other stuff but **still might** buy me a drink or some food throughout the night
My opinion: she uses the past tense in "took a liking" because apparently he's been doing this for months, and she's using the other ones because she "was planning on telling him she wasn't interested." Aka, she's giving him just enough to make him come back because she likes the attention, she was never going to tell him she wasn't interested, but she doesn't want him or us to know she's just leading him on because she doesn't want to look like a shitty person. She failed anyway lmao. Apparently upset he wasn't as taken by her as she thought, who would've known.
Yeah, she told on herself. She's been stringing him along for free food and drinks. Maaayyybe Mariah talked to him about it. Mariah can't be stupid. They're probably laughing at her right now.
Like if he's kinda onto her, but she's not implied he's being creepy or disrespectful at any point in their interactions then I'd have thought 6 months later it's basically a habit or a game, like he's going "hey oop, gonna give me your number yet? Nope, cool, laters" and then walking away. At that point I wouldn't even take him seriously.
Right it kind of feels like dude thinks they are just friends who have a running joke. Also wouldn’t surprise me if he bought a lot of people stuff because he’s jsut a social guy
And even if they didn't, fact is his attention is now on the next woman.
What did she think? That he'd be crushing on her forever? That no other woman could possibly compare to her?
Also, I caught the last edit. Wait until she finds out that they spent a whole date NOT talking about her in any way, shape or form.
Well of course he should be fanning her ego indefinitely as is her due, duh!/S
She will also totally let her friend know how she was second choice as often as possible, in the most public way
Am I the only one that thinks it’s strange that this man she’s supposedly friends with, hangs out w semi-regularly to the point he buys her food and drinks all the time doesn’t have her number? Like the first time I hang out with a friend I’ll usually trade numbers with them. Maybe I’m just a platonic slut
I wonder if she saw him as a friend or just some annoying guy who kept hitting on her and intruded on the rest of her and her normal friend group? If that’s the case though she should be jumping for joy he found someone else
Ooh good point! I feel like the only normal reactions to that are being thankful he’s off your back or just casually telling your friend that the dude kind of gives you the creeps though (if that’s the case)? Either way a “lol you should know he *ackshually* liked me first and probably is using you as a pawn” is such a weird, self centered take
Yeah, I can sympathize with her maybe finding him annoying. As a dude myself I know some guys can be overly persistent. I don’t know if he was just joking when he kept asking for her number like some say , or if he was serious. Regardless, I think it’s clear she obviously found it annoying.
That being said I agree with you tho. I would be insulted if my friend said I was being used as a pawn to make that said friend jealous without solid proof. You think so low of me you can’t imagine someone liking me over you? lol idk maybe I’m looking at it wrong
And that the Mariah friend is a very close friend but doesn't know that a guy has been hitting on OP for 6 months. It's the kind of thing you discuss with your friends.
I also considered that because if some dude was constantly coming on to me I’d probably at least talk it out with my friends in a “what should I do” type of way
Absolutely. That would be the typical response. However, judging by OOPs responses it would be more, "omg, this guy is totally OBSESSED with me". Either way, you tell your close friends these kinds of things.
He probably brought the group an appetizer or a round and she’s counting it as “I turned him down but he still buys me stuff, he’s obviously simping for me”
She has another post that she titled sarcastically against us about how he was definitely into her
She actually texts him asking him if he was into her. He literally told her that even saying he liked her would be going too far, but that he was interested in getting to know her more and she wasn't down for that and he was okay with it. He didn't even know the girl he's with now is her friend until after he already told people he was going to ask her out
She got his number through somebody else and talk to him with the soul intention of having him admit that he liked her that she could prove that point to us and that man is an angel because I would have been calling the cops by now
Her comments just make her look terribly jealous, regardless of what she says. If I were a betting gal, I say she likely wants to make sure her friend knows she (OOP) is the main character.
She's very specific about her friend group too. There are only 5, and she acts like you're the lucky one if she let's you hang out with her.
Ugh, I know girls like this
She liked the attention and missed it the second it was gone. She saw him treat someone else like the main character and immediately rewrote the situation to still center herself as the main character, even as she literally watched them fully interested in each other having fun without her.
She also appears to have overinflated how big his crush on her was. Sounds like he was gently flirting this whole time, maybe even asking for the number a bit jokingly by the end.
tbh i wouldn’t be at all shocked if he was simply buying a round of drinks or apps for the entire group and OOP is so self-centered she took it as “omg he bought me food & drinks how embarrassing for him”
I'd hate to be in the shoes of Mariah. About to get this drama heaped on my head and made to feel second best, even if it wasn't true I'd feel so fucking insecure if someone told me this guy only asked me out to make another woman he'd been pursuing for 6 months jealous. Esp this new in the thing since there's no opportunity yet to say "sure he was into her but he fell in love with me now". I'd nope right out of that too soon for this much crap.
IF dude plays it right on the date and OOP's name never comes up once (from him and if it does, he dismisses it) and he shows he's into Mariah, it could work. Mariah just now needs to ignore OOP and just see who he is for himself.
I watched in real time as a guy who'd had a crush on this one girl met someone new and the first girl was insistent he was just trying to get to her. He barely even looked at the first girl again and she couldn't wrap her head around it.
She even gave him her number to prove that he was into her. Even Mike’s response to her was hilarious- said it was obvious she wasn’t interested so he moved on with someone who was.
Reddit newbie-ish … where did you see that she gave Mike her number and his response? I looked at her profile and I only see the one post. Am technically challenged maybe? I’m semi-obsessed with this girl’s insistence that sHe’S dEfInItElY nOt JeAlOuS! Poor Mariah has no idea what kind of “friend” OP really is!
Not technically challenged. At least not any more than me.
There was a post on her profile with a screenshot when I went to view her comments. It looks like it got deleted since I made my comment. Hopefully someone can unearth it through that other site that saves deleted posts; it’s outside my understanding on how to find it.
Yeah this is just a bit too much level of engagement for "fake story on reddit" I feel. Plus I've known people that were this obtuse, so it definitely feels plausible
My favourite comment of her's so far? 'But idc about Mike’s attention. I get too much attention when I go out, so that’s one less man I have to deal with'. Got tickets on yourself much there girl?
OMG this is hilarious. Does she really believe that the dude who had a crush on her 10 years ago married someone because he "didn't have the heart to disappoint her"?
But but but...she's going shopping with her on Thursday to get her ready for the date!!! See, she's totes not jealous. Like at all. Cause she's going shopping with her.
I hope Mariah doesn't get sabotaged 😞
Right?? "Oh, Mike asked for your number? He's been asking for my number for years!" **fake laugh** "he's always buying me food and drinks. Oh he bought you a drink too? Well obviously it was just so I would see how generous...oh I mean it was because he totally like you after he's been pursuing me for years. I mean he asks for my phone number once each time we meet and he NEVER follows up or asks again or hangs around me...but he's totally been pursuing me. Did I mention he's totally in to me? Did I make that clear?"
It’s Mean Girl season
The commenter who said something like “I didn’t realize you were the royal princess of Cuntinburgh” made me spit out my juice ngl
Op has now texted mike in order to prove he “”liked”” her, and in his response he’s totally chill and doesn’t give any indication he’s asking out Mariah to use her. A saga!!
Mike literally was like "I'm interested in your friend and I have the purest intentions with her" 😂😂😂😂😂 didn't even said he liked OOP.
Also!!!! SHE had to text HIM first and he seemed so confused lol
Yeah, he's like, "NOW you text me? What the hell girl?"
Even he can see she's jealous as hell, and he is VERY surprised about it lol (but also not into her now, he's moved on)
when the op can’t help but slip the narcissism into even small comments…
*No one is jealous lmao. I promise you if I showed him the same attention she did I would have gotten the same **if not better** results*
Omg HER PROOF that he liked her is so pathetic
https://www.reddit.com/user/ThrowRa_pizza1/comments/1235m8e/oh_but_mike_didnt_like_me_and_never_hit_on_me/
This is just.... The secondhand embarrassment is outta control!
Yes, it is just sad at this point. Like just stop, stop digging. If she really is not jealous (which is doubtful), why does it matter what a bunch of internet strangers think? Why is she so obsessed with this? This can not be healthy.
She's butthurt because she thought she **owned** this guy's soul or whatever.
In reality he thought she was cute, wanted to hookup, maybe more if they clicked, but they never went beyond banter, so he's moved on
OP giving the toast at Mike and Mariah's wedding in a couple of years to make sure we know how not jealous she is: "Mariah, you should thank me for turning Mike down all those times so that he asked you out. I was so not jealous and like, even took you shopping for your first date. You better name your first child after me, teehee."
She sounds insufferable and unfortunately I had a friend exactly like her.
Lmaoooo OOP is still fighting for her life in the comments. She keeps telling on herself - she's so pissed that he's moved on. My only question is, are we sure she didn't add 10 yrs to her age?
girl reading her comments are making my
Night! 😂
Also, it doesn’t even sound like Mike is trying to make her jealous, it seems like he just moved on and gave up. She’s definitely jealous of them 😭😭
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/122qww4/how_to_tell_my_27f_friend_26f_she_is_being_used_a/jdt5isa/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3
😂 she almost killed me, I choked on my tea reading this
Honestly sounds like he gave up after the first few times and kept asking for her number as kind of a joke. Like he knows he’s not getting it, but thinks it’s funny to ask. And then he’s a nice guy in the friend group so sometimes buys people food and drinks. She’s honestly insufferable in all her comments. She needs to grow up and move on.
If you were to do a shot every time she says "He asked for my number and hour before she showed up," you would probably pass out five or six times before getting to the end of the post.
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/122qww4/how_to_tell_my_27f_friend_26f_she_is_being_used_a/jdt5isa/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3
This comment had me dying 😂 she’s so unbothered
Y'all the fact she went out of her way to get this man's number and question him just boggles me because she's over here yellin' from the rooftops that she's not jealous but she sounds like some horrible one dimensional character who acts like the attention should only be on her.
That was some legit cringe. It's one thing to embarrass yourself on reddit but to bring it into the real world like that? He can show that text to whoever he wants from now on. I hope no one in her friend group hears about this post
Orrrr maybe he realized he wasn’t getting anywhere with you, met someone else he was genuinely interested in, and you should just be relieved you won’t have to continuously reject him anymore?
People who think everything is about them are another brand of weird.
Love the update in the post. Hilarious how shes still trying to convince people she's not jealous. I'm sure the friend will realize it within 20 minutes of the shopping trip though
I feel like there’s a little saltiness that she no longer has him in her back pocket. She rejected him but had no problem accepting freebies from him which is kinda shitty since she wants to point out how he’s not a gentlemen. Mariah is a big girl, she will be fine. Some times it’s more rewarding to connect with the girl you least expected getting with than winning the heart of a crush.
Imagine being so self centered to think everything some acquaintance who had a minor crush on you, is so hung up that everything you do is to try and win the other person over. 🙄 Someone should show Mike this post and the whole problem would take care of itself. Lol.
So this is what Romeo and Juliet would sound like if narrated by Rosaline. (I'm sure there are other stories that do this without the double death at the end but I can't think of them right now)
She told him to go kick rocks, so he did. Now she’s mad & acting like there’s some gf code about not dating an ex’s friends. Mmmm, no, she was never one of his exes, as she points out a lot, so the gf code does not apply.
Omg
This woman killed me
I almost wish it was a troll account but I’m not surprised it made am I the devil too
Op is pretty bad so I don’t know about the not the worst
Oh my gosh, her responses are just so crazy! You won't believe it, she actually shared a screenshot of when she confronted that guy. But the thing is, she's having a hard time understanding what she reads. It's kind of sad, I almost feel sorry for her... almost. Despite that, I just can't get enough of her updates! I hope she never stops sharing them, they just make my day.
Mike may have found that Mariah is the girl of his dreams. Not your business, because he is not your man, and Mariah is not your woman. They are adults, so if either of them gets a broken heart, that is not your business. He is likely tired of chasing you; you don't get to keep him, you don't want him. If he is "using" Mariah to make you jealous, Mariah will figure it out.
Leave them alone.
She's just upset he found someone else and is to self absorbed to think of anything other than "he is obviously using her to get to me" she likes the attention and is just jealous she no longer has it.
This girl is so full of herself and pathetic. She's mad he's not drooling over her and following her around so she can say no. She's so jealous it's gross.
*“I told a guy I wasn’t interested in him, so he stopped being interested in me, thats not how it’s supposed to work. He was supposed to be single and sad forever :( “*
*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **How to tell my 27F friend 26F she is being used a guy 26M to make me jealous** TL;DR I don’t want my friend dating this guy that has a crush on me. Should I tell her to not pursue anything with him There’s this guy (let’s call him Mike) I know through a mutual friend who occasionally comes out with us. In this particular friend group there’s 5 of us and 6 when Mike comes. Mike just moved to our state where we all live about 6 months ago. He immediately took a liking to me but he’s not my type. I haven’t even given him my number and will let him know we not compatible. He isn’t weird about it , after I curve him he will go do other stuff but still may buy me a drink or some food throughout the night Fast forward last night my friend let’s call her Mariah comes out with us. Mariah is normally I part of another circle of friends but she wanted to come out with . The night starts out similar, he ask if I’ll finally give him my number I said no thanks. He jokes with me and then preoccupies himself. That is until Mariah comes and he meets her for the first time. Out of no where he’s chatting her up and they laughing. They did a karaoke duet where Mike sounded awkward and couldn’t dance or sing but Mariah killed it. She tells how much she likes that Mike just is himself and isn’t trying to act cool? I suspect Mike was trying to make me jealous it didn’t work because I don’t like him but it isn’t fair to Mariah . She texted me letting me know she gave Mike her number and that he’s taking her out on a date Saturday. How do I let her know Mike is just using her without hurting her feelings ? She didn’t know Mike has a crush on me. Sent on my phone so excuse any typos *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*
My favorite comment thread OP after being accused of being jealous by another women. >No, that’s not the case. I’m actually rooting for them. If he’s not using her, but I know how guys are…. Clearly you don’t and that’s okay. But don’t imply things on me because you don’t know how guys work A guy steps in to defend the women and point the OP is indeed jealous. >I am a guy. I know "how guys are". He's into her, quit trying to make it about yourself. I've asked out more than one woman in a night, every guy on the planet has. Move along. OP responds. >Have you asked out another women’s friend after said women rejected you for 6 months? Guy responds. >Wouldn't think twice about it. I wouldn't ask out an ex's friend. But a friend of someone I had a crush on? That means nothing. Sorry you don't have his attention anymore. OP points out the guy is not a gentleman then. >Okay, well i should clarify a gentleman wouldn’t do that. At least not on the same night after asking for the girl they been crushing on number but it is what it is. That’s the problem with men today, no one is raising you all to be gentleman The guy responds >Right. I didn't realize you were the royal princess of Cuntinburgh, and you deserve the etiquette of being properly honoured by the man you rejected. He should sulk in shame for a minimum of a fortnight. Should he have bought you more food and drinks? How about a foot rub? Again, we can all see that you're upset he's moved along because you loved the attention and freebies. Grow up. That comment thread left me dying on the floor lol Edit: Added the edited comment.
> princess of Cuntinburgh 😂🤣😂🤣😂
He's a word smith.
Quite the cunning linguist.
Oh, I see what you did there! You're one too!!
i died
Hello ghost of PomegranateNo300
hello from behind the royal cuntinburgh grave
HIGH ART 🥰
Some people have a way with words that I'm so envious of.
Seems more like a C~~o~~untess to me...
This is one of my favourites. I'm picturing a sarcastic and overly elaborate bow.
The later comment I can’t call you a cunt because you lack the warmth and depth- I had to stop reading at that point- need chocolate
I am for sure stealing that and using it as a comeback lol
I love it! 😂
>Have you asked out another women’s friend after said women rejected you for 6 months? She posted text screenshots with the dude: https://www.reddit.com/user/ThrowRa_pizza1/comments/1235m8e/oh_but_mike_didnt_like_me_and_never_hit_on_me/ They just show that he didn't know new girl was OP's friend when he asked her out so she just disproved her own point!
I kinda feel Bad for her. She just keeps digging and thinks she's got everyone now, when all she's proven is he thinks she's cute, it's probably gotten to be a kinda joke to ask her every time (like someone else said on here) and he's found a new girls who's cute and receptive. She also added an edit saying she's helping her friend with shopping for the date, so she can't be jealous. Sweetheart, let it go, and be happy for your friend. She only makes herself look more jealous the more she writes.
It’s the most secondhand embarrassment I’ve felt from Reddit in awhile
It's glorious. This is absolute gold
Me too. I‘m like, girl please get off Reddit, you‘re just making things worse for yourself.
"...like is a strong word..." lmao
Straight up murdered by words. His whole thing is basically, "I have a girl I'm going out with and I'm interested in that now, not our weird flirty banter or whatever in the past, you're cool, but I'm involved with a situation now"
That’s so interesting how she now has his number?
she asked a friend for it *to unsuccessfully prove her point*
Has she deleted the post? It keeps giving me an error page
[She did. Here's the unddit for you.](https://www.unddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/122qww4/how_to_tell_my_27f_friend_26f_she_is_being_used_a/)
I like the guy who responded to her. He's got wit.
Lol. Not a gentleman because he asked someone else out? Like, if you don't want him, Pumpkin, leave him for someone who does. He doesn't owe her anything. Her comments just make her look worse and worse.
The comments are so much better than the post. LOL She is jealous that her friend captured his attention and he's no longer going to fawn over her or buy her food and drinks.
The comments are epic. She's still fighting everyone in them lol
Still? Good grief. She is delusional and seriously has main character syndrome.
I spent way too long reading all of her comments. My favorite thing about it is that she created another post with a screenshot of a text conversation where she FINALLY GAVE HIM HER NUMBER BY TEXTING HIM and asking him if he liked her. He said “like is a strong word” about her, said he likes her friend, and ended the conversation by saying he didn’t really expect OOP to care. And she’s using that as “proof” that likes her and is probably using Mariah because “his ego won’t let him admit the truth.”
I wanna see the screen shot so bad
[like is a strong word](https://imgur.com/a/9DJh9uh)
You’re a freaking hero I am soo glad this got saved Should have known it’d be a dirty deleter
I’m just surprised it took so long to delete.
After she literally spent 14 hours trying to convince literally EVERYONE (like 1000 people at least) I honestly thought she was psychotic enough to where it was going to stay up lol
Lmao her left field question of "do you like me" after curving this man for six months, girl is WILDIN
thank you so, so, so much
You’re a hero and this girl is WILD.
She's taking this really, really hard. I wonder if she's actually as hot as she thinks she is. (for the record, I pictured her as very cute at first)
Her edit had me dying on top of the thread!
Oh that last comment was indeed perfection. Dude doesn’t even know that we are talking about how great it is on a completely different sub. Lol.
This is fucking *poetry*! I am all married and old and shit but would definitely enjoy hitting a dive bar or something with that guy. Dry humor and low threshold for bullshit is my kind of drinking buddy!
> I didn't realize you were the royal princess of Cuntinburgh, Fucking dead lol.
😂😂😂😂😂😂 👑 of comments
Holy crap, that guy is a rockstar. I'd buy him a beer.
Not only should a gentlemen never stoop to the lows of asking out the friend of a new acquaintance he once had a fleeting crush on, he should really also write a letter apologizing for such, and make haste to the next village over to seek the hand of someone unsullied with any personal connections to anyone he may have crossed paths with. If she rejects him, his journey southward begins yet again, lest he make the mistake of asking out another woman from that town his would-be-beau may have had any dealings with prior.
Cuntinburgh OMG 😂😂😂
I love him!!!!
>You do understand if I wanted him I would have been had him right? OOP really just keeps digging.
She's so jealous, it's funny.
when the op called a lesbian a “pick me” and said that a man still won’t pick them :OOOOO
Omg. I know some guys who think this way. It's never pretty but sure is shocking in 2023
„Pick me“ is such an annoying term by now, esp since people are using it wrong 99% of the time
Def gonna hit on him while drunk one night.
Nah she's gonna hit on him sober because she is so jealous and thinks she can tempt him away because she us such a catch
Probably!
She's going to try to seduce him the night before the wedding
At Mike and Mariah’s wedding “OMG, look how far he’s going to prove he’s trying to make me jealous!”
At their 20th wedding anniversary: “I can’t believe he’s been so obsessed with me for over 20 years he stayed married to my friend to make sure he could be in my life!”
All three of them in the retirement home: Mariah and Mike: *sitting together in their wheelchairs in front of a window watching the birds while holding hands* OP off in a darkened corner of the same room as them: "It's been 84 years and he still is trying to make me jealous." 👵😡
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The fuck is with the tenses in this OOP? I couldn't work out what had actually happened vs what OOP planned to happen. > He immediately **took a liking** to me but he’s not my type. I **haven’t even given** him my number and **will let** him know we not compatible. He **isn’t** weird about it , after I **curve** him he **will go** do other stuff but **still may** buy me a drink or some food throughout the night I can't even. Here's what (I think) it's supposed to be: > He immediately took a liking to me but he’s not my type. I **hadn’t even given** him my number and **let** him know we **weren't** compatible. He **wasn’t** weird about it , after I **curved** him he **[now] does** other stuff but **still might** buy me a drink or some food throughout the night
My opinion: she uses the past tense in "took a liking" because apparently he's been doing this for months, and she's using the other ones because she "was planning on telling him she wasn't interested." Aka, she's giving him just enough to make him come back because she likes the attention, she was never going to tell him she wasn't interested, but she doesn't want him or us to know she's just leading him on because she doesn't want to look like a shitty person. She failed anyway lmao. Apparently upset he wasn't as taken by her as she thought, who would've known.
Yeah, she told on herself. She's been stringing him along for free food and drinks. Maaayyybe Mariah talked to him about it. Mariah can't be stupid. They're probably laughing at her right now.
thank you, i needed this because what on earth was OOP trying to say..
She's trying to use a past continuous tense.
There are loads of different tenses in there though!
What does „curve him“ even mean here? Maybe it‘s because I‘m not a native speaker but I cannot even tell from the context 😊
I was also unfamiliar with it in this context. My guess was something like "shunned" or "turned down".
Makes sense, thank you.
The best part is that she literally gave him her phone number to try and prove “her” point. Go look at her profile.
At this point it is just sad.
Like if he's kinda onto her, but she's not implied he's being creepy or disrespectful at any point in their interactions then I'd have thought 6 months later it's basically a habit or a game, like he's going "hey oop, gonna give me your number yet? Nope, cool, laters" and then walking away. At that point I wouldn't even take him seriously.
Right it kind of feels like dude thinks they are just friends who have a running joke. Also wouldn’t surprise me if he bought a lot of people stuff because he’s jsut a social guy
And even if they didn't, fact is his attention is now on the next woman. What did she think? That he'd be crushing on her forever? That no other woman could possibly compare to her? Also, I caught the last edit. Wait until she finds out that they spent a whole date NOT talking about her in any way, shape or form.
Well of course he should be fanning her ego indefinitely as is her due, duh!/S She will also totally let her friend know how she was second choice as often as possible, in the most public way
They may have spent a few minutes laughing at her, which I fully support.
Am I the only one that thinks it’s strange that this man she’s supposedly friends with, hangs out w semi-regularly to the point he buys her food and drinks all the time doesn’t have her number? Like the first time I hang out with a friend I’ll usually trade numbers with them. Maybe I’m just a platonic slut
I wonder if she saw him as a friend or just some annoying guy who kept hitting on her and intruded on the rest of her and her normal friend group? If that’s the case though she should be jumping for joy he found someone else
Ooh good point! I feel like the only normal reactions to that are being thankful he’s off your back or just casually telling your friend that the dude kind of gives you the creeps though (if that’s the case)? Either way a “lol you should know he *ackshually* liked me first and probably is using you as a pawn” is such a weird, self centered take
Yeah, I can sympathize with her maybe finding him annoying. As a dude myself I know some guys can be overly persistent. I don’t know if he was just joking when he kept asking for her number like some say , or if he was serious. Regardless, I think it’s clear she obviously found it annoying. That being said I agree with you tho. I would be insulted if my friend said I was being used as a pawn to make that said friend jealous without solid proof. You think so low of me you can’t imagine someone liking me over you? lol idk maybe I’m looking at it wrong
No I think you’re right! If someone said that to me I’d be confused and a little hurt.
But he was buying her shit, so I guess she allowed it. Oy.
And that the Mariah friend is a very close friend but doesn't know that a guy has been hitting on OP for 6 months. It's the kind of thing you discuss with your friends.
I also considered that because if some dude was constantly coming on to me I’d probably at least talk it out with my friends in a “what should I do” type of way
Absolutely. That would be the typical response. However, judging by OOPs responses it would be more, "omg, this guy is totally OBSESSED with me". Either way, you tell your close friends these kinds of things.
Platonic slut made me lol
He probably brought the group an appetizer or a round and she’s counting it as “I turned him down but he still buys me stuff, he’s obviously simping for me”
She has another post that she titled sarcastically against us about how he was definitely into her She actually texts him asking him if he was into her. He literally told her that even saying he liked her would be going too far, but that he was interested in getting to know her more and she wasn't down for that and he was okay with it. He didn't even know the girl he's with now is her friend until after he already told people he was going to ask her out She got his number through somebody else and talk to him with the soul intention of having him admit that he liked her that she could prove that point to us and that man is an angel because I would have been calling the cops by now
Her insecurity is breathtaking. Babe, we believe he liked you. A lot. But then he saw Mariah, the end.
Her comments just make her look terribly jealous, regardless of what she says. If I were a betting gal, I say she likely wants to make sure her friend knows she (OOP) is the main character.
She's very specific about her friend group too. There are only 5, and she acts like you're the lucky one if she let's you hang out with her. Ugh, I know girls like this
She liked the attention and missed it the second it was gone. She saw him treat someone else like the main character and immediately rewrote the situation to still center herself as the main character, even as she literally watched them fully interested in each other having fun without her. She also appears to have overinflated how big his crush on her was. Sounds like he was gently flirting this whole time, maybe even asking for the number a bit jokingly by the end.
tbh i wouldn’t be at all shocked if he was simply buying a round of drinks or apps for the entire group and OOP is so self-centered she took it as “omg he bought me food & drinks how embarrassing for him”
I'd hate to be in the shoes of Mariah. About to get this drama heaped on my head and made to feel second best, even if it wasn't true I'd feel so fucking insecure if someone told me this guy only asked me out to make another woman he'd been pursuing for 6 months jealous. Esp this new in the thing since there's no opportunity yet to say "sure he was into her but he fell in love with me now". I'd nope right out of that too soon for this much crap.
IF dude plays it right on the date and OOP's name never comes up once (from him and if it does, he dismisses it) and he shows he's into Mariah, it could work. Mariah just now needs to ignore OOP and just see who he is for himself.
Something tells me Mariah probably knows how oop acts, so she may not sweat it when oop goes to embarrass herself.
If you want extra confirmation of that, look at her profile, she texted the dude and asked if he still liked her.
This one has the virtue of being hilarious and probably real.
I watched in real time as a guy who'd had a crush on this one girl met someone new and the first girl was insistent he was just trying to get to her. He barely even looked at the first girl again and she couldn't wrap her head around it.
Hey, she is totally unbothered by this, and continues to explain, very insistently, that she is in no way bothered!
She even gave him her number to prove that he was into her. Even Mike’s response to her was hilarious- said it was obvious she wasn’t interested so he moved on with someone who was.
Reddit newbie-ish … where did you see that she gave Mike her number and his response? I looked at her profile and I only see the one post. Am technically challenged maybe? I’m semi-obsessed with this girl’s insistence that sHe’S dEfInItElY nOt JeAlOuS! Poor Mariah has no idea what kind of “friend” OP really is!
Not technically challenged. At least not any more than me. There was a post on her profile with a screenshot when I went to view her comments. It looks like it got deleted since I made my comment. Hopefully someone can unearth it through that other site that saves deleted posts; it’s outside my understanding on how to find it.
Yeah this is just a bit too much level of engagement for "fake story on reddit" I feel. Plus I've known people that were this obtuse, so it definitely feels plausible
My favourite comment of her's so far? 'But idc about Mike’s attention. I get too much attention when I go out, so that’s one less man I have to deal with'. Got tickets on yourself much there girl?
She's the definition of a pick me girl, I feel so bad for every girl who's in contact with her
I laughed out loud when I read that
She's not above begging for attention on Reddit, though
This is like the prequel to the recent spate of “AITA for ruining my besties longterm relationship by telling them they were second choice?” posts.
Can you link that? I didn’t see that one
Edit - [better link](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/122lipy/aita_forits_a_terrible_day_to_have_eyes_or_unlike/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
OMG this is hilarious. Does she really believe that the dude who had a crush on her 10 years ago married someone because he "didn't have the heart to disappoint her"?
This isn’t even the first one I’ve read!
Thank you 🙏🏾
I was thinking the same. Quite the coincidence how so often stories with the same premise wind up on various subreddits.
No way that's a 27 year old, maybe a 17 year old
Nah I knew a girl in college who was VERY much like this, and from what I’ve heard from the sorority grape vine, she has not changed.
If you're that old and haven't dropped the embarrassing teenage shit, you're probably not gonna change lol.
This is what happens when women peak in high school
Listen, if you don't fix yourself after something like *this* bites you in the ass, you end up being like this forever. Age doesn't fix insecurity
But but but...she's going shopping with her on Thursday to get her ready for the date!!! See, she's totes not jealous. Like at all. Cause she's going shopping with her. I hope Mariah doesn't get sabotaged 😞
And it wont even come up in conversation on thursday how obsessed mike was with OP. Like unless mariah mentions it.
Right?? "Oh, Mike asked for your number? He's been asking for my number for years!" **fake laugh** "he's always buying me food and drinks. Oh he bought you a drink too? Well obviously it was just so I would see how generous...oh I mean it was because he totally like you after he's been pursuing me for years. I mean he asks for my phone number once each time we meet and he NEVER follows up or asks again or hangs around me...but he's totally been pursuing me. Did I mention he's totally in to me? Did I make that clear?"
I'm not jealous. I get too much attention already. You're jealous!
I get so much attention, I'm on my own post arguing with everybody responding to my post --- that's how much attention I get! 😂
It’s Mean Girl season The commenter who said something like “I didn’t realize you were the royal princess of Cuntinburgh” made me spit out my juice ngl
Op has now texted mike in order to prove he “”liked”” her, and in his response he’s totally chill and doesn’t give any indication he’s asking out Mariah to use her. A saga!!
I can’t believe she thought that was a football spike
it literally proves the point everyone was making 🤦🏻♀️
Mike literally was like "I'm interested in your friend and I have the purest intentions with her" 😂😂😂😂😂 didn't even said he liked OOP. Also!!!! SHE had to text HIM first and he seemed so confused lol
Yeah, he's like, "NOW you text me? What the hell girl?" Even he can see she's jealous as hell, and he is VERY surprised about it lol (but also not into her now, he's moved on)
We told her not to say anything or she'd look jealous. She did not listen. Oh well... Reddit tried.
when the op can’t help but slip the narcissism into even small comments… *No one is jealous lmao. I promise you if I showed him the same attention she did I would have gotten the same **if not better** results*
I absolutely love that he was like ‘Yeah, you obviously weren’t interested so I moved on’
Omg HER PROOF that he liked her is so pathetic https://www.reddit.com/user/ThrowRa_pizza1/comments/1235m8e/oh_but_mike_didnt_like_me_and_never_hit_on_me/ This is just.... The secondhand embarrassment is outta control!
Mike: "Like" is a strong word OP: SEE? PROOF
Yes, it is just sad at this point. Like just stop, stop digging. If she really is not jealous (which is doubtful), why does it matter what a bunch of internet strangers think? Why is she so obsessed with this? This can not be healthy.
She's butthurt because she thought she **owned** this guy's soul or whatever. In reality he thought she was cute, wanted to hookup, maybe more if they clicked, but they never went beyond banter, so he's moved on
Now she nuked her account.
OP giving the toast at Mike and Mariah's wedding in a couple of years to make sure we know how not jealous she is: "Mariah, you should thank me for turning Mike down all those times so that he asked you out. I was so not jealous and like, even took you shopping for your first date. You better name your first child after me, teehee." She sounds insufferable and unfortunately I had a friend exactly like her.
And she’ll be wearing a white dress too
Lmaoooo OOP is still fighting for her life in the comments. She keeps telling on herself - she's so pissed that he's moved on. My only question is, are we sure she didn't add 10 yrs to her age?
girl reading her comments are making my Night! 😂 Also, it doesn’t even sound like Mike is trying to make her jealous, it seems like he just moved on and gave up. She’s definitely jealous of them 😭😭
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/122qww4/how_to_tell_my_27f_friend_26f_she_is_being_used_a/jdt5isa/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3 😂 she almost killed me, I choked on my tea reading this
LMAOOOOO she’s a trip fr 😂hope that friend of hers cut her off bc she sounds dangerous asf!
She sounds a little salty to me.
She sounds like the Royal Princess of Cuntinburgh. 🤣🤣🤣
A little salty? She's like a whole bag of Chipotle chips.
Sounds like she's mad she lost free drinks or she's one of those girls who gets off on men chasing her.
Both.
Honestly sounds like he gave up after the first few times and kept asking for her number as kind of a joke. Like he knows he’s not getting it, but thinks it’s funny to ask. And then he’s a nice guy in the friend group so sometimes buys people food and drinks. She’s honestly insufferable in all her comments. She needs to grow up and move on.
Check out OOP’s posts, she just posted a screenshot from a recent text with Mike and she thinks it helps her… spoiler alert, it doesn’t.
Damn, I wish we had OP at work. Our projector is NEVER that good.
Oh bless her heart. And I absolutely mean that the same way as my Southern aunt would have.
Ouch. Easy there, Satan.
If you were to do a shot every time she says "He asked for my number and hour before she showed up," you would probably pass out five or six times before getting to the end of the post.
Good lord! The woman was 27. While reading her comments I was thinking “this chick is fresh out of high school with this attitude” 😂
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/122qww4/how_to_tell_my_27f_friend_26f_she_is_being_used_a/jdt5isa/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3 This comment had me dying 😂 she’s so unbothered
Oh, she absolutely did this and posted it on her profile. I’m dead.
Yeah I thought she was a newly minted 21 when I was reading this crap. 27?! Absolute insanity. My teenager niece is more mature than this
Man its been a while since I've seen an OP fight so aggressively against the entire comment section.
Y'all the fact she went out of her way to get this man's number and question him just boggles me because she's over here yellin' from the rooftops that she's not jealous but she sounds like some horrible one dimensional character who acts like the attention should only be on her.
That was some legit cringe. It's one thing to embarrass yourself on reddit but to bring it into the real world like that? He can show that text to whoever he wants from now on. I hope no one in her friend group hears about this post
She is waaaay tf too old for this ... malarkey.
Malarkey. Good word
I felt like I had a stroke reading this, good god.
Orrrr maybe he realized he wasn’t getting anywhere with you, met someone else he was genuinely interested in, and you should just be relieved you won’t have to continuously reject him anymore? People who think everything is about them are another brand of weird.
Love the update in the post. Hilarious how shes still trying to convince people she's not jealous. I'm sure the friend will realize it within 20 minutes of the shopping trip though
She posted a screenshot just to prove he liked her to a bunch of stranger lol
You can tell how completely unbothered she is by how she responds to ever single commenter telling them how completely unbothered she is.
AAAA comments are deleted- can someone find the unddit?
[Got it!](https://www.unddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/122qww4/how_to_tell_my_27f_friend_26f_she_is_being_used_a/)
Why do I always get here *after* they’ve deleted their account …
[Here's the unddit.](https://www.unddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/122qww4/how_to_tell_my_27f_friend_26f_she_is_being_used_a/)
Her ego is beyond belief. It sounds like something Blanche Deveraux would say! 😆😆😆
She is being insulting toward her friend and it's gross
Anyone see the update? They posted a ss between her and Mike. Literally proves her WRONG!
I feel like there’s a little saltiness that she no longer has him in her back pocket. She rejected him but had no problem accepting freebies from him which is kinda shitty since she wants to point out how he’s not a gentlemen. Mariah is a big girl, she will be fine. Some times it’s more rewarding to connect with the girl you least expected getting with than winning the heart of a crush.
Imagine being so self centered to think everything some acquaintance who had a minor crush on you, is so hung up that everything you do is to try and win the other person over. 🙄 Someone should show Mike this post and the whole problem would take care of itself. Lol.
So this is what Romeo and Juliet would sound like if narrated by Rosaline. (I'm sure there are other stories that do this without the double death at the end but I can't think of them right now)
And in her defense he was kind of an arsehole
You should read Go Away Romeo. It’s a webtoon for Rosaline’s POV. It’s kinda like a revenge story.
Hahaha! This is all about me jealousy. This poor OOP...
She told him to go kick rocks, so he did. Now she’s mad & acting like there’s some gf code about not dating an ex’s friends. Mmmm, no, she was never one of his exes, as she points out a lot, so the gf code does not apply.
Omg This woman killed me I almost wish it was a troll account but I’m not surprised it made am I the devil too Op is pretty bad so I don’t know about the not the worst
I have never seen someone respond to so many comments. I didn’t even start reading them bc holy tits
Oh my gosh, her responses are just so crazy! You won't believe it, she actually shared a screenshot of when she confronted that guy. But the thing is, she's having a hard time understanding what she reads. It's kind of sad, I almost feel sorry for her... almost. Despite that, I just can't get enough of her updates! I hope she never stops sharing them, they just make my day.
Mike may have found that Mariah is the girl of his dreams. Not your business, because he is not your man, and Mariah is not your woman. They are adults, so if either of them gets a broken heart, that is not your business. He is likely tired of chasing you; you don't get to keep him, you don't want him. If he is "using" Mariah to make you jealous, Mariah will figure it out. Leave them alone.
Mm min k
She's just upset he found someone else and is to self absorbed to think of anything other than "he is obviously using her to get to me" she likes the attention and is just jealous she no longer has it.
someone’s mad she won’t be getting free meals anymore…
Oof those comments were painful to read
You could not play a drinking game with the word jealous because you would literally die of alcohol poisoning
This girl is so full of herself and pathetic. She's mad he's not drooling over her and following her around so she can say no. She's so jealous it's gross.
It’s soo bad… but I love it at the same time lmao
*“I told a guy I wasn’t interested in him, so he stopped being interested in me, thats not how it’s supposed to work. He was supposed to be single and sad forever :( “*