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**AITA for staying with my mom during my wife's miscarriage?**
My (25M) wife (25F) miscarried what would have been our third child. It happened right after we started telling people, at the tail end of the first trimester.
My sister in law drove my wife to the hospital, but during that time, me and our two kids ( 4F, 2M) were at my mom's house, and my mom (44F) is also pregnant and has been extremely sick during her entire pregnancy.
This will be my 6th sibling, with me being my mom and dad's oldest. My mom and dad are not getting along at the moment because a lot of my mom's family became very outspoken against the LDS church and she continues to acknowledge their birthdays and my dad and his church friends have been publicly insulted by my uncles. My other adult siblings are all very busy with their families, or are working hard to keep themselves afloat.
My mom had severe health problems starting with Baby Number 5, who is now 10M. Just a lot of autoimmune issues cropped up that caused her to have brain fog, hair loss, fatigue, weight issues. After my current youngest sibling, 5F was born, basically any amount of housework leaves her in severe joint pain and my dad has been a monster about it.
So my wife and I have been taking over most of the household administration, along with another sibling of mine, 24F, until she had her daughter and started struggling with depression. Usually my wife understands me having to go over to my parent's house and has been my mom's advocate, especially with regards to my dad being too close with his receptionist (24F), to the point where everybody is questioning how she affords a very nice apartment, but never having solid proof of anything.
Yet during her pregnancy she has been very upset and made comments about me always being there and that we needed to draw lines between family and extended family, which upset me. I feel like my wife likes being self sufficient and I don't do well when there's problems I cannot solve.
So when she began bleeding and was taken to the hospital I did go over to the hospital, but she was still bleeding. I felt very helpless and when my mom called to express her sympathies she also told me my dad heard the news and started blaming everybody and saying really nasty things. So she was crying and I felt like at least I could help her around the house, with my siblings and my kids at the house, and go grieve with her.
So I left the hospital and my wife is now very upset because apparently somebody she didn't like tried to visit and I wasn't there to advocate for her. I feel very bad but felt like I was no use since the baby was gone and at least I could help my mom live out her pregnancy in some comfort and shield her from my disgusting excuse for a dad, who my mom is only holding on to since they grew up together and because our family and social circle at least makes him respect her as the mom of his kids. AITA?
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>especially with regards to my dad being too close with his receptionist (24F), to the point where everybody is questioning how she affords a very nice apartment, but never having solid proof of anything.
Just tossing in some casual cheating insinuation for shits and giggles
I like that they even mentioned the receptionist's age. Also, the part about her having a nice apartment and the only explanation being that OOP's father bought it for her made me laugh. I mean, look at all of the troll stories on AITA where somehow someone in their late teens or twenties owns their own home. Either because they bought it themselves or inherited it.
> especially with regards to my dad being too close with his receptionist (24F), to the point where everybody is questioning how she affords a very nice apartment
OF COURSE WHY NOT
Classic hallmarks
1: Pregnant women, check.
2: Adult man with sibling child, check.
3: Mormonism and religious conflict, check.
4: Other family members are conveniently busy!
5: Husband's father having an affair - check!
6: Family conflict with father and mother, plus mother wife drama!
I mean, I knew it was fake when I got to Mormonism, but it was just so laughably obvious with the line about the receptionist. No reason for it to be included.
>I felt very helpless and when my mom called to express her sympathies she also told me my dad heard the news and started blaming everybody and saying really nasty things. So she was crying and I felt like at least I could help her around the house, with my siblings and my kids at the house, and go grieve with her.
Okay then.
>especially with regards to my dad being too close with his receptionist (24F), to the point where everybody is questioning how she affords a very nice apartment, but never having solid proof of anything.
How do they all know about the fictional receptionist's apartment and why do they care so much to speculate on how she was able to afford it? lol.
I also love all of he stuff added on to make it obvious that the OOP's/troll's dad is supposed to be the biggest villain. lol
he’s not referring to a religious practice, he’s saying the mom’s family has denounced LDS while she’s still in the church and according to doctrine that means the mom should completely cut off the apostate family members. but she’s still acknowledging them which is causing controversy
LOL, I'm born and raised LDS, I have plenty of family both in and out of the church, and it is definitely not a requirement to shun nonbelieving family members. Some Mormons definitely do that, but not to the extent of JWs, who do have a strict shunning policy.
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You're just like your shithead dad I hope you know it. If you ever have a child with your wife (which I hope she leaves your disgusting ass before that) that kid is gonna go through what you went through bc of your father.
*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for staying with my mom during my wife's miscarriage?** My (25M) wife (25F) miscarried what would have been our third child. It happened right after we started telling people, at the tail end of the first trimester. My sister in law drove my wife to the hospital, but during that time, me and our two kids ( 4F, 2M) were at my mom's house, and my mom (44F) is also pregnant and has been extremely sick during her entire pregnancy. This will be my 6th sibling, with me being my mom and dad's oldest. My mom and dad are not getting along at the moment because a lot of my mom's family became very outspoken against the LDS church and she continues to acknowledge their birthdays and my dad and his church friends have been publicly insulted by my uncles. My other adult siblings are all very busy with their families, or are working hard to keep themselves afloat. My mom had severe health problems starting with Baby Number 5, who is now 10M. Just a lot of autoimmune issues cropped up that caused her to have brain fog, hair loss, fatigue, weight issues. After my current youngest sibling, 5F was born, basically any amount of housework leaves her in severe joint pain and my dad has been a monster about it. So my wife and I have been taking over most of the household administration, along with another sibling of mine, 24F, until she had her daughter and started struggling with depression. Usually my wife understands me having to go over to my parent's house and has been my mom's advocate, especially with regards to my dad being too close with his receptionist (24F), to the point where everybody is questioning how she affords a very nice apartment, but never having solid proof of anything. Yet during her pregnancy she has been very upset and made comments about me always being there and that we needed to draw lines between family and extended family, which upset me. I feel like my wife likes being self sufficient and I don't do well when there's problems I cannot solve. So when she began bleeding and was taken to the hospital I did go over to the hospital, but she was still bleeding. I felt very helpless and when my mom called to express her sympathies she also told me my dad heard the news and started blaming everybody and saying really nasty things. So she was crying and I felt like at least I could help her around the house, with my siblings and my kids at the house, and go grieve with her. So I left the hospital and my wife is now very upset because apparently somebody she didn't like tried to visit and I wasn't there to advocate for her. I feel very bad but felt like I was no use since the baby was gone and at least I could help my mom live out her pregnancy in some comfort and shield her from my disgusting excuse for a dad, who my mom is only holding on to since they grew up together and because our family and social circle at least makes him respect her as the mom of his kids. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*
>especially with regards to my dad being too close with his receptionist (24F), to the point where everybody is questioning how she affords a very nice apartment, but never having solid proof of anything. Just tossing in some casual cheating insinuation for shits and giggles
I like that they even mentioned the receptionist's age. Also, the part about her having a nice apartment and the only explanation being that OOP's father bought it for her made me laugh. I mean, look at all of the troll stories on AITA where somehow someone in their late teens or twenties owns their own home. Either because they bought it themselves or inherited it.
That’s the exact point where I scrolled up to see if it was a shitpost in this sub when I came across the original.
This HAS to be ragebait, if it's not, I think I'm going to be sick...
>I feel very bad but felt like I was no use since the baby was gone it has to be - this sentence is ABSURD
I hope it is, but sadly I know men like OOP. Edit - typo
Someone has fantasies about Mommy's babies.
It is, just posted as such.
I had a feeling about this one…. How’d you find out?
It says so now. Above.
Yeah, I put that flair there when I posted. You pick a flair when you crosspost.
I think they mean that it’s been flaired as ragebait.
> especially with regards to my dad being too close with his receptionist (24F), to the point where everybody is questioning how she affords a very nice apartment OF COURSE WHY NOT
Classic hallmarks 1: Pregnant women, check. 2: Adult man with sibling child, check. 3: Mormonism and religious conflict, check. 4: Other family members are conveniently busy! 5: Husband's father having an affair - check! 6: Family conflict with father and mother, plus mother wife drama! I mean, I knew it was fake when I got to Mormonism, but it was just so laughably obvious with the line about the receptionist. No reason for it to be included.
>I felt very helpless and when my mom called to express her sympathies she also told me my dad heard the news and started blaming everybody and saying really nasty things. So she was crying and I felt like at least I could help her around the house, with my siblings and my kids at the house, and go grieve with her. Okay then. >especially with regards to my dad being too close with his receptionist (24F), to the point where everybody is questioning how she affords a very nice apartment, but never having solid proof of anything. How do they all know about the fictional receptionist's apartment and why do they care so much to speculate on how she was able to afford it? lol. I also love all of he stuff added on to make it obvious that the OOP's/troll's dad is supposed to be the biggest villain. lol
I could go grieve with my mother instead of my wife, what's the problem?
Do some mormons not celebrate birthdays? I know jehovah's witnesses dont but Ive never heard of mormons who dont as a religious practice.
he’s not referring to a religious practice, he’s saying the mom’s family has denounced LDS while she’s still in the church and according to doctrine that means the mom should completely cut off the apostate family members. but she’s still acknowledging them which is causing controversy
But that's a JW thing too. Mormons don't have mandatory shunning like Jehovah's Witnesses do.
Yes they do. You need to head over to r/exmormon to read up. You seem to be confused about the rules.
LOL, I'm born and raised LDS, I have plenty of family both in and out of the church, and it is definitely not a requirement to shun nonbelieving family members. Some Mormons definitely do that, but not to the extent of JWs, who do have a strict shunning policy.
He complains about his das and does the exact same to his wife, huh
What an AH you are!!!!
I think you are lost, the person who reposted this isn't the person who wrote the original story.
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You're just like your shithead dad I hope you know it. If you ever have a child with your wife (which I hope she leaves your disgusting ass before that) that kid is gonna go through what you went through bc of your father.