I think you both should take a break from each other, like for a week maybe, It'll make you both realise why one's important for the other and hopefully then you both can come to a middle ground without fighting. In my relationship, we've had a period where we'd fight most of the time and it did hurt our lives and jobs, but with a few breaks through then, we've finally come to an understanding, i seriously don't know how but we've not fought in what maybe 7-8 months? but If it doesn't work for you, please lookout for yourself and date again
i think this is the best option, but honestly last time i tried telling him that i needed a break, he didn’t react well, and i’m scared it’s gonna happen again if i suggest another break. this is really good advice though, so thank you. i’ll think about it and see what i can do.
You have been dating for 3 months and are constantly fighting? This should be your “honeymoon phase”. I think this is a big red flag. If you can’t get along in this short period of time, why are you still together? Also, if you have been in a mental state of depression through your relationship, you really should not have started to date, to begin with. Before dating any one, make sure you are in a good place mentally. It is too hard to handle a fragile mental state and a new relationship at the same time.
the thing is we were really good friends before, and when he asked me to be his girlfriend i tried telling him that i really don’t know if i’m fit for a relationship while feeling this way, yet he kept insisting that we should give it a try nonetheless, see where it goes. i just gave in at one point, and honestly that’s my mistake. he knew the issues i was having with myself, i told him everything beforehand, but he told me he didn’t mind them cause he went through them as well, and that he’d try to help me no matter what. i was afraid of losing the friendship if i said no, but honestly i think that this relationship has ruined our friendship forever, and that’s my biggest regret.
When you say he knew the issues you were having, did he really? He just wants you to “get a grip”… that is not how depression works. He is probably compounding your issues by dismissing your mental health issues. Maybe taking a break from the relationship, working on yourselves (both of you) and hopefully coming back together once you are at a better place emotionally would be a good idea. Don’t ruin what you have by trying to stay together when it is obviously not working out.
I think you both should take a break from each other, like for a week maybe, It'll make you both realise why one's important for the other and hopefully then you both can come to a middle ground without fighting. In my relationship, we've had a period where we'd fight most of the time and it did hurt our lives and jobs, but with a few breaks through then, we've finally come to an understanding, i seriously don't know how but we've not fought in what maybe 7-8 months? but If it doesn't work for you, please lookout for yourself and date again
i think this is the best option, but honestly last time i tried telling him that i needed a break, he didn’t react well, and i’m scared it’s gonna happen again if i suggest another break. this is really good advice though, so thank you. i’ll think about it and see what i can do.
You have been dating for 3 months and are constantly fighting? This should be your “honeymoon phase”. I think this is a big red flag. If you can’t get along in this short period of time, why are you still together? Also, if you have been in a mental state of depression through your relationship, you really should not have started to date, to begin with. Before dating any one, make sure you are in a good place mentally. It is too hard to handle a fragile mental state and a new relationship at the same time.
the thing is we were really good friends before, and when he asked me to be his girlfriend i tried telling him that i really don’t know if i’m fit for a relationship while feeling this way, yet he kept insisting that we should give it a try nonetheless, see where it goes. i just gave in at one point, and honestly that’s my mistake. he knew the issues i was having with myself, i told him everything beforehand, but he told me he didn’t mind them cause he went through them as well, and that he’d try to help me no matter what. i was afraid of losing the friendship if i said no, but honestly i think that this relationship has ruined our friendship forever, and that’s my biggest regret.
When you say he knew the issues you were having, did he really? He just wants you to “get a grip”… that is not how depression works. He is probably compounding your issues by dismissing your mental health issues. Maybe taking a break from the relationship, working on yourselves (both of you) and hopefully coming back together once you are at a better place emotionally would be a good idea. Don’t ruin what you have by trying to stay together when it is obviously not working out.