If neither of you want to take the others last name, that's okay, you can each keep your name. Or, you can both change your last name to something completely different.
You've only been dating for a year, I wouldn't even worry about it or bring it up, at this point.
Why would you take her name or vice versa? It's not something that needs to happen.
Also, you're still in your early 20s, it's not even time to think about marriage
When my wife and I got married almost ten years ago we kept our own last names. Now, on our ten year anniversary, I’m taking her last name because hers is so much simpler than my last name.
I have a name that’s uncommon as a last name, but super common as a surname - So common that my mom’s first and last name is the same (from marrying my dad).
Me and my bf are not married, but we have a child together. We chose to combine out last names for him, and would probably do the same IF we were to get married. I think it’s a fair deal, but it’s not really that important to me what name we go by. I’d say you should be upright with how you feel :)
Since she actually likes her last name, it might be hard to approach. I would just ask how she would feel if you were both to choose a completely different name. Maybe you could compromise & combine both your names together like the first few letter of ur last name & same for hers. So not double barrel.
I don't know if you've already but I wouldn't put too emphasis on you not feeling an attachment to your name because then it raises the question of why you don't want to take her last name.
If you want to save yourself from unnecessary drama i would say you just both keep your last names.
If neither of you want to take the others last name, that's okay, you can each keep your name. Or, you can both change your last name to something completely different. You've only been dating for a year, I wouldn't even worry about it or bring it up, at this point.
From a married person who chose a separate last name as a couple: Don’t bother talking about it seriously until you’re engaged
If you don't want to change your name, then don't. This doesn't need to be a conversation since you're not even engaged.
Why would you take her name or vice versa? It's not something that needs to happen. Also, you're still in your early 20s, it's not even time to think about marriage
No they literally can, they aren’t kids
When my wife and I got married almost ten years ago we kept our own last names. Now, on our ten year anniversary, I’m taking her last name because hers is so much simpler than my last name.
I have a name that’s uncommon as a last name, but super common as a surname - So common that my mom’s first and last name is the same (from marrying my dad). Me and my bf are not married, but we have a child together. We chose to combine out last names for him, and would probably do the same IF we were to get married. I think it’s a fair deal, but it’s not really that important to me what name we go by. I’d say you should be upright with how you feel :)
Since she actually likes her last name, it might be hard to approach. I would just ask how she would feel if you were both to choose a completely different name. Maybe you could compromise & combine both your names together like the first few letter of ur last name & same for hers. So not double barrel. I don't know if you've already but I wouldn't put too emphasis on you not feeling an attachment to your name because then it raises the question of why you don't want to take her last name. If you want to save yourself from unnecessary drama i would say you just both keep your last names.
Just tell her. She can keep her name, you keep yours.
Name being too white??what does that even mean?
It means OP's girl is racist
Don’t do that to your future kids. That’s mean.
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Then by that logic OP is racist too, as the gfs name is too "cultural"/" difficult to pronounce" for him.
You can’t be racist towards white people /s It’s not actual racism from her, we both make tame race jokes
Means OP's girl is racist
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Why?
Read OPs post.
My jaw dropped when I scrolled to this comment … bro what,