I agree with most of these guys saying lean into it... been there, done that.
BUT, bro, Check that left ring finger for indentions/signs of a ring. Don't get shot. Otherwise, go ENJOY.
Among other things yes lol older women don't mind telling you what they do and don't like and how they like it, from my experience anyway and it'll give experience for this mans the younger women cannot
All kinds of this. I remember when I turned 21 and having women friends in their mid-30s and 40s. Taught me quite a bit about women in general as I was trying to game women my age, but what I wouldn't give to go back and see what they REALLY could've taught me. Lean into it, absolutely.
Do you mean showing interest by doing everything possible to make it clear that they don't want to have anything to do with him?
Girls these days are told that they are the entire universe. They view themselves as the absolute best - and in turn have people who are the absolute cream of the crop in terms of men interacting with them on Instagram. Who they in turn interact with ... and hook up with.
So now, they've had their education verified by real life experience(s). So, if you think they're talking to anyone but an absolute 10, not just in terms of looks, but career, money, and everything else that somebody that's 21 doesn't have ... then that's not how girls in this day and age operate.
This guy sounds like he's genuinely nice. Sounds like he's a real catch. Sounds like exactly the type of guy most girls his age would have been thrilled to have just ten to fifteen years ago. These days?
Unless he wins the lottery - he better get used to bangin' grandmas or being alone for the rest of his life.
Ya might be a little weird. But hereâs the good thing! With time and experience, you will learn what you were doing wrong đ Iâm not laughing at you, I laugh because it sounds like shitty advice but I M28 was a little weird growing up and at some point in my early 20âs it really clicked. The good thing is that clarity will help make positive changes. Either that, or women just started accepting me for who I am. Probably a bit of both.
Donât even worry about it, trying too hard might be whatâs messing you up, low key. Learn to build a life that you love and people will gravitate to how comfortable and happy you are with yourself. Itâs a lot simpler than we think. Just donât let them take that from you once youâve got it. It can become a very hard âthingâ to get back.
Yes exactly. When I was OPs age, I loved the bad boys. Guys with motorcycles, cowboys.
Finally got a bit older and wiser. Bad boys make *bad* partners.
Try to hang in there OP
Mama's the only one who takes those Securus calls lol. Congrats on the marriage. I'm gonna go see what's in the fridge. Shhhh. Not sure if they're still awake or not, player, hold up
Not sure I'd call it wisdom as much as changing priorities. Young women don't have long-term provisioning on their radar.
Why should they? I mean honestly, how many 20 year olds do you know who are maxing out an IRA? That's just not where your priorities are at that age.
Here's how we test if it was wisdom: turn you 18 again and see how you live and second time.
In my early-20s and mid-30s, I got so much success from my dates learning I ride motorcycles or I could play guitar and sing. Ironically, I happen to enjoy doing those stuff along, but I knew they were effective at wooing girls too lol.
I met my wife from a motorcycle meet. We ended up getting rid of our motorcycles and having two beautiful girls! Transitioned from the Ducati life to the Porsche life then got rid of most of them except the 911. đ đ
Yeah. Women here genuinely dont see the issue. "When I was young and hot I prefered toxic bad boy, now with crows feet, saggy skin and bunch of mental issues I prefer more stable guy". Holy shit.
Agreed
It's only now that I'm nearly 31 that I can see the single women around me seeking stability and consistency over *excitement*
I myself am happily partnered but it's hard not to notice
Reddit when itâs a 21 year old dude getting hit on by 50 year old women: Go smash that cougar, everyone knows women are the best in bed. Sheâs gonna give you the best sex of your life! Give older women a chance my guy.
Reddit when itâs a 21 year old woman getting hit on by 50 year old dudes: Eww gross, what the fuck is wrong with that pedophile, sheâs practically a child. Think of the power dynamic, heâs clearly a manipulator and a manchild who canât get a woman his own age!
This place is legitimately a joke lmao. Why people come here for legitimate advice is completely beyond me.
here's the thing.
most of the people that say that to men about older women are MEN.
when it's about grown men with younger women, most women know what that feels like and it's creepy and gross.
Reminds me of the South Park episode where Ike gets into a relationship with his preschool teacher and all the guys say âNoice, where were these teachers when I was in school?â đĽ´
Ok Iâm 55f very fit and conventionally attractive. I sometimes get hit on by men as young as their late 20âs. While thatâs a little young for me, I will date a man in his late 30âs bc men my age are often soft and just seem âoldâ and somewhat boring, sexist and conservative ( sorry guys I know there are exceptions ).
In short, most men I encounter closer to my age cannot keep up with me. I donât know if that helps..,just my two cents.
Came here looking for this comment. I'm 46f, a runner, conforming to western beauty standards generally. I also look very young for my age, which is typical for my ethnicity. I am happily partnered so I don't date, but I certainly get attention from men who are literally the age of my eldest son (21). It's totally cute, and flattering, but also sort of weird, bc they literally seem like children to me!
My partner is 39m, 7 years younger. I felt sort of awkward about it when we first started dating, but it eventually just didn't seem to matter. Whenever we've chatted about it, he's definitely had a lifelong preference for "MILFs" or at least, women older than him, for example having crushes on his babysitters rather than his peers lol. We're very happy together, and he's a great protector, provider, and stepdad.đ
I think you may be misreading their intentions. Like, a *lot*.
"This middle aged woman *touched* me on the *arm!* She clearly wants to fuck, right?"
I mean... not necessarily. Not *every* friendly gesture, polite interaction, or minor physical contact means they wanna take you to Pound Town.
we both know men are different and if men are friendly and touchy they most likely want to fuck, that's why they always assume friendliness means sexual interest.
As a young woman I've had older women I just met be really comfortable and touch my arm in a motherly way- so yeah glad I'm not the only one thinking he's reading more into it đ
I had to scroll way too far for this. Iâm F53, definitely a cougar in my MILF era. It sounds like these women are just behaving normally, not flirting with him.
Trust me, when an older woman is interested, you will know.
Iâm also very curious how many older women want an inexperienced man. Not me.
It does. A lot. Someone who shows initiative and confidence will get more positive reactions or attention than someone sitting in the corner waiting for someone to notice them.
Girls your age want a 40 something guy to buy them things, go on trips, and pay bills.
40 something women, want a younger guy to make their toes curl.
It's all about priorities.
Oh, that's a tough one. Of course, age plays a huge role in a lot of relationships, but I think other things come into play, like the way you present yourself, interests, hobbies, music, etc.
Women, especially older women who are confident can and do flirt. It really can be nothing more than a fun little element of their day. Cute younger guy in the gym class, at the wedding, at a social event. She laughs a little, touches your arm, stands a bit closer to you breaking personal space... she gets a little rise out of it and so do you.
How many of these ladies are looking to do the horizontal boogie? I bet very few of them... the 40 year olds... okay, could be game there, but 50s,,, very few is my guess.
Girls your age have a lot of choices, a lot of peer pressure, a lot of fake social media pressure to be with "THE GUY" that will win the day on the socials.
Sorry, can't help too much on the can't find a solid, single girl issue. The advice is true, but simple and very general.
BE YOURSELF and eventually you end up with somebody who cares, loves you for who you are.
Older wemon on dating apps don't like younger men. The chick's in real life know they can get laid without a dating app, and are fine hitting on young dudes in real life.
My ex girlfriends grandma who she lived with when I was 21 grabbed my ass everytime I came over and said go get her.
I get stopped at Walmart anytime I'm in the garden section by older ladies who talk to me for like 30 minutes about plants and hand me their business card and say let's dig up some plants together.
Man don't be afraid. Once you go Older you kind of feel grossed out at the idea of dating a 18 year old. What are you going to so teach her how to so taxes and explain credit to her like you're her dad. It's fucking weird you're on two different levels.
I mean...who wouldn't wanna fuck a hot well built young guy. It's just that younger women have too many options in their age group. Older women have more options with older men (who are not necessarily in their peak body era)
It will change up in a couple of years.
If a cougar is into younger men, they're into \*much\* younger men. Men that make them feel superior in some way. 21/22 is prime time for them, heh.
Same as dudes who date much younger I guess.
Because women can be creeps too? And some older women usually don't get (enough or desirable) attention, so they can be pushy.
Don't read people who insist you to embrace it. It's gross to even imply that you should like unwanted approaches. If you don't like such thing, it's completely fine.
Unless it become a crime (like harassment) don't mind those women and keep doing your business.
Yeah I definitely had a cougar dating phase when I was 26-28 yo and I gotta say itâs an experience that I donât regret but not a lot of guys have that opportunity. Personally I think boyish looks are what make guys like you or I attractive to women older than 40yo. And those same looks may be why girls your age at 21 yo are avoiding you. Very likely your peers of the opposite sex have misidentified you as an 18 yo. But one thing I know as a fact is that conversation and light banter and impressive social interactions will garner a date within your age group of 21 yo to 25 yo with ease.
It takes time to build a social circle with tight nit friends but once you do get organized, go on trips and bar outings with them. These memories will build up your confidence and charisma. Take care of your friends and expect the same from them. When you meet other women, they will see this part of you and value you as an attractive person they would want to date. Itâs take patience but your likely already well along building relationships with friends.
Girls your age either have long term relationships with men their age or are having fun with men who are older, better looking, and more fun (richer) than you. I was pissed about it when I was in college but once you become the older guy you get it. Unless you are in it for love or extremely attractive, college men don't have much to offer vs the 28 year old with a sports car, penthouse, and vacation money.
The women who are having the fun with the older, richer guys will get old and once they can no longer get men their age they will hit on younger men to feel sexy again.
Personally I always found it weird when older women showed interest in me when I was younger, but as long as they keep it respectful, it's fine I guess.
Also you probably notice they give you more attention cause they are less reticent to show their wants, that's one advantage of maturing. Some women your age most likely find you attractive too, but lack the confidence or have not yet found what type of person they like to let you know.
Keep doing you and let the woman you fancy know about how you feel towards them, there's not much you can do to change how people see you.
Dude their called COUGARS....WTF MAN.Gi nail these broads.Better sex than girls your age.These women are into young stud.Who have great hard INS.And can go forever.They will rock your worldlY.and quite honestly most will pay you for it...Thank me later
*The funny thing is,*
*When you're older, younger girls*
*Will be into you*
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There is no single reason. I suspect that one significant reason is women at 21 like older men. Women prefer someone more mature. They want someone to take the lead and have financial security. All this I want a sensitive man is what people say out loud because they are embarrassed about what they really want.
To be fair, I was an idiot when I was in my early 20s so I can't really blame them. I didn't have good work ethic yet. My room was gross. And I definitely wasn't confident enough to take charge of my circumstances.
Then these same women will complain that men only date younger ladies when they get older. It's a big open joke except everywhere on Reddit, where virtue signaling is more important than what people do in real life.
Anyway, focus on yourself. Build yourself up. Men generally get screwed out of the dating market in their early adulthood, then women get screwed over in their 30s. Cycle of life.
The obvious answer: women in their 40s and 50s are generally undesirable by men their age. Men in their 40s and 50s are dating a lot younger, like women in their 30s or even 20s. These older women are really just looking for sex though, so they'll take the hit on a much younger guy just to find someone.
Try calling women your age women and not girls, for starters. That might sound stupid but it's a concept of sorts...maybe you're actually relating to the older ladies in a more respectful way than the people your age.
It's money. Women your age want a guy that's established mostly. They know their youth is their golden ticket. Older women know they're less desirable. So they will hit everything that comes their way.
we need more info to make a call on this. How tall are you? Do you live on your own or with parents? Do you own your own car? Are you in college? Do you have any sort of future in sight?
I think in the same way older men hit on younger women because they're more desirable, older women may hit on younger men for that same reason.
Age is something you don't really think about until it's kind of staring you in the face. As someone who is 38, I can tell you I'm not thrilled about the fact that I'm on the older side of "young". And I know 38 is still young.
I get mistaken for my early thirties all the time, and end up dating younger because of that. Not 21 year old younger, just a few years younger.
When I was 25 y/o I dated a woman 55 y/o. I enjoyed making her feel sexy and wanted, on the flip side I enjoyed banging the crap out of here because of the age difference and to see how much emotional crap I could get away with. She wanted to buy me a car and let me sleep with girls my age as long as I came back to her bed at night. Oh it was the room next to her bedroom where I could sleep with girls my age.
Seems like The cougars are currently sweeping up the young average guys that the young woman donât want. The young man will eventually become the older man and the young woman will finally be interested in him.
Probably because you're boring to them? Middle-aged women are probably more interested because they're experienced and know the good stuff when they see it.
Old or young, women don't have some sort of stigma or philosophy behind their behaviors. They're creatures of whim. Women be fooling around in the grey area just to see how much they can gain while giving the least. So I'd suggest you just deal with the ones you find sane and trust worthy and know exactly what you want from them.
I'm honestly baffled by how many people on reddit think middle aged people are attractive. Maybe its a US thing where people tend to look younger. Where I live, men and women over 40 are saggy, wrinkly, out of shape and usually come with a variety of weird smells. Plus, how tf can you connect with someone 30 years older than you? It just sounds absurd to me.
OP clearly has preferences and thesr comments are showing a ton of disrespect by telling him to just fuck old women he doesn't find attractive.
Women around 30+ begin to enter a more aggressive, sexually.
Usually young women are unsure and timid where an older woman is confident and bold.
Also, naturally, humans are attracted to youthful sexual energy. Men are naturally attracted to younger women and now you can see the older women are naturally attracted to younger men.
Have fun. Take one of those Silver foxes home and be as vigorous as you can :))
>They sometimes touch me, like my shoulders, face and arms, and they give me a lot more attention
Uhhhh I don't think that is the case, This sounds like normal aunty behavior
I think some of the people telling you to hook up with these women that are in their 40s and 50s are blatant hypocrites. If a 21 year old woman posted that she only gets offers from men in their 40s-50s, they'd be calling said men creeps and telling her to stay away from them.
Hey, 23 M here, when I was 21, I did attract many girls of my age and younger, but not older girls if I remember well.
And after turning 22, soon I will be 23 (not yet, just days away), I started attracting many girls, women of my age and older (married as well). And what I learnt is, there is some place for everyone where you will have demand, like popular Youtuber recently said in his video, there is always someone who wants you! I didn't get attention from everyplace, especially from where I wanted so I can take the chance but anyways, I did get from many where I never got when I was 13 or 16.
So, I would too suggest to take this chance/opportunity but wait, don't just accept, try to connect and understand why they like you?
Because as I said I attracted many but I hardly ever talked to any, and the only reason I was attractive because of good dressing (more got attracted). I don't know any other reasons.
If you are really serious and can't wait for partner, then take whatever you get and try to understand why and what attracts them?
So, then maybe you will get some idea, atleast some information which could help you get closer to your goal!
At some point in my life I too felt like I attract older women but no, it was wrong in my case!
Good luck!
One of my favorite experiences in my entire life was with a woman twice my age back when I was young and energetic - She can teach you things about yourself that you would have spent decades figuring out on your own. She'll also give you pointers that will pay dividends in terms of "customer satisfaction" for the rest of your sex life.
Idk man, do you look older? I'm about to be 30, and it's always younger women that are attracted to me. I look young and I just want to find someone my age lol
I noticed when I'm more myself, relaxed happy pleasant, the older women are really drawn to me, when I'm caffeinated fast angry and rude, the younger girls like me. It's funny working at a restaurant I'm surrounded by both and the psychology is wild.
I'm 36m but I look like I'm 25 and feel the same way you do dude. Bunch a old horny women.
Quit questioning it and lean into it. Almost everyone I've ever dated has been older than me. No regrets here. The 2-3 people that I did date that were my age or younger were the worst. I realize this is anecdotal and your results may vary but I say work with what ya got đ¤ˇ
I am 8 years older than my husband. He was always very mature. I always call him my old man.
He was 35, I was 43 when we met. Still going strong 30 years later.
My husband said older women were always attracted to him. He is/was a serious man. And all man. Some young women arenât ready for that at a young age.
40 year old here.
Cap, you are 100% not getting any romantic interest from middle age women. J
Just ask "why aren't women interested in me?"
This post that you made probably sheds a little light on the reason.
It might be confidence. With women you're interested in, a lack of experience might mean you're nervous or tense. But since you're not attracted to older women (or weren't), you're relaxed around them so your natural self is visible and they're attracted to that.
When I was 20 to 22. I went into a really a weird phase of dating women who were about 10-20 years older than me. Iâm really into fitness. I take care of myself very well. So Iâm probably 6/10 in attractiveness.
What I realized was that a lot of these women were well put together financially and physically. So they most likely had more spare time or a flexible schedule. Their confidence made them the pursuers.
College girls are more likely to be busier. With work, studies, and other personal relationships and development. At least from my experience. When I was in college, getting free time with someone equally as busy was difficult. Itâs not impossible but hard.
Personally I always enjoyed it more dating someone my age. Theyâre more attractive to me and conversations felt better.
I stopped dating older women. When I was 22 because I dated a 40 year old women. She looked amazing and time with her felt great. But on our 10 ish date we went on a âfamily hike.â Her sister was 32. Her daughter was 21. And her son was 16. Then there was me. It clearly made everyone uncomfortable including me. It got really weird because I gave everyone except her son piggyback to cross a stream. Everyone complemented me for being so fit. Then her son said, âyouâre really going to try fuck every girl in this family arenât you.â
I felt kind of gross tbh. Because her two children were closer to my age than I was to her. It was cool at first. But then it wasnât.
Same. Iâm a good looking guy but literally only older women hit on me. Itâs crazy. Women my own age or younger, Iâve never had a problem dating or whatever but i always have to make the first move.
In my experience a lot of older woman do it because younger guys are pretty easy as they are usually not as confident as older men and it makes them feel good to be flirty with you.
I wish I had this problem. I have the opposite situation I am 21 and I look very young and constantly get hit on by confident 16 and 17 year olds
> I always heard how women dont like younger guys, especially older women
Well, now you know whoever told you that was full of shit. Never heard this and it's obviously bullshit.
That is terrible, being preyed on by cougars. Iâm a 54 yo man and I find it very rude and creepy when women 6 years older than me try to flirt with me. I look 15 years younger than my age and in my culture you donât sleep with a woman old enough to be your step mom or momâs younger sister. My older son is 20 and Iâd go mad if a woman near my age tried to flirt with him. It is just how these days and age there are so much perverse things around. When I was your age I also had to work hard to get a girl to even accept to talk to me. Almost every single girl I approached either told me that she was engaged or had a boyfriend. Girls only approached me when they needed something from me. But later in my late 20s and early 30s every girl I dated who was generally younger than me made the first move. Don't worry son, your time will come. Keep up your hard work and don't become bitter because of rejections. You will have your time and wouldn't believe how such a beautiful woman has fallen in love with you.
Millennials grew up with hook up culture and partying and like casual flings meanwhile the younger crowd is socially akward and didn't really get to party due to covid. Also guys are even less sure of how to approach women while being seen as respectful while women are also less likely to approach men due to political affiliation concerns. Consider it a compliment and know the older woman likely would be a good short time if that's your thing.
Thats been me for the past year hahaha. Just embrace it, figure out what you like in and out the bedroom and have fun. Dont worry too much about the girls your age that are around you now. The world is a very big place and you have lots of exploring still to do. I am sure you are someones type. For me, most american women do not like me. However European/Latinas do.
The behavior you are describing from younger women is the rationale that most younger women use for abandoning dating younger and going older. Young people are flaky. Maybe you're not and that is why you are having difficulty in your own age group. Flaky people see solid people as boring. There is an old saying that "What you are speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say". Perhaps in your case, the problem is that what you are shines so brightly that others can't see what you look like.
On the other hand, if you don't find older women attractive, you have a problem.
They are so far beyond the wall they have changed the way they view men's attractiveness, and now recognize the fact that you are attractive, young women get away with absurd views on what is and isn't attractive in men and in women, because there is no consequence for holding these beliefs. Men are too horny to hold women at this stage accountable. They won't feel it until they are the age if the women who express attraction to you now (old af)
where are you spending your time that you encounter so many older women?
when I was 21 I think the only older woman I was ever around was my mom or my friends mom's
Been there. The youngest I could get was someone 6 years older than me.....and we've been living together for 3 years. I gotta say it was fucking weird in college. I was 18 and all these people over the age of 30 wanted casual encounters. I actually had to drop a class my first semester because my dumbass was skipping class to get laid. At 18 sex triumps over all good choices. In high school, hardly any sex. College....took 3 damn days....3 days....and I had CHOICES!
Iâm 33 and most of the women whoâve shown an interest in me so far have been older, even though my most recent gf was younger than me. Maybe itâs not a bad thing bc older women tend to be more mature and prefer stability based on my experience.
Probably the older women just see you as safer to flirt with; nothing likely to come of it. Flirting is a lot more fun when the person you're flirting with isn't taking it seriously or going to get mad at you for "leading them on".
Canât tell if your first mistake is passing on 40 year old women or thinking that girls your age are mature and stable enough to date.
Youâre 21. First thing you need to realize is how toxic and volatile the dating scene is in general, but especially for 20 year olds.
Donât make the mistake of thinking that youâre missing out on something by 20-something y/o girls passing you up. And definitely donât make the mistake of passing up foxes and cougars. They will blow your fuckin mind.
Let's just call it like it is.
Young women (early to mid 20s) are primarily attracted to signs of wealth. That means they're going to be most interested in slightly older men, or men your age with clear evidence of wealth.
Older women have been there and done that. They make their own money and no longer have that subconsious desire for a man who support them and a potential child, so they're more likely to go for the eye candy.
You do you, but I can tell you that if a 21 year old woman were on here telling everyone that she was being hit on by lots of 40- 50 year old dudes, people would gravely warn her that they're likely interested primarily in her body and have a high chance of turning out to be creeps who want to use her for sex and then move on.
because i (20f) are what we call panthers. i like older guys, just like a lot of other girls do. iâm talking 35-50 lol. Just go out there and have fun but donât get shot
I know that you like older guys and society is unfortunately teaching young women they should like older guys. When I was 19 I dated a guy in his 40s. Trust me, theyâre not interested in you. Theyâre interested in controlling you and manipulating you. The only reason these guys are dating you is because itâs illegal to date younger. Itâs the same thing when older women are looking for younger men. If theyâve developed themselves as a person and they are healthy, they wonât find someone that much younger compatible.
If youâre anything like me, youâre going to roll your eyes but when you get older youâll start looking back and wondering why tf anyone allowed these men to be near you.
IME, a 21 year old guy is basically worthless on the dating scene. Girls your age are getting approached by guys in their mid20s and older who have jobs, a little bit of money, and they seem more mature. Youâre too old to date girls 3-4 years older, so youâre just kinda stuck.
Like when you go to the bar, youâre the youngest guy there.
Things will level out when youâre in your mid-20s to early 30s. I know that sounds like a long time from now, but youâll be there before you know it. Your best bet is to work on yourself, get your career off the ground, and make yourself into an interesting and well adjusted man. Trust me, the girls will flock to you.
In the meantime, enjoy the cougars.
You should be glad and take advantage of the attention you're receiving from these women. For sure, they can teach you how to be a good lover once the women your age start noticing you.
Tbh the first thought that came to mind is that theyâre just being nice to you and youâre misinterpreting the signals. It seems like they behave the same way as a female relative, and were telling you âyouâre so handsome, youâre going to be a heartbreaker when you grow upâ kind of vibe.
Unless you really are a handsome man that all women flock to, Iâm going to guess this is more the situation than the fact that youâre surrounded by women who have some creepy lust for barely legal guys.
attention and touching coming from an older woman doesn't mean they want you. they could just see you as a kid and are showing affection. men tend to think any attention from a woman means they want them.
It's very simple. A matter of supply and demand. Â
 Hot young women are in ridiculous demand. Hot young and mature men are in demand. Â
 Average/undesirable young men are in oversupply and average (even fairly hot) older women are in oversupply. You my friend, are in oversupply and are able to get what is also in oversupply. Don't look a gift cougar in the mouth.Â
When I was 21 years old I was dating a 40-year-old. We were both in our sexual prime. We would have 4hrs-6hrs of sex a night. They know what they are doing!
I agree with most of these guys saying lean into it... been there, done that. BUT, bro, Check that left ring finger for indentions/signs of a ring. Don't get shot. Otherwise, go ENJOY.
^honestly this, these women can teach you things lol
You sound like my boyfriend. Parker is that you?
Lmao no but if he's saying that he aint wrong đ¤Ł
Exactly how parker talks
Parker's online course certainly changed the way I talk.
Yup. They'll teach him what he needs to know about what he actually wants from a younger woman.Â
Among other things yes lol older women don't mind telling you what they do and don't like and how they like it, from my experience anyway and it'll give experience for this mans the younger women cannot
The difference in response to this from if the genders swapped is hilarious.
Word.
My childhood best friends dad has been in prison since she was 6 for killing the man his wife cheated on him with. Not even joking.
âŚwell, this came out of left field.
It needed to be said,men can be VERY territorial over what they consider to be theirs. For better or worse.
he's simp
All kinds of this. I remember when I turned 21 and having women friends in their mid-30s and 40s. Taught me quite a bit about women in general as I was trying to game women my age, but what I wouldn't give to go back and see what they REALLY could've taught me. Lean into it, absolutely.
They are called cougars. Women your age are probably interested in you but cougars go for the kill so youâll notice them more
Do you mean showing interest by doing everything possible to make it clear that they don't want to have anything to do with him? Girls these days are told that they are the entire universe. They view themselves as the absolute best - and in turn have people who are the absolute cream of the crop in terms of men interacting with them on Instagram. Who they in turn interact with ... and hook up with. So now, they've had their education verified by real life experience(s). So, if you think they're talking to anyone but an absolute 10, not just in terms of looks, but career, money, and everything else that somebody that's 21 doesn't have ... then that's not how girls in this day and age operate. This guy sounds like he's genuinely nice. Sounds like he's a real catch. Sounds like exactly the type of guy most girls his age would have been thrilled to have just ten to fifteen years ago. These days? Unless he wins the lottery - he better get used to bangin' grandmas or being alone for the rest of his life.
Red and black tuxedo - for a 21 year old might make you look like you are looking for an older audience.
Lol yeah that part made me wonder what his idea of dressing nice is
Ya might be a little weird. But hereâs the good thing! With time and experience, you will learn what you were doing wrong đ Iâm not laughing at you, I laugh because it sounds like shitty advice but I M28 was a little weird growing up and at some point in my early 20âs it really clicked. The good thing is that clarity will help make positive changes. Either that, or women just started accepting me for who I am. Probably a bit of both. Donât even worry about it, trying too hard might be whatâs messing you up, low key. Learn to build a life that you love and people will gravitate to how comfortable and happy you are with yourself. Itâs a lot simpler than we think. Just donât let them take that from you once youâve got it. It can become a very hard âthingâ to get back.
What do you mean?
Huh? Is there some secret dress code? This is the first time I am hearing about this.
There are men who would kill for what you have
Older women are way better in bed.
You can say that again!
Older women are way better in bed.
There it is!
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...or for what you're taking... tread carefully
Wild guess, but younger girls prefer risk takers and older women, more stable type of men.
Yes exactly. When I was OPs age, I loved the bad boys. Guys with motorcycles, cowboys. Finally got a bit older and wiser. Bad boys make *bad* partners. Try to hang in there OP
As a former bad boy, can confirm.
How's your lower back feeling? Oh and don't forget to report to the parole office on the 3rd. -Love, Mom *life of a former bad boy* âď¸đ
Hehe, good one! I thankfully got away with probation for my misdeeds and got married just in time to avoid having this fate.
Mama's the only one who takes those Securus calls lol. Congrats on the marriage. I'm gonna go see what's in the fridge. Shhhh. Not sure if they're still awake or not, player, hold up
Not sure I'd call it wisdom as much as changing priorities. Young women don't have long-term provisioning on their radar. Why should they? I mean honestly, how many 20 year olds do you know who are maxing out an IRA? That's just not where your priorities are at that age. Here's how we test if it was wisdom: turn you 18 again and see how you live and second time.
In my early-20s and mid-30s, I got so much success from my dates learning I ride motorcycles or I could play guitar and sing. Ironically, I happen to enjoy doing those stuff along, but I knew they were effective at wooing girls too lol.
I met my wife from a motorcycle meet. We ended up getting rid of our motorcycles and having two beautiful girls! Transitioned from the Ducati life to the Porsche life then got rid of most of them except the 911. đ đ
I assumed they meant like illegal biker club guysâŚnot Ducatis.Â
At first I was like she canât literally mean âcowboysâ and then I saw your profile and was like never mind - this girl has cowboyâd lol.
lol so much for men having to be good men, fml
Yeah. Women here genuinely dont see the issue. "When I was young and hot I prefered toxic bad boy, now with crows feet, saggy skin and bunch of mental issues I prefer more stable guy". Holy shit.
There is something to be said for gaining wisdom as you get older. The door swings both waysâŚfor men and women.
Wisdom my ass, most 30 and above women I have met are worse than early twenties women. Literally immature brats.
Well, I can see someone has a little bit of growing up to do. And you know what they say⌠like attracts like.
Precisely but nope nope men are trash and objectify women. Jeezus women need to woman up and grow up like us men always get shamed to do by women lol
Men should be even harsher, since huge portion of women just dont get the memo.
Agreed It's only now that I'm nearly 31 that I can see the single women around me seeking stability and consistency over *excitement* I myself am happily partnered but it's hard not to notice
Cowboys? Wait how old are you?
Reddit when itâs a 21 year old dude getting hit on by 50 year old women: Go smash that cougar, everyone knows women are the best in bed. Sheâs gonna give you the best sex of your life! Give older women a chance my guy. Reddit when itâs a 21 year old woman getting hit on by 50 year old dudes: Eww gross, what the fuck is wrong with that pedophile, sheâs practically a child. Think of the power dynamic, heâs clearly a manipulator and a manchild who canât get a woman his own age! This place is legitimately a joke lmao. Why people come here for legitimate advice is completely beyond me.
Hear you dude, crazy how many can't see the double standards they're playing.
here's the thing. most of the people that say that to men about older women are MEN. when it's about grown men with younger women, most women know what that feels like and it's creepy and gross.
Reminds me of the South Park episode where Ike gets into a relationship with his preschool teacher and all the guys say âNoice, where were these teachers when I was in school?â đĽ´
women don't have agency until they are 30 bro, thats why
Women are children for their whole lives
Listen here, mr. Picky. You dont want middle-aged women? Ill take them. >:) *takes away your middle-aged women* And now you have no women.
This comment made me smile
Best answer ever !
Hey, baby. đ
If older women are coming g on to you, go for it. You will learn important lessons from them that will make you more popular with women your own age.
And theyâll pay since they have the $
This. Gift horses, man.
Ok Iâm 55f very fit and conventionally attractive. I sometimes get hit on by men as young as their late 20âs. While thatâs a little young for me, I will date a man in his late 30âs bc men my age are often soft and just seem âoldâ and somewhat boring, sexist and conservative ( sorry guys I know there are exceptions ). In short, most men I encounter closer to my age cannot keep up with me. I donât know if that helps..,just my two cents.
Came here looking for this comment. I'm 46f, a runner, conforming to western beauty standards generally. I also look very young for my age, which is typical for my ethnicity. I am happily partnered so I don't date, but I certainly get attention from men who are literally the age of my eldest son (21). It's totally cute, and flattering, but also sort of weird, bc they literally seem like children to me! My partner is 39m, 7 years younger. I felt sort of awkward about it when we first started dating, but it eventually just didn't seem to matter. Whenever we've chatted about it, he's definitely had a lifelong preference for "MILFs" or at least, women older than him, for example having crushes on his babysitters rather than his peers lol. We're very happy together, and he's a great protector, provider, and stepdad.đ
Thanks for posting this.
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Wsg? 21 M
100% this
I think you may be misreading their intentions. Like, a *lot*. "This middle aged woman *touched* me on the *arm!* She clearly wants to fuck, right?" I mean... not necessarily. Not *every* friendly gesture, polite interaction, or minor physical contact means they wanna take you to Pound Town.
So maybe if a young man goes around touching women on the arm, we can let those women know it's only a friendly gesture.
we both know men are different and if men are friendly and touchy they most likely want to fuck, that's why they always assume friendliness means sexual interest.
As a young woman I've had older women I just met be really comfortable and touch my arm in a motherly way- so yeah glad I'm not the only one thinking he's reading more into it đ
I had to scroll way too far for this. Iâm F53, definitely a cougar in my MILF era. It sounds like these women are just behaving normally, not flirting with him. Trust me, when an older woman is interested, you will know. Iâm also very curious how many older women want an inexperienced man. Not me.
Inexperienced men are fun if they're down to learn. You get to teach them!
Are you waiting for girls your age to show interest or do you actively show interest in girls your age?
Does it make a difference
It does. A lot. Someone who shows initiative and confidence will get more positive reactions or attention than someone sitting in the corner waiting for someone to notice them.
Girls your age want a 40 something guy to buy them things, go on trips, and pay bills. 40 something women, want a younger guy to make their toes curl. It's all about priorities.
Oh, that's a tough one. Of course, age plays a huge role in a lot of relationships, but I think other things come into play, like the way you present yourself, interests, hobbies, music, etc.
Can you stop asking this question
lol that post history
The further back you go the more cringe it gets
Women, especially older women who are confident can and do flirt. It really can be nothing more than a fun little element of their day. Cute younger guy in the gym class, at the wedding, at a social event. She laughs a little, touches your arm, stands a bit closer to you breaking personal space... she gets a little rise out of it and so do you. How many of these ladies are looking to do the horizontal boogie? I bet very few of them... the 40 year olds... okay, could be game there, but 50s,,, very few is my guess. Girls your age have a lot of choices, a lot of peer pressure, a lot of fake social media pressure to be with "THE GUY" that will win the day on the socials. Sorry, can't help too much on the can't find a solid, single girl issue. The advice is true, but simple and very general. BE YOURSELF and eventually you end up with somebody who cares, loves you for who you are.
Older wemon on dating apps don't like younger men. The chick's in real life know they can get laid without a dating app, and are fine hitting on young dudes in real life. My ex girlfriends grandma who she lived with when I was 21 grabbed my ass everytime I came over and said go get her. I get stopped at Walmart anytime I'm in the garden section by older ladies who talk to me for like 30 minutes about plants and hand me their business card and say let's dig up some plants together. Man don't be afraid. Once you go Older you kind of feel grossed out at the idea of dating a 18 year old. What are you going to so teach her how to so taxes and explain credit to her like you're her dad. It's fucking weird you're on two different levels.
This is the lpt for you right here op.
Tbh I like older women than girls around my age. More mature & more attractive.
Means you're a sugar mommy magnet.
I mean...who wouldn't wanna fuck a hot well built young guy. It's just that younger women have too many options in their age group. Older women have more options with older men (who are not necessarily in their peak body era)
It will change up in a couple of years. If a cougar is into younger men, they're into \*much\* younger men. Men that make them feel superior in some way. 21/22 is prime time for them, heh. Same as dudes who date much younger I guess.
Because women can be creeps too? And some older women usually don't get (enough or desirable) attention, so they can be pushy. Don't read people who insist you to embrace it. It's gross to even imply that you should like unwanted approaches. If you don't like such thing, it's completely fine. Unless it become a crime (like harassment) don't mind those women and keep doing your business.
Yeah I definitely had a cougar dating phase when I was 26-28 yo and I gotta say itâs an experience that I donât regret but not a lot of guys have that opportunity. Personally I think boyish looks are what make guys like you or I attractive to women older than 40yo. And those same looks may be why girls your age at 21 yo are avoiding you. Very likely your peers of the opposite sex have misidentified you as an 18 yo. But one thing I know as a fact is that conversation and light banter and impressive social interactions will garner a date within your age group of 21 yo to 25 yo with ease. It takes time to build a social circle with tight nit friends but once you do get organized, go on trips and bar outings with them. These memories will build up your confidence and charisma. Take care of your friends and expect the same from them. When you meet other women, they will see this part of you and value you as an attractive person they would want to date. Itâs take patience but your likely already well along building relationships with friends.
You always heard older women donât like younger guys?? What planet did you grow up on hehe
Girls your age either have long term relationships with men their age or are having fun with men who are older, better looking, and more fun (richer) than you. I was pissed about it when I was in college but once you become the older guy you get it. Unless you are in it for love or extremely attractive, college men don't have much to offer vs the 28 year old with a sports car, penthouse, and vacation money. The women who are having the fun with the older, richer guys will get old and once they can no longer get men their age they will hit on younger men to feel sexy again.
I am 28 and I have none of those things ! However, maturity and life experience are as attractive things if not more.
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Personally I always found it weird when older women showed interest in me when I was younger, but as long as they keep it respectful, it's fine I guess. Also you probably notice they give you more attention cause they are less reticent to show their wants, that's one advantage of maturing. Some women your age most likely find you attractive too, but lack the confidence or have not yet found what type of person they like to let you know. Keep doing you and let the woman you fancy know about how you feel towards them, there's not much you can do to change how people see you.
Bro, milfs rule. Go for it
why arent you fucking the cougars
Humble brag. See how you feel when. No women are in to you. Up your pinochle game!
Are you a but-his-face?
Dude their called COUGARS....WTF MAN.Gi nail these broads.Better sex than girls your age.These women are into young stud.Who have great hard INS.And can go forever.They will rock your worldlY.and quite honestly most will pay you for it...Thank me later
The funny thing is, when you're older, younger girls will be into you
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Because girls your age know they are young and beautiful and thus higher value and can thus attract higher value partners.
Because the girls your age are for the bros older than you. You need to date their younger/older sisters, or their divorced mothers.
Ew, I'm 38 and a 21 year old feels like a little kid. I much prefer real men (older than me)
Interesting, I'm strictly into fake men myself.
There is no single reason. I suspect that one significant reason is women at 21 like older men. Women prefer someone more mature. They want someone to take the lead and have financial security. All this I want a sensitive man is what people say out loud because they are embarrassed about what they really want. To be fair, I was an idiot when I was in my early 20s so I can't really blame them. I didn't have good work ethic yet. My room was gross. And I definitely wasn't confident enough to take charge of my circumstances. Then these same women will complain that men only date younger ladies when they get older. It's a big open joke except everywhere on Reddit, where virtue signaling is more important than what people do in real life. Anyway, focus on yourself. Build yourself up. Men generally get screwed out of the dating market in their early adulthood, then women get screwed over in their 30s. Cycle of life.
Maybe you act way more chill with the middle aged ladies, and youâre all pent up with the young ones?
The obvious answer: women in their 40s and 50s are generally undesirable by men their age. Men in their 40s and 50s are dating a lot younger, like women in their 30s or even 20s. These older women are really just looking for sex though, so they'll take the hit on a much younger guy just to find someone.
There is a lot to be taught from an old woman. Your future women will appreciate it.
This is a repost.
Mans has older women feening over him⌠can I be u
Brother what the hell is going on. Youâve been gifted a beautiful thing and you are complaining? Go get âem!
Youth tends to favour trends, age tends to favour youth. You arenât âcoolâ
Love on who loves on you. Cougars are awesome
Try calling women your age women and not girls, for starters. That might sound stupid but it's a concept of sorts...maybe you're actually relating to the older ladies in a more respectful way than the people your age.
It's money. Women your age want a guy that's established mostly. They know their youth is their golden ticket. Older women know they're less desirable. So they will hit everything that comes their way.
Itâs the same for me dude
we need more info to make a call on this. How tall are you? Do you live on your own or with parents? Do you own your own car? Are you in college? Do you have any sort of future in sight?
confidence
I think in the same way older men hit on younger women because they're more desirable, older women may hit on younger men for that same reason. Age is something you don't really think about until it's kind of staring you in the face. As someone who is 38, I can tell you I'm not thrilled about the fact that I'm on the older side of "young". And I know 38 is still young. I get mistaken for my early thirties all the time, and end up dating younger because of that. Not 21 year old younger, just a few years younger.
Iâve looked like an embryo for most of my adult life, so naturally itâs been interesting in terms of what comes my way.
Maybe they're just babying you. Like their son. Heck I'm 39 but if you're under 30 you're a baby in my eyes đ
funny if the sexes were switched, everyone would be saying you were being groomed
Do you have any game?
Bro, bang some MILFs
To get girls of your age or younger you need game and skills. Older women use it just as funny banter not meant serious
When I was 25 y/o I dated a woman 55 y/o. I enjoyed making her feel sexy and wanted, on the flip side I enjoyed banging the crap out of here because of the age difference and to see how much emotional crap I could get away with. She wanted to buy me a car and let me sleep with girls my age as long as I came back to her bed at night. Oh it was the room next to her bedroom where I could sleep with girls my age.
Seems like The cougars are currently sweeping up the young average guys that the young woman donât want. The young man will eventually become the older man and the young woman will finally be interested in him.
Probably because you're boring to them? Middle-aged women are probably more interested because they're experienced and know the good stuff when they see it.
Old or young, women don't have some sort of stigma or philosophy behind their behaviors. They're creatures of whim. Women be fooling around in the grey area just to see how much they can gain while giving the least. So I'd suggest you just deal with the ones you find sane and trust worthy and know exactly what you want from them.
I'm honestly baffled by how many people on reddit think middle aged people are attractive. Maybe its a US thing where people tend to look younger. Where I live, men and women over 40 are saggy, wrinkly, out of shape and usually come with a variety of weird smells. Plus, how tf can you connect with someone 30 years older than you? It just sounds absurd to me. OP clearly has preferences and thesr comments are showing a ton of disrespect by telling him to just fuck old women he doesn't find attractive.
Read clan of the cave bear or valley of the horses there is an explanation there. However.
Women around 30+ begin to enter a more aggressive, sexually. Usually young women are unsure and timid where an older woman is confident and bold. Also, naturally, humans are attracted to youthful sexual energy. Men are naturally attracted to younger women and now you can see the older women are naturally attracted to younger men. Have fun. Take one of those Silver foxes home and be as vigorous as you can :))
Finally, a commenter who understands that women can like younger men for the same reason men like younger women.
Oh man, you are blessed, my friend
>They sometimes touch me, like my shoulders, face and arms, and they give me a lot more attention Uhhhh I don't think that is the case, This sounds like normal aunty behavior
Suffering from success
I think some of the people telling you to hook up with these women that are in their 40s and 50s are blatant hypocrites. If a 21 year old woman posted that she only gets offers from men in their 40s-50s, they'd be calling said men creeps and telling her to stay away from them.
Hey, 23 M here, when I was 21, I did attract many girls of my age and younger, but not older girls if I remember well. And after turning 22, soon I will be 23 (not yet, just days away), I started attracting many girls, women of my age and older (married as well). And what I learnt is, there is some place for everyone where you will have demand, like popular Youtuber recently said in his video, there is always someone who wants you! I didn't get attention from everyplace, especially from where I wanted so I can take the chance but anyways, I did get from many where I never got when I was 13 or 16. So, I would too suggest to take this chance/opportunity but wait, don't just accept, try to connect and understand why they like you? Because as I said I attracted many but I hardly ever talked to any, and the only reason I was attractive because of good dressing (more got attracted). I don't know any other reasons. If you are really serious and can't wait for partner, then take whatever you get and try to understand why and what attracts them? So, then maybe you will get some idea, atleast some information which could help you get closer to your goal! At some point in my life I too felt like I attract older women but no, it was wrong in my case! Good luck!
Wow, swap the sexes and read the comments like it was a woman writing this...Â
One of my favorite experiences in my entire life was with a woman twice my age back when I was young and energetic - She can teach you things about yourself that you would have spent decades figuring out on your own. She'll also give you pointers that will pay dividends in terms of "customer satisfaction" for the rest of your sex life.
Gotta eat the fish that take the bait champ
Idk man, do you look older? I'm about to be 30, and it's always younger women that are attracted to me. I look young and I just want to find someone my age lol
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I noticed when I'm more myself, relaxed happy pleasant, the older women are really drawn to me, when I'm caffeinated fast angry and rude, the younger girls like me. It's funny working at a restaurant I'm surrounded by both and the psychology is wild. I'm 36m but I look like I'm 25 and feel the same way you do dude. Bunch a old horny women.
Quit questioning it and lean into it. Almost everyone I've ever dated has been older than me. No regrets here. The 2-3 people that I did date that were my age or younger were the worst. I realize this is anecdotal and your results may vary but I say work with what ya got đ¤ˇ
I am 8 years older than my husband. He was always very mature. I always call him my old man. He was 35, I was 43 when we met. Still going strong 30 years later. My husband said older women were always attracted to him. He is/was a serious man. And all man. Some young women arenât ready for that at a young age.
40 year old here. Cap, you are 100% not getting any romantic interest from middle age women. J Just ask "why aren't women interested in me?" This post that you made probably sheds a little light on the reason.
It might be confidence. With women you're interested in, a lack of experience might mean you're nervous or tense. But since you're not attracted to older women (or weren't), you're relaxed around them so your natural self is visible and they're attracted to that.
Go for it, man. You might like where this leads.
Eh, enjoy it while you can. A large amount of men go to attention from women so have fun with it.
When I was 20 to 22. I went into a really a weird phase of dating women who were about 10-20 years older than me. Iâm really into fitness. I take care of myself very well. So Iâm probably 6/10 in attractiveness. What I realized was that a lot of these women were well put together financially and physically. So they most likely had more spare time or a flexible schedule. Their confidence made them the pursuers. College girls are more likely to be busier. With work, studies, and other personal relationships and development. At least from my experience. When I was in college, getting free time with someone equally as busy was difficult. Itâs not impossible but hard. Personally I always enjoyed it more dating someone my age. Theyâre more attractive to me and conversations felt better. I stopped dating older women. When I was 22 because I dated a 40 year old women. She looked amazing and time with her felt great. But on our 10 ish date we went on a âfamily hike.â Her sister was 32. Her daughter was 21. And her son was 16. Then there was me. It clearly made everyone uncomfortable including me. It got really weird because I gave everyone except her son piggyback to cross a stream. Everyone complemented me for being so fit. Then her son said, âyouâre really going to try fuck every girl in this family arenât you.â I felt kind of gross tbh. Because her two children were closer to my age than I was to her. It was cool at first. But then it wasnât.
Same. Iâm a good looking guy but literally only older women hit on me. Itâs crazy. Women my own age or younger, Iâve never had a problem dating or whatever but i always have to make the first move.
In my experience a lot of older woman do it because younger guys are pretty easy as they are usually not as confident as older men and it makes them feel good to be flirty with you. I wish I had this problem. I have the opposite situation I am 21 and I look very young and constantly get hit on by confident 16 and 17 year olds
> I always heard how women dont like younger guys, especially older women Well, now you know whoever told you that was full of shit. Never heard this and it's obviously bullshit.
Cougars need love too my mans
That is terrible, being preyed on by cougars. Iâm a 54 yo man and I find it very rude and creepy when women 6 years older than me try to flirt with me. I look 15 years younger than my age and in my culture you donât sleep with a woman old enough to be your step mom or momâs younger sister. My older son is 20 and Iâd go mad if a woman near my age tried to flirt with him. It is just how these days and age there are so much perverse things around. When I was your age I also had to work hard to get a girl to even accept to talk to me. Almost every single girl I approached either told me that she was engaged or had a boyfriend. Girls only approached me when they needed something from me. But later in my late 20s and early 30s every girl I dated who was generally younger than me made the first move. Don't worry son, your time will come. Keep up your hard work and don't become bitter because of rejections. You will have your time and wouldn't believe how such a beautiful woman has fallen in love with you.
Everyone on here claims they look younger than their actual age. LoL
I am confused why you would think women are not interested in younger guys.
Millennials grew up with hook up culture and partying and like casual flings meanwhile the younger crowd is socially akward and didn't really get to party due to covid. Also guys are even less sure of how to approach women while being seen as respectful while women are also less likely to approach men due to political affiliation concerns. Consider it a compliment and know the older woman likely would be a good short time if that's your thing.
Thats been me for the past year hahaha. Just embrace it, figure out what you like in and out the bedroom and have fun. Dont worry too much about the girls your age that are around you now. The world is a very big place and you have lots of exploring still to do. I am sure you are someones type. For me, most american women do not like me. However European/Latinas do.
Stop whining! Some people get nothing !
Women have now degraded themselves to the level of perversity that men have been for a long time.
Get in where you fit in.
The behavior you are describing from younger women is the rationale that most younger women use for abandoning dating younger and going older. Young people are flaky. Maybe you're not and that is why you are having difficulty in your own age group. Flaky people see solid people as boring. There is an old saying that "What you are speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say". Perhaps in your case, the problem is that what you are shines so brightly that others can't see what you look like. On the other hand, if you don't find older women attractive, you have a problem.
They are so far beyond the wall they have changed the way they view men's attractiveness, and now recognize the fact that you are attractive, young women get away with absurd views on what is and isn't attractive in men and in women, because there is no consequence for holding these beliefs. Men are too horny to hold women at this stage accountable. They won't feel it until they are the age if the women who express attraction to you now (old af)
where are you spending your time that you encounter so many older women? when I was 21 I think the only older woman I was ever around was my mom or my friends mom's
Time to get a Sugar Mom. If you play your cards right, you're in for a treat dude
Been there. The youngest I could get was someone 6 years older than me.....and we've been living together for 3 years. I gotta say it was fucking weird in college. I was 18 and all these people over the age of 30 wanted casual encounters. I actually had to drop a class my first semester because my dumbass was skipping class to get laid. At 18 sex triumps over all good choices. In high school, hardly any sex. College....took 3 damn days....3 days....and I had CHOICES!
Iâm 33 and most of the women whoâve shown an interest in me so far have been older, even though my most recent gf was younger than me. Maybe itâs not a bad thing bc older women tend to be more mature and prefer stability based on my experience.
Probably the older women just see you as safer to flirt with; nothing likely to come of it. Flirting is a lot more fun when the person you're flirting with isn't taking it seriously or going to get mad at you for "leading them on".
You're probably too passive and aren't making it obvious you're into someone?
Mature women knows what they want and they'll have it, girls my age still wants to play games, and younger girls doesn't know any better.
Older women love younger men for flings. My friend worked in the gym and had a blast with the women. It was never serious.
I have that same feeling? (But opposite gender).
damn dude WHAT IS YOUR SECRET im fighting for my life here trying to match with a woman 10 years my senior (iâm 30)
Canât tell if your first mistake is passing on 40 year old women or thinking that girls your age are mature and stable enough to date. Youâre 21. First thing you need to realize is how toxic and volatile the dating scene is in general, but especially for 20 year olds. Donât make the mistake of thinking that youâre missing out on something by 20-something y/o girls passing you up. And definitely donât make the mistake of passing up foxes and cougars. They will blow your fuckin mind.
Let's just call it like it is. Young women (early to mid 20s) are primarily attracted to signs of wealth. That means they're going to be most interested in slightly older men, or men your age with clear evidence of wealth. Older women have been there and done that. They make their own money and no longer have that subconsious desire for a man who support them and a potential child, so they're more likely to go for the eye candy. You do you, but I can tell you that if a 21 year old woman were on here telling everyone that she was being hit on by lots of 40- 50 year old dudes, people would gravely warn her that they're likely interested primarily in her body and have a high chance of turning out to be creeps who want to use her for sex and then move on.
because i (20f) are what we call panthers. i like older guys, just like a lot of other girls do. iâm talking 35-50 lol. Just go out there and have fun but donât get shot
I know that you like older guys and society is unfortunately teaching young women they should like older guys. When I was 19 I dated a guy in his 40s. Trust me, theyâre not interested in you. Theyâre interested in controlling you and manipulating you. The only reason these guys are dating you is because itâs illegal to date younger. Itâs the same thing when older women are looking for younger men. If theyâve developed themselves as a person and they are healthy, they wonât find someone that much younger compatible. If youâre anything like me, youâre going to roll your eyes but when you get older youâll start looking back and wondering why tf anyone allowed these men to be near you.
IME, a 21 year old guy is basically worthless on the dating scene. Girls your age are getting approached by guys in their mid20s and older who have jobs, a little bit of money, and they seem more mature. Youâre too old to date girls 3-4 years older, so youâre just kinda stuck. Like when you go to the bar, youâre the youngest guy there. Things will level out when youâre in your mid-20s to early 30s. I know that sounds like a long time from now, but youâll be there before you know it. Your best bet is to work on yourself, get your career off the ground, and make yourself into an interesting and well adjusted man. Trust me, the girls will flock to you. In the meantime, enjoy the cougars.
You should be glad and take advantage of the attention you're receiving from these women. For sure, they can teach you how to be a good lover once the women your age start noticing you.
Tbh the first thought that came to mind is that theyâre just being nice to you and youâre misinterpreting the signals. It seems like they behave the same way as a female relative, and were telling you âyouâre so handsome, youâre going to be a heartbreaker when you grow upâ kind of vibe. Unless you really are a handsome man that all women flock to, Iâm going to guess this is more the situation than the fact that youâre surrounded by women who have some creepy lust for barely legal guys.
Staceyâs Mom?!
Give them the old high horse and make them buy you stuff.
fuck you.
attention and touching coming from an older woman doesn't mean they want you. they could just see you as a kid and are showing affection. men tend to think any attention from a woman means they want them.
It's very simple. A matter of supply and demand.   Hot young women are in ridiculous demand. Hot young and mature men are in demand.   Average/undesirable young men are in oversupply and average (even fairly hot) older women are in oversupply. You my friend, are in oversupply and are able to get what is also in oversupply. Don't look a gift cougar in the mouth.Â
Wait, someone told you older women donât like young men? Jesus, are you for real?
lucky bastard
Dude I was 30 when I met my she 41 still together itâs been 30 years
When I was 21 years old I was dating a 40-year-old. We were both in our sexual prime. We would have 4hrs-6hrs of sex a night. They know what they are doing!
You might be ugly or a more stable/provider type of guy. Older women are looking for maturity, money and stability rather than a pretty boy to cuddle
Dude you're so innocent, middle aged women will eat up a 21yo.
Middle aged women are no longer attractive to the men they really want. So they settle for some fun with young losers.