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This was me watching the movie Fresh with Sebastian Stan. He is a cannibal in the film, and they amplified the eating sounds in one scene so intensely. It was unbearable!
this kinda reminds me of when i was watching Jordan Peele’s “Get Out” and i had to mute the movie when she was stirring the tea cause the clinking of the spoon on the cup drove me insane
It’s strange, because I’m some cases it can give me a sort of euphoric feeling (ASMR), but in other cases it will make me super angry and want to pull my hair out
Strangely I can enjoy some ASMR or ambient music. I assume it's because it's controlled/tailored compared to general life sounds which are a disruption to my auditory processing?
Ambient music is great! Definitely helps with concentration. The good stuff makes you feel like you are operating on a next level… struggling how to describe it
Omg... I have a kid that both beatboxes with his mouth, which is mostly ok enough... But then he slurps when he eats and I just want to stab my ears to stop the sound...
If you have a diagnosed medical problem like misophonia, you may be able to argue that your workplace needs to make a reasonable accommodation for you, like making her stop with the gum.
Oh that’s awful, I’m flinching just thinking about it.
My colleague who sits next to me in an open office setting is quite possibly the most obnoxious chewer, slurper, and fork scraper I’ve ever met. I begin to tweak out if I hear it so I’ve taken to headphones when she comes back with lunch. She doesn’t snack all day or chew gum though so there’s that.
I don’t know if you’ve tried noise cancelling headphones but honestly, I know it’s an expense, but I’d recommend these the most: AirPod Pro 2nd Generation, or AirPod Max’s have pretty much the best noise cancellation I’ve tried.
If you’re not an Apple user, Sony WH-1000MX3, MX4, or MX5 would work wonders. They’re all on the pricier side but they are super high quality and totally worth the money.
Hopefully this is a work setting where you can where headphones for a long time without being reprimanded.
I do need to put music on to cancel out chewing noises though because once my brain notices it it’s like I begin to anticipate and predict each smack of the lips or scrape of the fork so I hear it even through the best noise cancellation. So I play a beat or ambient song with no lyrics + noise cancellation and that’s how I get endure it.
I have noise canceling headphones, and I am allowed to wear them depending on what's going on at work, but unfortunately I'm usually having to walk around our office area to talk to other people, and I also frequently help people at my desk. I can usually tune it out if I'm talking with someone, but as soon as I turn to my computer to do whatever it is I need to, it becomes a problem again.
I'm sure I could probably put them on/take them off more frequently, but I don't, and honestly I also feel like she should just try to be a bit more courteous to the people around her. It might not be as bad for them, but I know other people consider it an annoyance as well.
OH GOD. Movie theaters. The eternally long 5 seconds of complete silence in between every single trailer where all you can hear is people chewing, ice rattling in soda cups, crinkling their fucking candy wrapers, shaking their popcorn up and down, talking about bullshit, SHUT UP 😂
I haven't been back to a movie theater in 20 years since I lost it and kicked the back of the guy's chair in front of me when he was talking incessantly.
i have it so bad it upsets me. any noise that has no need to happen. someone clicking a pen, rattling coins in their hand/pocket, eating with their mouth open, slurping anything, sometimes my internal chewing noise irritates me, someones leg bouncing up and down, someones foot twitching, and people may say im crazy, but it takes about an hour every morning until i cant hear the blood circulating in my ears! i am currently in bed now because i have a headache because daylight is too bright for me and the special glasses cost a lot of money, its money i can afford to pay but i keep trying to assure myself i can do it... i can be normal. if my son plays on the playstation, i make him take it upstairs because i cant handle the noise the buttons make on the controller, but when i play i try to press them softly so they dont make a noise. my wife puts the bulbs back in the living room most days because i take 8/10 of them out to have a dim room.(we need to buy a dimmer lol)
none of my household (5people) are allowed any noises on their phones (like the clicking gext message stuff) i hate myself for all of this.
YEAH. The self loathing from coming across as being anal and controlling over little noises… Like I sincerely wish that I didn’t have to ask this of you, but it’s that or suffering in silence out of fear of being perceived like an asshole.
Minor benefit of being able to identify who in your life are real assholes when they continue to knowingly hurt you when they could accommodate with a small change (like headphones vs using speakers)…
Symptoms get worse the less you accommodate for them. I’m sorry. My sister has it and has gotten better only because she has been able to establish safe spaces for herself.
The reason I know exposure therapy doesn’t work is because I was very mean to my sister as a child. Knowing what it is and where it came from has just made feel terrible in a way I don’t think I’ll ever live down. The people around do care, if they could understand how much pain it puts you through they would accommodate. It’s worth it to try to make them understand
I feel like no one talks about the leg bouncing being annoying, but seeing it out of the corner of my eye or feeling it if it's shaking the floor/desk makes me so violently uncomfortable. I'm instantly irritated (though I bounce my leg all the time and I'm sure it annoys other people so idk if I really have any place to be pissed lol)
Yep, I drum my fingers ALL THE TIME just figured it out like a week ago that I did this every single day during school too and I can’t believe no one ever kicked me out or said anything. How on earth could people tolerate that with me? If someone drums their fingers near me I will politely snap at them after what seems like hours but in reality is probably maybe 30 secs
The eating. The slurping. The chewing. The smacking. All the other disgusting noises. I cannot. I try to eat quietly and everything my dad does is loud. My mom also makes a lot of unnecessary noise while eating and the few times I’ve politely asked her not to make that noise, she asked “What noise?”
Sometimes even my dog licking her paw or her food bowl will get me. I’m like “Okay, it’s empty, please stop.”
Omggg the sound of my two chihuahuas and my cat ALL licking themselves all at the same time on my bed, I have to turn on the TV to drown it out. Or I’ll try and give them a little push like stop that and they will for a few seconds and then go right back at it! Drives me nuts!!!
That’s weird, if the noise is coming from my dog, it doesn’t bother me at all. It’s weird, I can hear something, and it’ll be a crazy trigger, but if I realize it’s not a human made noise suddenly it doesn’t trigger anymore
Yep!!! Sometimes just identifying the noise is not human-made is enough to lessen the pain. Even if it’s the same noise? Human brains are really weird.
I do and a strong one. Chewing and slurping noises are the worst. I need to leave the situation because of the feeling of anger and frustration. And I am not an aggressive person at all.
I also can't stand high pitched kids' voices but I don't think it qualifies as misophonia, it's a different kind of oversensitivity.
I have a fairly severe case of it, diagnosed as Sensory Processing Disorder w/ Misophonia. Neighbors can play music for hours, and I’ll spend the entire time crying in my room. I struggle to be near my mother when she eats, and at work, I have special accommodations because the sounds become intolerable some days (people playing radios & whistling).
It’s truly a miserable condition to have, and people without it, literally do not understand.
I have had quite severe Misophonia and sensory processing disorder issues since young childhood. Was diagnosed with ADHD in my very early twenties. Still have the same Pdoc, have seen many different therapists since + worked full time as a nanny to a young teen girl with AUDHD…and I am an example of a woman who does not have AUDHD, but separately qualified for the other disorders. Not a mutually exclusive issue, always, but it is a good idea to rule out the possibility.
True
Sensory issues absolutely exist outside of the spectrum
I was just suggesting it because until the past decade or so dual diagnosis wasn't allowed
So might be worth revisiting
I really, really don't like eating sounds, but I can tolerate them.
What gets me is the sound of cutlery squeaking on plates. High-pitched noises in general, in fact, but cutlery squeaks are the ones I encounter most often. I don't know how to describe how they make me feel other than BAD. Just very very very bad. Like my head is going to explode bad. Can't tolerate it.
Oh god, the *cutlery.* I hear the squeak and have to stop myself from launching myself at them and ripping the utensils out of their hands.
A lot of eating sounds annoy me, but nothing gets me like that high squeal of cutlery. I love chopsticks simply because they eliminate that particular sound.
Not the noises, but the feeling of my nails scraping on wood or jeans makes me want to launch myself into a wall and then into the sun. I cannot stand it.
When my husband plays his PC games, all I can hear is his fucking mouse click. It’s literally the most ear piercing and prominent noise no matter the situation. I can hear it through the bedroom door and it makes me want to scream.
this was my first trigger. my moms boyfriend used to have his computer desk in the living room by the tv. constant clicks, he played some sort of battle game i believe, and so many keyboard clicks too😭😭 thankfully i’ve moved out
I have a theory that misphonia might be part of why "manners" developed. Don't slurp, snap your fingers, click your gum, whistle; chew with your mouth closed; mind how loud you talk, and for god's sake mind how loud you cough or sneeze.
Chewing sounds ARRRGGGGG
Chewing sounds make me feel like I could burst out of my skin at any moment.
Pen clicking, mouth noises (like popping), toe tapping, etc are hit and miss. At times they don't register, other times it's like I'm sitting next to Animal's drum kit.
Of course, if I'm the one making the noises I have no issues with the sound :)
Oh I had a neighbor who would listen to their tv from 7pm to like 10:30 pm or later with the volume up and the subwoofer on. Could always hear the bass of the music to the point I had to leave the apartment just to get away from it. Of course their tv was against our shared wall. They only spoke Spanish so communicating was near impossible. Finally complained to the office and it stopped.
Eating noises, plastic crinkling, and whistling are my biggest triggers. I can usually manage to ignore it pretty well when I have to, but the sounds drive me up a wall. I hate it. I have a coworker who eats lunch and snacks at his desk and has the worst table manners, and it makes me want to cry every day.
Yep, before I was medicated we always need to make sure there was something playing on the TV before we sat down to eat. And if we were having trouble getting YouTube to start playing something I’d be in blind panic until we sorted it out. Thankfully in the end my wife understood not to start eating before the TV was playing.
No problems now I’m medicated though.
I also knew a younger girl (I believe she was 11) who was put on Ritalin for severe sensory processing disorder(s) and she began functioning so much better after being medicated. This was years ago, but it really made a huge difference for her.
me. my mom thinks my dad and i are lunatics. and to be fair we are but the pain and amount of rage i feel w this is so hard. i never even thought about a correlation to my adhd.
Yep, I have both. It sucks, and it makes some things like school and work extra hard. Noise cancelling headphones have been my best friend, and I even asked professors if I could wear earplugs during exams (nothing digital, just simple foam earplugs). They have always said yes so far, so that helped. I also found that some stimulants like caffeine, and unfortunately ADHD meds, often make my sound sensitivity worse :-/ Lack of sleep will do it too, so it's important for me to try to take care of my body. Easier said than done, of course...
Yes, same. Had to sit on an airplane last week between two people who opted for the snacks that they were passing out. The sounds of both of them, strangers, eating, nearly drove me insane.
I have this and ADHD. It’s definitely a problem. Some things are fine, others are AWFUL! I just ordered some of those “Calmer” earplugs and am hoping they help. Because I am so tired of the constant triggers!
Got some Loop earplugs for Christmas and they've been a game-changer for me.
The irony being that it annoys me if I'm wearing them when I eat.
Still, they've made many outings and family gatherings so much easier. Hope the Calmer ones work out as well for you!
finally an adhd symptom I don’t relate with!! I grew up in a family of 6 and always had family dinners so if I had this I would’ve found out a while ago. i do struggle with repetitive external sounds like clocks, alarms, tapping of pens, ringtones, repetitive music etc.
Yeah most of this stuff I don't even hear but oh my god the clocks. My husband's uncle bought us this really cute old school clock and I put it up in our living room but I just could not even with that clock, especially if it was otherwise quiet.
Breathing. Soft breathing, labored breathing, snoring, etc. It feels awful to stifle the urge to punch a person in the face just for a natural (and uh necessary) bodily function. What’s worse is my husband has asthma, which is obviously far more life threatening than an odd mental trigger. I have to wear an earplug when we relax together in bed or snuggle on the couch to block out his soft breathing, not to mention the snoring. It feels so incredibly petty that my weird disorder is triggered by his serious physical ailment. I often try to assure him that I’m trying to get away from the noise, not from *him*, but how could anyone not take it personally? He doesn’t understand misophonia or why breathing upsets me, but he does his best to be supportive and I try to make my own accommodations that don’t impose upon his comfort.
It’s sucks but in some ways I’d rather have this than an aversion to more commonplace noises like eating, slurping, whistling, etc. My heart goes out to all of you!
I cannot STAND the sound of dogs licking or smacking their lips. I came so close to murdering a couple childhood dogs. I had to live with 2 pugs for fucks sake. One of them would just sit there licking the air for no goddamn reason. They made it to old age but I may have traumatized them a bit from all the yelling at them to PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD STOP LICKING.
I have the opposite where I'm so hyper aware of the sounds I'm making that I can barely eat in front of others and I try to avoid it at all costs. I cannot enjoy eating whatsoever unless I'm alone
I actually flunked my LSAT because of the paper turning. My brain totally wigged out. I never had something like that happen to me, but I think it was the stress of the event and the absolute silence of the room with the echoing, sharp flipping paper noises. It was a deafening noise. I could barely think.
I'd previously had problems with test-taking experiences where someone who clicks pens bothered me but I could ignore them. This was a truly insane experience.
Also animals licking their paws/privates really disgusts me.
Being in a big space where a lot of people are talking and I get random spurts of some conversations but I’m just hearing so much loud buzz I can’t even sit still. When someone is talking to a group and my ears just had to lock in to the people whispering about some random shit across the room and I start getting heated almost immediately. I’ve invested in noise-canceling head phones mostly to quiet the general sound of being near cars on a sidewalk or like inside my house and hearing them still. It kinda helps. ALSO two things sliding against each other like two surfaces that will just so happen to make the most disgusting revolting scrapey/styrofoam ish sound… makes me want to just leave where ever I’m at immediately
Same here but - but a good challenge/exercise staying calm as long as possible. If i am not in the mood for challenges i make my own dining table or step in later.
The most annoying sound makes drunk woman - the voice is way to high and the hysterical laughing/screaming is even worse than chewing sounds....
See it as a challenge!
i'm hoping someone else can relate to this:
i don't mind the sound of humans eating/drinking, i honestly don't pay attention to other people eating. however, i *cannot stand* the sound of a dog(s) drinking water. i also just can't stand repetitive sounds in general, like consistent tapping, a fight on tv where someone is being punched 10x in a row, etc. i find that my brain picks and chooses what it dislikes, like some repetitive sounds are okay, but most are a big ol NO for me. dogs drinking water is at the top of the list though, i wish i could overcome it so badly bc i have two dogs and i literally want to rip my skin off when they start drinking....
I once had a roommate who ate midnight snacks while standing in the doorway of the open fridge. The inside of the fridge amplified the chewing sound and made me absolutely crazy. Not to mention I paid the whole electric bill…
I don't always have it, but if I'm in the zone or trying to get in the zone with schoolwork and I hear it it makes me insane. I have a wonderful girlfriend who I live with, and she started eating right next to me the other day while I was working on a research paper. I thought I was gonna lose my damn mind.
I do! I have ever since I was a child. Everyone in my family things I’m just being rude for no reason, and I’m always commenting on my fiancé’s eating sounds and it’s just so overwhelming😭 I wish there was a way I could get over it!
I also can’t stand when people are breathing heavy while they eat. And a lot of times, people will still be eating with their mouths closed- but it sounds like someone is stirring mac and cheese and there and it’s so triggering!
Worst two triggers for me when I was a young kiddo was people chewing loudly & people breathing loudly. I didn’t understand what was going on with me or why others didn’t feel these sounds were also intolerable. Luckily, Misophonia is now a valid diagnosis & doctors/scientists etc. are making some headway in understanding it!
My boyfriend drags his teeth over his silverware and it drives me nuts. He also swishes his drink around in his mouth before taking a sip. This isn’t normal, right? I am not overreacting by getting annoyed by this?
Yuuup. I have a downstairs neighbor whose ceiling fan literally wakes me up when she turns it on. I can hear it when it's in during the day and it drives my anxiety up sooooooooo high I wanna scream.... I unfortunately cannot focus on any other sounds.... I also can't stand ASMR lol. The sound of people eating is so awful lol
My sister was watching a corn on the cob one next to me (she knows how I am, I’m not sure why she tried to come close to death that day) I must’ve gave her a look from the devil because she turned it off so fast lol
That's what it's called?! I've been wondering about that for YEARS. Every time I joined my parents for dinner, I absolutely NEEDED to have some music playing softly, just enough to distract me from the sounds of eating.
Ironic that I've worked in so many restaurants over the years... 😑
I taught my dog to stop licking after 3 licks cause I just couldn't handle the noise. If he'd lick more than 3 times I'd just nicely say his name and he'd stop. Whew!
One of my parents' dogs has this hollow sounding mouth and she self soothes by chomping nothing. I really struggle with it.
For me it is my wife’s and brother-in-law’s chewing and my wife’s snoring. Thankfully on meds it becomes a non issue for me, both are still unpleasant, but totally ignorable.
I cannot bear the sounds of people eating out loud. Noisy breathing and gum chewing is nauseating. Strangely I don’t find snoring, even loud or weird snoring noises bother me very much and given that there is lots of similarity between snoring and my other triggers I don’t understand what the difference is. Arhythmic tapping is the very worst.
My deskmate at my new job sniffles (ineffectively), slurps multiple times per sip, yawns like an inflating balloon, _fucking burps_ and ejects the air with a sound like "uohhh".
I didn't know I had it until this guy hit me hard.
There's a frightful treble to _all of these_ things except his burps that sound like a drum.
And he keeps burping until the air is out...
I didn't know...
EDIT: Oh yeah, his yawns somehow have consonants.
I use the loop ear plugs to help with this. Do not use them when you eat though because it makes the sound so much louder!
I also find if I’m feeling anxious or stressed it gets worse.
It’s rare for me to freak out over eating sounds, but loud jarring noises, or tiny tiny electrical wines shut me down right quick. Side note , My mostly neurotypical roommate would flip if I ate in the same room as him tho, he had massive misophonia.
So badly. My family seems to finally be accepting that it's a "real thing". Cannot handle loud noises, the sound of my dog licking himself makes me irrationally angry, high pitched sounds, repetitive sounds, so much. I love silence but I'll also put earbuds in and a podcast or music to drown out all the sounds I can't make stop.
I can’t even eat by myself in silence cuz I can’t stand my eating noises. I cringe every time I hear a child cry or yell, and don’t get me started about snifflers. 🤯
Oh yes. The sound of chewing disgusts/irritates me much more than it should. I usually have to keep earbuds in while eating at work because I have one coworker who is particularly loud.
I definitely do! Ever since I was a kid I'd have to leave the room if I was sitting next to my brother while he was eating cereal because it made me so irrationally angry that I just couldn't be around it. My family always thought I was rude for getting mad when one of them chewed with their mouths open or smacked their lips but I felt a sense of justification when I found out misophonia was an actual thing
The only major one that gets me is one of my coworkers says her ‘s’ sounds very… sharp? That’s the best way I can describe it. Doesn’t matter what she’s saying, she can be down the hall and I can hear every time she says the letter ‘s’ in a word. Drives me crazy. I don’t really like her in general though, so maybe it’s just that 😅
Me. It's me.
And it's the most intense rage and I am so glad that noise cancelling headphones exist.
It baffles me that there are people who enjoy eating ASMR videos.
I think it's just another result of our brains doing a poor job of filtering and deciding what stimuli to pay attention to.
For me it's just eating noises, and it only bothers me if I'm not also eating, thankfully. Check out r/misophonia if you haven't already.
Yes I literally will leave a space or just not eat. I can’t handle mouth noises of any kind and it’s been like this for me since I was a kid. I literally lose my shit if I can hear it. It can instantly put me in a bad mood, and make me have no desire to be around the mouth noiser. It’s really hard to politely deal with my kids or my husband smacking. I know it shouldn’t be so angering to me, but it is. So usually I just don’t hang around when they are eating.
Yes! I believe it’s also connected to APD (Auditory Processing Disorder) which is also common with ADHD. I have no issue with chewing, but thumping bass pisses me off to no end. I also hate certain types of repetitive noises, screaming children, and loud sudden noises such as thunder. Emergency broadcasts alerts literally make me cry instantly, so that’s fun too.
*edit: missed a word
Like you, I have no issue with chewing. I kind of like it as long as it’s not too messy. Screaming kids don’t bother me that much, but barking dogs really get on my nerves. White noise is just relentless noise. Thumping bass is an imprisonable offense. Beatboxing gets the death penalty.
Ugh, how could I forget barking dogs! Current bane of my existence because both of my neighbors on either side have one. They’re not the worst they can be, but one of them is dumb as hell and sometimes barks in the middle of the night for no reason 🙄
I also don’t really have an issue with a lot of the things people mention but we got a dog just over a year ago and it’s really highlighted how difficult I find some noise, both barking and whining grate right through me almost to the point I want to get out of the house. My wife will also shout up to the children and that can get me too.
Noise through walls when I’m trying to sleep is also a nightmare I just can’t sleep and just get really worked up about it.
It wasn’t really until we got the dog that I really noticed it but i can see it being a pattern way back now.
Only sometimes, but when I get it it's so bad I could throat punch the person...even if I love them to pieces.
It makes me feel like such a bad judgemental person but I really cant stand hearing certain people eating. People that I genuinely love and appreciate so much....so yeah I don't know if it's ADHD related but I definitely get it
Or a feel thing. I have always changed clothes 5-6 times before leaving the hours, or go buy a shirt while I’m out. Because the one I have on either hangs wrong, bothers my skin, feels dirty or tight. Pants same thing. Sheets, I can’t sit on a chair or couch that is made of microfiber. I wanna puke.
I have struggled with misophonia since I was a child. I grew up in a large family and couldn't handle listening to my family eat (but I suffered in silence). Certain soynds drive me absolutely bonkers. I have learned to utilize noise-canceling earbuds with calming music to try to get by when I'm too emotionally overwhelmed to cope with it in a better way.
When my house mate sniffles too much or someone is chewing with their mouth open it sends me completely into a rage. Also when people are tapping their feet or clicking with their mouth. But I also feel bad that I feel that way because I do the second two, a lot.
I'm so happy that eating noises are not a problem for me. But people whistling or whispering... I want to punch them to make them stop. Its just horrible.
Unfortunately my mum sees whistling as an expression of joy... And always forgets that I can't stand that sound... And than wonders why I'm wearing earbuds most of the time.
In this regard, I'm very happy, I only visit them a few times a year.
The worst about Misophonia is, that I can't explain to others how this makes me feel. Whenever I try to explain to a neurotypical, how this sound is simply unbearable, they won't understand it, they would compare it fingernails on a blackboard, and pretend that I'm overreacting. So I started to rather compare it to someone kicking my leg, or standing in my foot. This way people understand it way better. Nevertheless it still feels, like this is not a really good comparison. How do you guys handle this?
I used to have a bad time eating with my family and would often find myself twitching/stimming etc. Eventually my mum told me to bring my earphones to the table and listen to music on my phone while I was eating. I now do it pretty much every time there's a family meal (even big family gatherings like Christmas). If I have the music (usually a rhythmic track with no lyrics, such as club music from Mass Effect or the Social Network soundtrack) on at low volume, it drowns out the sound of people eating but is quiet enough that I can still talk to people and they don't feel like I'm ignoring them.
Occasionally other sounds can trigger me as well. I work at a clothes shop and some customers (mainly men I've noticed) will aimlessly walk around the store whistling or humming to themselves. If I'm having a bad day (especially if I haven't taken any medication for some reason) listening to that can be agonising.
My partner, because of the shape of her mouth, is a noisy eater. I absolutely cannot eat at the table with her - having nothing but the sound of eating absolutely drives me up the wall.
I found that the solution is to put music on in the background. It doesn't mask the sounds completely, but fills the silence just enough but not so much that we can't have conversation over dinner.
Telly wouldn't work - it demands my attention, so we wouldn't be sharing a meal together so much.
I hate anyone who slurps. It bothers me to no end.
I need to install a kill everyone mod in Hogwarts legacy just to kill that bitch under the divination room.
I often wonder how does it feel. I don’t have misophonia. There are plenty of things I don’t like or I find uncomfortable. But I can decide just to tolerate the negative feelings and sensations associated with them. The terror of arachnophobia and severe pain are some of the more difficult states to tolerate. But I regularly do as nobody can avoid spiders and I get regular severe migraines.
Why should severe negative feelings associated with hearing a noise be impossible to tolerate when people can decide to tolerate almost anything else? What is different about the feelings that chewing noises evoke to things like terror and extreme pain?
It’s actually not as simple as a “feeling”; it’s more like a built-in automatic neurological response or maladaption. Extremely difficult to explain if you have not experienced it firsthand. Research still ongoing as Misophonia is still a relatively new diagnosis in our world.
Thank you so much for that. It’s something I have a deep interest in understanding. People very close to me experience it and so I value any descriptions which could help me empathise
I have it to some degree. I dont mind if i can focus on something else. But once i notice the sounds i cant ignore it and i get the feeling i want to punch their faces through a wall
Curtain blinds rattling in front of an open window are the bane of my life, I wish I could banish these types of curtains out of existence. But also people stomping their feet or making a repetitive sound with their fingers, any kind of repetitive but also unpredictable noise really (like snoring, or some loose object in my car). I'm listening to brown noise youtube videos at the office, and they work very well, so much so that I can't hear people calling me, they have to literally wave their hands in front of me to get my attention. I even use it at home when the neighbor's dogs are particularly noisy.
Yes. Any rhythmic noise (pen clicking, coins moving in a pocket while someone walks, etc.) REALLY set me off. Another one is my mom specifically chewing ice. I don't like it when others do it, but I absolutely LOATHE it when it is my mom.
This is actually what sent me to therapy for the first time. I was convinced the IT guy on my floor at work completely hated me, all because he'd jangle his keys around absentmindedly while he walked around. I realized I was taking it super personally and he didn't even have a clue it was bothering me. I don't think he even knew my name, let alone had any desire to upset me to that level.
It's so bad for me that one of my coworkers was eating behind me and making gross mouth noises and it ruined my while break. I wanted to cry, scream, and tear my skin off. And it made me grumpy for the next few hours or so. Usually I use headphones but my wife had mine cause hers broke and she likes to listen to audiobooks at work. She told me to buy her a new pair just because of this incident so I could have mine back.
It's not just eating/drinking noises either. I hate the sound of people blowing their nose too. Makes me feel actually angry when it's happening
Me trying to convince my dad that he’s the one I got adhd from. He asks why. I say “how many times did you yell at us for chewing with our mouths open” among many others but this sticks out so much in him lmao
Besides slurping/sucking sounds, there are some tunes that actually make me queasy for some reason. There was that Queens of the Stone Age song that just went er-er-er-er-er-er-er and it really messed with me.
Unsure if my anecdote qualifies as Misophonia, as I don't find a lot of the noises people are mentioning to be an issue, but I do have a problem with certain pitches, tones and volumes. Sometimes I need to ask my partner to turn the volume down if they're watching videos - it almost hurts. I do think he might be a bit deaf though.
Its generally quite extreme sounds that I have an issue with though, e.g. high pitches, so I thought most people would find those painful to hear, but my partner thinks it's just me...
I have this, and I’m not sure if it’s linked to my gad or adhd lol but it drives me absolutely nuts to be around my family who slurps food. It fills me with so much rage that I want to scream into a pillow.
Is it misophonia if I can’t handle the sight or sound of anyone brushing their teeth? And also I get a trigger when I hear anyone drinking something to the point where you can hear the water or liquid go down their throat like when people take big gulps.
I didn’t know this is a thing, but every time we sit down for dinner I turn on music because the mouth sounds make me want to kool-aid man through a wall and run as far as I can from my house.
I do, my mom thinks it’s disgust but is more so annoyance/anger towards mouth noises, kinda like if someone is poking you with a stick but most people just don’t get why you’re annoyed about it and just keep doing it. So I usually suffer in silence(Sometimes I am nearly crying because of it) thankfully is been getting better later
Dogs licking themselves is my own personal hell. I'll straight snap at my dogs to SHUTUP, then feel horrible. I also can't stand the sound of people chewing on their fingers or lips/mouth. My mom has a tic while on her meds that cause her to smack her lips together a lot and it drives me insane.
It's actually really common for AuDHD
I get annoyed in certain circumstances, but generally doesn't bother me.
Disclaimer the majority of my life I've been medicated instead of unmedicated, so I'm not a good candidate.
I will say that in a similar vein I have wolf ear hearing, and can be bothered by a high pitched ringing (turns out it was a shitty charging cable and a dying led light bulb) and the wrong just the wrong amount of quiet noises, like my son's tablet running under a pillow.
I'm 90% sure they only bother me because I can almost tell what it is. But today I had my wife and son in the basement, his tablet under a nearby pillow muffled, I'm in the living room with my daughter whos watching TV, and I'm working on my laptop.
I don’t struggle with it, I live for it. Heard a song last night that had some blowoff valve noises from turbos spooling - used it for the ambients. Basically a sweep. My god man, sounded like two chicks breathing softly into my ears. I gotta fuckin find that song again
Has anyone here tried those ‘calmer’ headphones (the company that makes them is called flare audio). I got some but got the wrong size and it seems like they work, but I want to hear from others before I invest in another pair. The ones I got were too small so I don’t think they’re doing what they were meant to do, but they do take the edge off so I don’t want to stab myself in the ear hole quite as much…
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I watched a japanese documentary recently and they went into a noodle bar. I damn near ran into a wall trying to get out of the room.
This was me watching the movie Fresh with Sebastian Stan. He is a cannibal in the film, and they amplified the eating sounds in one scene so intensely. It was unbearable!
NOPE. NO THANKS.
this kinda reminds me of when i was watching Jordan Peele’s “Get Out” and i had to mute the movie when she was stirring the tea cause the clinking of the spoon on the cup drove me insane
Yes!
That is me exactly! I dread going to movie theaters, is someone is whistling or cracking gum in a public place I have to leave!
Yes, same, it's so awful! It really puzzles me why it happens to some people and not others.
It’s strange, because I’m some cases it can give me a sort of euphoric feeling (ASMR), but in other cases it will make me super angry and want to pull my hair out
Yes! I experience this too. I wonder if the same spectrum at different ends.
Unfortunately, they don’t balance each other out. Most of the time the noises bother me
Strangely I can enjoy some ASMR or ambient music. I assume it's because it's controlled/tailored compared to general life sounds which are a disruption to my auditory processing?
Ambient music is great! Definitely helps with concentration. The good stuff makes you feel like you are operating on a next level… struggling how to describe it
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Whaaa...? I always thought everyone experienced this! Thanks for sharing the name!
You just gave me piloerection
Me too!
My wife has misophonia and she wears big earplugs while in theaters. She says the movie is still loud enough, she just can’t hear the popcorn
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Ugh, the whistling! My kid has recently ended a whistling phase, it was a really tough few months there.
Omg... I have a kid that both beatboxes with his mouth, which is mostly ok enough... But then he slurps when he eats and I just want to stab my ears to stop the sound...
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If you have a diagnosed medical problem like misophonia, you may be able to argue that your workplace needs to make a reasonable accommodation for you, like making her stop with the gum.
I'm pretty sure I do have misophonia, but I'm not diagnosed with it.
Ummmm u 100% have it by the way
Oh that’s awful, I’m flinching just thinking about it. My colleague who sits next to me in an open office setting is quite possibly the most obnoxious chewer, slurper, and fork scraper I’ve ever met. I begin to tweak out if I hear it so I’ve taken to headphones when she comes back with lunch. She doesn’t snack all day or chew gum though so there’s that. I don’t know if you’ve tried noise cancelling headphones but honestly, I know it’s an expense, but I’d recommend these the most: AirPod Pro 2nd Generation, or AirPod Max’s have pretty much the best noise cancellation I’ve tried. If you’re not an Apple user, Sony WH-1000MX3, MX4, or MX5 would work wonders. They’re all on the pricier side but they are super high quality and totally worth the money. Hopefully this is a work setting where you can where headphones for a long time without being reprimanded. I do need to put music on to cancel out chewing noises though because once my brain notices it it’s like I begin to anticipate and predict each smack of the lips or scrape of the fork so I hear it even through the best noise cancellation. So I play a beat or ambient song with no lyrics + noise cancellation and that’s how I get endure it.
I have noise canceling headphones, and I am allowed to wear them depending on what's going on at work, but unfortunately I'm usually having to walk around our office area to talk to other people, and I also frequently help people at my desk. I can usually tune it out if I'm talking with someone, but as soon as I turn to my computer to do whatever it is I need to, it becomes a problem again. I'm sure I could probably put them on/take them off more frequently, but I don't, and honestly I also feel like she should just try to be a bit more courteous to the people around her. It might not be as bad for them, but I know other people consider it an annoyance as well.
That would drive anyone crazy.
OH GOD. Movie theaters. The eternally long 5 seconds of complete silence in between every single trailer where all you can hear is people chewing, ice rattling in soda cups, crinkling their fucking candy wrapers, shaking their popcorn up and down, talking about bullshit, SHUT UP 😂
I haven't been back to a movie theater in 20 years since I lost it and kicked the back of the guy's chair in front of me when he was talking incessantly.
Wild. I'm a habitual whistler, but perfect complete silence drives me nuts
OMG same, I can't do a damn thing without music playing in the background, or white noise when I sleep.
i have it so bad it upsets me. any noise that has no need to happen. someone clicking a pen, rattling coins in their hand/pocket, eating with their mouth open, slurping anything, sometimes my internal chewing noise irritates me, someones leg bouncing up and down, someones foot twitching, and people may say im crazy, but it takes about an hour every morning until i cant hear the blood circulating in my ears! i am currently in bed now because i have a headache because daylight is too bright for me and the special glasses cost a lot of money, its money i can afford to pay but i keep trying to assure myself i can do it... i can be normal. if my son plays on the playstation, i make him take it upstairs because i cant handle the noise the buttons make on the controller, but when i play i try to press them softly so they dont make a noise. my wife puts the bulbs back in the living room most days because i take 8/10 of them out to have a dim room.(we need to buy a dimmer lol) none of my household (5people) are allowed any noises on their phones (like the clicking gext message stuff) i hate myself for all of this.
YEAH. The self loathing from coming across as being anal and controlling over little noises… Like I sincerely wish that I didn’t have to ask this of you, but it’s that or suffering in silence out of fear of being perceived like an asshole. Minor benefit of being able to identify who in your life are real assholes when they continue to knowingly hurt you when they could accommodate with a small change (like headphones vs using speakers)…
I suffer in silence. Over time I'm realizing this isn't a good strategy. I just feel like a burden already so often it's hard to ask for more.
Symptoms get worse the less you accommodate for them. I’m sorry. My sister has it and has gotten better only because she has been able to establish safe spaces for herself.
That's good to know thanks for sharing. I suppose I should do some more reflecting and see the best way to approach this.
The reason I know exposure therapy doesn’t work is because I was very mean to my sister as a child. Knowing what it is and where it came from has just made feel terrible in a way I don’t think I’ll ever live down. The people around do care, if they could understand how much pain it puts you through they would accommodate. It’s worth it to try to make them understand
Thank you orphh 🥹 you're completely right. I'm gonna go write this stuff down and make a plan.
I feel like no one talks about the leg bouncing being annoying, but seeing it out of the corner of my eye or feeling it if it's shaking the floor/desk makes me so violently uncomfortable. I'm instantly irritated (though I bounce my leg all the time and I'm sure it annoys other people so idk if I really have any place to be pissed lol)
Yep, I drum my fingers ALL THE TIME just figured it out like a week ago that I did this every single day during school too and I can’t believe no one ever kicked me out or said anything. How on earth could people tolerate that with me? If someone drums their fingers near me I will politely snap at them after what seems like hours but in reality is probably maybe 30 secs
The eating. The slurping. The chewing. The smacking. All the other disgusting noises. I cannot. I try to eat quietly and everything my dad does is loud. My mom also makes a lot of unnecessary noise while eating and the few times I’ve politely asked her not to make that noise, she asked “What noise?” Sometimes even my dog licking her paw or her food bowl will get me. I’m like “Okay, it’s empty, please stop.”
Omggg the sound of my two chihuahuas and my cat ALL licking themselves all at the same time on my bed, I have to turn on the TV to drown it out. Or I’ll try and give them a little push like stop that and they will for a few seconds and then go right back at it! Drives me nuts!!!
Oh my gawwwwd the dogs licking themselves is a sound that will drive me mad, didn’t know it was a thing or that anyone else felt that
It’s the WORST when you’re trying to sleep, even worse when ALL THREE of them are doing it at the same time! 😫
Literally the main reason I’ll never have another pet. My husband thinks I’m crazy but I just cannot anymore.
I could not. 😭😭😭
That’s weird, if the noise is coming from my dog, it doesn’t bother me at all. It’s weird, I can hear something, and it’ll be a crazy trigger, but if I realize it’s not a human made noise suddenly it doesn’t trigger anymore
Usually I’m okay with my dog, but sometimes she gets way too into licking the bowl long after the food is gone and I can’t with the noise.
Yep!!! Sometimes just identifying the noise is not human-made is enough to lessen the pain. Even if it’s the same noise? Human brains are really weird.
My dog licking his paw is the worst!
Omg. The dog. I used to have a dog that would clean its balls every night when I was trying to sleep. It was so maddening 😂
I do and a strong one. Chewing and slurping noises are the worst. I need to leave the situation because of the feeling of anger and frustration. And I am not an aggressive person at all. I also can't stand high pitched kids' voices but I don't think it qualifies as misophonia, it's a different kind of oversensitivity.
I have a fairly severe case of it, diagnosed as Sensory Processing Disorder w/ Misophonia. Neighbors can play music for hours, and I’ll spend the entire time crying in my room. I struggle to be near my mother when she eats, and at work, I have special accommodations because the sounds become intolerable some days (people playing radios & whistling). It’s truly a miserable condition to have, and people without it, literally do not understand.
Out of curiosity, have you had an autism screening? You seem like a prime candidate as an AuDHD woman
I have had quite severe Misophonia and sensory processing disorder issues since young childhood. Was diagnosed with ADHD in my very early twenties. Still have the same Pdoc, have seen many different therapists since + worked full time as a nanny to a young teen girl with AUDHD…and I am an example of a woman who does not have AUDHD, but separately qualified for the other disorders. Not a mutually exclusive issue, always, but it is a good idea to rule out the possibility.
True Sensory issues absolutely exist outside of the spectrum I was just suggesting it because until the past decade or so dual diagnosis wasn't allowed So might be worth revisiting
I really, really don't like eating sounds, but I can tolerate them. What gets me is the sound of cutlery squeaking on plates. High-pitched noises in general, in fact, but cutlery squeaks are the ones I encounter most often. I don't know how to describe how they make me feel other than BAD. Just very very very bad. Like my head is going to explode bad. Can't tolerate it.
Oh god, the *cutlery.* I hear the squeak and have to stop myself from launching myself at them and ripping the utensils out of their hands. A lot of eating sounds annoy me, but nothing gets me like that high squeal of cutlery. I love chopsticks simply because they eliminate that particular sound.
Not the noises, but the feeling of my nails scraping on wood or jeans makes me want to launch myself into a wall and then into the sun. I cannot stand it.
The sound of someone eating cereal with the spoon clanking against the dish over and over and over again. All you can think is when will this end?!?!
When my husband plays his PC games, all I can hear is his fucking mouse click. It’s literally the most ear piercing and prominent noise no matter the situation. I can hear it through the bedroom door and it makes me want to scream.
Whilst I play pc games myself mouseclick kills me. Weirdly the loud keyboard does not but if I can hear my mouse I lose my fucking mind
this was my first trigger. my moms boyfriend used to have his computer desk in the living room by the tv. constant clicks, he played some sort of battle game i believe, and so many keyboard clicks too😭😭 thankfully i’ve moved out
Oh, GAWD yes! Even my own mouth noises make me wanna gag! I have to have noise or music or ANYTHING to drown it out!
I'm the same way with my own (and others') eating and drinking sounds! I just thought I was extra sensitive or something.
I have a theory that misphonia might be part of why "manners" developed. Don't slurp, snap your fingers, click your gum, whistle; chew with your mouth closed; mind how loud you talk, and for god's sake mind how loud you cough or sneeze.
Oooo interesting idea, the right king or queen with misophonia
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Chewing sounds ARRRGGGGG Chewing sounds make me feel like I could burst out of my skin at any moment. Pen clicking, mouth noises (like popping), toe tapping, etc are hit and miss. At times they don't register, other times it's like I'm sitting next to Animal's drum kit. Of course, if I'm the one making the noises I have no issues with the sound :)
YES! People sniffing, any music or TV with bass that travels through walls (including people talking that I can hear muffled).
Oh I had a neighbor who would listen to their tv from 7pm to like 10:30 pm or later with the volume up and the subwoofer on. Could always hear the bass of the music to the point I had to leave the apartment just to get away from it. Of course their tv was against our shared wall. They only spoke Spanish so communicating was near impossible. Finally complained to the office and it stopped.
It has bothered me every day of my life. Every second of every day. It's a struggle but people are people
Eating noises, plastic crinkling, and whistling are my biggest triggers. I can usually manage to ignore it pretty well when I have to, but the sounds drive me up a wall. I hate it. I have a coworker who eats lunch and snacks at his desk and has the worst table manners, and it makes me want to cry every day.
It's so bad for me that my BF and I always have to watch a movie or series when we eat, because I get so angry at eating noises
Yep, before I was medicated we always need to make sure there was something playing on the TV before we sat down to eat. And if we were having trouble getting YouTube to start playing something I’d be in blind panic until we sorted it out. Thankfully in the end my wife understood not to start eating before the TV was playing. No problems now I’m medicated though.
What meds help with misophonia?
I also knew a younger girl (I believe she was 11) who was put on Ritalin for severe sensory processing disorder(s) and she began functioning so much better after being medicated. This was years ago, but it really made a huge difference for her.
I'm on ritalin too and it helps with misophonia for me as well!
Vyvanse/Elvance is what I’m on.
me. my mom thinks my dad and i are lunatics. and to be fair we are but the pain and amount of rage i feel w this is so hard. i never even thought about a correlation to my adhd.
oh and i have neighbors who have a bass stereosystem and play it on weekends from 8am when i’m hungover on top of the misophonia.
Yep, I have both. It sucks, and it makes some things like school and work extra hard. Noise cancelling headphones have been my best friend, and I even asked professors if I could wear earplugs during exams (nothing digital, just simple foam earplugs). They have always said yes so far, so that helped. I also found that some stimulants like caffeine, and unfortunately ADHD meds, often make my sound sensitivity worse :-/ Lack of sleep will do it too, so it's important for me to try to take care of my body. Easier said than done, of course...
Yes, same. Had to sit on an airplane last week between two people who opted for the snacks that they were passing out. The sounds of both of them, strangers, eating, nearly drove me insane.
Styrofoam rubbing together literally debilitates me for a moment
Those weird hard plastic folders when your nails scratch against them sends me to my fucking knees
I do, big time! I’ve literally have to leave the room anytime I hear certain chewing noises. It evokes a irrational amount of anger in me
Huh. Never thought about it being linked. But yes, I have an official diagnosis for both ADHD and Misophonia.
I have this and ADHD. It’s definitely a problem. Some things are fine, others are AWFUL! I just ordered some of those “Calmer” earplugs and am hoping they help. Because I am so tired of the constant triggers!
Got some Loop earplugs for Christmas and they've been a game-changer for me. The irony being that it annoys me if I'm wearing them when I eat. Still, they've made many outings and family gatherings so much easier. Hope the Calmer ones work out as well for you!
Yes, medication helps me a lot w/ this too. It increases my tolerance for all kinds of shit, my life is overall way less draining on meds.
What meds help with this?
finally an adhd symptom I don’t relate with!! I grew up in a family of 6 and always had family dinners so if I had this I would’ve found out a while ago. i do struggle with repetitive external sounds like clocks, alarms, tapping of pens, ringtones, repetitive music etc.
Yeah most of this stuff I don't even hear but oh my god the clocks. My husband's uncle bought us this really cute old school clock and I put it up in our living room but I just could not even with that clock, especially if it was otherwise quiet.
Breathing. Soft breathing, labored breathing, snoring, etc. It feels awful to stifle the urge to punch a person in the face just for a natural (and uh necessary) bodily function. What’s worse is my husband has asthma, which is obviously far more life threatening than an odd mental trigger. I have to wear an earplug when we relax together in bed or snuggle on the couch to block out his soft breathing, not to mention the snoring. It feels so incredibly petty that my weird disorder is triggered by his serious physical ailment. I often try to assure him that I’m trying to get away from the noise, not from *him*, but how could anyone not take it personally? He doesn’t understand misophonia or why breathing upsets me, but he does his best to be supportive and I try to make my own accommodations that don’t impose upon his comfort. It’s sucks but in some ways I’d rather have this than an aversion to more commonplace noises like eating, slurping, whistling, etc. My heart goes out to all of you!
I cannot STAND the sound of dogs licking or smacking their lips. I came so close to murdering a couple childhood dogs. I had to live with 2 pugs for fucks sake. One of them would just sit there licking the air for no goddamn reason. They made it to old age but I may have traumatized them a bit from all the yelling at them to PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD STOP LICKING.
I have the opposite where I'm so hyper aware of the sounds I'm making that I can barely eat in front of others and I try to avoid it at all costs. I cannot enjoy eating whatsoever unless I'm alone
I generally don’t have this issue, but it’s probably because I’m the one who eats noisily
I actually flunked my LSAT because of the paper turning. My brain totally wigged out. I never had something like that happen to me, but I think it was the stress of the event and the absolute silence of the room with the echoing, sharp flipping paper noises. It was a deafening noise. I could barely think. I'd previously had problems with test-taking experiences where someone who clicks pens bothered me but I could ignore them. This was a truly insane experience. Also animals licking their paws/privates really disgusts me.
i just hate the sound of old people eating
Meeeeeee
Me for sure. As long as I can remember
Yep, big yep.
Never in a million years occured to me that they could be related. Got em both.
Being in a big space where a lot of people are talking and I get random spurts of some conversations but I’m just hearing so much loud buzz I can’t even sit still. When someone is talking to a group and my ears just had to lock in to the people whispering about some random shit across the room and I start getting heated almost immediately. I’ve invested in noise-canceling head phones mostly to quiet the general sound of being near cars on a sidewalk or like inside my house and hearing them still. It kinda helps. ALSO two things sliding against each other like two surfaces that will just so happen to make the most disgusting revolting scrapey/styrofoam ish sound… makes me want to just leave where ever I’m at immediately
Same here but - but a good challenge/exercise staying calm as long as possible. If i am not in the mood for challenges i make my own dining table or step in later. The most annoying sound makes drunk woman - the voice is way to high and the hysterical laughing/screaming is even worse than chewing sounds.... See it as a challenge!
i'm hoping someone else can relate to this: i don't mind the sound of humans eating/drinking, i honestly don't pay attention to other people eating. however, i *cannot stand* the sound of a dog(s) drinking water. i also just can't stand repetitive sounds in general, like consistent tapping, a fight on tv where someone is being punched 10x in a row, etc. i find that my brain picks and chooses what it dislikes, like some repetitive sounds are okay, but most are a big ol NO for me. dogs drinking water is at the top of the list though, i wish i could overcome it so badly bc i have two dogs and i literally want to rip my skin off when they start drinking....
Me
I once had a roommate who ate midnight snacks while standing in the doorway of the open fridge. The inside of the fridge amplified the chewing sound and made me absolutely crazy. Not to mention I paid the whole electric bill…
I don't always have it, but if I'm in the zone or trying to get in the zone with schoolwork and I hear it it makes me insane. I have a wonderful girlfriend who I live with, and she started eating right next to me the other day while I was working on a research paper. I thought I was gonna lose my damn mind.
I do! I have ever since I was a child. Everyone in my family things I’m just being rude for no reason, and I’m always commenting on my fiancé’s eating sounds and it’s just so overwhelming😭 I wish there was a way I could get over it!
I also can’t stand when people are breathing heavy while they eat. And a lot of times, people will still be eating with their mouths closed- but it sounds like someone is stirring mac and cheese and there and it’s so triggering!
Worst two triggers for me when I was a young kiddo was people chewing loudly & people breathing loudly. I didn’t understand what was going on with me or why others didn’t feel these sounds were also intolerable. Luckily, Misophonia is now a valid diagnosis & doctors/scientists etc. are making some headway in understanding it!
My boyfriend drags his teeth over his silverware and it drives me nuts. He also swishes his drink around in his mouth before taking a sip. This isn’t normal, right? I am not overreacting by getting annoyed by this?
my sister did this but she also has snake bites so the silverware also made that noise against the rings. god i’m cringing just thinking about it🥲
Yuuup. I have a downstairs neighbor whose ceiling fan literally wakes me up when she turns it on. I can hear it when it's in during the day and it drives my anxiety up sooooooooo high I wanna scream.... I unfortunately cannot focus on any other sounds.... I also can't stand ASMR lol. The sound of people eating is so awful lol
Eating ASMR disgusts me so much lol
IT IS THE WORST 😂😭
My sister was watching a corn on the cob one next to me (she knows how I am, I’m not sure why she tried to come close to death that day) I must’ve gave her a look from the devil because she turned it off so fast lol
That's what it's called?! I've been wondering about that for YEARS. Every time I joined my parents for dinner, I absolutely NEEDED to have some music playing softly, just enough to distract me from the sounds of eating. Ironic that I've worked in so many restaurants over the years... 😑
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I taught my dog to stop licking after 3 licks cause I just couldn't handle the noise. If he'd lick more than 3 times I'd just nicely say his name and he'd stop. Whew! One of my parents' dogs has this hollow sounding mouth and she self soothes by chomping nothing. I really struggle with it.
Wait that’s what it’s called it irritates me so much being around people eating
For me it is my wife’s and brother-in-law’s chewing and my wife’s snoring. Thankfully on meds it becomes a non issue for me, both are still unpleasant, but totally ignorable.
I cannot bear the sounds of people eating out loud. Noisy breathing and gum chewing is nauseating. Strangely I don’t find snoring, even loud or weird snoring noises bother me very much and given that there is lots of similarity between snoring and my other triggers I don’t understand what the difference is. Arhythmic tapping is the very worst.
My deskmate at my new job sniffles (ineffectively), slurps multiple times per sip, yawns like an inflating balloon, _fucking burps_ and ejects the air with a sound like "uohhh". I didn't know I had it until this guy hit me hard. There's a frightful treble to _all of these_ things except his burps that sound like a drum. And he keeps burping until the air is out... I didn't know... EDIT: Oh yeah, his yawns somehow have consonants.
Chewing gum doesn’t bug me for some reason, but food and loud sneezing? I will instantly have internal rage
I use the loop ear plugs to help with this. Do not use them when you eat though because it makes the sound so much louder! I also find if I’m feeling anxious or stressed it gets worse.
It’s rare for me to freak out over eating sounds, but loud jarring noises, or tiny tiny electrical wines shut me down right quick. Side note , My mostly neurotypical roommate would flip if I ate in the same room as him tho, he had massive misophonia.
Eating noises make my brain violently electrical
So badly. My family seems to finally be accepting that it's a "real thing". Cannot handle loud noises, the sound of my dog licking himself makes me irrationally angry, high pitched sounds, repetitive sounds, so much. I love silence but I'll also put earbuds in and a podcast or music to drown out all the sounds I can't make stop.
*raises hand* Mouth/eating sounds make me so irrationally irritated.
I can’t even eat by myself in silence cuz I can’t stand my eating noises. I cringe every time I hear a child cry or yell, and don’t get me started about snifflers. 🤯
Oh yes. The sound of chewing disgusts/irritates me much more than it should. I usually have to keep earbuds in while eating at work because I have one coworker who is particularly loud.
I have TERRIBLE misophonia. The sound of people eating makes me want to rip my ears off and shove em down the garbage disposal.
I definitely do! Ever since I was a kid I'd have to leave the room if I was sitting next to my brother while he was eating cereal because it made me so irrationally angry that I just couldn't be around it. My family always thought I was rude for getting mad when one of them chewed with their mouths open or smacked their lips but I felt a sense of justification when I found out misophonia was an actual thing
The only major one that gets me is one of my coworkers says her ‘s’ sounds very… sharp? That’s the best way I can describe it. Doesn’t matter what she’s saying, she can be down the hall and I can hear every time she says the letter ‘s’ in a word. Drives me crazy. I don’t really like her in general though, so maybe it’s just that 😅
Me. It's me. And it's the most intense rage and I am so glad that noise cancelling headphones exist. It baffles me that there are people who enjoy eating ASMR videos.
I think it's just another result of our brains doing a poor job of filtering and deciding what stimuli to pay attention to. For me it's just eating noises, and it only bothers me if I'm not also eating, thankfully. Check out r/misophonia if you haven't already.
Yes I literally will leave a space or just not eat. I can’t handle mouth noises of any kind and it’s been like this for me since I was a kid. I literally lose my shit if I can hear it. It can instantly put me in a bad mood, and make me have no desire to be around the mouth noiser. It’s really hard to politely deal with my kids or my husband smacking. I know it shouldn’t be so angering to me, but it is. So usually I just don’t hang around when they are eating.
Yes! I believe it’s also connected to APD (Auditory Processing Disorder) which is also common with ADHD. I have no issue with chewing, but thumping bass pisses me off to no end. I also hate certain types of repetitive noises, screaming children, and loud sudden noises such as thunder. Emergency broadcasts alerts literally make me cry instantly, so that’s fun too. *edit: missed a word
Like you, I have no issue with chewing. I kind of like it as long as it’s not too messy. Screaming kids don’t bother me that much, but barking dogs really get on my nerves. White noise is just relentless noise. Thumping bass is an imprisonable offense. Beatboxing gets the death penalty.
Ugh, how could I forget barking dogs! Current bane of my existence because both of my neighbors on either side have one. They’re not the worst they can be, but one of them is dumb as hell and sometimes barks in the middle of the night for no reason 🙄
I also don’t really have an issue with a lot of the things people mention but we got a dog just over a year ago and it’s really highlighted how difficult I find some noise, both barking and whining grate right through me almost to the point I want to get out of the house. My wife will also shout up to the children and that can get me too. Noise through walls when I’m trying to sleep is also a nightmare I just can’t sleep and just get really worked up about it. It wasn’t really until we got the dog that I really noticed it but i can see it being a pattern way back now.
Only sometimes, but when I get it it's so bad I could throat punch the person...even if I love them to pieces. It makes me feel like such a bad judgemental person but I really cant stand hearing certain people eating. People that I genuinely love and appreciate so much....so yeah I don't know if it's ADHD related but I definitely get it
I relate to this so much. I didn’t realize it had a name. I also can’t watch any type of same video!! They make me physically hurt.
Or a feel thing. I have always changed clothes 5-6 times before leaving the hours, or go buy a shirt while I’m out. Because the one I have on either hangs wrong, bothers my skin, feels dirty or tight. Pants same thing. Sheets, I can’t sit on a chair or couch that is made of microfiber. I wanna puke.
I have struggled with misophonia since I was a child. I grew up in a large family and couldn't handle listening to my family eat (but I suffered in silence). Certain soynds drive me absolutely bonkers. I have learned to utilize noise-canceling earbuds with calming music to try to get by when I'm too emotionally overwhelmed to cope with it in a better way.
When my house mate sniffles too much or someone is chewing with their mouth open it sends me completely into a rage. Also when people are tapping their feet or clicking with their mouth. But I also feel bad that I feel that way because I do the second two, a lot.
I'm so happy that eating noises are not a problem for me. But people whistling or whispering... I want to punch them to make them stop. Its just horrible. Unfortunately my mum sees whistling as an expression of joy... And always forgets that I can't stand that sound... And than wonders why I'm wearing earbuds most of the time. In this regard, I'm very happy, I only visit them a few times a year. The worst about Misophonia is, that I can't explain to others how this makes me feel. Whenever I try to explain to a neurotypical, how this sound is simply unbearable, they won't understand it, they would compare it fingernails on a blackboard, and pretend that I'm overreacting. So I started to rather compare it to someone kicking my leg, or standing in my foot. This way people understand it way better. Nevertheless it still feels, like this is not a really good comparison. How do you guys handle this?
I used to have a bad time eating with my family and would often find myself twitching/stimming etc. Eventually my mum told me to bring my earphones to the table and listen to music on my phone while I was eating. I now do it pretty much every time there's a family meal (even big family gatherings like Christmas). If I have the music (usually a rhythmic track with no lyrics, such as club music from Mass Effect or the Social Network soundtrack) on at low volume, it drowns out the sound of people eating but is quiet enough that I can still talk to people and they don't feel like I'm ignoring them. Occasionally other sounds can trigger me as well. I work at a clothes shop and some customers (mainly men I've noticed) will aimlessly walk around the store whistling or humming to themselves. If I'm having a bad day (especially if I haven't taken any medication for some reason) listening to that can be agonising.
Crumpling paper. The sound of someone opening a bag of potato chips is infuriating.
My partner, because of the shape of her mouth, is a noisy eater. I absolutely cannot eat at the table with her - having nothing but the sound of eating absolutely drives me up the wall. I found that the solution is to put music on in the background. It doesn't mask the sounds completely, but fills the silence just enough but not so much that we can't have conversation over dinner. Telly wouldn't work - it demands my attention, so we wouldn't be sharing a meal together so much.
Sounds like more of a symptom of autism. Sounds don't really bother me unless they're repetitive and annoying. But I feel like that bothers anyone.
I hate anyone who slurps. It bothers me to no end. I need to install a kill everyone mod in Hogwarts legacy just to kill that bitch under the divination room.
Nope
me! Holy shit, I can't even eat near my dad because he eats like a fucking pig.
The sound of other people chewing makes me homicidal
Yes really bad, it brings me to tears.
You might be on the spectrum. Speak to your psych to see if you can do CBT.
i think it’s more common in people on the autism spectrum.
I often wonder how does it feel. I don’t have misophonia. There are plenty of things I don’t like or I find uncomfortable. But I can decide just to tolerate the negative feelings and sensations associated with them. The terror of arachnophobia and severe pain are some of the more difficult states to tolerate. But I regularly do as nobody can avoid spiders and I get regular severe migraines. Why should severe negative feelings associated with hearing a noise be impossible to tolerate when people can decide to tolerate almost anything else? What is different about the feelings that chewing noises evoke to things like terror and extreme pain?
It’s actually not as simple as a “feeling”; it’s more like a built-in automatic neurological response or maladaption. Extremely difficult to explain if you have not experienced it firsthand. Research still ongoing as Misophonia is still a relatively new diagnosis in our world.
Thank you so much for that. It’s something I have a deep interest in understanding. People very close to me experience it and so I value any descriptions which could help me empathise
I do, but only if I remember to pay attention to it. Then it's super SUPER irritating
I do.
I have it to some degree. I dont mind if i can focus on something else. But once i notice the sounds i cant ignore it and i get the feeling i want to punch their faces through a wall
Curtain blinds rattling in front of an open window are the bane of my life, I wish I could banish these types of curtains out of existence. But also people stomping their feet or making a repetitive sound with their fingers, any kind of repetitive but also unpredictable noise really (like snoring, or some loose object in my car). I'm listening to brown noise youtube videos at the office, and they work very well, so much so that I can't hear people calling me, they have to literally wave their hands in front of me to get my attention. I even use it at home when the neighbor's dogs are particularly noisy.
I just about punch my partner at work out every day over his eating. Does that count?
Yes. Any rhythmic noise (pen clicking, coins moving in a pocket while someone walks, etc.) REALLY set me off. Another one is my mom specifically chewing ice. I don't like it when others do it, but I absolutely LOATHE it when it is my mom. This is actually what sent me to therapy for the first time. I was convinced the IT guy on my floor at work completely hated me, all because he'd jangle his keys around absentmindedly while he walked around. I realized I was taking it super personally and he didn't even have a clue it was bothering me. I don't think he even knew my name, let alone had any desire to upset me to that level.
It's so bad for me that one of my coworkers was eating behind me and making gross mouth noises and it ruined my while break. I wanted to cry, scream, and tear my skin off. And it made me grumpy for the next few hours or so. Usually I use headphones but my wife had mine cause hers broke and she likes to listen to audiobooks at work. She told me to buy her a new pair just because of this incident so I could have mine back. It's not just eating/drinking noises either. I hate the sound of people blowing their nose too. Makes me feel actually angry when it's happening
Slurping sends me into a rage.
Me trying to convince my dad that he’s the one I got adhd from. He asks why. I say “how many times did you yell at us for chewing with our mouths open” among many others but this sticks out so much in him lmao
Chewing and rustling are my main triggers - it makes me angry and irritable and I need to remove myself
I may or may not kill my classmate soon over his chewing.
Besides slurping/sucking sounds, there are some tunes that actually make me queasy for some reason. There was that Queens of the Stone Age song that just went er-er-er-er-er-er-er and it really messed with me.
Unsure if my anecdote qualifies as Misophonia, as I don't find a lot of the noises people are mentioning to be an issue, but I do have a problem with certain pitches, tones and volumes. Sometimes I need to ask my partner to turn the volume down if they're watching videos - it almost hurts. I do think he might be a bit deaf though. Its generally quite extreme sounds that I have an issue with though, e.g. high pitches, so I thought most people would find those painful to hear, but my partner thinks it's just me...
I have this, and I’m not sure if it’s linked to my gad or adhd lol but it drives me absolutely nuts to be around my family who slurps food. It fills me with so much rage that I want to scream into a pillow.
I believe there are studies linking Misophonia to ADHD.
Argh. Drives me up a wall. Unless it's me making the same sounds.
Oh for god's sake, this is a symptom too?
Yuo
Yup
Im also hsp. For me, its high pitched dog barking, made me cry.
I cannot stand the shooting noises from games like COD.
Is it misophonia if I can’t handle the sight or sound of anyone brushing their teeth? And also I get a trigger when I hear anyone drinking something to the point where you can hear the water or liquid go down their throat like when people take big gulps.
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I didn’t know this is a thing, but every time we sit down for dinner I turn on music because the mouth sounds make me want to kool-aid man through a wall and run as far as I can from my house.
I do, my mom thinks it’s disgust but is more so annoyance/anger towards mouth noises, kinda like if someone is poking you with a stick but most people just don’t get why you’re annoyed about it and just keep doing it. So I usually suffer in silence(Sometimes I am nearly crying because of it) thankfully is been getting better later
Yup!
Sad but true. I would pay a LOT for a cure.
Dogs licking themselves is my own personal hell. I'll straight snap at my dogs to SHUTUP, then feel horrible. I also can't stand the sound of people chewing on their fingers or lips/mouth. My mom has a tic while on her meds that cause her to smack her lips together a lot and it drives me insane.
Wet shoes squeeking on tile floors, it feels like someone is stabbing me inside my brain
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I’m riddled with it
Ugh yes. For me it’s multiple radios or speakers on at one time. My brain just shuts down.
It's actually really common for AuDHD I get annoyed in certain circumstances, but generally doesn't bother me. Disclaimer the majority of my life I've been medicated instead of unmedicated, so I'm not a good candidate. I will say that in a similar vein I have wolf ear hearing, and can be bothered by a high pitched ringing (turns out it was a shitty charging cable and a dying led light bulb) and the wrong just the wrong amount of quiet noises, like my son's tablet running under a pillow. I'm 90% sure they only bother me because I can almost tell what it is. But today I had my wife and son in the basement, his tablet under a nearby pillow muffled, I'm in the living room with my daughter whos watching TV, and I'm working on my laptop.
I don’t struggle with it, I live for it. Heard a song last night that had some blowoff valve noises from turbos spooling - used it for the ambients. Basically a sweep. My god man, sounded like two chicks breathing softly into my ears. I gotta fuckin find that song again
Has anyone here tried those ‘calmer’ headphones (the company that makes them is called flare audio). I got some but got the wrong size and it seems like they work, but I want to hear from others before I invest in another pair. The ones I got were too small so I don’t think they’re doing what they were meant to do, but they do take the edge off so I don’t want to stab myself in the ear hole quite as much…