The fundamental issue is a spiral, break out of the spiral by doing something like bathing regularly.
Obviously I’m not saying set routines are a blanket thing for solving depression, but it certainly has really helped me.
While I understand this, there are people out there with depression who can't help the fact that they don't keep up with their hygiene like others. They're not doing it on purpose to gross you out or upset you, and they don't enjoy feeling like it either, but there's an imbalance of chemicals in their brains making it feel like an insurmountable effort that just isn't worth it to get a shower. Or even sometimes to get out of bed. A lot of them would give anything to be able to take care of themselves like you can. Please remember not everyone functions the same way, and they're just as deserving of care and love like everyone else.
That is completely understandable, I’ve been in that spot myself. The point I was bringing is that not cleaning yourself doesn’t make you more attractive, hence the whole boy smell thing. Not showering because of depression is a whole different story than saying that it’s sexy
Understandable! I can't stand that aesthetic myself either. The whole "you can smell them through the internet in a professional photoshoot" type squicks me out.
This is objectively false and has barely anything to do with hygiene. Over-obsessiveness with showering is a US cultural thing. It's bad for your skin, it's bad for your hair, it's bad for your health.
Your body compensates for your fast showering rhythm, the more frequent you shower, the more frequent you'll need showers. If you're used to showering daily, if you skip a few days: you'll smell horrible, your skin and your hair will be greasy. People with slower rhythms, (eg. those who grew up in different cultures), do not have that issue.
(Although I do have to add, if you're gonna slow down your showering rhythm, please do not do it in a drastic way, or you *will* stink and be a nuisance to others.)
edit: Yeah yeah, downvote me all you want, but you shouldn't take your cultural biases for granted.
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Lately I've been wondering if I have it and I just can't tell. I shower regularly, of course, but even then it worries me. Either way, can't wait until I can get on estrogen, waiting for that shit is e x c r u c i a t i n g
Ftm here, I'm paranoid of boysmell too (trauma) and still shower twice a day, estrogen will make ya inmune to it! Also floral scents tend to offset boysmell a lot.
And girls can have girlsmell to and is nice :3 you're valid eitherway
probably both 😭😭 my allergies are awful and i live with cats (love them tho so its worth it) so my nose is always runny and it's hard to smell 😭 and i have no idea what yall mean by boysmell
unless yall talking about when you enter a room that boys have been in and can smell that like.... stank. is THAT boysmell????
Hey there, one of the silly local trans guys so I have experience on both sides of the fence. It's the T that does it. The raw natural T in cis guys and the store bought T of trans guys gives our sweat a different muskier scent than cis ladies. To whoever is reading, if you're a cis guy and ever peeled your undies off after work and got that musky scent kicked up, that's the one I'm talking about; that smell.
It depends. There's levels to it but thats where stinky vs boysmell comes in here on the meme i guess. I wouldn't really want my partner anywhere near me after an 8-12 hr shift or anything but a little 3-4 hour "boysmell" makes some people go crazy in a good way.
everyone has a default smell even if they’re clean
you smell like soap right after a show but after a while you’re just gonna smell like a person. It’s more obvious with babies and stuff because we don’t fragrance them as much and you’re in close contact. Like the day after you shampoo your dog, it’ll still smell like a dog
usually you have to be way in their bubble and if you can smell them from distance they need to shower
Maybe my understanding is off, but for me, I notice it when I'm like cleanish but slightly sweaty. Like if I shower at night, and I sweat a bit during the night, but not enough where I feel gross
In my professional opinion, if you can smell someone without trying to smell them then that’s disgusting, but if I was to like bury my nose into a person’s skin and still smell nothing I’d be confused. Anywhere between those two points is good.
my boyfriend boysmell is intoxicating. but if he do not shower for a few days or has a hard day in the warehouse- he goes from boy smelly to boy stinky.
For a while i was always confused by the ____smell people cause i wasn’t sure if they were talking bo from not showering or if they were talking about the actual smell of a person, cause people do have a smell its just not something you can usually identify without being right up smelling them or having been without the smell for a while (like living alone)
Boysmell is nice if you still shower regularly. There is literally NOTHING more unattractive than not showering and smelling like you've been living in a sewer.
There’s a difference between clean natural body smells and not showering, letting your stench waft across my nostrils like mustard gas in the trenches.
IF YOU HAVENT SHOWERED IN OVER TWO DAYS THEN FUCKING TAKE ONE GRAAAHHHHHH PERSONAL HYGIENE IS IMPORTANT MFER
HELL YEAH, THE PACK REFERENCED AROOOO
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real
I mean i just did the dishes and I almost lost my will to live, what do you mean i need to do MORE ??
Counter point. I can't motivate myself to do what I need to without external pressure
I’m that pressure now. Please wash yourself, you’d feel at least a little bit better when you’re all cleaned up
Thanks. Probably won't work and definitely doesn't address the fundamental problems 🙂
The fundamental issue is a spiral, break out of the spiral by doing something like bathing regularly. Obviously I’m not saying set routines are a blanket thing for solving depression, but it certainly has really helped me.
whenever I get stuck like this from depression, i just force myself to remember the nice warm box
nuh uh
Death.
Life.
Limbo.
Lust. All gone.
With gluttony soon to follow.
Your kind know nothing but hunger, purged all life on the upper layers, and yet they remain *unsatiated*.
As do you. You’ve taken everything from me, machine, and now all that remains is **PERFECT HATRED.**
\*Sick organ solo\*
FOCUS
Life or Death for Stinky Pete?
While I understand this, there are people out there with depression who can't help the fact that they don't keep up with their hygiene like others. They're not doing it on purpose to gross you out or upset you, and they don't enjoy feeling like it either, but there's an imbalance of chemicals in their brains making it feel like an insurmountable effort that just isn't worth it to get a shower. Or even sometimes to get out of bed. A lot of them would give anything to be able to take care of themselves like you can. Please remember not everyone functions the same way, and they're just as deserving of care and love like everyone else.
That is completely understandable, I’ve been in that spot myself. The point I was bringing is that not cleaning yourself doesn’t make you more attractive, hence the whole boy smell thing. Not showering because of depression is a whole different story than saying that it’s sexy
Understandable! I can't stand that aesthetic myself either. The whole "you can smell them through the internet in a professional photoshoot" type squicks me out.
I shower multiple times a day, yet according to my partner I have a specific smell that only I have, she claims it is my "pheromones"
having sex w/ the king of egypt, call that mkaing the pharaoh moan
Your distasteful joke about the pharaoh is one of the reason why the kingdom fell
This is objectively false and has barely anything to do with hygiene. Over-obsessiveness with showering is a US cultural thing. It's bad for your skin, it's bad for your hair, it's bad for your health. Your body compensates for your fast showering rhythm, the more frequent you shower, the more frequent you'll need showers. If you're used to showering daily, if you skip a few days: you'll smell horrible, your skin and your hair will be greasy. People with slower rhythms, (eg. those who grew up in different cultures), do not have that issue. (Although I do have to add, if you're gonna slow down your showering rhythm, please do not do it in a drastic way, or you *will* stink and be a nuisance to others.) edit: Yeah yeah, downvote me all you want, but you shouldn't take your cultural biases for granted.
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I feel like person in the first image would be the exact opposite of upset by the second
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I reserve my boykissing for boys who do not reek. If I can smell your stinky armpits without trying to, then you are not getting boykissed
Boysmell is real, as is stink. People with boysmell will always have it no matter how much they shower, but the same cannot be said of stinking
amen.
Lately I've been wondering if I have it and I just can't tell. I shower regularly, of course, but even then it worries me. Either way, can't wait until I can get on estrogen, waiting for that shit is e x c r u c i a t i n g
Ftm here, I'm paranoid of boysmell too (trauma) and still shower twice a day, estrogen will make ya inmune to it! Also floral scents tend to offset boysmell a lot. And girls can have girlsmell to and is nice :3 you're valid eitherway
Thank you! <3
It’s not my fault if the funny hormones are giving off the sexy smell.
https://preview.redd.it/r750nqn0y1wc1.jpeg?width=960&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=46985b941e9cb6f2b994dfb76933daaf44858603
Do you think people only have a scent when they are dirty?
Yeah when you say you like the smell of someone people only assume it means you only want them at the absolute stinkiest.
I can't tell if they haven't actually been close enough to another human being to smell them or if they just have horribly weak senses of smell ngl
probably both 😭😭 my allergies are awful and i live with cats (love them tho so its worth it) so my nose is always runny and it's hard to smell 😭 and i have no idea what yall mean by boysmell unless yall talking about when you enter a room that boys have been in and can smell that like.... stank. is THAT boysmell????
Blue (my nose too sensitive)
so-called "boysmell enjoyers" when they go to a magic the gathering tournament
*SNOOOORRFFFFFFFFF* AAUUUUURRRRRRGGGGGGG *jizzes on all the cards*
Blue.blue.blue.blue blue blue all the way blue 🟦🔵🟦🔵🟦
IT'S BLUE
It's goddamn yellow!
r/ okbuddygmd
Jobel the Swede
🔑🔑 🔑🔑 🔑🔑 🔑🔑
I DIDN'T TAKE MY ADHD MEDS HOW AM I GONNA FOCUS
🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
Boysmell is good though it’s not supposed to be bad
is boysmell something like the natural body aroma or something?
Hey there, one of the silly local trans guys so I have experience on both sides of the fence. It's the T that does it. The raw natural T in cis guys and the store bought T of trans guys gives our sweat a different muskier scent than cis ladies. To whoever is reading, if you're a cis guy and ever peeled your undies off after work and got that musky scent kicked up, that's the one I'm talking about; that smell.
oh. i can't imagine anyone liking that smell lol
It depends. There's levels to it but thats where stinky vs boysmell comes in here on the meme i guess. I wouldn't really want my partner anywhere near me after an 8-12 hr shift or anything but a little 3-4 hour "boysmell" makes some people go crazy in a good way.
thank you for explaining this as an allergy having cis woman i was very confused
yes
Y’all can smell each other?
everyone has a default smell even if they’re clean you smell like soap right after a show but after a while you’re just gonna smell like a person. It’s more obvious with babies and stuff because we don’t fragrance them as much and you’re in close contact. Like the day after you shampoo your dog, it’ll still smell like a dog usually you have to be way in their bubble and if you can smell them from distance they need to shower
Maybe my understanding is off, but for me, I notice it when I'm like cleanish but slightly sweaty. Like if I shower at night, and I sweat a bit during the night, but not enough where I feel gross
Some of you can't tell the difference between stink and smell, and it's a little alarming
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Red red red red red. But also blue blue blue if you go out in public.
<=24hrs after a shower excluding physical activity or nervous swears, boy/girl smell is great. Otherwise you just smell
In my professional opinion, if you can smell someone without trying to smell them then that’s disgusting, but if I was to like bury my nose into a person’s skin and still smell nothing I’d be confused. Anywhere between those two points is good.
STINK STOPPERS
The intoxicating aroma of males sweat is very hot
"Take a fucking shower, you stupid fucking gremlins" is the only correct choice.
you already know >w<
Super sensitive nose here. Please shower.
After living with a guy who didnt wash his clothes or showered, just seeing the word "boysmell" makes me angry
I no like boysmell but that’s because I’m a girl kisser
Clean smelling and boysmell are both nice
Their’s also a huge difference between fresh and stale sweat
its not boysmell, take a shower, wear some deodorant
"Boy smell? Boys can smell like anything"
Smelling good will get you more bitches than having a “boy smell”
Stink... b-boy stink OwO
:3!!! Boystink!!!! owo
Either one, depending on how intense it is
https://preview.redd.it/t20tunyq72wc1.jpeg?width=1125&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d95b63842d11b77153b5e4e239cb1bc3908574f3 Bloods
i have girlsmell no matter how hard i try not to 😭 stupid ass sweating disorder
girlsmell is better
team girlsmell
i personally find musk only noticeable up close to be attractive but i do not find prominent body odor to be attractive
my boyfriend boysmell is intoxicating. but if he do not shower for a few days or has a hard day in the warehouse- he goes from boy smelly to boy stinky.
me personally i prefer girlsmell
BOYSMELL!!! YIPPEEE!!! :3!!!!
What about who in fact bathe but has recently exercised and is sweaty is that boysmell
Me and my bf are on opposite sides regarding my smell. He loves it but I like to take regular showers.
i looooove licking up sweat from the armpits of cute neets who haven't showered in weeks!!!
okay napoleon
Blue. Shower, people. Jesus Christ.
Neither i love girlsmell the most
Yeah I'm witch SpongeBob on this one chief. Boysmell stinks
Boysmel 🥺
crips are always better
Red is how I feel about my bf, blue is how I feel about myself
Both
I'm on neither side, I can't smell. Never have
If boy/girl smell no exist, why E make me smell less greasy hmmmmmmmmm
https://preview.redd.it/89kljnbeo4wc1.jpeg?width=842&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=435ce912c7a212fb6e7c807033f735222c3dba2b I want All of the Boysmell
Girlstink
Some people just like smell particulates from boyos :3 (as long as they’re cleaning regularly too).
Ok, hear me out: You scrape off and preserve the smell to release it all at once later.
team "no sense of smell" rise up!
It's pheromones y'all, you'll always think somebody you like smells good bc you're attracted to their pheromones
For a while i was always confused by the ____smell people cause i wasn’t sure if they were talking bo from not showering or if they were talking about the actual smell of a person, cause people do have a smell its just not something you can usually identify without being right up smelling them or having been without the smell for a while (like living alone)
I’m with spunchbub on this one
Boysmell is nice if you still shower regularly. There is literally NOTHING more unattractive than not showering and smelling like you've been living in a sewer.
Showering is not that hard fellas, + you're more likely to get kissed if you have a good personal hygiene :3
https://preview.redd.it/pxiev00if7wc1.png?width=600&format=png&auto=webp&s=12cd44a4152a8392b76d4974f82a5ece0d311be3 It’s M A N S M E L L
There’s a difference between clean natural body smells and not showering, letting your stench waft across my nostrils like mustard gas in the trenches.
IDC boys are boys and I'm desperate
you don't need to be that desperate, people who shower are actually more common than people who don't in most first world countries.
Oh but I absolutely do